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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After a few status’ on here recently about guys becoming abusive towards women, I feel that we need a thread on how to actually handle rejection.
So my first reminder to guys that think it’s ok to send abusive messages to women when they haven’t responded is this - it’s not ok. And your sexual frustration and insecurities are your problem, not the random person you’re taking it out on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all down to ego, dent someone's and they will try to make you feel as small as they do. Rejection is a part of fab, it happens to us all not just the men. Brush yourself off and move onto the next  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The best way is to ask for some rejection. If it's a yes then you haven't been rejected. If it's a no then you haven't been rejected.
Life is about how you look at things really innit?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's all down to ego, dent someone's and they will try to make you feel as small as they do. Rejection is a part of fab, it happens to us all not just the men. Brush yourself off and move onto the next "
Pretty much this.
Should point out women are just as guilty at times based on some of the responses I've received after saying no. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's all down to ego, dent someone's and they will try to make you feel as small as they do. Rejection is a part of fab, it happens to us all not just the men. Brush yourself off and move onto the next "
Great advice, and you’re right but it still doesn’t mean that women should get the girls of abuse that they received on here, mainly just for not getting round to answering messages. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The best way is to ask for some rejection. If it's a yes then you haven't been rejected. If it's a no then you haven't been rejected.
Life is about how you look at things really innit?
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That’s a different outlook! Do what works for you I suppose |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"If you cannot cope with rejection, Fab is not the place for you. "
I would say in “ real “ world. Do the same people react the same way in pubs, clubs etc. Rejection happens a lot every day to some. Yes a sex site. But due to internet once became popular. Keyboard warriors are able to do what they like. It is to easy to change profiles etc without being caught. This is my thoughts only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thing is many of men who send rage responses don't come on the forums. I've often directed them here and they don't even know where to find the tab. They seem to just scroll updates or go to women online. The ones that do find their way here and by here I mean the lounge usually get an earfull. The lounge for me was a breath of fresh air. Men pulling up and challenging men. Yes it can sometimes look harsh but I do think men who's behaviour is inappropriate take the challenge from other men. Maybe thats because really they don't respect women, this can be seen in their behaviour.
It really is wonderful to see some of the chats on here from the men. I'd like to say thank you
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Got many messages off this Mr white knight? "
It’s about challenging ourselves as men. Sure, it would be great if the guys that have posted here get the treatment they deserve from women as respectful people however it’s apparent men are more the problem and it makes women feel intimidated! I think that it’s only men that can really challenge that to make a change!
Although I’m flattered, might even change my username to Mr white knight  |
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I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes "
Sorry to hear your experience that's why the block features help to design the site that fits around the individual yes it's not perfect but does help x |
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes
Sorry to hear your experience that's why the block features help to design the site that fits around the individual yes it's not perfect but does help x"
Yeah that works To a point and they get blocked. I had one guy who kept opening up different accounts to troll me, one of these was he hoped me and my kids got covid and died. Block gets rid of them for a short time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes blocking accounts is a short term fix. What they should be doing in my opinion is blocking the IP address after so many times of being reported! That’s stop then opening the accounts, it’s whether they’ve got the software to run that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Got many messages off this Mr white knight?
It’s about challenging ourselves as men. Sure, it would be great if the guys that have posted here get the treatment they deserve from women as respectful people however it’s apparent men are more the problem and it makes women feel intimidated! I think that it’s only men that can really challenge that to make a change!
Although I’m flattered, might even change my username to Mr white knight "
Intimidated ???
why is it only the men who's words have value to other men? (Not all)
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes "
Apparently I have a cunt like a cave... said after many attempts to get a second shag of which I declined. I'm actually rather tight  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"My suggestion everyone here is looking for someone they don't need to be found If they want you they'll find you 
My thought to that is. How will any contact anyone on this site? "
Well if the ladies want you they have the opportunity unless obviously if the guy is looking for a guy then as haven't come across a guy complaining about another guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes "
Sometimes is an understatement! Hence my profile being hidden. I've often thought of a thread of the colourful objectifying abusive messages we recieve.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you cannot cope with rejection, Fab is not the place for you.
I would say in “ real “ world. Do the same people react the same way in pubs, clubs etc. Rejection happens a lot every day to some. Yes a sex site. But due to internet once became popular. Keyboard warriors are able to do what they like. It is to easy to change profiles etc without being caught. This is my thoughts only. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes blocking accounts is a short term fix. What they should be doing in my opinion is blocking the IP address after so many times of being reported! That’s stop then opening the accounts, it’s whether they’ve got the software to run that!"
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"Yes blocking accounts is a short term fix. What they should be doing in my opinion is blocking the IP address after so many times of being reported! That’s stop then opening the accounts, it’s whether they’ve got the software to run that!"
As a male and I have been on internet from once you could pay ( dialup ) . Chatrooms got removed due to not being able to moderate etc. Now we have as I am replying to . A big problem. User accounts can be very many by one person and to track costly. Even more so if they use vpn.How to stop not sure as I now retired worked in IT ETC. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes blocking accounts is a short term fix. What they should be doing in my opinion is blocking the IP address after so many times of being reported! That’s stop then opening the accounts, it’s whether they’ve got the software to run that!
As a male and I have been on internet from once you could pay ( dialup ) . Chatrooms got removed due to not being able to moderate etc. Now we have as I am replying to . A big problem. User accounts can be very many by one person and to track costly. Even more so if they use vpn.How to stop not sure as I now retired worked in IT ETC. "
The msn and yahoo chat rooms! Dial ups that times out! Haha! I've still got my email address from 1997
I'm a vpn er
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes
Sorry to hear your experience that's why the block features help to design the site that fits around the individual yes it's not perfect but does help x
Yeah that works To a point and they get blocked. I had one guy who kept opening up different accounts to troll me, one of these was he hoped me and my kids got covid and died. Block gets rid of them for a short time "
Wow Omg these people need permanently off the site as the rules state about respecting the site and those who use it goes against I've lost some really great friends via those tactics and personally know what I'd do it would be what they deserve really hate folk who act like this makes my blood boil |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"Yes blocking accounts is a short term fix. What they should be doing in my opinion is blocking the IP address after so many times of being reported! That’s stop then opening the accounts, it’s whether they’ve got the software to run that!
As a male and I have been on internet from once you could pay ( dialup ) . Chatrooms got removed due to not being able to moderate etc. Now we have as I am replying to . A big problem. User accounts can be very many by one person and to track costly. Even more so if they use vpn.How to stop not sure as I now retired worked in IT ETC.
The msn and yahoo chat rooms! Dial ups that times out! Haha! I've still got my email address from 1997
I'm a vpn er
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I still have my msn and yahoo chat  . Used alot of chatrooms in older days. I do admit yes trolls used rooms the verbal abuse people got was sometimes worse than here as chatrooms did not have many mods to control. So were shut down |
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes
Apparently I have a cunt like a cave... said after many attempts to get a second shag of which I declined. I'm actually rather tight "
Well doesn’t matter if you did have a cave cunt I’m sure he would of jumped right in the said cave if you let him. Fickle fellow |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes blocking accounts is a short term fix. What they should be doing in my opinion is blocking the IP address after so many times of being reported! That’s stop then opening the accounts, it’s whether they’ve got the software to run that!
As a male and I have been on internet from once you could pay ( dialup ) . Chatrooms got removed due to not being able to moderate etc. Now we have as I am replying to . A big problem. User accounts can be very many by one person and to track costly. Even more so if they use vpn.How to stop not sure as I now retired worked in IT ETC.
The msn and yahoo chat rooms! Dial ups that times out! Haha! I've still got my email address from 1997
I'm a vpn er
I still have my msn and yahoo chat . Used alot of chatrooms in older days. I do admit yes trolls used rooms the verbal abuse people got was sometimes worse than here as chatrooms did not have many mods to control. So were shut down "
I did too, it was pretty good fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes
Apparently I have a cunt like a cave... said after many attempts to get a second shag of which I declined. I'm actually rather tight
Well doesn’t matter if you did have a cave cunt I’m sure he would of jumped right in the said cave if you let him. Fickle fellow"
He wanted to hibernate for winter in my cave. I didn't haha! |
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Rejection? What's that?
Seriously though, as others have said, this is not the place for anyone that can't handle rejection.
And to get abusive, because their delicate ego cannot take it, is out of order and completely ridiculous.
With the amount of messages single ladies and couples receive, many may not even have the time to read every single message let alone reply to them.
I've had some really nice rejection messages, along the lines of "Thank you for your lovely message..dah..dah..dah.. sorry unfortunately not for us"
and always appreciate the time taken to reply.
But equally, there's never any hard feeling if I don't get a reply.
I kind of get that it can be a bit frustrating, when you've read a profile, seem to match what they are looking for and written a nice message, with a bit of humour, making reference to their profile text (not just the pics)
and get nothing back, but with the sheer numbers of men on here, that's just how it is, so there's no reason to take it to heart and it's completely bang out of order to get abusive about it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Got many messages off this Mr white knight?
It’s about challenging ourselves as men. Sure, it would be great if the guys that have posted here get the treatment they deserve from women as respectful people however it’s apparent men are more the problem and it makes women feel intimidated! I think that it’s only men that can really challenge that to make a change!
Although I’m flattered, might even change my username to Mr white knight
Intimidated ???
why is it only the men who's words have value to other men? (Not all)
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It’s not, but I just think that of us men can start to stand together against these people then they might realise that it’s not normal behaviour! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How we see it is you can't be everyones cup of tea, there's someone out there for everyone.
Move on and have fun, come here for fun not bitterness and drama
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you cannot cope with rejection, Fab is not the place for you.
I would say in “ real “ world. Do the same people react the same way in pubs, clubs etc. Rejection happens a lot every day to some. Yes a sex site. But due to internet once became popular. Keyboard warriors are able to do what they like. It is to easy to change profiles etc without being caught. This is my thoughts only. "
Exactly! I genuinely believe 99% of the the guys that pester after a no here wouldn't do so in the "real world"
I think people forget that the Internet is still real and there are still real people involved. |
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I do think that sone of the nastier individuals on here will also be unpleasant in real life - incels tend not to switch it on and off.
But for others, there are here under the illusion that it's a "sex site" and genuinely believe that a "hey" or photo of their cock is all that's needed to make us instantly drop our knickers. If they come here with incorrect l, pre-conceived ideas and don't bother reading profiles, then it's no wonder that Fab is a frustrating experience for them and brings out the worst in them.
This week I was messaged by a guy I'd preciously very politely declined and received a sarcastic "lol" back from. He tried again with a similar message and I just ignored it as I'd already told him no thanks a couple of weeks ago. When he didn't get a response, I received an abusive message and a picture of his cock. All completely unnecessary and another example of someone who has come here with barely huge sense of entitlement and clearly doesn't respect women's autonomy at all |
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"I’ve just had random abuse for nothing, not because I rejected them as they hadn’t even messaged before. The recent one was a racist one, why? If you don’t like the colour of my skin or my features why not just block me and leave me alone. I got called a rude cunt the other day as I had to bulk deleted my messages because I couldn’t get through them from a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer. This site is hard work sometimes
Apparently I have a cunt like a cave... said after many attempts to get a second shag of which I declined. I'm actually rather tight
Well doesn’t matter if you did have a cave cunt I’m sure he would of jumped right in the said cave if you let him. Fickle fellow
He wanted to hibernate for winter in my cave. I didn't haha!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's all down to ego, dent someone's and they will try to make you feel as small as they do. Rejection is a part of fab, it happens to us all not just the men. Brush yourself off and move onto the next "
Absolutely this
My advice is this
Billions and billions of women out there, try not to get so hug up on just 1
Make it your mission to try them all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a very thoughtful thread. I just can’t help think that those who are abusive upon rejection will not pay a blind bit of notice to this thread. They don’t participate on the forums, just spam folk with ‘fuck now?!’ messages. I wonder if there’s another way to get these tips to them - more power if the rejected sent them to them in response to the abuse perhaps? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll say it again....99% of men on the forums are respectful....your trying to preach to people who dont need to be told how to act x"
Even I'm respectful in my own way lol |
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I recently made a discovery when participating in a forum game that involves messaging a designated person a 'secret message". When I played the game and went to send that sane designated person my "secret message", a warning flashed up that I had preciously messages that person and didn't reply and how it wasn't rude to not reply to people etc plus other advice. So even if they don't read profiles/the rules/the forums, they are still getting that message so do KNOW, but still choose to act like pricks anyway |
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"I would say most if not all of the guys who use forum are respectfull and don't act in a nasty way if they get a no thank u ... x "
Not all. Obviously you've never rejected any of the "forum" guys. |
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"I would say most if not all of the guys who use forum are respectfull and don't act in a nasty way if they get a no thank u ... x "
Really mot the case. I've had several get shitty with me when I didn't want to reciprocate during "Face Pic Friday". One also went on to verbally abuse a couple of men in the thread who also agreed that his behaviour was shitty. Many an abuser hides under a thin veneer of nice guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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man I've been getting knocked back my whole life 
no point in complaining about it now
the only time i ever had a decent pulling streak was when I spent 5 hours a day in the gym |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The best way is to ask for some rejection. If it's a yes then you haven't been rejected. If it's a no then you haven't been rejected.
Life is about how you look at things really innit?
That’s a different outlook! Do what works for you I suppose "
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Anyone that thinks the forum guys are different from any of the other guys hasn’t used fab very long…. There are good and bad in all arenas of life and the simple fact of using the forum does not equate to owning a “nice guy, won’t get possessive or stroppy” badge, this also holds true of single females and couples that use the forums.
Fab life is a minefield best negotiated when squiffy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love that you took the time to write about this.
Also remember, even us women/couples get rejected. I’ve been ignored and deleted plenty of times. I know it’s not pleasant or great for self-esteem but it’s life.
Sometimes the inbox just gets hit with so many messages, you can’t reply to everyone.
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"Anyone that thinks the forum guys are different from any of the other guys hasn’t used fab very long…. There are good and bad in all arenas of life and the simple fact of using the forum does not equate to owning a “nice guy, won’t get possessive or stroppy” badge, this also holds true of single females and couples that use the forums.
Fab life is a minefield best negotiated when squiffy. "
Because very few men (going by the numbers on fab) use the forums, I feel some see it as a gateway to let their "personality" shine through. You tend to find they are like little sheep and flock, comment etc in with the popular crowd to get that acknowledgement...one of the reasons I tend not to meet anyone who uses the forums. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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If you've heard all they got to say
You looked but turned away
Walkaway, walkaway
If you've said all you got to say
And now the words just slip away
Just walkaway, walkaway, walkaway
That's what they say, what they say,
what they say
You gotta walkaway |
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Quite simply don’t take heed of words from someone you don’t know, which 99% of your messages are going to be.
You can’t control what someone else writes, but you can control how you react to it.
Delete and move on. |
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"Anyone that thinks the forum guys are different from any of the other guys hasn’t used fab very long…. There are good and bad in all arenas of life and the simple fact of using the forum does not equate to owning a “nice guy, won’t get possessive or stroppy” badge, this also holds true of single females and couples that use the forums.
Fab life is a minefield best negotiated when squiffy.
Because very few men (going by the numbers on fab) use the forums, I feel some see it as a gateway to let their "personality" shine through. You tend to find they are like little sheep and flock, comment etc in with the popular crowd to get that acknowledgement...one of the reasons I tend not to meet anyone who uses the forums."
That’s a rather disparaging view of the men on here… it’s certainly not my experience and comes across a tad sexist. I have many male friends who are just as much themselves here as anywhere. Don’t think I can say any of my friends from over the years could be referred to as ‘sheep’ |
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"It's all down to ego, dent someone's and they will try to make you feel as small as they do. Rejection is a part of fab, it happens to us all not just the men. Brush yourself off and move onto the next "
Personally, I'm well-practiced at not losing my dummy, but, there are some very egotistical people on here |
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"Anyone that thinks the forum guys are different from any of the other guys hasn’t used fab very long…. There are good and bad in all arenas of life and the simple fact of using the forum does not equate to owning a “nice guy, won’t get possessive or stroppy” badge, this also holds true of single females and couples that use the forums.
Fab life is a minefield best negotiated when squiffy.
Because very few men (going by the numbers on fab) use the forums, I feel some see it as a gateway to let their "personality" shine through. You tend to find they are like little sheep and flock, comment etc in with the popular crowd to get that acknowledgement...one of the reasons I tend not to meet anyone who uses the forums.
That’s a rather disparaging view of the men on here… it’s certainly not my experience and comes across a tad sexist. I have many male friends who are just as much themselves here as anywhere. Don’t think I can say any of my friends from over the years could be referred to as ‘sheep’ "
Maybe not your experience but it has been mine (not always). Everyone is entitled to air their opinion. |
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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago
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If I get abuse I tend to reply something like, thanks for making my decision not to meet you easier.
It hits deeper than the rejection and hopefully makes some more aware of how silly lashing out is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol some guys on the forums think they are so much better than guys off the forum at handling rejections and other stuff ?? sorry but just because people use the forums does not make them better than anyone else just look at half the crap they post will tell you that..
if a guy was to or did say no thanks to me he would have my respect not anger because i would think wow a guy who can think with his head and not his balls .. so a guy who says no here n there to me is a guy wanting to have fun but not at any cost ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh and not all men are the same over the years ive met 100s via clubs socials and meets there are 1,000s of really nice good guys on here ...
and one bad guy does not ruin it for all that one bad guy ruins it for himself but other guys cant help but blame that one bad guy for there own not getting anywhere.. |
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over a year ago
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"lol some guys on the forums think they are so much better than guys off the forum at handling rejections and other stuff ?? sorry but just because people use the forums does not make them better than anyone else just look at half the crap they post will tell you that..
if a guy was to or did say no thanks to me he would have my respect not anger because i would think wow a guy who can think with his head and not his balls .. so a guy who says no here n there to me is a guy wanting to have fun but not at any cost ..."
I’m not saying we’re better than anybody. At the end of the day we’re all human, and all have different quirks. What I am saying is that there seems to be a lot of women on fab saying they they’re getting abusive messages for either taking too long to respond, or they can’t handle rejection! This thread is about how we can all work together to improve this and find a solution.
Let me put it this way - if you were at work and you had an issue with somebody, you’d raise that issue at work, and it’d get dealt with in the workplace.
There is a problem that I have raised here, and the problem is on fab. So I’m hoping that by raising it on fab, it will get dealt with on fab.
I’m not a regular user of the forums anyway (I don’t have time for that) but I just posted on here as I felt some of the things said are just vile!
Great what you say about a guy who can handle rejection though - sometimes swallowing your pride gets you that bit more respect doesn’t it! X |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"Should point out women are just as guilty at times based on some of the responses I've received after saying no."
God yes it is like the have never had a thanks or no thanks. We have been told we are stuck up, that the Mrs is fat, that they wouldn’t go near me with a barge pole. At least the guys just say OK and thank you for replying. |
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"lol some guys on the forums think they are so much better than guys off the forum at handling rejections and other stuff ?? sorry but just because people use the forums does not make them better than anyone else just look at half the crap they post will tell you that..
if a guy was to or did say no thanks to me he would have my respect not anger because i would think wow a guy who can think with his head and not his balls .. so a guy who says no here n there to me is a guy wanting to have fun but not at any cost ..."
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"After a few status’ on here recently about guys becoming abusive towards women, I feel that we need a thread on how to actually handle rejection.
So my first reminder to guys that think it’s ok to send abusive messages to women when they haven’t responded is this - it’s not ok. And your sexual frustration and insecurities are your problem, not the random person you’re taking it out on.
Any tips you wish to share below feel free! "
Let’s remember women and couples get rejected too op - and a Ok e of them don’t exactly accept it with dignity either! |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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I know I'm not god's gift to women, there will be some who like me and want to get to know me and others won't, it's the same in real life, you say ok no problem and leave it at that, it's a bonus if you actually get a rejection reply on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I avoid all this by never messaging first, or at least never messaging cold, I may message on the back of a thread, usually a funny observation that’s not needed on a public forum. I’m not invested in the message, I send it and forget about it, I don’t check if they’ve read it or not. I’ve had replies 4 days later, totally forgetting I’ve messaged and I had to look what I said. |
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Last night one gym messaged me 10 times 8nnfjr space of a couple of hours. This is on the back of him messaging me umpteen times over the past couple of months, mone of which have been replied to. He's obviously getting the admin warning message that I haven't replied and it isn't rude to not do so, so goodness knows why he keeps doing it and becoming increasingly desperate/rude.
I could of course block him but a) I don't want him to think that he's got to me and b) genuinely curious to see at which point he'll give up the ghost |
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I could of course block him but a) I don't want him to think that he's got to me and b) genuinely curious to see at which point he'll give up the ghost "
an evil plan... I like your thinking.. Much the same as cold callers and leaving them hanging on for minutes at a time... genius  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I turned down a women recently she was very shocked by it.
I guess men don't do that, I was polite about it just wasn't a good fit.
She was unhappy about it though. |
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I could of course block him but a) I don't want him to think that he's got to me and b) genuinely curious to see at which point he'll give up the ghost
an evil plan... I like your thinking.. Much the same as cold callers and leaving them hanging on for minutes at a time... genius "
When my kids were toddlers and we got a cold call I’d ask them to hold on and put them on the phone to one of my kids (they were both very chatty ) and tell my child to tell the caller about their day. You’d be amazed how tenacious some of them were in waiting to see if I’d return to the phone! |
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"Who was the OP?
I think it was that ‘this is a new start’ bloke. Not sure though.
So he actually went for a ‘new start’ then?
He’ll be back. He usually is "
He was supposed to go last Friday. I remember his self imposed deadline.
He'll be back. |
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I could of course block him but a) I don't want him to think that he's got to me and b) genuinely curious to see at which point he'll give up the ghost
an evil plan... I like your thinking.. Much the same as cold callers and leaving them hanging on for minutes at a time... genius
When my kids were toddlers and we got a cold call I’d ask them to hold on and put them on the phone to one of my kids (they were both very chatty ) and tell my child to tell the caller about their day. You’d be amazed how tenacious some of them were in waiting to see if I’d return to the phone! "
Hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is only one way to accept any form of rejection and that is as a respectful gentleman.
How can anyone feel better about themselves by being abusive....just shows that you're even more of a chavy wanker than first thought.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who was the OP?
I think it was that ‘this is a new start’ bloke. Not sure though. "
New start guy, the kne tjay was closing account on Friday? He was still on sunday night, hang I'll go check my messages |
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"Who was the OP?
I think it was that ‘this is a new start’ bloke. Not sure though.
New start guy, the kne tjay was closing account on Friday? He was still on sunday night, hang I'll go check my messages "
Yeah think it was him. I could be wrong though. I remember seeing a thread saying he was leaving too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes blocking accounts is a short term fix. What they should be doing in my opinion is blocking the IP address after so many times of being reported! That’s stop then opening the accounts, it’s whether they’ve got the software to run that!"
Turn off your router then turn it back on again after a whille. Most people do not have static IP addresses and afaik they change every 14 days anyway |
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