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When a guy say's
"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"
Or "you look great considering your age"
Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.
How do others feel about this??
Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?
Perhaps I'm too sensitive! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have a great body for any age I think people say it because it gets harder to maintain a good body as you get older so it indicates a lot more hard work and dedication then of you were younger. It's actually a big compliment but I know what you mean. I try to to say it because I think it can be misinterpreted even though I mean it as admiration for the work put in.
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over a year ago
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"When a guy say's
"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"
Or "you look great considering your age"
Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.
How do others feel about this??
Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?
Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"
I think you are ! Just accept a nice compliment in the spirit it’s given |
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I am going to leap slightly to their defence and suggest it is never intended to be construed in that manner and mainly that they just think you look amazing!!!
Why they can’t just say that without referencing age though I can’t say! |
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over a year ago
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Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.
"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"
"your body is so great, I love BBWs"
And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"
Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts 
If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment". |
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"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.
"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"
"your body is so great, I love BBWs"
And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"
Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts
If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment". "
Oh wow!!  |
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"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.
"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"
"your body is so great, I love BBWs"
And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"
Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts
If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment". "
Ok yeah that’s not cool at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.
"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"
"your body is so great, I love BBWs"
And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"
Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts
If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment". "
I not be able to help myself making a comment back, what response do they actually think they’ll receive back, I think it’s a complete lack of respect even if they don’t mean it to be harsh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At my age any compliments are appreciated. It does not really bother me how they are said."
That’s because you are a very confident woman comfortable in your own skin.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.
"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"
"your body is so great, I love BBWs"
And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"
Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts
If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment".
I not be able to help myself making a comment back, what response do they actually think they’ll receive back, I think it’s a complete lack of respect even if they don’t mean it to be harsh. "
I think it depends on how well you know the person though. If it's a stranger I don't really care, but if it's friends and family it really pisses me off.
When me and my best friend were still getting to know each other, he would pay me compliments like "you're so beautiful for a chubby (lol) girl, me and *our other friend* talk about it all time.", or "you carry your weight so well, on other big women it doesn't suit them at all but you really pull it off (insulting both me and other women in one fell swoop lol)".
Then one night I got really d*unk and told him how I felt when he said shit like that. He was really remorseful and ever since then he always tells me I'm beautiful with zero caveats  he always tries to make me feel good, I love him so much  |
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No, I don’t think your sensitive, I agree that they are not full complements and can’t see why it’s a factor in anything. A bit like when people say ‘sorry if I’ve done something wrong’, it kinda comes across as neutral and not a authentic statement.
You have a stunning body btw |
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I know how you feel ... I’m sensitive about my body to begin with but I hate it when people point things out. When people say I’m curvy I know I am but I hate that word I always feel like it adds 10 stone onto me in my head lol |
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over a year ago
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The thing is these folk don't intend to be insulting and everyone is different to what terminology they don't like used towards them.
Some are probably more obvious than others but still if everyone decided they shouldn't say things because it may cause upset to an individual then the chances are nobody would say anything to anybody.
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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I suppose us blokes are thick skinned but I have had this comment from people with age limits well below my age and take the compliment without reading too much into it, I'm easily flattered. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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It is meant as a compliment. It would be more of a compliment without the 'for your age', but I guess they feel it is 'more' of a compliment.
But then I'm not one to take a compliment anyway, on anything. |
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"When a guy say's
"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"
Or "you look great considering your age"
Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.
How do others feel about this??
Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?
Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"
It's passive aggressive |
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You are either sexually attractive or you are not.
People that say , 'for your age' should be shot on sight.
People are stupid though ....... they mean well.
Just say , Thank you and you are totally fucking moronic for your age......
No don't they are trying to be nice.It's annoying tho........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv done this before on accident.
I complimented a bloke on his hair as he had a great head of hair for a bloke of his age.
I mean he had a great head of hair full stop but for his age when most men his age are receding or bald it really was good.
I didn’t mean it in any kind of back handed way and I think when people say these compliments you can tell if they are being twats or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When men have said to me ‘you have a great body’ ...I always normally reply with ‘yeh it’s not bad for someone that’s had two kids’ so I actually do this back to people too about myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people dont know how to communicate as well as others is all i think dont know how to transfer thought to word or in some cases dont think how that could be seen as backhanded |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.
It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden |
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"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.
It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden "
You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster  |
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"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.
It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden
You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster "
Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian"  |
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I have been told how flexible I was by a physio, "for my size". That went down a treat.
How attractive I could be, if I lost some weight by several and how much they are attracted to older women
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"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.
It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden
You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster
Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian" "
 racist AND thick. Winning combo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.
It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden
You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster
Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian"
racist AND thick. Winning combo."
Yep, although maybe I'm the thick one for saying thanks  |
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"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.
It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden
You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster
Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian"
racist AND thick. Winning combo.
Yep, although maybe I'm the thick one for saying thanks "
Colonial mentality |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it’s rather rude and juvenile to make mention of a persons age even if the comment may well be intended as a compliment, just bad manners from someone who may well be ill educated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The other day I had a message “how’s your pussy still tight at my age” what did you expect it to look like a hippopotamus
Maybe a clowns pocket ? "
thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The other day I had a message “how’s your pussy still tight at my age” what did you expect it to look like a hippopotamus
This made me chuckle!! "
I was gob smacked mind some men are clueless |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a guy say's
"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"
Or "you look great considering your age"
Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.
How do others feel about this??
Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?
Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"
Ive ALWAYS said it that a guy should compliment the lady full stop....NEVER add anything else....NONE of the " for your age " craic after it....its a HUGE ..NO NO NO for me. |
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"I have been told how flexible I was by a physio, "for my size". That went down a treat.
How attractive I could be, if I lost some weight by several and how much they are attracted to older women
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Some just havent a clue have they |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a guy say's
"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"
Or "you look great considering your age"
Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.
How do others feel about this??
Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?
Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"
I don't get the age thing. If you're able and alive then do it. All this act your age bollocks, whaaaaat??
I 've just looked at your profile and you look amazing. End of. Anything else is just a bit beige really
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"When men have said to me ‘you have a great body’ ...I always normally reply with ‘yeh it’s not bad for someone that’s had two kids’ so I actually do this back to people too
about myself. "
Jane here.....yeah I've done /do that too. Daft thing is deep down I kinda know that a size 8/10 with few if any stretch marks after 2 kids and being 53 is pretty good going in the grand scheme of things but I just can't accept the compliment regardless cos wellllllll I'm 53 and don't actually do anything very much in terms of diet or exercise so it's luck over effort really and the age is irrelevant |
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Get the same thing - great legs for a TGirl. I get it's a compliment, but as I aim to be as femme as possible when I dress I'd prefer to be compared to other women!
And I think they're ugly and full of scars. So I know they're talking bollocks anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a guy say's
"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"
Or "you look great considering your age"
Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.
How do others feel about this??
Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?
Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"
Irrespective of age you look great.Why mention age at all? |
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"You have a great body for any age I think people say it because it gets harder to maintain a good body as you get older so it indicates a lot more hard work and dedication then of you were younger. It's actually a big compliment but I know what you mean. I try to to say it because I think it can be misinterpreted even though I mean it as admiration for the work put in.
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Hard work and dedication ??
Oh yeh |
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how can people even say these things and be taken seriously 
