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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have mine hidden as I either get told I've pretty busy on here or I'm a fantasist as most my veris are social veris"
So if you have too many that can be a bad thing? For people that have had their profiles a long time they're bound to have a lot. And how else are you supposed to make friends or attend events if you aren't social? You don't just walk through the door and drop your pants. The social chooses whether you're on the same page or if you're better suited as friends. That is my take from it anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide mine because I’d rather people not know who I’ve met/meet.
Yours are showing though. Or is that just some of them?
I show social ones x"
So you can be passed on if you have sexual meets on your verifications? |
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"I hide mine because I’d rather people not know who I’ve met/meet.
Yours are showing though. Or is that just some of them?
I show social ones x
So you can be passed on if you have sexual meets on your verifications?"
No idea. I don’t not show them because of that. I imagine it would be the other way round. I don’t know really. I haven’t been looking to meet anyone new for ages anyway x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hide mine. I'm not looking to meet new people at the moment so they're not relevant. If someone I was chatting to asked about them I'd be happy to show them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to keep it private as I like my privacy. I don't think it's anyone else's business how many people or who I've met and what happened.
I also find that I get some creepy behaviour - men that I've turned down or met before messaging me about my verifications.
I'm certainly not ashamed of my verifications. They're lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide them to avoid the people I’ve met being embarrassed / shamed / blacklisted / tarred & feathered by association. "
It sounds to me like this site may as well be Facebook  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide them to avoid the people I’ve met being embarrassed / shamed / blacklisted / tarred & feathered by association.
 . Yeah when I had one from you the messages did seem to go quiet "
 I also left ‘openly mocked’ and ‘pointed at and laughed at’ from the list ..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe they just like to keep certain things private? "
Yeah I understand that. It's just that I've seen some profiles where they have been verified by 20+ and none are shown |
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We show social ones. Isn’t a verification just meant to show that we are real?
It’s up to us if we want to show any others - not that we are hiding anything but some veris are personal and for our eyes only.
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"I hide mine. I'm not looking to meet new people at the moment so they're not relevant. If someone I was chatting to asked about them I'd be happy to show them. "
Yeah I’d show them if someone really wanted to see them. They’re not really sexual anyway. It’s more who they’re from than what they say x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only have one, it only has one word .. Taken me 1.5 years to agree to be verified ...I've hidden it now as i was getting messages about the person's name |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios "
All sounds a bit petty to me |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Various reasons.
Some people have left the site so their verifications disappear, some are verifications from repeat meets so tend to only show one, some are so old we feel it is pointless still showing them and then there are those that we don't show because we not longer see then or in a couple of cases have actually blocked.
In reality who cares, nobody ever leaves a bad verification so they are not hidden because of that. We have hidden a couple because they are so over the top in there praise that we thought they were talking about somebody else. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't mind displaying my social (bar one) veris. They make me smile when I read them and I'm weirdly proud? Of them. The others? Well for one I know how nosy people are and I quite like keeping my sex life relatively private. I also know how weird women (and the odd man) can get. No one else needs to know about my taking cock like a pro abilities anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't met anyone this time round and tbh, being unverified isn't a biggy for me as meeting for sex isn't high on my agenda
I have, however, hid past ones because they were too graphic
I have no shame in who I've met, but it's nobody elses business to know what we did |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me"
It is petty on the part of those getting bent out of shape about them but it is a reason that people hide them.
Ultimately though why does it matter whether you can see them or not? The opinion of a third party who I may not know carries little bearing on whether I would be interested in meeting someone or not - especially as you never see genuine bad veris |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you everyone. Seems like I was just overthinking the situation. Like the one verification on my profile from today is only there cause I read their verification and it allowed me to get a view of their character |
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me"
It is. Welcome to fab |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me
It is. Welcome to fab "
Guess I've finally finished my fab induction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one's business who I've met previously. The person I'm meeting should only care about what's between us, not what's happened before them. Simple as that really  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On my previous profile I showed only some of them because I didn't like showing the explicit ones as some men were messaging me about them which was annoying. I just don't understand why guys have to be so explicit. On my profile now I've hidden then for privacy x |
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I hide my private meet ones as its no-one else's business who I've met. Too many people on here hell bent on causing trouble if A had met B who has then gone on to meet C etc. One of the many reasons I won't meet forum users either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me
It is. Welcome to fab
Guess I've finally finished my fab induction "
You wish
I've been here for about 10 years on & off and I still see and read things here that stun me into submission |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide my private meet ones as its no-one else's business who I've met. Too many people on here hell bent on causing trouble if A had met B who has then gone on to meet C etc. One of the many reasons I won't meet forum users either."
Wow I didn't realise it was that bad. Just sounds like school all over again |
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"I hide my private meet ones as its no-one else's business who I've met. Too many people on here hell bent on causing trouble if A had met B who has then gone on to meet C etc. One of the many reasons I won't meet forum users either.
Wow I didn't realise it was that bad. Just sounds like school all over again "
Give it time. You will see x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me
It is. Welcome to fab
Guess I've finally finished my fab induction
You wish
I've been here for about 10 years on & off and I still see and read things here that stun me into submission "
Sounds like from this thread I've delved into an entire different side of fab. I thought swinging was about having fun? |
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me"
First day on Fab? 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide my private meet ones as its no-one else's business who I've met. Too many people on here hell bent on causing trouble if A had met B who has then gone on to meet C etc. One of the many reasons I won't meet forum users either.
Wow I didn't realise it was that bad. Just sounds like school all over again
Give it time. You will see x"
This thread is starting to open my eyes a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me
It is. Welcome to fab
Guess I've finally finished my fab induction
You wish
I've been here for about 10 years on & off and I still see and read things here that stun me into submission
Sounds like from this thread I've delved into an entire different side of fab. I thought swinging was about having fun?"
Like life, it isn't free of judgement and petty jealousies
Infact, they can seem intensified because of the fact that it is a public site, yet many view it as some kind of private members club |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me
First day on Fab?
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Nah. Just first time actually giving it a serious shot I guess. Never knew there was this side to fab. But that's probably me being very naive |
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"I hide my non-social ones as they're nobody's business apart from mine and the person I met's.
People hide them for all sorts of reasons - some mentioned already, another is they've been known to cause tears when someone they're meeting has met someone else - or there are those that won't meet if someone has met someone they don't like...and a myriad of other scenarios
All sounds a bit petty to me
It is. Welcome to fab
Guess I've finally finished my fab induction
You wish
I've been here for about 10 years on & off and I still see and read things here that stun me into submission
Sounds like from this thread I've delved into an entire different side of fab. I thought swinging was about having fun?"
Join the inner sanctum and you'll do well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide my private meet ones as its no-one else's business who I've met. Too many people on here hell bent on causing trouble if A had met B who has then gone on to meet C etc. One of the many reasons I won't meet forum users either.
Wow I didn't realise it was that bad. Just sounds like school all over again
Give it time. You will see x
This thread is starting to open my eyes a lot "
Think you love the gossip, the drama haha  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some people value other peoples privacy and aren't about postibg up reviews of tgeir performance.
It's also know as discretion"
I thought putting my verification up showed that I wasn't the cliche single guy people put down on here. |
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I'm sure there a pros and cons to showing veri's.. Like some have mentioned it might come across that they are 'open to all'.. Which usually isn't the case, but still a poor way of looking at veri's. The pro is, that you arnt a fake, and those veri's can attest to that.
Personally I'd probably only show social meets publicly. And others I'd probably keep private, so I can share them with those I choose. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide my private meet ones as its no-one else's business who I've met. Too many people on here hell bent on causing trouble if A had met B who has then gone on to meet C etc. One of the many reasons I won't meet forum users either.
Wow I didn't realise it was that bad. Just sounds like school all over again
Give it time. You will see x
This thread is starting to open my eyes a lot
Think you love the gossip, the drama haha "
Can't really say I've ever been a gossip or a rumour mill |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just checked my veris, last one two years ago.
No wonder I've got a craving for cock lately......
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2 years? How have you managed? I would be dragging my hair out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like that it annoys people.
People are essentially nosey, that’s all it is."
I've had absolute berzerckers in the past have a right moan at me because of verifications |
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Also op. They are there to prove you’re genuine so show them if you want to. I feel I’ve enough shown to prove I’m genuine. The people i meet aren’t bothered about veris either really so we never leave them anyway. Totally depends what you want from here, plenty people enjoy showing lots of sexual veris, some prefer not to. You just do you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also op. They are there to prove you’re genuine so show them if you want to. I feel I’ve enough shown to prove I’m genuine. The people i meet aren’t bothered about veris either really so we never leave them anyway. Totally depends what you want from here, plenty people enjoy showing lots of sexual veris, some prefer not to. You just do you x"
Thanks. I just saw a lot of people that seemed to be petty and stuff with eachother on the forums so thought I'd pose the question. Also I look at profiles and they say they won't meet people with too many verifications and if they have none. Kinda seems difficult to find what works |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I hide mine because I’d rather people not know who I’ve met/meet.
Yours are showing though. Or is that just some of them?
I show social ones x"
Similar here. It’s called discretion and respect. I don’t offer or expect verifications for non social meets. |
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I show my summary so people can be confident that I’m well verified and who I say I am. I used to display all my veris, but I think it can get a bit vulgar and distasteful. I’m not saying I won’t ever display again; I might, but for now I’m not meeting, so does anyone need to read graphic detail about my bedroom skills? Probably not. |
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"Also op. They are there to prove you’re genuine so show them if you want to. I feel I’ve enough shown to prove I’m genuine. The people i meet aren’t bothered about veris either really so we never leave them anyway. Totally depends what you want from here, plenty people enjoy showing lots of sexual veris, some prefer not to. You just do you x
Thanks. I just saw a lot of people that seemed to be petty and stuff with eachother on the forums so thought I'd pose the question. Also I look at profiles and they say they won't meet people with too many verifications and if they have none. Kinda seems difficult to find what works "
Haha true. I don’t have the answers to that. Everyone’s different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm calling you all out
As far as I'm concerned a hidden veri is no veri
You wouldn’t know if I have any hidden or not though  "
I wouldn't
A hidden veri ain't worth the webspace it's printed on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I show mine. They’re virtually all just social. I’d never show anything graphic anyway but I’m not running my fab profile to suit anyone but me. "
Exactly how I feel about my threads |
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"So I get called for having none but it's totally not suspicious to have them but have them hidden ?"
The point of a veri is to reassure people that you are who you say you are and that you’ve had a meet that went well. No one will verify you if you’re not a good meet. Everyone on the site that has been verified, whether displayed or not, gets the icon. The detail of the veri can be private. |
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"I show mine. They’re virtually all just social. I’d never show anything graphic anyway but I’m not running my fab profile to suit anyone but me.
Exactly how I feel about my threads "
I totally agree. You do you. That’s what it’s all about. I enjoy your threads. I’ve just overdosed today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm calling you all out
As far as I'm concerned a hidden veri is no veri
I'm cool with that. Makes no difference what anyone thinks.
Crack on. "
I always crack on
Carry on regardless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My last time round I was a little more concerned about veri's, spent alot of time considering what to write about someone I'd met (social or sex), as it appeared to me, not to have them was a 'disadvantage', and was afforded the same consideration by them.
But this time, I really don't give a fuck. If I ever get one, great, but if not, I'm not going to lose sleep over it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My last time round I was a little more concerned about veri's, spent alot of time considering what to write about someone I'd met (social or sex), as it appeared to me, not to have them was a 'disadvantage', and was afforded the same consideration by them.
But this time, I really don't give a fuck. If I ever get one, great, but if not, I'm not going to lose sleep over it."
Feels a bit like homework doesnt it. I was never keen on writing them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a shame that the name of the person giving the verification is shown when they’re public - for that reason I keep mine private
If I want to share a veri with someone I screenshot some, hide the usernames and then upload as a photo attached to a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feels a bit like homework doesnt it. I was never keen on writing them "
Oh, I dunno, I liked it. Trying to pitch it right; not graphic, funny but not a piss take, avoid all the clichés ("that's between me and them", "keeping this one to myself" etc. etc.) make 'em sound like the best thing since sliced bread ...in fact, that's what I want as my first new veri!!!
"best thing since sliced bread"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know if they are a good or bad thing to be honest, don't know if mine generated more interest or less. As I have a few, I think that can be off putting... even though we are all here to meet  but people are so judgy here so mine are hidden for the forseeable |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Feels a bit like homework doesnt it. I was never keen on writing them
Oh, I dunno, I liked it. Trying to pitch it right; not graphic, funny but not a piss take, avoid all the clichés ("that's between me and them", "keeping this one to myself" etc. etc.) make 'em sound like the best thing since sliced bread ...in fact, that's what I want as my first new veri!!!
"best thing since sliced bread"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also I slept with some people (even regularly) who we haven’t veri each other. I only mainly do it if I get asked and also cos some have the clean sheet of just women veris in their profile so …I don’t know how to handle that and just leave it unless I get asked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm calling you all out
As far as I'm concerned a hidden veri is no veri
Your only after dismissing verifications on your own thread 15 minutes ago.  "
No not at all
I'm using a gift god gave me
Common sense |
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We show a summary but not the actual veris because of unscrupulous behaviour of some people. People we've said no to or have only met socially contacting others to find out more about us inc where we work. Another reason why we tend to travel away for meets
Our lives are private - we intend to keep it that way until we choose not to. |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I'm calling you all out
As far as I'm concerned a hidden veri is no veri
Your only after dismissing verifications on your own thread 15 minutes ago.
No not at all
I'm using a gift god gave me
Common sense "
Total chameleon |
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I like my privacy and not interested in seeing others either. I had few verifications but the guys left the site over lockdown so not many now.
I am old enough to suss out the genuine ones without needing to see their verifications. |
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They serve as an aid de memoirs for some great meetings with some very lovely people. I chose not to display them so as not to attract unwanted attention nor to cause anyone else the same.
I eye roll at those that ‘don’t display veris’ but will when they want to boast about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been told that if they verify me, they get abuse from other people asking why they haven’t met them.
I’m not arsed about the veri, if anyone doubts I’m real, that’s calm. "
...simple reply for any woman getting that abuse and questioning; "cos he's a fucking legend, now fuck off!"
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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One woman’s best fuck ever is anothers worst it’s all about the connection and chemistry you have with someone not a verification which in some cases are just blowing smoke up someones arse. I prefer to experience it for myself rather than draw comparisons based on a well worded blurb x |
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"I’ve been told that if they verify me, they get abuse from other people asking why they haven’t met them.
I’m not arsed about the veri, if anyone doubts I’m real, that’s calm.
...simple reply for any woman getting that abuse and questioning; "cos he's a fucking legend, now fuck off!"
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The vast majority of mine have been from a MnG 18 months ago and I haven't had any new meets since.
I hid them for a while because of a stalker issue and then couldn't display them again due to the sites covid rules.
If others want to judge me on my veris alone that's up to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't feel the need to broadcast who I've met and when  I can show a few if someone asks to see some."
Indeed. I believe it's known as discretion.
Not everyone feels the need to tell the world what they've been up to and with whom |
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