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Every few weeks a few of my old colleagues and I meet up for a meal.
I didn't mind the first few times but now I find myself saying ........ fucking hell , why do YOU always have a dessert ? (not me )
One of them always has a dessert. No one else does..... She also gets a couple of drinks... more like .....water on the table , coffee after, coffee before, a liccle glass of wine etc....
I've started resenting splitting.....
Am I right or am I tight ? |
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over a year ago
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"Every few weeks a few of my old colleagues and I meet up for a meal.
I didn't mind the first few times but now I find myself saying ........ fucking hell , why do YOU always have a dessert ? (not me )
One of them always has a dessert. No one else does..... She also gets a couple of drinks... more like .....water on the table , coffee after, coffee before, a liccle glass of wine etc....
I've started resenting splitting.....
Am I right or am I tight ?"
Why don’t you do the same? You’re all there to enjoy company AND the meal, yes? I wouldn’t begrudge her.
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over a year ago
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I mean, unless she starts ordering things like lobster and champagne for herself. I think it should be fine, maybe order a starter or something extra yourself too.. so it’s more fair and balanced if you know it’s always gonna be that way. |
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It can be frustrating when your splitting the bill and some says I’ll have a bottle of wine 
You either suck it up or join them and say make that two bottles  |
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"Every few weeks a few of my old colleagues and I meet up for a meal.
I didn't mind the first few times but now I find myself saying ........ fucking hell , why do YOU always have a dessert ? (not me )
One of them always has a dessert. No one else does..... She also gets a couple of drinks... more like .....water on the table , coffee after, coffee before, a liccle glass of wine etc....
I've started resenting splitting.....
Am I right or am I tight ?"
I think your right... suggest going Dutch as you're not that hungry....I sometimes only fancy starters  |
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"It can be frustrating when your splitting the bill and some says I’ll have a bottle of wine
You either suck it up or join them and say make that two bottles "
Surely the bottle is there to be shared? Who’s that greedy cow??? |
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I'd resent it after the first few times. But if you accept it the first few times she probably assumes nobody minds. I have the perfect passive aggressive solution. Just eat and drink whatever proportion of her meal you're paying for right off her plate  |
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I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"
Go Wednesday |
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I'm fine with close friends, etc. But work colleagues, not so much. I don't drink & they always end up with wine & cocktails! Pisses me right off!
Thankfully, working from home has put paid to that  |
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"How much more does it add to your bill?
Could always suggest splitting the mains but people pay extra for their extras. "
Could do. I'll have a moan in here instead though.
She's a bit wet and would be upset.
Funny that innit ..... she's wet but gets her own way ........ fucking fanny. |
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"How much more does it add to your bill?
Could always suggest splitting the mains but people pay extra for their extras.
Could do. I'll have a moan in here instead though.
She's a bit wet and would be upset.
Funny that innit ..... she's wet but gets her own way ........ fucking fanny. "
Always the way, Granny.
I'd just help meself to her food next time. Bitch  |
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"I mean, unless she starts ordering things like lobster and champagne for herself. I think it should be fine, maybe order a starter or something extra yourself too.. so it’s more fair and balanced if you know it’s always gonna be that way."
Bingo ..... they don't do lobster at lunch but they do a fookin' fish platter that'd make her weep .......
I'd order that but I'd feel mean on the other two .... |
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"How much more does it add to your bill?
Could always suggest splitting the mains but people pay extra for their extras.
Could do. I'll have a moan in here instead though.
She's a bit wet and would be upset.
Funny that innit ..... she's wet but gets her own way ........ fucking fanny.
Always the way, Granny.
I'd just help meself to her food next time. Bitch "
Stick me finger in her puddin ? |
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"I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Go Wednesday "
Yeah ... that'll learn her |
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"I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Go Wednesday
Yeah ... that'll learn her "
It's an idea! Then I could talk to the lobster and just pay for my own stuff ..... like a kid with their arms around the porridge bowl ! |
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"How much more does it add to your bill?
Could always suggest splitting the mains but people pay extra for their extras.
Could do. I'll have a moan in here instead though.
She's a bit wet and would be upset.
Funny that innit ..... she's wet but gets her own way ........ fucking fanny.
Always the way, Granny.
I'd just help meself to her food next time. Bitch
Stick me finger in her puddin ?"
Now that's summat totally different, Granny |
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"Split no matter what I’ve had or them
Stop it Shortie ...... stop it !!!
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Haha. You’d hate me and a friend of mine, we take it in turns paying. One time it could be a nice restaurant, next time a pub, big price difference. No matter though as the main thing is the company and a good catch up  |
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"Split no matter what I’ve had or them
Stop it Shortie ...... stop it !!!
Haha. You’d hate me and a friend of mine, we take it in turns paying. One time it could be a nice restaurant, next time a pub, big price difference. No matter though as the main thing is the company and a good catch up "
I know you are right but I don't want to hear it ....... shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh |
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I always have less than everyone else, so I feel your pain. I tend the avoid these arrangements and usually say “I’ll put XX in which should cover mine and part of the tip”. Then if they want to split the rest of the bill then they can. They usually do and use the tip I put to pay, which also irks me as that was for the waiter. |
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"I mean, unless she starts ordering things like lobster and champagne for herself. I think it should be fine, maybe order a starter or something extra yourself too.. so it’s more fair and balanced if you know it’s always gonna be that way.
Bingo ..... they don't do lobster at lunch but they do a fookin' fish platter that'd make her weep .......
I'd order that but I'd feel mean on the other two ...."
Omg DO IT! She gets coffee and this and that and dessert. I think it’s only fair |
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I felt sad once. A friend of ours was on hard times, a group of us were going for a meal and really wanted her to come. I asked her discreetly if she'd agree to come and when it came to paying we'd just split it between the rest of us or I'd just put hers on my card.
I understand why she refused but she's the first to pay for coffee or offer to make up someone else's shortfall. |
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"I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"
So how much roughly does it add to your part of the bill? |
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It wouldn’t bother me. I always split.
I also don’t go out for meals and think ‘oh I won’t have dessert/wine’ just because the others aren’t. If I’m out for a meal then il order whatever I want regardless of what others have. It all swings in roundabouts though as there have been times where I’m driving so don’t drink and others have.
If she’s a friend then leave it but if it bothers you then just pay your share. |
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"I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"
Say split main order food and bottle of wine between you all fairly then after that whatever is ordered is extra ad they pay for it on their own , not fair otherwise, or say your not hungry and order starters and pay for that, just suggestion. Feels and sounds like that woman is taking a nice gesture too far x  |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"Every few weeks a few of my old colleagues and I meet up for a meal.
I didn't mind the first few times but now I find myself saying ........ fucking hell , why do YOU always have a dessert ? (not me )
One of them always has a dessert. No one else does..... She also gets a couple of drinks... more like .....water on the table , coffee after, coffee before, a liccle glass of wine etc....
I've started resenting splitting.....
Am I right or am I tight ?"
Just meet up at nanod's |
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"I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
So how much roughly does it add to your part of the bill? "
Surely it's the principle not the price |
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Don’t split as she is taking the piss and no doubt knows it so put her up against a wall and sort her out fucking pisstaker!!!!!
Or just take it and split it.
Tony |
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"Judging by all the extras she is ordering she must be huge. Next time, don't bother ordering food, just eat her instead. A free meal and problem solved."
I laughed. I know I shouldn't but ........ she's actually very nice, well turned out, bit of a prude....... but nice. I couldn't eat her ..
Not all in one sitting anyway |
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"Don’t split as she is taking the piss and no doubt knows it so put her up against a wall and sort her out fucking pisstaker!!!!!
Or just take it and split it.
Tony"
I'll prob do the latter but still moan about it to myself on the way home.....
maybe I just take a butty  |
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When i go out with my work colleagues they are all blokes and live locally.. So they hit the booze immediately... I stay most of the night, but have a 1-2 hour drive to get home, so drink soda water.. So yeah, i understand the pain of splitting a bill |
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"I expected more people to say I was tight.
I don't begrudge her at all but every fucking time ..... ( guess I do begrudge it )
It's NOT splitting the bill if one always gets more than the rest is it ??
Mind you there's 4 of us so we all pay 1/4 of what she has and so does she.
It'll really annoy me on Tues.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"
No. She pays 1/4
You 3 pay 3/4
Start ordering expensive off menu.. |
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If you split, then you split. It doesn’t matter who has what. Are you adding up the different value of everybody’s main meal and moaning cos they didn’t all cost exactly the same?
When I dine out with friends we sometimes split or someone will say ‘this is our treat tonight’ and they get the bill.
It doesn’t matter who has what.
You are being a tight arse Granny. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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Split the main courses granny and let everyone pay for their own drinks and pud; that said, they sound like the sort of person that would order the most expensive thing on the menu and then leave most of it because they don't actually like it. |
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"When i go out with my work colleagues they are all blokes and live locally.. So they hit the booze immediately... I stay most of the night, but have a 1-2 hour drive to get home, so drink soda water.. So yeah, i understand the pain of splitting a bill "
Splitting that bill would make you stupid. No way you split it ? |
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"If you split, then you split. It doesn’t matter who has what. Are you adding up the different value of everybody’s main meal and moaning cos they didn’t all cost exactly the same?
When I dine out with friends we sometimes split or someone will say ‘this is our treat tonight’ and they get the bill.
It doesn’t matter who has what.
You are being a tight arse Granny. "
ta I do know that. However it fucking rankles with me ...... I guess because I couldn't do it time in and time out to people.
Also ...... I never moan about splitting as a rule but this is a regular thing and she always comes off best in the getting stakes.
I wasn't there when the agreement to 'split' four ways was decided and for some stupid reason don't feel that I should rock the boat......
So I shall forever pay for her drinks n puds.....
No one say that I am lucky to be able to ....... just don't |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
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"Every few weeks a few of my old colleagues and I meet up for a meal.
I didn't mind the first few times but now I find myself saying ........ fucking hell , why do YOU always have a dessert ? (not me )
One of them always has a dessert. No one else does..... She also gets a couple of drinks... more like .....water on the table , coffee after, coffee before, a liccle glass of wine etc....
I've started resenting splitting.....
Am I right or am I tight ?
Just meet up at nanod's "
Nah! Spoons cheaper |
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"Split the main courses granny and let everyone pay for their own drinks and pud; that said, they sound like the sort of person that would order the most expensive thing on the menu and then leave most of it because they don't actually like it."
Christ...... do you know her ? She has done that all the time i've known her |
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"If you split, then you split. It doesn’t matter who has what. Are you adding up the different value of everybody’s main meal and moaning cos they didn’t all cost exactly the same?
When I dine out with friends we sometimes split or someone will say ‘this is our treat tonight’ and they get the bill.
It doesn’t matter who has what.
You are being a tight arse Granny.
ta I do know that. However it fucking rankles with me ...... I guess because I couldn't do it time in and time out to people.
Also ...... I never moan about splitting as a rule but this is a regular thing and she always comes off best in the getting stakes.
I wasn't there when the agreement to 'split' four ways was decided and for some stupid reason don't feel that I should rock the boat......
So I shall forever pay for her drinks n puds.....
No one say that I am lucky to be able to ....... just don't "
Why can’t you have a drink and pud too?
Or just stick up for yourself and say you are only paying for your own share... |
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"Every few weeks a few of my old colleagues and I meet up for a meal.
I didn't mind the first few times but now I find myself saying ........ fucking hell , why do YOU always have a dessert ? (not me )
One of them always has a dessert. No one else does..... She also gets a couple of drinks... more like .....water on the table , coffee after, coffee before, a liccle glass of wine etc....
I've started resenting splitting.....
Am I right or am I tight ?
Just meet up at nanod's
Nah! Spoons cheaper "
I've found out that I like Wetherspoons |
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"Am I right or am I tight ?"
Having been a non-drinker and coeliac for many years I have fallen foul of this. They all booze and eat garlic bread etc.
Only twice though as I no longer agree to such suggestions.
You're right in my eyes  |
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By *HaRiFMan
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"Every few weeks a few of my old colleagues and I meet up for a meal.
I didn't mind the first few times but now I find myself saying ........ fucking hell , why do YOU always have a dessert ? (not me )
One of them always has a dessert. No one else does..... She also gets a couple of drinks... more like .....water on the table , coffee after, coffee before, a liccle glass of wine etc....
I've started resenting splitting.....
Am I right or am I tight ?
Just meet up at nanod's
Nah! Spoons cheaper "
Yeah but at nando's you have to pay when you order, so if they order individually they have to pay individually or if the friend adds extra later on in the meal she'll have to pay for them separately when she orders. So no one needs to have that no you had more so you need to pay more awkward conversation |
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"Yeah but at nando's you have to pay when you order, so if they order individually they have to pay individually or if the friend adds extra later on in the meal she'll have to pay for them separately when she orders. So no one needs to have that no you had more so you need to pay more awkward conversation "
Same at McDonalds I hear |
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"If you split, then you split. It doesn’t matter who has what. Are you adding up the different value of everybody’s main meal and moaning cos they didn’t all cost exactly the same?
When I dine out with friends we sometimes split or someone will say ‘this is our treat tonight’ and they get the bill.
It doesn’t matter who has what.
You are being a tight arse Granny.
ta I do know that. However it fucking rankles with me ...... I guess because I couldn't do it time in and time out to people.
Also ...... I never moan about splitting as a rule but this is a regular thing and she always comes off best in the getting stakes.
I wasn't there when the agreement to 'split' four ways was decided and for some stupid reason don't feel that I should rock the boat......
So I shall forever pay for her drinks n puds.....
No one say that I am lucky to be able to ....... just don't "
Ah, didn’t realise you weren’t party to the agreeing to split. That does put a different light on it. Unfortunately now that you’ve gone along with it , you’re stuck with it.
A good compromise is to split the mains and pay for your own drinks and any starter or pud, especially if they are not good friends just colleagues. |
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"Unfortunately now that you’ve gone along with it , you’re stuck with it."
How?
Deals get renegotiated all the time. If they are true friends the others would have noticed the cheeky dessert grabber too.
Time to speak up or stop going I'd say
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