Is it down to being afraid to try, not being able to know how or just down to not being good at it?
For me, it's all the above as I have no idea how and am afraid to try.
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I think get a conversation going that there’s mutual interest ….. it’s a good start talk about your self and ask open questions so you can’t get a yes or no answer xxxx |
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"I'm shocking at flirting  I seem to escalate the conversation wayyyyy to fast, which results in a fail!"
I'm the opposite, I never progress it and it doesn't go anywhere. I'm terrible at making that step from normal chatting to anything 'more'
It doesn't help that I seem totally oblivious to any signs of interest  |
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"I'm shocking at flirting I seem to escalate the conversation wayyyyy to fast, which results in a fail!
I'm the opposite, I never progress it and it doesn't go anywhere. I'm terrible at making that step from normal chatting to anything 'more'
It doesn't help that I seem totally oblivious to any signs of interest "
I'm the same. I have Asperger's which makes it difficult for me to read social cues. |
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"I'm shocking at flirting I seem to escalate the conversation wayyyyy to fast, which results in a fail!
I'm the opposite, I never progress it and it doesn't go anywhere. I'm terrible at making that step from normal chatting to anything 'more'
It doesn't help that I seem totally oblivious to any signs of interest "
Oh man. This is me to a T. I never know what to say to go from that friendly stage to where's the bedroom. Many of my mates in the past have called me an idiot after a night out at afters cause apparently I had 3 or 4 girls in the palm of my hand and I was oblivious to it. A girl I knew once said I am naturally flirty and I had no idea |
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"I'm shocking at flirting I seem to escalate the conversation wayyyyy to fast, which results in a fail!
I'm the opposite, I never progress it and it doesn't go anywhere. I'm terrible at making that step from normal chatting to anything 'more'
It doesn't help that I seem totally oblivious to any signs of interest "
This is me |
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I can chat shit with anyone, I can have great, funny and interesting conversations.
Can't flirt. Can't recognise when someone else is flirting with me.
I think I'm too blunt, not subtle enough. Flirting is an inherently teasing thing and I don't do well with a tease. |
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At work when talking to customers and suppliers, I get told by my colleagues that I'm a huge flirt - except I have no idea I'm doing it . To my mind I am just being friendly 
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"I can chat shit with anyone, I can have great, funny and interesting conversations.
Can't flirt. Can't recognise when someone else is flirting with me.
I think I'm too blunt, not subtle enough. Flirting is an inherently teasing thing and I don't do well with a tease."
I'm the same. Conversations I can do fine but flirting is still a mystery to me. I wouldn't even be able to know if I'm being flirty or not.
For example, if I was to say to you "Nice googly eyes" (hence your profile pic), would you see that as a flirt or a compliment? |
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"I can chat shit with anyone, I can have great, funny and interesting conversations.
Can't flirt. Can't recognise when someone else is flirting with me.
I think I'm too blunt, not subtle enough. Flirting is an inherently teasing thing and I don't do well with a tease.
I'm the same. Conversations I can do fine but flirting is still a mystery to me. I wouldn't even be able to know if I'm being flirty or not.
For example, if I was to say to you "Nice googly eyes" (hence your profile pic), would you see that as a flirt or a compliment?"
A compliment, rather than flirting. Really though you're not asking a normal person since I find it all but impossible to recognise when someone is flirting at me! |
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"I can chat shit with anyone, I can have great, funny and interesting conversations.
Can't flirt. Can't recognise when someone else is flirting with me.
I think I'm too blunt, not subtle enough. Flirting is an inherently teasing thing and I don't do well with a tease.
I'm the same. Conversations I can do fine but flirting is still a mystery to me. I wouldn't even be able to know if I'm being flirty or not.
For example, if I was to say to you "Nice googly eyes" (hence your profile pic), would you see that as a flirt or a compliment?
A compliment, rather than flirting. Really though you're not asking a normal person since I find it all but impossible to recognise when someone is flirting at me!"
Fair point |
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I'm dreadful at flirting - a combination of not knowing what to say and not having the confidence 
I tend to just go silent when people are around that I don't know as well, which really doesn't help |
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I find flirting cringeworthy, when you listen to some people in clubs talking shite it makes my toes curl.
Mr PD is a flirt of the highest order, I just can't do it... |
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