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When it comes to meeting new people and chatting with them (whether it's at a bar, a restaurant or a club), are you more nervous and try to come up with what to say or are you more confident and get chatting?
Me, I'm more of the nervous type when it comes to meeting new people. There are times when I wish I could come up with something to talk about right off the bat but my mind would always draw a blank. |
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Me- Mrs ... I’m very chatty and social and a bit of a flirt (which gets me into trouble) but I think confidence and chatty can sometimes be perceived as being obnoxious or cocky so I try to take a back seat too... I think being nervous is a beautiful trait though and it’s normal to be nervous ... don’t stop being nervous ... you can’t help how you feel at the time  x |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I'm never short of conversation generally.. But can get nervous around certain people. That's something to talk about in itself.. Talk about what is present.. It's a great start to in depth conversation that swerves the need for small talk or banter. I like a bit of banter but it can only go so far for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meeting and chatting, I'm very confident. Taking my clothes off for the first time, I'm nervous!"
I'd imagine it's the same for the gent tho, he's already undressed you numerous times with his eyes over the evening  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only met with guys who DON'T make me feel nervous. I've already chatted on the phone so I know we gonna get on OK. If the chat doesn't go well, I won't meet. The last thing I want is to be sitting there in awkward silence trying to initiate CONVERSATION, that's when I'm gonna feel nervous. It should just flow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm courteous but not sociable at all. Tbh.
I know that feeling. When it comes to meeting new people, socialising is not one of my strong points."
I need to click with someone who is fun but chill.
I avoid groups (hence why I've never been to an organised social). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m fairly confident but there’s always bound to be nerves, conversationally I just say whatever comes in my head, no point pretending to be somebody I’m not, I’m fairy witty and can ease the tension I think? Nobody has ever slapped me and walked out at least, I’d always say be yourself though and don’t try and force conversation, sip of your drink, deep breath and the conversation will flow |
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"Me- Mrs ... I’m very chatty and social and a bit of a flirt (which gets me into trouble) but I think confidence and chatty can sometimes be perceived as being obnoxious or cocky so I try to take a back seat too... I think being nervous is a beautiful trait though and it’s normal to be nervous ... don’t stop being nervous ... you can’t help how you feel at the time x "
Very true. When I first started going to Cupids, I was pretty nervous and with me having Asperger's, it was hard to strike up a conversation and ended up shutting down while sitting in a corner. It took me so much strength to snap out of it, get up and walk to the bar. |
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"I’m very nervous and just talk random shite xxx"
If I was able to talk about something, it would probably be about movies or games but would draw a blank when it comes to what's been going on recently. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It depends on who I'm meeting and why. Sometimes I find myself getting a bit flustered and tongue tied but the more comfortable I feel with the person the more confident I am. Away from Fab (work etc) I'm confident but if I meet people from here I can feel a bit nervous. Not sure why that is. My quim clearly leads me to a nervous state. |
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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In my younger years alcohol relaxed me, so no fear of what to say next. A natural confidence booster (inside a bit nervous to begin with.)
I no longer drink now. However, people do repeat themselves, unfortunately. Alot!!!! I take it all in good jest though.
If I feel nervous I think back to Covid lockdown & what that was like. That gives me a kick up the bum & I suddenly become more chatty!
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"When it comes to meeting new people and chatting with them (whether it's at a bar, a restaurant or a club), are you more nervous and try to come up with what to say or are you more confident and get chatting?
Me, I'm more of the nervous type when it comes to meeting new people. There are times when I wish I could come up with something to talk about right off the bat but my mind would always draw a blank."
I'm the more confident one of us. Used to be shy, not any more.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm comfortable chatting with anyone. I'm good at conversation and engaging with people. For me the secret is asking questions, listening and just being a funny person when I can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a very awkward and anxious person and it definitely shows when I'm meeting new people. If you work with me, I can bounce off you and gain confidence as I start to feel more comfortable.
But if you're just as awkward as me then we are doomed.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meeting and chatting, I'm very confident. Taking my clothes off for the first time, I'm nervous!"
Same . Though meeting, chatting with interest to chat someone up, I’m nervous and not confident at all. utterly useless. Clearly overthink things  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When it comes to meeting new people and chatting with them (whether it's at a bar, a restaurant or a club), are you more nervous and try to come up with what to say or are you more confident and get chatting?
Me, I'm more of the nervous type when it comes to meeting new people. There are times when I wish I could come up with something to talk about right off the bat but my mind would always draw a blank."
My hubby is the same, I’d just be honest and just try and let the conversation flow. Try not to over think, I know easier said than done |
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My Grandma used to say I could talk a glass eye to sleep
I don't get nervous, I really enjoy meeting new people...I can be a bit flighty in group situations though as I want to talk to alllllll the people, which could perhaps make me appear a bit rude to some...I just want to spread the Lily love  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When it comes to meeting new people and chatting with them (whether it's at a bar, a restaurant or a club), are you more nervous and try to come up with what to say or are you more confident and get chatting?
Me, I'm more of the nervous type when it comes to meeting new people. There are times when I wish I could come up with something to talk about right off the bat but my mind would always draw a blank."
Id definitely like to rock out the conversations I’ve had on here in every day life with ease and confidence but me personally yeah I’m pants at proper dialogue with anyone !
Some checkin girls at tescos would probably put me on the back foot !
They got witty chat |
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Used to be very nervous and shy, would never approach a female. Had no confidence at all. Took life experiences and years of being made to feel I was worthy of nobody to have the mindset I have today what I always was.
I'm very confident but not to the point its unattractive.
I now think nobody is to good or out of my league.
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Used to be very nervous and shy, would never approach a female. Had no confidence at all. Took life experiences and years of being made to feel I was worthy of nobody to have the mindset I have today what I always was.
I'm very confident but not to the point its unattractive.
I now think nobody is to good or out of my league.
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I like you x |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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Like some have said on here. Approach female in younger days in pub , disco showing age now.  . Did not happen mostly unless few drinks. If introduced then no problem. People have said good at conversation . Internet I was on when chat rooms first started and found many friends . But have noticed now due to my age or has become more difficult to chat. ?  |
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"Used to be very nervous and shy, would never approach a female. Had no confidence at all. Took life experiences and years of being made to feel I was worthy of nobody to have the mindset I have today what I always was.
I'm very confident but not to the point its unattractive.
I now think nobody is to good or out of my league.
I like you x"
haha thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like some have said on here. Approach female in younger days in pub , disco showing age now. . Did not happen mostly unless few drinks. If introduced then no problem. People have said good at conversation . Internet I was on when chat rooms first started and found many friends . But have noticed now due to my age or has become more difficult to chat. ? "
Not sure age matters here on the threads as much !
People see your personality there not looking at your age !
But yeah In other areas of the site for sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When it comes to meeting new people and chatting with them (whether it's at a bar, a restaurant or a club), are you more nervous and try to come up with what to say or are you more confident and get chatting?
Me, I'm more of the nervous type when it comes to meeting new people. There are times when I wish I could come up with something to talk about right off the bat but my mind would always draw a blank."
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I friend zone everyone from the off.
I’m friendly and talkative
If they don’t make an effort I kick them to the kerb quite quickly and don’t meet again
I’d they want to be move out of the friend zone to the bedroom then they need to put some serious effort in
- Feisty
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Meeting and chatting, I'm very confident. Taking my clothes off for the first time, I'm nervous!"
Other way around for me. I'd be better getting naked first then chat afterwards. |
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It depends. I don't usually feel nervous or confident, I just go and meet them. I did feel slight trepidation meeting our son's girlfriend because she was quite young and I wasn't sure what we'd have in common, as it turned out we got on like a house on fire. Shame it ended really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m confident when talking to new people. I’ve always been fairly confident, but having worked away for most of my life almost drives you to strike up conversations.
I’ve met some amazing people over the years and had some fantastic conversations. It’s strange; but I wonder how some of the more memorable people I’ve met are doing |
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