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Anyone else hate the term “playing”?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it  "
I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.
Can you tell how much I hate it haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14
Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it."
would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee" or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14
Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it.
would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee" or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol"
Just adult words will do.  |
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"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it
I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.
Can you tell how much I hate it haha "
This, It drives be crazy! I get proper ranty with people that use “fun” for sex.…..can’t help myself, not 12 any more you are allowed to say sex. Apparently people get offended if adults talk about sex on a swinging site.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14
Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it.
would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee" or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol
Just adult words will do. "
Oh alright then fancy a fuck it is! |
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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14
Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it.
would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee" or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol
Just adult words will do. "
I bet you love being ‘nawty’  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
But even dogging sounds weird like a group of people are invited to bring their dog. People Go walking in groups hill walkers shouldn't this just be fucking like animals people Go to the pub for a drink.so off to field for a shag you go to the loo to spend a penny and you go to the woods to shed your load or empty your tank |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it
I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.
Can you tell how much I hate it haha "
Sex or sexual play may be involved, but what we are looking for is not just fucking someone. Using “play” is a lot less dramatic than listing what we are going to do to someone each time we talk.
Also as we use a lot if toys, play is a natural fit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How would I say playing with the girls hair while she's giving me a BJ?
I like to fuck up the ladies expensive hairstyle when she's pleasuring me orally ? |
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Not sure what a good alternative is...after all it is fun and we are playing with each other.
Other’s options could get a bit long winded for example - would you like to meet for some emotion and physical stimulation?
Think I’ll stick with the fun play |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Would the people averse to the term "play" care to suggest an alternative they find more palatable? "
Just say what you feel…. How about I wanna tear at your clothes , bite you , pull your hair and fuck like there’s no tomorrow ? |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
I have bigger fish to fry than get worked up over linguistics.
Ultimately we are on here to have fun and there are very few suitable alternatives that are just not crude and in my view offensive. |
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"Would the people averse to the term "play" care to suggest an alternative they find more palatable?
Just say what you feel…. How about I wanna tear at your clothes , bite you , pull your hair and fuck like there’s no tomorrow ? "
Very appropriate in Costa on the pre social |
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I have to say I quite like the term playing. When M and I as a married couple have sex it’s very different more loving.
So when we add a third it’s just fun for everyone involved more of a game, playing even |
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"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.
But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange "
And you're contributing how exactly? At least he answered the question.
How strange indeed  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
We’re a sexually repressed people, even sex positive people such as are often found on here have deep seated repressions. Hence why we use words like; play, fun, dirty, naughty, etc when we actually mean sex.
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For me the problem is that the alternatives like sex or fucking seem to describe the act rather than the whole event. It can be fairly playful and why is it just children who play? Adults just play different games!
I'm open to alternative suggestions though! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.
But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange "
I did didn’t I, I managed it all, while sat on my sofa drinking tea, but If you think that’s strange, wait till you hear this, when showering sometimes I cup my arms to see how much water I can collect, then I quickly open my arms again. |
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"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.
But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange "
Don't be shy. We can chat in here about what people think of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fun and play are cool, sometimes we meet just for a fuck but sometimes there's other aspects, toys etc so play works for as a general term. I'm more concerned when people can't use words like cock or pussy....we declined to meet a couple partly because they use words like love-stick!
Tabitha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say I quite like the term playing. When M and I as a married couple have sex it’s very different more loving.
So when we add a third it’s just fun for everyone involved more of a game, playing even"
This! |
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For me it's part of a whole experience, so there maybe wax play, impact play etc etc going on when I meet someone as well as fucking them. And play kind of summarises everything else I'd have to say first we shall spank me arse then, we will do xyz and finally we get around to the fucking bit.
To me it's no different to saying a night out with my friends rather than saying I'm going out for a meal then we're going to a few bars and then hit a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!
Thanks "
It is quite cringe-y , like what are playing here? A game of chess? Squash? Maybe some Super Nintendo? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!
Thanks "
It makes me think of monopoly or one of my childhood board games that got played a lot. |
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"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it
I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.
Can you tell how much I hate it haha "
But if someone messaged asking you to come out to Fuck, I think most lady’s would be put off. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!
Thanks "
I don't like this word either. And the word 'fun'
Playing and fun are words I use to describe something I do with my kids and grandchildren.
I prefer people to say what they mean not use innocent words to describe what they don't actually mean....
Sorry rant over   |
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I don't hate it but I certainly don't like it. I wish there was a better word for it but I can't really think of one that conveys the enjoyment of of sex. Just saying "I'm looking for sex" or "We had sex together" seems kind of functional to me.
There is a woman we know who says of couples "I want to play with both". Saying "I want to have sex with both" instead doesn't capture a sense of enjoyment to me. |
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"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it
I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.
Can you tell how much I hate it haha "
Some people on here don't have sex or fuck.
I don't mind what it is called but some view fucking as derogatory. |
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
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"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it
I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.
Can you tell how much I hate it haha
Sex or sexual play may be involved, but what we are looking for is not just fucking someone. Using “play” is a lot less dramatic than listing what we are going to do to someone each time we talk.
Also as we use a lot if toys, play is a natural fit."
Exactly this. I use the term playing because I'm naturally playful in bed. I don't want someone just fucking me. We as a couple also enjoy playing as a cuckold couple. But it's not something we do in real life. So we play at it.
Mrs N |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
It's about an ability to differentiate words for their different meanings. Multiple words have multiple meanings in different context and situations.
Is it the word you dislike (like how people dislike "moist") or you are just unable to apply a word to a different meaning? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There seem to be some joy sponges in this thread. Playtime to me covered a wide spectrum of things. Sex, time out in my car, time under my car with tools, cooking. Sport. And other stuff I can’t remember. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!
Thanks
Playing and fun are cringe af .
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Aren’t they?
“Do you want to play?” Yeah, hang on I’ll bring my ball. |
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"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!
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Playing and fun are cringe af .
Aren’t they?
“Do you want to play?” Yeah, hang on I’ll bring my ball. "
No need got 2 ..
Frantic fore play and then some sex our preference . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People refer to masturbation as playing with themselves.
People also call swinging a hobby.
I think most people are looking for a fun experience and to meet like-minded people.
In theory play and fun are inoffensive unspecific but suggestive and inclusive words!
I think meeting is unavoidable as a term really. I would never refer to a meet with anyone off here as a date.
Tabitha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you like to rub your genitals against my genitals?
Genitaaaaaaaaals"
Quite possibly the post of the thread!
But whilst we’re on the topic……… yeeeeeeeees, goooooooo ooooooooooon theeeeeeeeeen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be some joy sponges in this thread. Playtime to me covered a wide spectrum of things. Sex, time out in my car, time under my car with tools, cooking. Sport. And other stuff I can’t remember. "
*joy sponges
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.
But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange
I did didn’t I, I managed it all, while sat on my sofa drinking tea, but If you think that’s strange, wait till you hear this, when showering sometimes I cup my arms to see how much water I can collect, then I quickly open my arms again. "
I’m trying, but failing, to understand what you’re describing here.
Can you send me an explanatory video?  |
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"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.
But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange
I did didn’t I, I managed it all, while sat on my sofa drinking tea, but If you think that’s strange, wait till you hear this, when showering sometimes I cup my arms to see how much water I can collect, then I quickly open my arms again. "
Ha ha ha ha!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!
Thanks "
Massively. I also can't stand the terms 'meet', and the generic 'fun' that people use on here. Also when people say naughty/norty/nawty as though we're all 5 year olds misbehaving.
Urgh. |
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Playing is a weird one, doesn't conjure up my idea of a passionate romp round the bedroom.
Naughty kind of gets me... I guess for some people it is, but it sounds a bit childish when we're all consenting adults.
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It’s not all about sex or penetration for me. It’s the friendship, socialising, teasing, trying new things, using toys, getting to know people in a very deeper level. It’s all around a playful journey for me so yes I see it as a “adult play” or “adult fun” but dropping the word adult while using them. 
