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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x 
Magnums 
Iv literally just eaten one.
I need counselling to stop…
Why! They are sooooo good.
2 stone Lorna.. 2 bastard stone… "
But if you only eat magnums and nothing else it will soon come off.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x
Magnums
Iv literally just eaten one.
I need counselling to stop…
Why! They are sooooo good.
2 stone Lorna.. 2 bastard stone…
But if you only eat magnums and nothing else it will soon come off. "
I highly recommend the magnum flavoured salad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have yours or have you lost it "
Its hard to know...you think you're doing ok till someone blows the crap out of it BUT to me the key is not to give a fuck and keep the " its their loss " mentality and on ya go .  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I do and I don't - in some things I am very confident in myself, in others full of self-doubt - it makes for quite the cocktail at times and can mess with my head although I mask it well mostly |
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I have an abnormally objective grasp of my own strengths and shortcomings.
Sometimes this is perceived as confidence or even arrogance, and makes people mad.
Sometimes it is perceived as self-deprecation, and makes people mad.
Can't win either way. I need to learn to lie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you can have confidence in some areas and not in others, and it can fluctuate depending on other factors.
Mine not great at the moment, but will (hopefully)improve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do and don't at the same time. I know my worth, but there are still things about me that I'm less confident about and I certainly get nerves when I stand fully naked in front of someone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m in a hmm not sure situation. I had grown confidence in my self due to my pregnancy as it’s something I thought my body was unable to do and I’m in awe that it’s managing to grow this life inside of me.
But my confidence was majorly hit due to a ex partner making me feel like crap on a day when I was getting lots of bad news at the antenatal clinic where my body isn’t naturally doing what it should be.
So I guess I’m not really sure. I’m hoping I can regain it in the future |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have an abnormally objective grasp of my own strengths and shortcomings.
Sometimes this is perceived as confidence or even arrogance, and makes people mad.
Sometimes it is perceived as self-deprecation, and makes people mad.
Can't win either way. I need to learn to lie. "
Couldn't have expressed it better. |
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"I have an abnormally objective grasp of my own strengths and shortcomings.
Sometimes this is perceived as confidence or even arrogance, and makes people mad.
Sometimes it is perceived as self-deprecation, and makes people mad.
Can't win either way. I need to learn to lie. "
I’d give you a round of applause for this, but you wouldn’t hear it!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally I'm pretty confident but was thinking about it the other day and its dipped. Thinking a combination of tiredness, apathy and putting on a little weight during lockdown has taken its toll. Not to mention hayfever! I'll get it back though. |
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I have it where I think it's warranted and not where it's not. I recognise there are things that I can and can't do. I don't want confidence in things I can't do. When people say I lack confidence, it seems to me that they are simply saying they have a different opinion to me about the things I can and can't do. Who's right? It could be either but in general I'd say I know myself better than others do. Luke |
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Depends on what you mean by self confidence.
Looks wise not really, my ability to do my job, drive my car safely, cook a really good meal yes.
We base so much of our worth and self confidence on the way we look, when it's only a small fraction of who we are  |
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A guy told me I had no confidence as we left a party. This was because we didn't find anybody there was our cup of tea and rather than have sex with someone we didn't want to we explained to our host it wasn't our thing and thanked him for his hospitality. He took this as a sign that I lacked confidence  even though Mr N felt as I did too |
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I have self confidence in that I’m a decent human being and treat people right! But am very critical of my body, def lack self confidence in that! Luckily stubbornness and a hunger for fun allows my head to accept being on here! |
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There are different kinds of self confidence.
In my job = I ooze in the brain and charisma department, just lack physically after I've been there 11 hours and start to ache.
In my body = nah mate, lost that way before I ripped out my work shirt coz I've chunked a stone n half on.
In the bedroom = it's just for sleeping in these days and I'm pretty confident I can sleep when I'm tired. As for sexual confidence, long gone. It went away at the same time as my faith in people. |
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"I think I'm amazing. People either agree or disagree with me and that's OK but it doesn't change my perception of myself."
You maybe or i maybe mixing thinks up but
Self worth and self confidence are different happy within my self but dropping my trousers in a room full of people makes me a bit worried.. |
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Mine is improving, it has been incredibly low but I’m at a point where I don’t give two monkeys. I know my body is powerful, I know my mind is strong, I know I’m a good person. I have my flaws, but don’t we all. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Mine is improving, it has been incredibly low but I’m at a point where I don’t give two monkeys. I know my body is powerful, I know my mind is strong, I know I’m a good person. I have my flaws, but don’t we all. "
We certainly do.
We work with our positives and keep our faults to one side. Xx |
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In most situations im confident. I present for a living and even have done some stand up comedy. I change jobs a lot - 10 in 12 years at least- and i have to quickly feel comfortable with people etc... however i am not as good one on one with anyone i fancy...i kind of dissolve a bit a d fail to flirt successfully - mostly this is down to women just not fancying me - which feeds the down spiral when it comes to my love life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have an abundance of it, mainly because I like me and I’m comfortable with people not liking me, unless it gets to the point that 7 billion people don’t like me then I’ll probably just carry on as I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I'm amazing. People either agree or disagree with me and that's OK but it doesn't change my perception of myself.
You maybe or i maybe mixing thinks up but
Self worth and self confidence are different happy within my self but dropping my trousers in a room full of people makes me a bit worried.. "
If they were expecting me to drop my trousers then, yeah, I'd do it. The worst they could do is laugh or say something hurtful. So what. I don't care what they think. Have you seen the news where they interview the man or woman on the street for their view on some current news item? Most are buffoons. Opinions are like arseholes, everyone's got one and most are full of shit. |
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I say to myself "be bold, a faint heart never fucked a maiden", and "don't be shy, your mother wasn't".
It's difficult though but I've taught myself self reliance and self worth. Conference comes for free after that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm rediscovering mine. I had it in abundance last year, possibly to the point of irritation for those who interact with me.
And then I sort of lost mine. I started thinking maybe I'm not worth the time and effort and others are more deserving of it because I was made to feel like that. So self doubt crept in.
Now I'm finding mine again, I'm enjoying being happier and things being easier. Self confidence is a funny one - it can definitely be affected by others if you're that way inclined. I think some people naturally always have relatively high levels of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Work Hope - buckets of the stuff.
Fab Hope- no it went and I doubt it will ever come back. So other than the forums and fab female friends there is not a real reason for me to be here any longer. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
I have a ridiculous amount, and some of it's real and not fake-it-til-you-make-it.
Years ago I had very little indeed, but I got to a certain age and just thought 'eff it who cares' and it's seemed to work (so far). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly I have no idea anymore lol.
I'm pretty narcissistic. I don't care how other people think of me "opinions are like assholes, everyones got one and they tend to stink" but I do care an awful lot, sometimes too much, about how I feel about me to the point where I'll completely avoid something. Hell, I was a pretty chubby kid and because I hated my body I wouldnt let anyone else like it. Took time but I managed to slim down, I was so hell bent on it that I was already in my 20s before I even considered having sex.
All of the confidence in the world, more than any man should have really xD until something comes up that I have decided I dont deserve and then confidence bottoms out lol
Its funny how the human psyche works. Probably a little bit of an overshare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've lost it completely over the last few years.
I was quite content and confident with myself them bam, I had a baby, stopped exercising, ate too much and them bam, lockdown, continued bad habits and more weight gain and most of my confidence has vanished.
O.o
I'm slowly making progress. |
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By *h508Man
over a year ago
Guildford |
I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud. |
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"I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud. "
No reason why you shouldn't congratulate yourself on your not inconsiderable achievements. It always sounds patronising but "well done". I'm glad it feels good to acknowledge it openly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud. "
It’s a big deal, and why wouldn’t you congratulate yourself. Now the hard bit, maintaining it. I was 16st at my heaviest and am currently sitting just above 10st. I fluctuate but I’ve never been back to the 16st. Be kind to yourself and ignore people who don’t understand that.
Well done x |
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By *h508Man
over a year ago
Guildford |
"I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud.
It’s a big deal, and why wouldn’t you congratulate yourself. Now the hard bit, maintaining it. I was 16st at my heaviest and am currently sitting just above 10st. I fluctuate but I’ve never been back to the 16st. Be kind to yourself and ignore people who don’t understand that.
Well done x"
Yeah that’s definitely the hard bit! I lost maybe half this much a few years ago and put some of it back on. I’ve learnt a lot since then and feel much better-equipped this time. I’m not done yet either
Congrats on the 6st, that’s super impressive! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have lots of it, probably a bit too much. I’m at the age where I genuinely couldn’t give a fuck what people think of me."
This is it. The older I get the less fucks I give.
Its so liberating  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
I genuinely wish that everybody started liking themselves.
Forget what other people told you about yourself and make a fresh start. It does not matter what negative stuff people in the past said about you - they probably did so to make themselves feel better or to lash out at you. Forget it... absolutely time to forget those voices and make a fresh start!
Everybody deserves respect, kindness and love. Start taking your portion from the table that is your oyster.
Confidence is so healthy and so incredibly sexy. And yes, everybody is beautiful and attractive in their own way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some days more. Some days less. Depends who I surround myself with too. "
I think it is human nature to be self critical. I (Senpai) have been training hard to keep sane through this last year, and am fitter than i have ever been. But i still have self doubts.
Its like Tuberose says, surround yourself, and interact with positive people and those that buoy you up. The people that drag you down, leave them, you dont need them in your life!
Then think about how others think of you, and try to be someone who buoys and supports their friends too! |
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