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over a year ago
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far more healthy for an individual to have one off face to face sexual encounters and then move on from them.
Than it is to be physchologically caught up in the fantasies of strangers who may or may not be as they profess.
After all why would I want to spend my emotions or creativity on the faceless of the internet?
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"far more healthy for an individual to have one off face to face sexual encounters and then move on from them.
Than it is to be physchologically caught up in the fantasies of strangers who may or may not be as they profess.
After all why would I want to spend my emotions or creativity on the faceless of the internet?
What do you think?"
It's only healthy if you can honestly say that one offs are what you want.
I do think that *some* people don't want to admit, even to themselves, that they are quite happy having one off encounters with random strangers and weave a complicated web of faux connections to other people to appease their guilty conscience. Before I get shot down in flames this does not apply to everyone because I know that a lot of people like a series of mini relationships. |
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"far more healthy for an individual to have one off face to face sexual encounters and then move on from them.
Than it is to be physchologically caught up in the fantasies of strangers who may or may not be as they profess.
After all why would I want to spend my emotions or creativity on the faceless of the internet?
What do you think?
It's only healthy if you can honestly say that one offs are what you want.
I do think that *some* people don't want to admit, even to themselves, that they are quite happy having one off encounters with random strangers and weave a complicated web of faux connections to other people to appease their guilty conscience. Before I get shot down in flames this does not apply to everyone because I know that a lot of people like a series of mini relationships."
For me here one-offs are fine.
But I have met the same person more than once on three occasions each one twice.
But those caused me no issues at all.
Faux connections: Artificial but intended to look real and (secretly) fucking one-offs just like others but making it seem (to the one-off and others) like something else?
To appease something or other within society or themselves?
Or because they are themselves in fact twisted individuals?
Or controlling individuals?
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"I think some people start to fall for the illusion that they have created in their own minds that bear little relevance to the real person. Once you have met them you see them warts and all. "
Are people scared of seeing others warts and all?
Have we moved so far from what is natural about our looks that we are setting ourselves ridiculous standards? |
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Who wants to spend time thinking about people they are unlikely to meet?
Maybe they who are locked up in a relationship they cannot really respond from?
Or a circumstance they cannot respond from to meet others...but whilst being in that circumstance will pretend to those they encounter that they can!
Who needs all that! |
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Also people have their own lives to live and might not want to spend too much of it for the sake of others on here.
Which some people don't seem to understand. |
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"far more healthy for an individual to have one off face to face sexual encounters and then move on from them.
Than it is to be physchologically caught up in the fantasies of strangers who may or may not be as they profess.
After all why would I want to spend my emotions or creativity on the faceless of the internet?
What do you think?
It's only healthy if you can honestly say that one offs are what you want.
I do think that *some* people don't want to admit, even to themselves, that they are quite happy having one off encounters with random strangers and weave a complicated web of faux connections to other people to appease their guilty conscience. Before I get shot down in flames this does not apply to everyone because I know that a lot of people like a series of mini relationships. For me here one-offs are fine.
But I have met the same person more than once on three occasions each one twice.
But those caused me no issues at all.
Faux connections: Artificial but intended to look real and (secretly) fucking one-offs just like others but making it seem (to the one-off and others) like something else?
To appease something or other within society or themselves?
Or because they are themselves in fact twisted individuals?
Or controlling individuals?
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Faux connections to appease something or other within themselves or society.
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But a one-off encounter could always turn into more. You might 'click' with someone and want to see them again.
I think people still treat the web and real life as seperate things. If you meet someone in a pub they could still be putting on an act and you could still build an illusion of what they are really like. The web is no different.
As an example I met a girl at a party and I was quite d*unk at the time and we got on really well. We weren't local to each other and had a telephone relationship for a few weeks.
She then travelled to meet-up with me. It didn't go any further after that as I didn't come across the same in person as I did when d*unk or on the telephone - possibly due to nerves but I was quieter than she was expecting. |
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"But a one-off encounter could always turn into more. You might 'click' with someone and want to see them again.
I think people still treat the web and real life as seperate things. If you meet someone in a pub they could still be putting on an act and you could still build an illusion of what they are really like. The web is no different.
As an example I met a girl at a party and I was quite d*unk at the time and we got on really well. We weren't local to each other and had a telephone relationship for a few weeks.
She then travelled to meet-up with me. It didn't go any further after that as I didn't come across the same in person as I did when d*unk or on the telephone - possibly due to nerves but I was quieter than she was expecting."
Your point about the way people treat the web and off the web as different is interesting.
Often the lack of ability to read true intent with no face to go by can prove difficult (an understatement!)
It's actually a miracle that we even try! |
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