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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right so I'm not being funny, but why is it that when you have a fight with a woman, it's always us male folks that have to apologise directly or indirectly?
Notwithstanding that it could be either that's at fault. I had a fallout with a friend a few weeks ago, and she really did press my buttons, to cut a long story short she came round to see me, but I wasn't have none of it, then I went round to see her, but then she wasn't have any of it, anyway to cut another long story short we came to a stale mate. So yesterday England played Germany and as y'all know they lost. So I thought 'uhhhh perfect opportunity here to message her without apologising and ask her;' did you see the game dear '? Bearing in mind She's German and she's loves her football. Even though like me she is a fellow windsurfer. I mean when us humans were made 100,000's of years ago what did the male species do that we're always in the wrong? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Right so I'm not being funny, but why is it that when you have a fight with a woman, it's always us male folks that have to apologise directly or indirectly?
Notwithstanding that it could be either that's at fault. I had a fallout with a friend a few weeks ago, and she really did press my buttons, to cut a long story short she came round to see me, but I wasn't have none of it, then I went round to see her, but then she wasn't have any of it, anyway to cut another long story short we came to a stale mate. So yesterday England played Germany and as y'all know they lost. So I thought 'uhhhh perfect opportunity here to message her without apologising and ask her;' did you see the game dear '? Bearing in mind She's German and she's loves her football. Even though like me she is a fellow windsurfer. I mean when us humans were made 100,000's of years ago what did the male species do that we're always in the wrong? "
It sounds fairly petty and that you’re both in the wrong.
In this type of situation it comes down to which is more important to you; your pride and being right or your friendship?
If it’s the former then sit tight and enjoy your rightness on your own.
If it’s the latter then swallow a bit of pride and apologise, then find a bit of common ground to move forwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having read the more detailed explanation on another thread, you blanked her for days on end and then expect her to jump when you want to talk
Whether she was wrong in the first place doesn't matter as you took down a road you were never going to come out of smelling of roses. |
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"Right so I'm not being funny, but why is it that when you have a fight with a woman, it's always us male folks that have to apologise directly or indirectly?
Notwithstanding that it could be either that's at fault. I had a fallout with a friend a few weeks ago, and she really did press my buttons, to cut a long story short she came round to see me, but I wasn't have none of it, then I went round to see her, but then she wasn't have any of it, anyway to cut another long story short we came to a stale mate. So yesterday England played Germany and as y'all know they lost. So I thought 'uhhhh perfect opportunity here to message her without apologising and ask her;' did you see the game dear '? Bearing in mind She's German and she's loves her football. Even though like me she is a fellow windsurfer. I mean when us humans were made 100,000's of years ago what did the male species do that we're always in the wrong? "
This isn't quite the same version you've given elsewhere. This doesn't have anything to do with men always being in the wrong. To me it feels as if you know you've both mucked up and now you want it to be her fault. |
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You do realise that nobody has to apologise.
If I'm wrong and I want to apologise because I feel the person deserves it, and I mean it then I will.
If I don't want to apologise because actually, I'm not sorry, then I won't.
There may be some bits that I'm sorry about and other bits I'm not, I'll apologise for the bits I'm sorry about.
I wouldn't want an apology off someone who didn't mean it. Fuck that.
Sometimes things are just done n dusted without need for apologies, coz neither of you are actually sorry so it's just put to bed as is.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You do realise that nobody has to apologise.
If I'm wrong and I want to apologise because I feel the person deserves it, and I mean it then I will.
If I don't want to apologise because actually, I'm not sorry, then I won't.
There may be some bits that I'm sorry about and other bits I'm not, I'll apologise for the bits I'm sorry about.
I wouldn't want an apology off someone who didn't mean it. Fuck that.
Sometimes things are just done n dusted without need for apologies, coz neither of you are actually sorry so it's just put to bed as is.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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It was the “dear”.
Should have opened with “oi oi sugar tits, how’s that bottom lip? Still sweeping the floor with it?”
She’d have loved that!
But seriously. Folk fall out. She knows where you and you did offer an olive branch, the ball is in her court.
Sometimes sorry IS the hardest word.
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Trouble with these kinds of threads is that we are only seeing the situation from your point of view. The truth could be entirely different. Ultimately the friendship sounds like its ruined and you just need to move on. |
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"You do realise that nobody has to apologise.
If I'm wrong and I want to apologise because I feel the person deserves it, and I mean it then I will.
If I don't want to apologise because actually, I'm not sorry, then I won't.
There may be some bits that I'm sorry about and other bits I'm not, I'll apologise for the bits I'm sorry about.
I wouldn't want an apology off someone who didn't mean it. Fuck that.
Sometimes things are just done n dusted without need for apologies, coz neither of you are actually sorry so it's just put to bed as is.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was the “dear”.
Should have opened with “oi oi sugar tits, how’s that bottom lip? Still sweeping the floor with it?”
She’d have loved that!
But seriously. Folk fall out. She knows where you and you did offer an olive branch, the ball is in her court.
Sometimes sorry IS the hardest word.
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“Oi oi sugar tits” really tickled me!!!  |
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"It was the “dear”.
Should have opened with “oi oi sugar tits, how’s that bottom lip? Still sweeping the floor with it?”
She’d have loved that!
But seriously. Folk fall out. She knows where you and you did offer an olive branch, the ball is in her court.
Sometimes sorry IS the hardest word.
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She offered the olive branch (this is from an explanation on another thread) twice or even three times and he ignored her  |
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it 
Me either jumps from football to windsurfing and to ask a German about the football is rubbing salt into the wound  "
I had to laugh at the football bit, especially as an olive branch 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it
Me either jumps from football to windsurfing and to ask a German about the football is rubbing salt into the wound "
Thank you for your advice. You are so right. I won't mention the football. In fact I haven't messaged her about it. |
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"It isn't always...or it shouldn't be. I'll be the first to apologise if I've done or said something to cause the fallout."
me too. My partner however always assumes it's his fault even though sometimes it's not or it's a mix
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"It was the “dear”.
Should have opened with “oi oi sugar tits, how’s that bottom lip? Still sweeping the floor with it?”
She’d have loved that!
But seriously. Folk fall out. She knows where you and you did offer an olive branch, the ball is in her court.
Sometimes sorry IS the hardest word.
She offered the olive branch (this is from an explanation on another thread) twice or even three times and he ignored her "
Oh! Well then that changes things! The ship sounds like it’s sailed. |
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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it "
I thinknto summarise.. they had an argument. Both feel they are right and won't apologise. Haven't spoken for a while because both are stubborn.
Op offered an olive branch of sorts by reaching out to her, but she was pissed of as her team lost and both still not apologising.
Op is annoyed that she is still holding out for apology and now thinks all woemen hate men.
Thats what I think happened. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it
I thinknto summarise.. they had an argument. Both feel they are right and won't apologise. Haven't spoken for a while because both are stubborn.
Op offered an olive branch of sorts by reaching out to her, but she was pissed of as her team lost and both still not apologising.
Op is annoyed that she is still holding out for apology and now thinks all woemen hate men.
Thats what I think happened."
Oh come on now, hurr. You're twisting my words. I didn't once say 'women hate men'. What I was trying to imply was that throughout human history man have always had to apologise to women after a fight. It's a well known fact. And we do accept it. Honestly I don't know why. But it's a fact. |
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it
I thinknto summarise.. they had an argument. Both feel they are right and won't apologise. Haven't spoken for a while because both are stubborn.
Op offered an olive branch of sorts by reaching out to her, but she was pissed of as her team lost and both still not apologising.
Op is annoyed that she is still holding out for apology and now thinks all woemen hate men.
Thats what I think happened.
Oh come on now, hurr. You're twisting my words. I didn't once say 'women hate men'. What I was trying to imply was that throughout human history man have always had to apologise to women after a fight. It's a well known fact. And we do accept it. Honestly I don't know why. But it's a fact. "
No fact in my world  |
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it
I thinknto summarise.. they had an argument. Both feel they are right and won't apologise. Haven't spoken for a while because both are stubborn.
Op offered an olive branch of sorts by reaching out to her, but she was pissed of as her team lost and both still not apologising.
Op is annoyed that she is still holding out for apology and now thinks all woemen hate men.
Thats what I think happened.
Oh come on now, hurr. You're twisting my words. I didn't once say 'women hate men'. What I was trying to imply was that throughout human history man have always had to apologise to women after a fight. It's a well known fact. And we do accept it. Honestly I don't know why. But it's a fact. "
I ain't a bloody fact
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it
I thinknto summarise.. they had an argument. Both feel they are right and won't apologise. Haven't spoken for a while because both are stubborn.
Op offered an olive branch of sorts by reaching out to her, but she was pissed of as her team lost and both still not apologising.
Op is annoyed that she is still holding out for apology and now thinks all woemen hate men.
Thats what I think happened.
Oh come on now, hurr. You're twisting my words. I didn't once say 'women hate men'. What I was trying to imply was that throughout human history man have always had to apologise to women after a fight. It's a well known fact. And we do accept it. Honestly I don't know why. But it's a fact. "
No it’s not |
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"It was the “dear”.
Should have opened with “oi oi sugar tits, how’s that bottom lip? Still sweeping the floor with it?”
She’d have loved that!
But seriously. Folk fall out. She knows where you and you did offer an olive branch, the ball is in her court.
Sometimes sorry IS the hardest word.
Funniest thing I've heard today.thank you
“Oi oi sugar tits” really tickled me!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it
I thinknto summarise.. they had an argument. Both feel they are right and won't apologise. Haven't spoken for a while because both are stubborn.
Op offered an olive branch of sorts by reaching out to her, but she was pissed of as her team lost and both still not apologising.
Op is annoyed that she is still holding out for apology and now thinks all woemen hate men.
Thats what I think happened.
Oh come on now, hurr. You're twisting my words. I didn't once say 'women hate men'. What I was trying to imply was that throughout human history man have always had to apologise to women after a fight. It's a well known fact. And we do accept it. Honestly I don't know why. But it's a fact. "
It’s not a well known fact. You are just making that up. Probably because you are always in the wrong and had to apologise.
If I’m wrong then il say sorry.
You also just sounded like you were taking the piss about the football considering she’s German and they lost |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well don't you think she would have done the same if England had lost (and I was mad about football)? "
Your friendship was already in the shit so you only sent it to stir the pot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well don't you think she would have done the same if England had lost (and I was mad about football)?
Your friendship was already in the shit so you only sent it to stir the pot. "
True friends never die. |
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"Well don't you think she would have done the same if England had lost (and I was mad about football)? "
Does it matter what she would have done (or what you *think* she would have done)
It does sound like you're being petty.
I dunno, it just all sounds really chuffing childish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well don't you think she would have done the same if England had lost (and I was mad about football)?
Your friendship was already in the shit so you only sent it to stir the pot.
True friends never die. "
They do. That’s a fact. |
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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago
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"Nope..... Read it a few times. Still don't get it
I thinknto summarise.. they had an argument. Both feel they are right and won't apologise. Haven't spoken for a while because both are stubborn.
Op offered an olive branch of sorts by reaching out to her, but she was pissed of as her team lost and both still not apologising.
Op is annoyed that she is still holding out for apology and now thinks all woemen hate men.
Thats what I think happened.
Oh come on now, hurr. You're twisting my words. I didn't once say 'women hate men'. What I was trying to imply was that throughout human history man have always had to apologise to women after a fight. It's a well known fact. And we do accept it. Honestly I don't know why. But it's a fact. "
But if we always have to apologise its because women clearly would either see us an inferior, or don't like us and like to see us squirm... |
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"Well don't you think she would have done the same if England had lost (and I was mad about football)?
Your friendship was already in the shit so you only sent it to stir the pot.
True friends never die. "
If they eat my chips they do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These situations are usually 50/50 but only 50% is admitted
Confidence is admitting who you are, what you've done and then loving the person you have become
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