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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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Taking a tangent from the ‘stupidity’ thread and as we edge towards the final easing of measures, what have you learnt from the past 16 months of life?
Has lockdown changed you or are you much the same as ever?
Do you do things in your life or on fab differently now?
Do you think it’s permanent or a fleeting blip in the grand tapestry of life? |
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over a year ago
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Grand tapestry of life. Nice 
I have survived what I was told I won't survive. I was told I won't manage. I was told I'll be lost. Yeah I lost myself and found again. And it doesn't matter anymore who I lose as long as I don't lose myself. This is my lesson. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I need social interaction more than I realised. I thought I was just the quiet one, happy to be left to my own devices but I do miss talking to people"
I can totally relate. I’ve always been fairly solitary but I realised that I needed to be near others. It was hard to manage at first |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Grand tapestry of life. Nice
I have survived what I was told I won't survive. I was told I won't manage. I was told I'll be lost. Yeah I lost myself and found again. And it doesn't matter anymore who I lose as long as I don't lose myself. This is my lesson. "
That’s very wise |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Lockdown coincided with the end of a relationship so I'm not sure which one affected the things I've learned.
One thing is how important people are to me; whether that's because without them I wouldn't have the job I'm very lucky to have, the support network they provide and the source of joy and entertainment they bring me daily. I think before I didn't really appreciate people. I'm used to always being there for others and helping others out but I forgot how much others will be there for you when you need them.
The way I use Fab has definitely changed. For one, I'm not as active on the forums. I'm also more determined to not put meeting people off for as long as possible for fear I'm not enough. I am. And life is too short to not actually take that chance, try something/one new. Enjoy it a bit. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Routine and structure is something I tend to dislike and don’t really need but have learned how essential it is for good physical and mental health. "
Do you mean for yourself or for others? |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Lockdown coincided with the end of a relationship so I'm not sure which one affected the things I've learned.
One thing is how important people are to me; whether that's because without them I wouldn't have the job I'm very lucky to have, the support network they provide and the source of joy and entertainment they bring me daily. I think before I didn't really appreciate people. I'm used to always being there for others and helping others out but I forgot how much others will be there for you when you need them.
The way I use Fab has definitely changed. For one, I'm not as active on the forums. I'm also more determined to not put meeting people off for as long as possible for fear I'm not enough. I am. And life is too short to not actually take that chance, try something/one new. Enjoy it a bit. "
So to clarify; to let others help you and allow them to support you, and to be more proactive in your interactions with fab? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I need social interaction more than I realised. I thought I was just the quiet one, happy to be left to my own devices but I do miss talking to people
I can totally relate. I’ve always been fairly solitary but I realised that I needed to be near others. It was hard to manage at first"
It's probably a case where always being around people meant I just wanted a break from them but to do a full 180 was quite the shock. All good things in moderation as they say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I need social interaction more than I realised. I thought I was just the quiet one, happy to be left to my own devices but I do miss talking to people"
^ this 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a delivery driver for online shopping for a large supermarket I found discovered the roads were a lot quieter and all of my customers were home when I arrived. I'm missing lockdown already  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"As a delivery driver for online shopping for a large supermarket I found discovered the roads were a lot quieter and all of my customers were home when I arrived. I'm missing lockdown already "
I agree on the roads!
I drive a 6 hour round trip most weekends, I miss clear roads |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How fickle people are.
How so? "
Myriad ways.
They are your best friend when they are going through stuff and you are there for them as a bubble during lockdown, then asking you to call first before you come round in future, out of the blue one day. |
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I have been fortunate in that lockdown hasn’t had much impact on me.
I have worked throughout and had social interaction through work, even though I do much of my work alone.
I am used to solitude and happy with it so that was an advantage over many other people.
I think the only thing that I have learnt over the past 18 months is just how selfish a lot of people are.
And just how considerate and caring many others are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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7 things I realised during lockdown:
1. A lot of people are extremely selfish users & only call when they need something or when it suits them.
2. Time is precious, you can't get it back
3. The best things in life are free, the simple things are the important things
4. Everyone on facebook is a medical expert
5. I realised I am super independent & enjoy my own company. More "Me" time is needed
6. Now is a good time to cut off people that cause you problems, misery or general unhappiness
7. It's easier to save money in a lockdown when you have nowhere to go and spend it
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I need to use my skills to do good in the world. And I can.
I can't assume even the most basic level of commonality with others.
We're all subtly influenced by our culture and upbringing, in ways that continue to surprise me.
There's always more to learn. |
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"I need social interaction more than I realised. I thought I was just the quiet one, happy to be left to my own devices but I do miss talking to people"
Very much this, at the start it was great as my social anxiety wasn't an issue, I didn't have to be social and for that matter wasn't allowed to but over time this has become a growing issue I am not as well built for solitude as I first thought I have missed interacting with people and being close to the ones I choose to love and care about and it really kind of sucks.
I have changed the way I use fab as i am more active on the forums than i have ever been and am makong more effort to engage with other people and even being more proactive in looking for people to meet in the real world |
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None of us know what's around the corner - no matter how tightly we plan.
What and who really matters to me. And what and who doesn't.
That I need to feel like I'm making a difference in the world, however small that is. And that I can.
Mrs TMN x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"So to clarify; to let others help you and allow them to support you, and to be more proactive in your interactions with fab? "
Not quite clarify because that would suggest my waffling is incomprehensible. 
But to shorten it, yes. Maybe not be more proactive in my interactions though, if I'm interested in someone I do tend to talk to them and I'm good at messaging and talking their eyes out of their skull. I do need to actually meet people though and not just put it off out of self doubt. |
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I have learnt that the less you have sex, the less you get BV.
Or maybe I just showered less and didn't upset my fanny acid so much.
I love nature more than I thought.
People are cuntwaffles. Some others aren't cuntwaffles, but at times it's almost impossible to tell until something major happens, like the world falling into chaos and the truth having nowhere to hide.
Some folks would murder their granny for a fuck, others are prepared to leave a fuck with life debilitating health issues because believing a conspiracy theory is easier for them than facing reality, plus they're healthy enough to pull through if they DID catch the lurgy... so fuck it eh.
I can survive on cuppa soups, although it's not fun.
I would love a community that really did look out for and help each other, coz it came naturally, not coz they were told they should.
Health care workers are soldiers without the ceremonies. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"How fickle people are.
How so?
Myriad ways.
They are your best friend when they are going through stuff and you are there for them as a bubble during lockdown, then asking you to call first before you come round in future, out of the blue one day."
That sounds as though there’s a lot more to that story |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have been fortunate in that lockdown hasn’t had much impact on me.
I have worked throughout and had social interaction through work, even though I do much of my work alone.
I am used to solitude and happy with it so that was an advantage over many other people.
I think the only thing that I have learnt over the past 18 months is just how selfish a lot of people are.
And just how considerate and caring many others are "
I would probably echo that |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"7 things I realised during lockdown:
1. A lot of people are extremely selfish users & only call when they need something or when it suits them.
2. Time is precious, you can't get it back
3. The best things in life are free, the simple things are the important things
4. Everyone on facebook is a medical expert
5. I realised I am super independent & enjoy my own company. More "Me" time is needed
6. Now is a good time to cut off people that cause you problems, misery or general unhappiness
7. It's easier to save money in a lockdown when you have nowhere to go and spend it
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There are a lot of life lessons in there! |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I need to use my skills to do good in the world. And I can.
I can't assume even the most basic level of commonality with others.
We're all subtly influenced by our culture and upbringing, in ways that continue to surprise me.
There's always more to learn."
I absolutely agree with the last line |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I need social interaction more than I realised. I thought I was just the quiet one, happy to be left to my own devices but I do miss talking to people
Very much this, at the start it was great as my social anxiety wasn't an issue, I didn't have to be social and for that matter wasn't allowed to but over time this has become a growing issue I am not as well built for solitude as I first thought I have missed interacting with people and being close to the ones I choose to love and care about and it really kind of sucks.
I have changed the way I use fab as i am more active on the forums than i have ever been and am makong more effort to engage with other people and even being more proactive in looking for people to meet in the real world"
It sounds as though you’ve put your lessons into practice as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes a has changed a lot for me.
I've always been quite rigid in my thinking and needed to have quite solid plans and would get really distressed if they were to change or became uncertain.
Obviously the last 18 months have been full of change and uncertainty even though at times it has been very difficult I do feel better able to cope when things dont go quite according to plan. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"None of us know what's around the corner - no matter how tightly we plan.
What and who really matters to me. And what and who doesn't.
That I need to feel like I'm making a difference in the world, however small that is. And that I can.
Mrs TMN x"
Those sound like valuable lessons |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"So to clarify; to let others help you and allow them to support you, and to be more proactive in your interactions with fab?
Not quite clarify because that would suggest my waffling is incomprehensible.
But to shorten it, yes. Maybe not be more proactive in my interactions though, if I'm interested in someone I do tend to talk to them and I'm good at messaging and talking their eyes out of their skull. I do need to actually meet people though and not just put it off out of self doubt."
I’ve learnt not to argue semantics…
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have learnt that the less you have sex, the less you get BV.
Or maybe I just showered less and didn't upset my fanny acid so much.
I love nature more than I thought.
People are cuntwaffles. Some others aren't cuntwaffles, but at times it's almost impossible to tell until something major happens, like the world falling into chaos and the truth having nowhere to hide.
Some folks would murder their granny for a fuck, others are prepared to leave a fuck with life debilitating health issues because believing a conspiracy theory is easier for them than facing reality, plus they're healthy enough to pull through if they DID catch the lurgy... so fuck it eh.
I can survive on cuppa soups, although it's not fun.
I would love a community that really did look out for and help each other, coz it came naturally, not coz they were told they should.
Health care workers are soldiers without the ceremonies."
I’m probably going to regret this but what’s BV? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How fickle people are.
How so?
Myriad ways.
They are your best friend when they are going through stuff and you are there for them as a bubble during lockdown, then asking you to call first before you come round in future, out of the blue one day.
That sounds as though there’s a lot more to that story"
Maybe, but I haven't chased an explanation because I hate drama. |
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"I have learnt that the less you have sex, the less you get BV.
Or maybe I just showered less and didn't upset my fanny acid so much.
I love nature more than I thought.
People are cuntwaffles. Some others aren't cuntwaffles, but at times it's almost impossible to tell until something major happens, like the world falling into chaos and the truth having nowhere to hide.
Some folks would murder their granny for a fuck, others are prepared to leave a fuck with life debilitating health issues because believing a conspiracy theory is easier for them than facing reality, plus they're healthy enough to pull through if they DID catch the lurgy... so fuck it eh.
I can survive on cuppa soups, although it's not fun.
I would love a community that really did look out for and help each other, coz it came naturally, not coz they were told they should.
Health care workers are soldiers without the ceremonies.
I’m probably going to regret this but what’s BV? "
Bacterial vaginosis. Basically when the PH levels in yer chuff go wonky |
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I think what changed for me is my dislike for working with the public. I work at a grocery store, so I didn't have the luxury to work at home. At the worst of it I was working 6-7 days a week with some days being about 10+ hours. And you can imagine hearing people bitch about stock, masks, etc got old fast.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think I’ve learnt that time spent with loved ones is more precious than ever. Enjoy it while you can. I think I’ve become a fully fledged conspiracy theorist now tho due to all this madness  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Yes a has changed a lot for me.
I've always been quite rigid in my thinking and needed to have quite solid plans and would get really distressed if they were to change or became uncertain.
Obviously the last 18 months have been full of change and uncertainty even though at times it has been very difficult I do feel better able to cope when things dont go quite according to plan."
That sounds quite positive? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes a has changed a lot for me.
I've always been quite rigid in my thinking and needed to have quite solid plans and would get really distressed if they were to change or became uncertain.
Obviously the last 18 months have been full of change and uncertainty even though at times it has been very difficult I do feel better able to cope when things dont go quite according to plan.
That sounds quite positive? "
On the whole it has been. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have learnt that the less you have sex, the less you get BV.
Or maybe I just showered less and didn't upset my fanny acid so much.
I love nature more than I thought.
People are cuntwaffles. Some others aren't cuntwaffles, but at times it's almost impossible to tell until something major happens, like the world falling into chaos and the truth having nowhere to hide.
Some folks would murder their granny for a fuck, others are prepared to leave a fuck with life debilitating health issues because believing a conspiracy theory is easier for them than facing reality, plus they're healthy enough to pull through if they DID catch the lurgy... so fuck it eh.
I can survive on cuppa soups, although it's not fun.
I would love a community that really did look out for and help each other, coz it came naturally, not coz they were told they should.
Health care workers are soldiers without the ceremonies.
I’m probably going to regret this but what’s BV?
Bacterial vaginosis. Basically when the PH levels in yer chuff go wonky"
Ah! I see!
That’s probably not a good thing to happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah lockdown really has changed me. I'm alot more unstable now and don't sleep. I'm stressed alot and have "episodes" with no apparent trigger. There's alot more things but I won't go into more detail |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think what changed for me is my dislike for working with the public. I work at a grocery store, so I didn't have the luxury to work at home. At the worst of it I was working 6-7 days a week with some days being about 10+ hours. And you can imagine hearing people bitch about stock, masks, etc got old fast.
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Are you looking to change your job? |
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"I have learnt that the less you have sex, the less you get BV.
Or maybe I just showered less and didn't upset my fanny acid so much.
I love nature more than I thought.
People are cuntwaffles. Some others aren't cuntwaffles, but at times it's almost impossible to tell until something major happens, like the world falling into chaos and the truth having nowhere to hide.
Some folks would murder their granny for a fuck, others are prepared to leave a fuck with life debilitating health issues because believing a conspiracy theory is easier for them than facing reality, plus they're healthy enough to pull through if they DID catch the lurgy... so fuck it eh.
I can survive on cuppa soups, although it's not fun.
I would love a community that really did look out for and help each other, coz it came naturally, not coz they were told they should.
Health care workers are soldiers without the ceremonies.
I’m probably going to regret this but what’s BV?
Bacterial vaginosis. Basically when the PH levels in yer chuff go wonky
Ah! I see!
That’s probably not a good thing to happen "
It whiffs. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think I’ve learnt that time spent with loved ones is more precious than ever. Enjoy it while you can. I think I’ve become a fully fledged conspiracy theorist now tho due to all this madness "
I absolutely agree with the first part.
The second part I’ll say; Occam's razor |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably done me a world of good in terms of being more productive. Getting out more for runs and walks.
That’s a real positive. Will you continue it? "
Absolutely, feel loads better for it and notice a change in energy levels etc when I dont |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Yeah lockdown really has changed me. I'm alot more unstable now and don't sleep. I'm stressed alot and have "episodes" with no apparent trigger. There's alot more things but I won't go into more detail "
That sounds worrying. Are you able to get help? |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have learnt that the less you have sex, the less you get BV.
Or maybe I just showered less and didn't upset my fanny acid so much.
I love nature more than I thought.
People are cuntwaffles. Some others aren't cuntwaffles, but at times it's almost impossible to tell until something major happens, like the world falling into chaos and the truth having nowhere to hide.
Some folks would murder their granny for a fuck, others are prepared to leave a fuck with life debilitating health issues because believing a conspiracy theory is easier for them than facing reality, plus they're healthy enough to pull through if they DID catch the lurgy... so fuck it eh.
I can survive on cuppa soups, although it's not fun.
I would love a community that really did look out for and help each other, coz it came naturally, not coz they were told they should.
Health care workers are soldiers without the ceremonies.
I’m probably going to regret this but what’s BV?
Bacterial vaginosis. Basically when the PH levels in yer chuff go wonky
Ah! I see!
That’s probably not a good thing to happen
It whiffs."
Aside from that…
I agree about people and it’s very hard to know who will come through and who won’t until shit goes down. It’s sad |
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"Yeah lockdown really has changed me. I'm alot more unstable now and don't sleep. I'm stressed alot and have "episodes" with no apparent trigger. There's alot more things but I won't go into more detail
That sounds worrying. Are you able to get help? "
To be honest I wouldn't know where to start then it's actually going through with it etc scares me more to be honest |
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"Taking a tangent from the ‘stupidity’ thread and as we edge towards the final easing of measures, what have you learnt from the past 16 months of life?
Has lockdown changed you or are you much the same as ever?
Do you do things in your life or on fab differently now?
Do you think it’s permanent or a fleeting blip in the grand tapestry of life? "
I’ve come away a little bitter.
I was left to fend for myself with no work and no furlough or SE grants available to me
I saw most people loving their summer off on 80% wages or wfh
Ultimately my life dudnt change much, but I can’t honestly say the whole “fuck the government” has never been stronger than me.
If I wasn’t saving for a house I would have gone homeless. Almost certainly.
Instead I just spent almost 2 years worth of savings trying to keep myself afloat
It was a real eye opener to see. It’s made me realise that I’ve gotta depend on me. Because even on a global pandemic, it’s only me that’s gonna help myself |
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I've learned that I miss some people, but I'm unsure how much they miss me.
I've learned that whatever I've been hoping for in life is probably not going to happen.
I've learned that a staggering amount of people are arseholes.
I've learned that there are a lot of amazing people, but mostly their voices are drowned out by the arseholes.
I've learned that many politicians are even bigger cunts that I ever imagined could be possible, they are not just amoral but have never even heard of morals, and they will do literally anything to line their own pockets.
I've learned that the world is getting worse, not getting better.
I've learned that I get depressed, anxious, impatient, tired, so so tired...
I've learned that I'm older than I was, and I feel even older still.
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yeah lockdown really has changed me. I'm alot more unstable now and don't sleep. I'm stressed alot and have "episodes" with no apparent trigger. There's alot more things but I won't go into more detail
That sounds worrying. Are you able to get help? To be honest I wouldn't know where to start then it's actually going through with it etc scares me more to be honest "
Start with your GP, they can refer you to your local mental health triage unit where they can direct you to multiple ways to support you.
The worst thing that you can do is to continue to suffer as you have been |
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"Grand tapestry of life. Nice
I have survived what I was told I won't survive. I was told I won't manage. I was told I'll be lost. Yeah I lost myself and found again. And it doesn't matter anymore who I lose as long as I don't lose myself. This is my lesson. "
I really love this  . Wise woman. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Taking a tangent from the ‘stupidity’ thread and as we edge towards the final easing of measures, what have you learnt from the past 16 months of life?
Has lockdown changed you or are you much the same as ever?
Do you do things in your life or on fab differently now?
Do you think it’s permanent or a fleeting blip in the grand tapestry of life?
I’ve come away a little bitter.
I was left to fend for myself with no work and no furlough or SE grants available to me
I saw most people loving their summer off on 80% wages or wfh
Ultimately my life dudnt change much, but I can’t honestly say the whole “fuck the government” has never been stronger than me.
If I wasn’t saving for a house I would have gone homeless. Almost certainly.
Instead I just spent almost 2 years worth of savings trying to keep myself afloat
It was a real eye opener to see. It’s made me realise that I’ve gotta depend on me. Because even on a global pandemic, it’s only me that’s gonna help myself "
That’s a tough situation to be in.
I’ve heard similar stories from others and it seems that it’s not just the lack of support but the belief that others have had it so good, that is the source of frustration.
I hope that things are better for you soon |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've learned that I miss some people, but I'm unsure how much they miss me.
I've learned that whatever I've been hoping for in life is probably not going to happen.
I've learned that a staggering amount of people are arseholes.
I've learned that there are a lot of amazing people, but mostly their voices are drowned out by the arseholes.
I've learned that many politicians are even bigger cunts that I ever imagined could be possible, they are not just amoral but have never even heard of morals, and they will do literally anything to line their own pockets.
I've learned that the world is getting worse, not getting better.
I've learned that I get depressed, anxious, impatient, tired, so so tired...
I've learned that I'm older than I was, and I feel even older still.
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I think that this period has left a lot of people feeling very disillusioned as you are, I’m fairly similar.
Those are hard lessons to learn and come from a place of hardship |
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"I learned that communities don't pull together.
I'm not so scared of been house bound when I have knee replacement surgery."
So true 
Hope the knee surgery goes well and pain free x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I learned that communities don't pull together.
I'm not so scared of been house bound when I have knee replacement surgery.
So true
Hope the knee surgery goes well and pain free x"
Thank you x |
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I’ve learned a few things:
* working from home has given me work life balance I’d didn’t have before
* I’m more chilled out
* holidays abroad are not the bee all and end all - I love my garden even more
* I don’t think I need fab in my life - it’s just a dalliance ….. don’t seek the constant validation that some do |
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"Changed yes.
How so?
gone after the things ive wanted instead of delaying too much
That sounds like a positive change"
Yes. I have developed a lovely friendship on here because of it |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I’ve learned a few things:
* working from home has given me work life balance I’d didn’t have before
* I’m more chilled out
* holidays abroad are not the bee all and end all - I love my garden even more
* I don’t think I need fab in my life - it’s just a dalliance ….. don’t seek the constant validation that some do "
That sounds very positive |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Changed yes.
How so?
gone after the things ive wanted instead of delaying too much
That sounds like a positive change
Yes. I have developed a lovely friendship on here because of it "
Oh good! I’m pleased for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont feel much changed either to be honest. I have been out at work through pretty much most of it. It has made me realise how busy the world is though I have been used to the roads especially being nearly all mine, and now we can all dash about all over in our cars thats all anyone seems to want to do. |
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"I think what changed for me is my dislike for working with the public. I work at a grocery store, so I didn't have the luxury to work at home. At the worst of it I was working 6-7 days a week with some days being about 10+ hours. And you can imagine hearing people bitch about stock, masks, etc got old fast.
Are you looking to change your job? "
Yea I hope to eventually find a job with the state, bit I think they have a hiring freeze due to the pandemic |
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"I’ve learned a few things:
* working from home has given me work life balance I’d didn’t have before
* I’m more chilled out
* holidays abroad are not the bee all and end all - I love my garden even more
* I don’t think I need fab in my life - it’s just a dalliance ….. don’t seek the constant validation that some do "
this |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’ve learnt I’m quite tough, but that comes at a cost. I think I’ve lost my sparkle and I feel a bit flat.
I do have a lot on my plate mind, so it could be that, and I don’t particularly have anything to look forward to, so it could be that too.
It just feels like it’s been two years (almost) of bleurghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
I know there are folk who are far more worse off and are still chipper, but that’s just how I feel.
I shall keep on swimming, but sometimes it feels like someone is holding my legs and I’m not getting anywhere! |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
The main thing I've learnt from lockdown is that I spend way to much money on constant days out and about. I saved loads in lock down.
The only other finding, irrelevant of lockdown is that I'm capable of deep romantic feelings. Go me  |
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"Taking a tangent from the ‘stupidity’ thread and as we edge towards the final easing of measures, what have you learnt from the past 16 months of life?
Has lockdown changed you or are you much the same as ever?
Do you do things in your life or on fab differently now?
Do you think it’s permanent or a fleeting blip in the grand tapestry of life? "
I am the same, just trying to catch up on the 18 month pause in playtime, so I am a kid in the sweetie shop again gorging on adventures, I hope after this year I will have found my work/play balance again |
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"I’ve learnt I’m quite tough, but that comes at a cost. I think I’ve lost my sparkle and I feel a bit flat.
I do have a lot on my plate mind, so it could be that, and I don’t particularly have anything to look forward to, so it could be that too.
It just feels like it’s been two years (almost) of bleurghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
I know there are folk who are far more worse off and are still chipper, but that’s just how I feel.
I shall keep on swimming, but sometimes it feels like someone is holding my legs and I’m not getting anywhere! "
I hear you, I feel flat and sparkless too.
It’s been a tough time, not just because if Covid.
There’s always people worse off, it doesn’t make your troubles or struggles any less valid, they are important to you, and that’s ok.
We will get our spark back soon (I hope) |
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"Changed yes.
How so?
gone after the things ive wanted instead of delaying too much
That sounds like a positive change
Yes. I have developed a lovely friendship on here because of it
Oh good! I’m pleased for you"
Yes, she's opened my eyes to whats been going on.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Routine and structure is something I tend to dislike and don’t really need but have learned how essential it is for good physical and mental health.
Do you mean for yourself or for others? "
For me. At the start working from home after being in different countries and offices always planning drivers, flights, hotels etc I just stopped and everything suffered , I wasn’t eating properly or training, staying up till 3/4 am. It took a while but I sorted it and built a home based routine that I mostly follow now |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"I need social interaction more than I realised. I thought I was just the quiet one, happy to be left to my own devices but I do miss talking to people"
This is me completely as well, I've always been happy to keep myself to myself, but the fact that I couldn't seek or have company if I wanted it absolutely killed me when I moved out of home in the November, never felt more alone. Discovering the forums on here was a god send  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It didn't change me as a person but it made me see my family in a different light. As an expat I knew I'd see my family way less than if I had stayed but being in a different country from them and not being able to see them since January 2020 other than in videocalls made me value family even more |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I retired just before lockdown, my job was a very social one and there were lots of hugs and appreciation involved. In spirit, I am a loner, but I sure missed my tribe, and those hugs. I am disabled and can’t ride a Harley or drive a car or truck anymore. I relied on buses and trains, lockdown shut me down. Early on, I thought this can be sh*t, so do something amazing! I volunteered at the local hospital, it was frightening, but I got through it and am proud of what I did for patients who needed comfort and a friendly voice. Lockdown showed me that I am not really that loner, and I like those hugs!!  |
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Honestly it's not changed much for me. But I think I've got more of a fuck it attitude now when it comes to going out and doing things, but I think that's something that has also come with being a parent. But seeing how easily everything was stripped away, makes me appreciate it more now everywhere feels a bit more normal. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I have always been really good at appreciating the people I love and care about, enjoying the simple things in life and not taking anything for granted. I think lockdown just confirmed I’m right to be that way. There is a lot to be thankful for  |
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"The UK is a bigger mess and a laughing stock of the world more than it was even in the first place!
Yea, I know that feeling here in the US for the last 4 years with Trump as president "
The UK is so fucked up Trump might even stand a chance of sorting it out!!! |
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