I just don't understand what people get from asking for a smile when unless the person actually feels like smiling it is fake. It's a complete mystery to me.
And if anyone ever says ahhh but you would look prettier with a smile, I'd make it clear that I think they would look prettier with a cucumber rammed up their arse!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like people watching and have since I was young, so always used to get "smile, it might never happen" my response now is not as pleasant as it once was... And I like smiling  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Once again, I genuinely do not know what gives anybody the right to comment on somebody's facial expression...
Don't get me wrong, asking gently if somebody is ok because they look a bit pensive... fair enough but comments such as "smile...." seriously, why??? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Nope.
People making demands of your emotional state in order to appease them is insulting and demeaning.
They don’t know your situation or life, they only want you to smile to make them feel better, which isn’t your responsibility |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Nope.
People making demands of your emotional state in order to appease them is insulting and demeaning.
They don’t know your situation or life, they only want you to smile to make them feel better, which isn’t your responsibility "
Precisely!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say it to my kids. Don’t think I’d say it to an adult, just seems rude
Aren’t you teaching them to do that though?
Op- I hate it too "
Maybe, but when accompanied with a silly face it’s usually enough to break the ice and have them open up about what’s making them sad. They are only little so it works for now, I wouldn’t do it to them when they hit the their teens…would make things worse |
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"Nope.
People making demands of your emotional state in order to appease them is insulting and demeaning.
They don’t know your situation or life, they only want you to smile to make them feel better, which isn’t your responsibility "
This. Well said |
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"I say it to my kids. Don’t think I’d say it to an adult, just seems rude"
Urgh, my mum used to say it to me, among many other things that invalidated my emotions and led me to a place where I couldn't deal with emotion in a healthy way. I simply didn't know how to process them and ended up self harming in various ways, and to some extent still do. |
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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I can be seen with a very frowny face but I'm still happy inside - cos I'm thinking of shit & stuff(no, not pooh, ya know what happens if I do this, will this work?)
Does smiling make you more wrinkled????
The good thing about face masks are knowbody knows what you are doing beneath....  |
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It reminds me of an episode of the Simpsons actually, where Marge was concerned that Lisa's sadness reflected badly on her role as a mother, but when she finally decided to just Lisa be how she wanted to feel, was when Lisa felt like actually smiling.
Clever programme the Simpsons  |
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