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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't block anyone in the forums unless they persistently push the button in a private response...I appreciate the fact we are all different and have different opinions.
Now stepping off the soap box  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't block anyone in the forums unless they persistently push the button in a private response...I appreciate the fact we are all different and have different opinions.
Now stepping off the soap box "
Can totally understand if they try and contact you privately. |
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By *olmateMan
over a year ago
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I dont block usually
Always respond even if it is a polite "No"
Only block those who bully, insult and or pester with annoying messages!
I wonder what makes females and couples to hit the block button? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.
Is it just a way to show your distaste? "
I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason
Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)
Left me baffled tho I must say x |
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I don't block anyone - generally.
I value the opinions of other people even if I don't agree with them.
How does anyone grow if they don't listen and think ?
Swatting others away all the time reflects your fears in that you cannot hold a mirror up to your own beliefs or have them tested.
I've blocked if someone keeps messaging me to labour a point from the forum but even then it's not always permanent.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand... |
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand..."
That's detrimental to yourself surely ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand..."
I don’t understand tho like a forum is a public place so I think fair enough that you can still see people that u may have blocked. You can just ignore the posts as they are anyway directed to the general public
This confuses me |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
People block for all sorts of reasons; if they don’t want private interactions, if they’re not attracted to them, if they disagree with their opinions, if they don’t want them to see their profiles, if they’re just plain pissed at them.
They’re all valid in their own way.
It’s kind of pointless though, we can still see postings and I tend to find that disagreements are usually resolved at a later date given a willingness to resolution.
I very rarely block, mainly because I know that people are imperfect and even the most extreme disagreements can be moved past if you’re both grown up about it |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.
Is it just a way to show your distaste?
I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason
Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)
Left me baffled tho I must say x "
I'm the same.. confuses me muchly  |
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"Bullying.
Yes. That's worth blocking for. "
Can an adult be bullied online? When I started online dating about 6 years ago I was told “only believe a fraction of what you are told & see”. “Develop a thick skin & quick”. “Don’t worry about rejection”. “Online is not real, you can’t have a friend you haven’t met”. Stood me in good stead on POF and on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
That's detrimental to yourself surely ?"
How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
I don’t understand tho like a forum is a public place so I think fair enough that you can still see people that u may have blocked. You can just ignore the posts as they are anyway directed to the general public
This confuses me "
Some of them aren't directed at the general public though, it's used for 2 or more people to have their own little love-in which makes me eye-roll. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.
Is it just a way to show your distaste?
I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason
Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)
Left me baffled tho I must say x
I'm the same.. confuses me muchly "
Same. I just presume they don’t like me or what Iv posted which is fine as I don’t care.
Iv blocked a couple who I think/feel don’t like me so they can’t be nosey at my profile when it’s open. |
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"Bullying.
Yes. That's worth blocking for.
Can an adult be bullied online? When I started online dating about 6 years ago I was told “only believe a fraction of what you are told & see”. “Develop a thick skin & quick”. “Don’t worry about rejection”. “Online is not real, you can’t have a friend you haven’t met”. Stood me in good stead on POF and on here. "
Glad you took those messages on board and that they've helped you. I disagree with them to quite a large extent.
Online IS real. I'm real. I take it you are real.
The children who are groomed are real. The groomers are real.
The children that bully their school mates online are real .
The newspapers, police and companies that use 'online' are real.
I get that people can 'masquerade' online but so what ...... it's not their fantasy that harms but the real stuff they do and say to others.
I believe it is possible to bully online but one person falling out with another is not bullying. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.
I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.
I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.
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you look alot different to how I imagined you would look |
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
That's detrimental to yourself surely ?
How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds "
Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.
I get what you are saying. |
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As had been said above, it's pointless blocking people just off the back of forum posts as you can still see what they post
The only time I really block people is if they're looking for something I can't possibly match (eg I'm not black, and no amount of personality I'd going to make up for that) or they're into something too extreme for me.
Or in one case, someone I had a meet with that I don't want to be reminded of.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't block anyone - generally.
I value the opinions of other people even if I don't agree with them.
How does anyone grow if they don't listen and think ?
Swatting others away all the time reflects your fears in that you cannot hold a mirror up to your own beliefs or have them tested.
I've blocked if someone keeps messaging me to labour a point from the forum but even then it's not always permanent.
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I don’t always see eye to eye with you but I still listen to what you say and more than half the time you do say some pearlers and your advice can be amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
That's detrimental to yourself surely ?
How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds
Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.
I get what you are saying. "
Absolutely, it's been so hard for me to word it in a way for people to understand but you've absolutely hit the nail on the head with a simple analogy of how I feel  |
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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.
I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.
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You are a marmite person so not that surprising. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.
I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.
you look alot different to how I imagined you would look"
Oh, explain? How did you imagine me to look? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think I've blocked anyone off the forums yet but if somebody I'm not remotely interested in keeps clogging up my local feed with pics or come-ons, they get a block just so I don't have to keep seeing them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.
I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.
You are a marmite person so not that surprising. "
You mean half the people hate me and half the people would love to have me on the end of a knife?  |
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By *yron69Man
over a year ago
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I don’t like ignorant unhelpful comments and when challenged too many then make comments about your profile. Yes I know they get a ban but I think I don’t want this person knowing anything about me. |
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I try to ignore the idiots as best I can, they don't seem to last long when they have crashed and burned on a thread. I have blocked a few guys that keep sniffing around my inbox with the one liners.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.
I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.
you look alot different to how I imagined you would look
Oh, explain? How did you imagine me to look? "
not sure I just imagined you would have different features this isn't negative btw |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.
Is it just a way to show your distaste?
I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason
Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)
Left me baffled tho I must say x
I'm the same.. confuses me muchly
Same. I just presume they don’t like me or what Iv posted which is fine as I don’t care.
Iv blocked a couple who I think/feel don’t like me so they can’t be nosey at my profile when it’s open. "
Yeah but as you can still see them on the forum etc, then blocking seems pointless if you never engaged privately.
Also I don’t really care who lurks at my profile  but I get it if you think they are nastiessss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bullying.
Yes. That's worth blocking for.
Can an adult be bullied online? When I started online dating about 6 years ago I was told “only believe a fraction of what you are told & see”. “Develop a thick skin & quick”. “Don’t worry about rejection”. “Online is not real, you can’t have a friend you haven’t met”. Stood me in good stead on POF and on here.
Glad you took those messages on board and that they've helped you. I disagree with them to quite a large extent.
Online IS real. I'm real. I take it you are real.
The children who are groomed are real. The groomers are real.
The children that bully their school mates online are real .
The newspapers, police and companies that use 'online' are real.
I get that people can 'masquerade' online but so what ...... it's not their fantasy that harms but the real stuff they do and say to others.
I believe it is possible to bully online but one person falling out with another is not bullying. "
how and earth did it go from banning a forum member to child grooming, these forums never cease to amaze me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t like ignorant unhelpful comments and when challenged too many then make comments about your profile. Yes I know they get a ban but I think I don’t want this person knowing anything about me."
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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.
I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.
You are a marmite person so not that surprising.
You mean half the people hate me and half the people would love to have me on the end of a knife? "
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I've been blocked by other forum users from what I can only presume is off the back of a forum post.
I have blocked if somehow has been particularly rude, just so they can't message me. Had someone start having a go at me on the forum and then privately. So I like to nip it in the bud. |
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"I don't block anyone - generally.
I value the opinions of other people even if I don't agree with them.
How does anyone grow if they don't listen and think ?
Swatting others away all the time reflects your fears in that you cannot hold a mirror up to your own beliefs or have them tested.
I've blocked if someone keeps messaging me to labour a point from the forum but even then it's not always permanent.
I don’t always see eye to eye with you but I still listen to what you say and more than half the time you do say some pearlers and your advice can be amazing. "
Thank you for that.
It depends on which me is on. The adult me on a serious thread or the childlike me that comes on for a piss about with other idiotic vulgar idiots.
There should be coloured text, black for serious, purple for messing about , and red ( which I wouldn't have anymore ) for being seriously sexy or just pink for flirting.......
100% eye to eye bit would make conversation like a narcissistic love in ....
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"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too "
I don't block those that I've perceived as dickheads in the forum.
That's a good point though. They wouldn't show up in a search..... that would be a good reason for blocking. I don't equate searching with forum natter tho ....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
That's detrimental to yourself surely ?
How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds
Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.
I get what you are saying. "
Also, you act like I said I would want to block everyone on here when that's not the case. In real life, I wouldn't surround myself with people you don't get on with if I could help it because that's a silly thing to do. In my opinion, the same applies here. |
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"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do. "
I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too "
But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.
Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place. |
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"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too
But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.
Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place. "
First point, doesn’t matter. I might travel to Scotland and be within their distance at some point
Second point, no it doesn’t |
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
That's detrimental to yourself surely ?
How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds
Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.
I get what you are saying.
Also, you act like I said I would want to block everyone on here when that's not the case. In real life, I wouldn't surround myself with people you don't get on with if I could help it because that's a silly thing to do. In my opinion, the same applies here."
I act ? I didn't say you wanted to block everyone.
In 'real life' I don't hang out with those I don't like either but they might still be in the same pub and as they use the same facilities as me it's probably best that I am aware of them and what they are saying. |
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"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.
I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess. "
Can’t believe many would block you to be honest. |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
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I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with "
Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list? |
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"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.
I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.
Can’t believe many would block you to be honest. "
No idea I don't check
I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....
It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old. |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with
Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list? "
That's not what I said. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with "
There would be less complaints - too many folk are unable to just ignore those they don’t get along with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too
But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.
Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place.
First point, doesn’t matter. I might travel to Scotland and be within their distance at some point
Second point, no it doesn’t "
Umm but it does. If you’re saying you block people due to not wanting to meet them or have them show up in a search. If that person you’re blocking isn’t interested in the first place what’s the point in the block?
It’s like a shop being closed and you saying oh I don’t want to go in that shop anyway, the shop doesn’t give a fuck whether you wanted to go in it, it’s shut regardless. |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
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I find it a bit childish to be honest. I only really use it for messages if I’m not interested then I just delete and block. You can still see people on the forum if they’ve blocked you or vice versa. |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with
Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?
That's not what I said. "
What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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*crying and reading from paper* I wish we could all get along like we used to in middle school... I wish I could bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy.………….
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"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too
But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.
Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place.
First point, doesn’t matter. I might travel to Scotland and be within their distance at some point
Second point, no it doesn’t
Umm but it does. If you’re saying you block people due to not wanting to meet them or have them show up in a search. If that person you’re blocking isn’t interested in the first place what’s the point in the block?
It’s like a shop being closed and you saying oh I don’t want to go in that shop anyway, the shop doesn’t give a fuck whether you wanted to go in it, it’s shut regardless. "
The pure mental gymnastics you have to go through to go from “they blocked me” to “they must assume I’d be interested” is outstanding.
They just want less fluff on their search list. Which included people that aren’t interested, whether that person is interested or not, they’re still not wanted on the search page |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with
Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?
That's not what I said.
What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting. "
I said the paragraph above yours and below Luna's. |
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"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.
I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.
Can’t believe many would block you to be honest.
No idea I don't check
I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....
It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old. "
. See I believe older the wiser. If I go doctors give me the old one with the common sense and logic and experience before the young one doing everything because the computer or the text book says so! |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I block when I've seen something I don't like, or had an unfavourable interaction that has caused me to not want the potential chance of a private discussion with them.
I can ignore what they say on the forum (mostly). I can ignore messages they send too. A block is just an extra barrier there I guess. |
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over a year ago
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I find it a bit childish to be honest. I only really use it for messages if I’m not interested then I just delete and block. You can still see people on the forum if they’ve blocked you or vice versa. "
Well it’s a site function I’m more than happy to use, when I want to. If that makes me childish then so be it. |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with
Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?
That's not what I said.
What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting.
I said the paragraph above yours and below Luna's."
Still don’t think the analogy works |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I find it a bit childish to be honest. I only really use it for messages if I’m not interested then I just delete and block. You can still see people on the forum if they’ve blocked you or vice versa.
Well it’s a site function I’m more than happy to use, when I want to. If that makes me childish then so be it."
I wasn’t referring to you, sorry. You didn’t say how you used it. I just meant in general. |
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"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.
I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?
Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with
Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?
That's not what I said.
What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting.
I said the paragraph above yours and below Luna's.
Still don’t think the analogy works "
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"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.
I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.
Can’t believe many would block you to be honest.
No idea I don't check
I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....
It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old.
. See I believe older the wiser. If I go doctors give me the old one with the common sense and logic and experience before the young one doing everything because the computer or the text book says so! "
They have age filters on so it blocks me.
I don't worry about it. I just can't give the advice they asked for so ........ fuck em. |
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I don’t block specific forum members. I do block anyone who says they are not interested in meeting. That way I don’t embarrass them and myself by messaging them again in the future. It’s not that I’ve taken my ball home. Lol. |
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"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.
I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.
Can’t believe many would block you to be honest.
No idea I don't check
I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....
It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old.
. See I believe older the wiser. If I go doctors give me the old one with the common sense and logic and experience before the young one doing everything because the computer or the text book says so!
They have age filters on so it blocks me.
I don't worry about it. I just can't give the advice they asked for so ........ fuck em. "
Oh I see!! Sorry I’m only on my first cuppa . |
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"I don’t block specific forum members. I do block anyone who says they are not interested in meeting. That way I don’t embarrass them and myself by messaging them again in the future. It’s not that I’ve taken my ball home. Lol. "
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
That's detrimental to yourself surely ?
How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds
Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.
I get what you are saying.
Also, you act like I said I would want to block everyone on here when that's not the case. In real life, I wouldn't surround myself with people you don't get on with if I could help it because that's a silly thing to do. In my opinion, the same applies here.
I act ? I didn't say you wanted to block everyone.
In 'real life' I don't hang out with those I don't like either but they might still be in the same pub and as they use the same facilities as me it's probably best that I am aware of them and what they are saying. "
I see what you're saying and I guess the overall point is that you can just ignore and move on. My initial point was a bit tongue in cheek anyway as I know that function isn't going to come into place |
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me"
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me"
But you still see what they say though. I think that’s what Annie’s trying to say. What’s the point? Is it also so they don’t try and interact with you privately? |
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me
Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now "
. I did! |
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"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...
That's detrimental to yourself surely ?
How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds
Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.
I get what you are saying.
Also, you act like I said I would want to block everyone on here when that's not the case. In real life, I wouldn't surround myself with people you don't get on with if I could help it because that's a silly thing to do. In my opinion, the same applies here.
I act ? I didn't say you wanted to block everyone.
In 'real life' I don't hang out with those I don't like either but they might still be in the same pub and as they use the same facilities as me it's probably best that I am aware of them and what they are saying.
I see what you're saying and I guess the overall point is that you can just ignore and move on. My initial point was a bit tongue in cheek anyway as I know that function isn't going to come into place "
Sometimes it takes effort to ignore but i've long since learned that there's no point in pushing against something so solid that it's incapable of thought. |
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I'd rather not accidentally message someone in the future who has some shitty opinions or attitudes is all. I usually leave a note on their profile as to why they're blocked, usually with the link to their comment if I fancy refreshing my memory
I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me"
How opinionated is 'over' opinionated ? |
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me
Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now
. I did!"
I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone |
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"I'd rather not accidentally message someone in the future who has some shitty opinions or attitudes is all. I usually leave a note on their profile as to why they're blocked, usually with the link to their comment if I fancy refreshing my memory
I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.
LvM"
We all have different opinions and unless someone is being outright offensive for the sake of it, the forums are just that, forums. We have blocked a few (thanks to the virus thread) but it wasn't like we where going to ever meet those guys anyway. Outside of "that" forum, we mostly like what a lot of people have to say on here. Even agree with them on a lot...but they still might be blocked. It's just a filter for us for future meets, not because we don't like or disagree with what people say here.
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me
Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now
. I did!
I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone "
. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!! |
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"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.
Is it just a way to show your distaste? "
I generally block anyone who's nasty or a bully. But mainly those that are two faced (preach one thing in the forum and then do the exact opposite in messages to me), won't stop messaging and even get other forumites to join in on their stupid games using the forum to get at me.
Yes I can still see their posts, but I can just scroll past them and resist the urge to out them or bite at the lies they post.
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"I'd rather not accidentally message someone in the future who has some shitty opinions or attitudes is all. I usually leave a note on their profile as to why they're blocked, usually with the link to their comment if I fancy refreshing my memory
I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.
LvM
We all have different opinions and unless someone is being outright offensive for the sake of it, the forums are just that, forums. We have blocked a few (thanks to the virus thread) but it wasn't like we where going to ever meet those guys anyway. Outside of "that" forum, we mostly like what a lot of people have to say on here. Even agree with them on a lot...but they still might be blocked. It's just a filter for us for future meets, not because we don't like or disagree with what people say here.
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F.Y.I. I like your picture it always makes me smile. In a good way. |
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over a year ago
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ive just remembered i have blocked someone, as thhey sent a pm rather than reply in the forum, i dont want my inbox full of things that should be in the forum, how is anyone else going to see it? |
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me
Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now
. I did!
I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone
. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!! "
I can see it as a good thing oddly enough. It shows you've put yourself out there to the point people made that judgement on whether they like you or not. Neutral, wishy-washy comments don't really get the same attention. |
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Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now "
Chuckle I've done that a couple of times this thread. |
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me
Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now
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I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone "
Oh I’m going to try that now… |
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me
Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now
. I did!
I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone
. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!!
I can see it as a good thing oddly enough. It shows you've put yourself out there to the point people made that judgement on whether they like you or not. Neutral, wishy-washy comments don't really get the same attention."
I am a bit of a straight talker but I never get personal, I hope I don’t anyway. If I did I’d hope someone would take it up with me as I would with them. We all have different opinions on things. Some of the people I disagree with the most are actually quite good friends on here! |
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I generally make a private note but have also blocked the odd person if they have been particularly nasty to someone as I don’t want them popping up in my inbox. We should all act as adults on here and remember there are real people behind the comments so no need to get nasty just because we don’t agree with each other. |
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"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.
Is it just a way to show your distaste? "
Yes and to stop them from interacting with me.
I tend to block trolls and people who are just out to score points off "the other side" whatever that might be |
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"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me
Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now
. I did!
I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone
. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!! "
I absolutely fucking love marmite though. |
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"People block for all sorts of reasons; if they don’t want private interactions, if they’re not attracted to them, if they disagree with their opinions, if they don’t want them to see their profiles, if they’re just plain pissed at them.
They’re all valid in their own way.
It’s kind of pointless though, we can still see postings and I tend to find that disagreements are usually resolved at a later date given a willingness to resolution.
I very rarely block, mainly because I know that people are imperfect and even the most extreme disagreements can be moved past if you’re both grown up about it"
This /\
Dude, can we call you the oracle, or the guru or something!!
Personally have only ever once blocked someone and it wasn't forum related. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Regards the forum, I tend to block those who I wouldn’t be compatible with (they hate body hair for example or detest fat folk and say so in a rude manner). You sometimes get pm’d by them and it just saves agro. I knew if I’d blocked them then I’d blocked them for a reason, however I now tend to just make use of the private note function instead.
I block those who persistently message asking to meet but live ruddy miles away and won’t take a no.
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"I'd rather not accidentally message someone in the future who has some shitty opinions or attitudes is all. I usually leave a note on their profile as to why they're blocked, usually with the link to their comment if I fancy refreshing my memory
I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.
LvM
We all have different opinions and unless someone is being outright offensive for the sake of it, the forums are just that, forums. We have blocked a few (thanks to the virus thread) but it wasn't like we where going to ever meet those guys anyway. Outside of "that" forum, we mostly like what a lot of people have to say on here. Even agree with them on a lot...but they still might be blocked. It's just a filter for us for future meets, not because we don't like or disagree with what people say here.
F.Y.I. I like your picture it always makes me smile. In a good way. "
I always smile when I see the name Granny Crumpet. No idea what you look like IRL but I have this mental image of of the sweet little old lady from the Tweety Pie and Sylvester cartoons in a dominatrix outfit. No doubt the furthest thing from reality but I find it highly amusing.
What you don't see in that picture is where my wife had her hand....in the middle of a restaurant. Probably explains the slightly glazed look in my eyes! She's a very naughty lady and I'm lucky to have her. Dunno why she's stuck with me for 25 years. She'd have gotten less for murder!
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