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First meets... would this insult you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lube is essential with a beautiful penis like mine.
You bring the lube and I’ll bring the beautiful penis.
It’s fine, whatever you want, I do think it should possibly be mentioned beforehand though so that he knows what to expect.
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Not at all and I would be well up for mutual use  |
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I always take toys and lube to a meet, it adds more fun to it. I’ve not had anyone complain about it. I always talk about my bag of tricks and men are usually rather eager to see. Plus I have toys for men in there too  |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Hell no.
All the more fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Could take it as a complement that she feels she may need some lube to squeeze me in |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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Absolutely not OP! Infact it would be a turned on knowing that you're a person that knows what they want and how to get it. Plus lube allows for all sorts kinky play that isn't always possible without it  |
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I’ve always had them in my bag, the guys are aware of them beforehand. They are there as an extra if we decide to use them not as an alternative or a sign of any perceived failure. It can be a lot of fun to show them how they work for a guy too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely not, if anything it would excite me.
I think long gone are the days of guys being insecure about sex toys. I love using all sorts of toys to enhance the experience |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't see why anyone would be insulted or offended by that - as others have said it shows you know your body, are open minded and it really shouldn't impact on the other person other than enhancing the time spent together - win/win all round as far as I'm concerned |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Not at all... Lubes usually just add to the fun however wet anyone gets or doesn't get. If you rocked up with toys and lube it would just be a really positive thing. Have you don't that first time op? What was the reaction? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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I don’t think that was the case plus more lube is good x maybe they wanted to try anal? X |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Lube is essential with a beautiful penis like mine.
You bring the lube and I’ll bring the beautiful penis.
It’s fine, whatever you want, I do think it should possibly be mentioned beforehand though so that he knows what to expect.
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Surely once they get a glimpse of your beautiful penis it wouldn't be needed
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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With the lube I probably would think she is into anal. Toys, I very much enjoy using them on a woman. Nope, wouldn't be insulted at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here’s the most important thing for you to know: Your wetness is not a foolproof indicator of your arousal level. Wetness actually says very little about how turned on you are in the moment. As you’ve experienced many times, female-bodied folks can be completely turned on but still remain totally dry. They can also find themselves feeling wet without feeling mentally interested in sex.
For the record, it’s the same with male-bodied folks. Your boyfriend’s erection is not a foolproof indicator of his arousal level, either. Male-bodied people can struggle to get erections even when they want to have sex, and they can also get erections at the worst possible times, when sex is the last thing on their minds.
The idea of your genitals and your mind operating separately from each other is a concept called genital non-concordance." |
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No absolutely not.
I bring condoms (latex, and latex-free), different lubes and small bullet vibrators to a meeting.
As a gentleman I like to make sure that everything is ready and prepared for hours of fun. And it is also fun to use the toys on each other when we need a break |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lube is essential with a beautiful penis like mine.
You bring the lube and I’ll bring the beautiful penis.
It’s fine, whatever you want, I do think it should possibly be mentioned beforehand though so that he knows what to expect.
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The one I’m talking about in particular I did tell...
His response was ‘fuck off you aren’t bringing that, you won’t need it’
I’m not bothered at all that he said fuck off, I know he was just messing around... but even so I don’t think he would be impressed if I brought it to the meet |
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""Here’s the most important thing for you to know: Your wetness is not a foolproof indicator of your arousal level. Wetness actually says very little about how turned on you are in the moment. As you’ve experienced many times, female-bodied folks can be completely turned on but still remain totally dry. They can also find themselves feeling wet without feeling mentally interested in sex.
For the record, it’s the same with male-bodied folks. Your boyfriend’s erection is not a foolproof indicator of his arousal level, either. Male-bodied people can struggle to get erections even when they want to have sex, and they can also get erections at the worst possible times, when sex is the last thing on their minds.
The idea of your genitals and your mind operating separately from each other is a concept called genital non-concordance.""
What I came here to say! Where is this quoted from? It sounds familiar.
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I adore lube as it takes sex to a different level and lasts much longer than natural vaginal secretions. It also helps make sex more comfortable, especially for a woman of my age  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
With the lube I probably would think she is into anal. Toys, I very much enjoy using them on a woman. Nope, wouldn't be insulted at all "
I do like anal so there is that element |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""Here’s the most important thing for you to know: Your wetness is not a foolproof indicator of your arousal level. Wetness actually says very little about how turned on you are in the moment. As you’ve experienced many times, female-bodied folks can be completely turned on but still remain totally dry. They can also find themselves feeling wet without feeling mentally interested in sex.
For the record, it’s the same with male-bodied folks. Your boyfriend’s erection is not a foolproof indicator of his arousal level, either. Male-bodied people can struggle to get erections even when they want to have sex, and they can also get erections at the worst possible times, when sex is the last thing on their minds.
The idea of your genitals and your mind operating separately from each other is a concept called genital non-concordance."
What I came here to say! Where is this quoted from? It sounds familiar.
Mrs TMN x"
From a sex therapist, hence the speech marks. |
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I always take lube and the more considerate gents we've met sometimes bring some along too. I'm 64 and post menopause, I need it. Men with experience and understanding know that some older women need it and it's no reflection on them |
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""Here’s the most important thing for you to know: Your wetness is not a foolproof indicator of your arousal level. Wetness actually says very little about how turned on you are in the moment. As you’ve experienced many times, female-bodied folks can be completely turned on but still remain totally dry. They can also find themselves feeling wet without feeling mentally interested in sex.
For the record, it’s the same with male-bodied folks. Your boyfriend’s erection is not a foolproof indicator of his arousal level, either. Male-bodied people can struggle to get erections even when they want to have sex, and they can also get erections at the worst possible times, when sex is the last thing on their minds.
The idea of your genitals and your mind operating separately from each other is a concept called genital non-concordance."
What I came here to say! Where is this quoted from? It sounds familiar.
Mrs TMN x
From a sex therapist, hence the speech marks."
I think there's something similar in"How to have feminist sex". Great book. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Here’s the most important thing for you to know: Your wetness is not a foolproof indicator of your arousal level. Wetness actually says very little about how turned on you are in the moment. As you’ve experienced many times, female-bodied folks can be completely turned on but still remain totally dry. They can also find themselves feeling wet without feeling mentally interested in sex.
For the record, it’s the same with male-bodied folks. Your boyfriend’s erection is not a foolproof indicator of his arousal level, either. Male-bodied people can struggle to get erections even when they want to have sex, and they can also get erections at the worst possible times, when sex is the last thing on their minds.
The idea of your genitals and your mind operating separately from each other is a concept called genital non-concordance."
What I came here to say! Where is this quoted from? It sounds familiar.
Mrs TMN x
From a sex therapist, hence the speech marks.
I think there's something similar in"How to have feminist sex". Great book. "
Don't have that one but if it's recommended reading then I will. Ty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always take lube and the more considerate gents we've met sometimes bring some along too. I'm 64 and post menopause, I need it. Men with experience and understanding know that some older women need it and it's no reflection on them"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP you made it sound like toys and lube are a necessity for menopausal women
NBVN x
Ha ha I didn’t mean it like that "
Excuse my ignorance but what is NBVN ? |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Nope if it was agreed sex was on the cards. I might have been shopping myself to for somthing leave you with :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
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First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol"
Dib, dib, dib. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol"
100% agree
+ with it being a first meet you never know what will happen so I try to take a bit of responsibility for my own orgasm |
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol
100% agree
+ with it being a first meet you never know what will happen so I try to take a bit of responsibility for my own orgasm "
Do they know that OP or do you just wing it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol
100% agree
+ with it being a first meet you never know what will happen so I try to take a bit of responsibility for my own orgasm
Do they know that OP or do you just wing it? "
What do you mean?
It’s a first meet where anything sexual would have happened so I’m unable to determine how good they are in bed or if we are compatible in the sack.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it was a meet in a coffee shop I'd be worried. Otherwise it's all good. "
I mean first meet when sex is 100% going to happen.
No lube with my cups of tea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Wouldn't offend me. I don't like sex toys but happy to use them on other people. |
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol
100% agree
+ with it being a first meet you never know what will happen so I try to take a bit of responsibility for my own orgasm
Do they know that OP or do you just wing it?
What do you mean?
It’s a first meet where anything sexual would have happened so I’m unable to determine how good they are in bed or if we are compatible in the sack.... "
Sorry should have been clearer, do you tell the men that’s why you have the toys to guarantee an orgasm ? Of course no one knows how a first meet would go, but I think there are ways of saying what they are for |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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It adds to the fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol
100% agree
+ with it being a first meet you never know what will happen so I try to take a bit of responsibility for my own orgasm
Do they know that OP or do you just wing it?
What do you mean?
It’s a first meet where anything sexual would have happened so I’m unable to determine how good they are in bed or if we are compatible in the sack....
Sorry should have been clearer, do you tell the men that’s why you have the toys to guarantee an orgasm ? Of course no one knows how a first meet would go, but I think there are ways of saying what they are for "
Oh no not at all! I’d just suggest using it if we weren't getting even close. |
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"I don’t actually do anal on first meets either.
I take it as I normally like long sessions... there’s only so long it stays comfortable when you’re 4 hours in and been doing foreplay, having sex & chatting for that long.
Toys are just because I can guarantee a orgasm that way
First rule of the girl guide's is "Be prepared" lol
100% agree
+ with it being a first meet you never know what will happen so I try to take a bit of responsibility for my own orgasm
Do they know that OP or do you just wing it?
What do you mean?
It’s a first meet where anything sexual would have happened so I’m unable to determine how good they are in bed or if we are compatible in the sack....
Sorry should have been clearer, do you tell the men that’s why you have the toys to guarantee an orgasm ? Of course no one knows how a first meet would go, but I think there are ways of saying what they are for
Oh no not at all! I’d just suggest using it if we weren't getting even close. "
That’s what I thought |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Not at all, I would think the opposite and think you were sexually confident, an attribute I like in women. |
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over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
I’d consider you bold, assertive, balanced and organised!
#hellyeah
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Not at all… and even better if one of the toys is a strap-on |
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I can only speak for myself, but it depends on where I am in my cycle as to how wet I am or can get. I can be really well lubricated just normally without even the thought of sex at some point in the month, but just after my period, not so much. So lube would be necessary no matter how much I was aroused.
I always take supplies with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP you made it sound like toys and lube are a necessity for menopausal women
NBVN x
Ha ha I didn’t mean it like that
Excuse my ignorance but what is NBVN ?"
It's just an acronym of my username, it's a nickname given to me by forumites and I use it as a sign off. |
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It would not insult me. I would encourage a woman to bring along any toy she wanted. For me to use on her obviously. As I like to give oral, lots of oral to a woman. Before I make love to a woman. I make sure that she has had an orgasm before hand. With my girlfriend for example. I would use 3 vibrators on her at the same time. While I have her wrist restraints on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP you made it sound like toys and lube are a necessity for menopausal women
NBVN x
Ha ha I didn’t mean it like that
Excuse my ignorance but what is NBVN ?
It's just an acronym of my username, it's a nickname given to me by forumites and I use it as a sign off. "
Of course, I see it now, somewhat slow of me !  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Not at all.
Toys make for a more fun time imo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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No..I would think you was organised and kinky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lube is essential with a beautiful penis like mine.
You bring the lube and I’ll bring the beautiful penis.
It’s fine, whatever you want, I do think it should possibly be mentioned beforehand though so that he knows what to expect.
Surely once they get a glimpse of your beautiful penis it wouldn't be needed
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True story… however ~
Best to be on the safe side, nobody wants phallus rub  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lube is essential with a beautiful penis like mine.
You bring the lube and I’ll bring the beautiful penis.
It’s fine, whatever you want, I do think it should possibly be mentioned beforehand though so that he knows what to expect.
The one I’m talking about in particular I did tell...
His response was ‘fuck off you aren’t bringing that, you won’t need it’
I’m not bothered at all that he said fuck off, I know he was just messing around... but even so I don’t think he would be impressed if I brought it to the meet "
Do it anyway, he sounds like he’s gonna be good craic if you know he was just messing and I know myself how hot having a woman who knows exactly how she likes things and sharing that with me can be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Hell no! I think you’d want Anal! ha!
Seriously though, I make no judgements on any meet. We are different people, with different needs and different interests. I’d just be pleased she had the confidence to know what she wanted.
Toys / lube / industrial plant machinery, it’s all welcome
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely not, if anything it would excite me.
I think long gone are the days of guys being insecure about sex toys. I love using all sorts of toys to enhance the experience "
I don’t know if they are long gone. The last bloke I was seeing for a year wouldn’t use toys at all as he viewed it as what was the point in him being there if I had a toy to do the job |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
Hell no! I think you’d want Anal! ha!
Seriously though, I make no judgements on any meet. We are different people, with different needs and different interests. I’d just be pleased she had the confidence to know what she wanted.
Toys / lube / industrial plant machinery, it’s all welcome
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Don’t think plant machinery will fit in my ‘sex bag’ |
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If someone brought biscuits or cake to my house on an invite for coffee, i'd take it as a thoughtful act not that I couldn't bake.
When I used to make sure I had taxi money in case the decision was made to use it if it was needed It wasn't being too good to ride on the bus.
Taking lube is just being prepared in case it's needed and let's face it any prolonged session or out of the ordinary bodily part will more likely than not benefit from lube......
Take it. If he takes it personally that's not your intention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
Hell no! I think you’d want Anal! ha!
Seriously though, I make no judgements on any meet. We are different people, with different needs and different interests. I’d just be pleased she had the confidence to know what she wanted.
Toys / lube / industrial plant machinery, it’s all welcome
Don’t think plant machinery will fit in my ‘sex bag’ "
You need a bigger bag! Big fan of a vibarator attached to a petrol-driven generator me  |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
Hell no! I think you’d want Anal! ha!
Seriously though, I make no judgements on any meet. We are different people, with different needs and different interests. I’d just be pleased she had the confidence to know what she wanted.
Toys / lube / industrial plant machinery, it’s all welcome
Don’t think plant machinery will fit in my ‘sex bag’
You need a bigger bag! Big fan of a vibarator attached to a petrol-driven generator me "
We're gonna need a bigger boat. |
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"I always take lube and the more considerate gents we've met sometimes bring some along too. I'm 64 and post menopause, I need it. Men with experience and understanding know that some older women need it and it's no reflection on them"
I'm not menopausal but do need lube fairly often. I have auto-immune issues that affect my bodily secretions (tears, saliva and vaginal lubrication). My wetness is completely independent of my arousal status, as explained by the earlier poster.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How would you feel if the guy took viagra before your meet op? Would it make you feel like you couldn't get the guy hard? "
Iv actually had this happen where a man took viagra before I come over and I didn’t know.... It was one of the best sex sessions Iv ever had so anyone can take a blue pill if they want
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would always take lube and condoms with me to a meet.
Be it a club meet or private meet.
You can never be 100% certain the guy is going to have any.
I also have a smallish playbag packed, like a grab and go bag with what I consider essentials for a sexy evening of fun.
It contains a few of my favourite toys, tissues, perfume, deodrant, wet wipes, lube, condoms of various sizes, massage oil,a bottle of water, hairbrush, hairties. And some pro-plus caffeine tablets!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always take props to a meet but then I guess when it gets to the point of them getting in my knicks they know this about me anyway "
I might just be easier then you |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Definitely not, if anything it would excite me.
I think long gone are the days of guys being insecure about sex toys. I love using all sorts of toys to enhance the experience
I don’t know if they are long gone. The last bloke I was seeing for a year wouldn’t use toys at all as he viewed it as what was the point in him being there if I had a toy to do the job "
I'm kind of with him on that though, but only because I don't enjoy toys used on me.
If I thought a man wasn't going to do it for me, no matter how much effort we both put in, I wouldn't bother shaving my legs and getting on the train.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would always take lube and condoms with me to a meet.
Be it a club meet or private meet.
You can never be 100% certain the guy is going to have any.
I also have a smallish playbag packed, like a grab and go bag with what I consider essentials for a sexy evening of fun.
It contains a few of my favourite toys, tissues, perfume, deodrant, wet wipes, lube, condoms of various sizes, massage oil,a bottle of water, hairbrush, hairties. And some pro-plus caffeine tablets!
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I just checked my play bag I sometimes take to check what I leave in there ...
2 brand new sex toys unused in boxes (pulsing cock ring & mini massager)
A wand, morgasm bullet & a glass butt plug.
Liquid silk and 2 types of edible lube from Ann summers. Condoms
Perfume, deodorant, dry shampoo & various make up.
A miniature bottle of gin.
Chewing gum, toothbrush & toothpaste.
A pen
Hair ties & brush.
I’m unsure why I have a pen in there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nah bring them along, shows you're looking to enjoy yourself!
I’m always looking to enjoy myself "
Glad to hear it!
Personally wouldnt be insulted, trying new things, exploring different ways of finding pleasure which eachother is part of the fun of life, surely?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would always take lube and condoms with me to a meet.
Be it a club meet or private meet.
You can never be 100% certain the guy is going to have any.
I also have a smallish playbag packed, like a grab and go bag with what I consider essentials for a sexy evening of fun.
It contains a few of my favourite toys, tissues, perfume, deodrant, wet wipes, lube, condoms of various sizes, massage oil,a bottle of water, hairbrush, hairties. And some pro-plus caffeine tablets!
I just checked my play bag I sometimes take to check what I leave in there ...
2 brand new sex toys unused in boxes (pulsing cock ring & mini massager)
A wand, morgasm bullet & a glass butt plug.
Liquid silk and 2 types of edible lube from Ann summers. Condoms
Perfume, deodorant, dry shampoo & various make up.
A miniature bottle of gin.
Chewing gum, toothbrush & toothpaste.
A pen
Hair ties & brush.
I’m unsure why I have a pen in there "
 you are prepared!! Impressive. I just bring myself haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I recall someone getting bit funny about this actually. And some who insisted. I don't really need it but it thrown me a bit. Maybe the reasoning actually more than a request. |
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"I recall someone getting bit funny about this actually. And some who insisted. I don't really need it but it thrown me a bit. Maybe the reasoning actually more than a request. "
I think some men see toys as a bit of a threat. Dents their ego as such. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you?
(Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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I'd think what a good idea .. try anything once lol
I've actually used lube with a woman before it's quite arousing to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I recall someone getting bit funny about this actually. And some who insisted. I don't really need it but it thrown me a bit. Maybe the reasoning actually more than a request.
I think some men see toys as a bit of a threat. Dents their ego as such. "
My thoughts too. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I recall someone getting bit funny about this actually. And some who insisted. I don't really need it but it thrown me a bit. Maybe the reasoning actually more than a request.
I think some men see toys as a bit of a threat. Dents their ego as such.
My thoughts too. "
Nope
Bring 'em on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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nope. Lube is my friend and toys make everything better. |
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"I recall someone getting bit funny about this actually. And some who insisted. I don't really need it but it thrown me a bit. Maybe the reasoning actually more than a request.
I think some men see toys as a bit of a threat. Dents their ego as such. "
Possibly ! That's how it read. Regardless of intention. |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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I’d probably think, I’m definitely getting lucky |
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I'd be more insulted maybe, if it was brought on the 2/3rd time if nothing had been mentioned about there involvement.... As guessing then it would be a sign.
Hard one in guess, I personally would find it more of a turn on xx |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Think anal on a first meet is a tad presuming. |
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No, not at all o.p. I've had a first meet from here when the female pulled out boxes of toys! The meet was at her place so obviously her toys were there, but no way did i feel offended in any way. Made for more fun! |
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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago
Near Bath / Bristol |
"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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Not in the slightest. It's just being prepared and adds to the fun! |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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hell no I wouldn't be insulted in the slightest, I also have lube it's hand to have |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No. I can't see why anybody would take offence from that. It might make me nervous about what's about to happen though. Luke "
True. The bloke might think it’s for their ass |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
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No it would excite me. Shows experience |
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"Question for the guys really..
Would a women bringing lube & sex toys to a first meet insult you? (Keeping in mind I’m 31 so not premenopausal)
If I brought lube to a meet would you feel like I’m insinuating that you will be unable to get me wet enough?
Hell no.
All the more fun! "
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