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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s another thing I’ve noticed a lot of over the years.
Guy *thinks* that a woman is interested or is throwing hints to reference this website. These are real life situations where someone has met through the workplace or a brief professional encounter like someone coming to do work at your home.
Guys then wonder if they should use other platforms to contact said woman.
Well the answer is no!
All it would do is creep someone out, this would be amplified by a million percent of that person doesn’t find you attractive either.
I’m confident in saying that IF a woman that you e briefly encountered was interested in you and there was some flirting going on then she would find a way to contact you again.
Example last year, I had a guy come to do work at my home, I picked him from a Facebook recommendation and the fact that he was very handsome and single! He came to do the work, he left, I messaged him later to say thank you for the work and I was happy, two weeks later o had him round again and fucked him, fucked a few times over a couple of months.
Point is, I fancied him, I wanted something to happen and wasn’t prepared for him to have just done the job he was supposed to do and not see him again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why is it only creepy when the guy does it but not when you do? What if he hadn't fancied you? "
The using other platforms to make reference to this place is creepy.
A message to ask if someone was happy with the work would be okay and from there you can gauge if there’s interest or not.
In my case I messaged to say I was happy with everything and he pretty much instantly said a flirty comment back and from there it was pretty much game on. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I often read the "dilemmas" on here and roll my eyes and think it's either someone with absolutely no sense of respect and consideration, or that it's a fantasy scenario they're somehow trying to get kicks from in the hope the replies will be mucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it only creepy when the guy does it but not when you do? What if he hadn't fancied you?
The using other platforms to make reference to this place is creepy.
A message to ask if someone was happy with the work would be okay and from there you can gauge if there’s interest or not.
In my case I messaged to say I was happy with everything and he pretty much instantly said a flirty comment back and from there it was pretty much game on. "
I take it you're referencing from my post.
The conversation that I had with the woman was pretty in-depth. She told me about a past with her ex-husband having extra company within the relationship.
He got very jealous over time I'm in a relationship came to an end as it become volatile.
Any early afternoon she came into the room and said " sorry i had to go to my bedroom to release a bit of tension".
Pointing out as I was on my hands and knees that a lot of things are running through her mind.
So yes if somebody was just flirting stalking a person is a bit creepy. But understanding the full context of the tension/conversation in that room which maybe I should of pointed out then maybe you wouldnt of made this post.
Maybe asking for more details could have got a more constructive conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why is it only creepy when the guy does it but not when you do? What if he hadn't fancied you?
The using other platforms to make reference to this place is creepy.
A message to ask if someone was happy with the work would be okay and from there you can gauge if there’s interest or not.
In my case I messaged to say I was happy with everything and he pretty much instantly said a flirty comment back and from there it was pretty much game on.
I take it you're referencing from my post.
The conversation that I had with the woman was pretty in-depth. She told me about a past with her ex-husband having extra company within the relationship.
He got very jealous over time I'm in a relationship came to an end as it become volatile.
Any early afternoon she came into the room and said " sorry i had to go to my bedroom to release a bit of tension".
Pointing out as I was on my hands and knees that a lot of things are running through her mind.
So yes if somebody was just flirting stalking a person is a bit creepy. But understanding the full context of the tension/conversation in that room which maybe I should of pointed out then maybe you wouldnt of made this post.
Maybe asking for more details could have got a more constructive conversation."
Not so much yours but there’s been loads of these dilemma type situations over the years.
From what you’ve described she did sound rather thirsty.
I personally wouldn’t tell a guy that I just had to go to my room to release some tension if I wasn’t attracted to him, actually it’s not something I would say anyway but you get my drift. Maybe you should have been more flirty back at the time? |
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If I had someone in to do work for me no matter how much I fancied them I wouldnt contact for personal interaction beyond that. To me that opens the door to guys who think they can make passes at women home alone when they have been engaged to carry out a specific paid for job.
Didn’t someone post on here a few weeks back regarding being made to feel uncomfortable in her own home when a carpet fitter made a lewd comment!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it only creepy when the guy does it but not when you do? What if he hadn't fancied you?
The using other platforms to make reference to this place is creepy.
A message to ask if someone was happy with the work would be okay and from there you can gauge if there’s interest or not.
In my case I messaged to say I was happy with everything and he pretty much instantly said a flirty comment back and from there it was pretty much game on.
I take it you're referencing from my post.
The conversation that I had with the woman was pretty in-depth. She told me about a past with her ex-husband having extra company within the relationship.
He got very jealous over time I'm in a relationship came to an end as it become volatile.
Any early afternoon she came into the room and said " sorry i had to go to my bedroom to release a bit of tension".
Pointing out as I was on my hands and knees that a lot of things are running through her mind.
So yes if somebody was just flirting stalking a person is a bit creepy. But understanding the full context of the tension/conversation in that room which maybe I should of pointed out then maybe you wouldnt of made this post.
Maybe asking for more details could have got a more constructive conversation."
I think she has some issues with boundaries.
Which should probably caution you in regards to taking anything further |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think for a guy at work in a ladies home it is best say nothing flirty - if you get it wrong you will get slammed by everyone and it is not professional.
Please ladies don;t put us in these awkward situation....if it was the other way round ... just can't win. |
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"I think for a guy at work in a ladies home it is best say nothing flirty - if you get it wrong you will get slammed by everyone and it is not professional.
Please ladies don;t put us in these awkward situation....if it was the other way round ... just can't win."
Could also cost you your job! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it only creepy when the guy does it but not when you do? What if he hadn't fancied you?
The using other platforms to make reference to this place is creepy.
A message to ask if someone was happy with the work would be okay and from there you can gauge if there’s interest or not.
In my case I messaged to say I was happy with everything and he pretty much instantly said a flirty comment back and from there it was pretty much game on.
I take it you're referencing from my post.
The conversation that I had with the woman was pretty in-depth. She told me about a past with her ex-husband having extra company within the relationship.
He got very jealous over time I'm in a relationship came to an end as it become volatile.
Any early afternoon she came into the room and said " sorry i had to go to my bedroom to release a bit of tension".
Pointing out as I was on my hands and knees that a lot of things are running through her mind.
So yes if somebody was just flirting stalking a person is a bit creepy. But understanding the full context of the tension/conversation in that room which maybe I should of pointed out then maybe you wouldnt of made this post.
Maybe asking for more details could have got a more constructive conversation.
I think she has some issues with boundaries.
Which should probably caution you in regards to taking anything further "
Good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I had someone in to do work for me no matter how much I fancied them I wouldnt contact for personal interaction beyond that. To me that opens the door to guys who think they can make passes at women home alone when they have been engaged to carry out a specific paid for job.
Didn’t someone post on here a few weeks back regarding being made to feel uncomfortable in her own home when a carpet fitter made a lewd comment! "
Precisely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think for a guy at work in a ladies home it is best say nothing flirty - if you get it wrong you will get slammed by everyone and it is not professional.
Please ladies don;t put us in these awkward situation....if it was the other way round ... just can't win."
That is a valid point |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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Working with people in various states of undress for many years and would be entirely absolutely professional. I would not make any comments or any kind of flirtation of any sort unless it was an instruction directly in the remit of the work undertaken. Even if they were being flirty with me I would not respond in any way shape or form. You have to be completely detached.
Yes I have had many people over the years trying to act out some kind of fantasy
People I know is different and know what you can get away with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Could also cost you your job! "
Thats why I didnt message her just in case she was a head case.
Maybe just pass it to one side.
Many years ago I was working on a university campus and I was painting soffits which is next roof. As I climbed up the ladder I know it's a woman in a 20s spread legged playing with herself.
I had a look of course,then come down the ladders.
She then came downstairs to the door and invited me in,now that was a rush and that was a woman who knew exactly what she wanted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Working with people in various states of undress for many years and would be entirely absolutely professional. I would not make any comments or any kind of flirtation of any sort unless it was an instruction directly in the remit of the work undertaken. Even if they were being flirty with me I would not respond in any way shape or form. You have to be completely detached.
Yes I have had many people over the years trying to act out some kind of fantasy
People I know is different and know what you can get away with "
100% was a very comfortable conversation which is was happy to engage. The bummer part is I would of been going back to finish off this week but work needed me on another job. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I almost want to put this to the test and see if I could suck off a complete stranger that comes to the house to do work. Trying to think what I can have done but knowing my luck he wouldn’t be good looking. I very much enjoy sucking a penis and haven’t done it for a while so a blow job is neither here nor there for me, it’s just like a friendly handshake. Bonus would be an unprepared pissy penis, I love them. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to? "
Hasn't that always been the case though especially in many viewpoints in forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I almost want to put this to the test and see if I could suck off a complete stranger that comes to the house to do work. Trying to think what I can have done but knowing my luck he wouldn’t be good looking. I very much enjoy sucking a penis and haven’t done it for a while so a blow job is neither here nor there for me, it’s just like a friendly handshake. Bonus would be an unprepared pissy penis, I love them. "
Well funny you say that.
You can message some one here say rollplay.
"I invite you to give me a quote works on my property.
All you want to know is there name and what works your coming to do" then roll play it out when they come round. Then he leave then you talk after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s another thing I’ve noticed a lot of over the years.
Guy *thinks* that a woman is interested or is throwing hints to reference this website. These are real life situations where someone has met through the workplace or a brief professional encounter like someone coming to do work at your home.
Guys then wonder if they should use other platforms to contact said woman.
Well the answer is no!
All it would do is creep someone out, this would be amplified by a million percent of that person doesn’t find you attractive either.
I’m confident in saying that IF a woman that you e briefly encountered was interested in you and there was some flirting going on then she would find a way to contact you again.
Example last year, I had a guy come to do work at my home, I picked him from a Facebook recommendation and the fact that he was very handsome and single! He came to do the work, he left, I messaged him later to say thank you for the work and I was happy, two weeks later o had him round again and fucked him, fucked a few times over a couple of months.
Point is, I fancied him, I wanted something to happen and wasn’t prepared for him to have just done the job he was supposed to do and not see him again. "
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to? "
Yes that was my point from the beginning and i totally disagree with that viewpoint. Smacks of entitlement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
Yes that was my point from the beginning and i totally disagree with that viewpoint. Smacks of entitlement. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to? "
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex. |
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It’s always an issue with guys that when we make a move the out one doesn’t totally lie in what we do, but in how hot we are.
It’s very easy to get labelled a creep when your not attractive.
Something that a super attractive guy does that leads to a good outcome can easily lead down the sexual harassment line if your not so pleasant to the eye.
So guys, just shoot your shot. Be respectful, be considerate, and if you get labelled a creep don’t be too hard on yourself. Because ultimately it might not be you |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s always an issue with guys that when we make a move the out one doesn’t totally lie in what we do, but in how hot we are.
It’s very easy to get labelled a creep when your not attractive.
Something that a super attractive guy does that leads to a good outcome can easily lead down the sexual harassment line if your not so pleasant to the eye.
So guys, just shoot your shot. Be respectful, be considerate, and if you get labelled a creep don’t be too hard on yourself. Because ultimately it might not be you"
It's actually true in a lot of situations. And it isn't right that it's the case.
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex. "
Case in point
Not so attractive? Even mentioning that your single makes you a creep and I need to instantly lie about a fake boyfriend to stop this creep in his tracks
Attractive? Let me put on sexy cloths and flirt away and messaged you later for me.
And it’s not bad that woman do this, it’s part of flirting. But don’t be so hard on the “creeps” out there. And if your a guy, don’t worry too much about being a “creep” as long as your being respectful. Because ultimately it’s not what you do, it’s how hot you are when you do it |
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"I think the main thing that comes out of this is a question to Annie: Do you need any work done at your home? "
Well my back garden is an absolute shit show. Have a stingy nettle bush that’s just massive.
Had my front lawn cut the other week and the guy was strimming away and was like what the fuck are these, and he uncovered my witches legs on spikes that had been there since Halloween  |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex. "
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site? |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site? "
nobody is perfect for everyone else l and I don't think Annie needs the ego boost. She's already very popular!
People use this site because they want to not because they have to. |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site? "
So only unattractive women should be on here? |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?"
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site? "
First of all thank you, and to answer your question, I came here 11 years ago and was like woah this place is like a fucking Argos book of men. I had this very very rigid criteria of the men I wanted. Only guys over 6 foot, guys with dark hair, big eyebrows, extremely handsome with a penis between 7 and 9 inches in length with decent girth, guys that would eat their own cum out of me, who were massively into being rimmed and guys that would agree to being sucked off and fucked whilst they were sleeping.
As I’ve got older none of that stuff matters at all and I would take a guy with a big heart and good morals over any of the aesthetic stuff, he’d still need to be handsome though but height and dick size and all the rest doesn’t matter. |
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I remember a particular job I was on, where I was in a womans home, with her and other members of her family and she was quite comfortable parading around in her underwear.
Did I take this as a sign that she was being flirty with me or interested in me in any way?
No.
I was there in the capacity of a Wedding Videographer and she was the Bride getting ready for her wedding.
In short, I was there in a professional capacity and as far as I was concerned, I was there to do a job. |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?"
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it. |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it."
I knew you didn’t mean any offence, do t worry about it. |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it.
I knew you didn’t mean any offence, do t worry about it. "
Thanks. I appreciate that. I do enjoy reading your posts by the way. Don’t let miserable buggers like me ever put you off. |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it."
Its implied and you know it is.
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"If I had someone in to do work for me no matter how much I fancied them I wouldnt contact for personal interaction beyond that. To me that opens the door to guys who think they can make passes at women home alone when they have been engaged to carry out a specific paid for job.
Didn’t someone post on here a few weeks back regarding being made to feel uncomfortable in her own home when a carpet fitter made a lewd comment! "
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it.
Its implied and you know it is.
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it.
Its implied and you know it is.
Is that right? Far from it."
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So after catching up with the comments I read as follows.
Dont go round to her house
Dont message on other media sites
But do message her to see if she was happy with the works
Let it go and forget about it as the moment has passed.
Ok sorted I think I'll just move on lol.
Women are fucking complicated.
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it.
Its implied and you know it is.
Is that right? Far from it.
Perhaps you could clarify what you mean? "
Exactly as I said. I’m surprised others read more into it. |
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"If I had someone in to do work for me no matter how much I fancied them I wouldnt contact for personal interaction beyond that. To me that opens the door to guys who think they can make passes at women home alone when they have been engaged to carry out a specific paid for job.
Didn’t someone post on here a few weeks back regarding being made to feel uncomfortable in her own home when a carpet fitter made a lewd comment! "
I agree entirely. I often use tradesmen as I have a couple of properties and have a very firm boundary that I would never cross to meet them socially or personally. Men have often flirted with me and some have been quite open about asking - but they work for me and I pay them to do a professional job and would never barter for a free job either. It’s a matter of respect and not being played. |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it.
Its implied and you know it is.
Is that right? Far from it.
Perhaps you could clarify what you mean?
Exactly as I said. I’m surprised others read more into it."
To be fair, I would have read it in a similar way, attractive women don’t need to be on here because they can get any guy, meaning those of us on here can’t? |
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"I’m not sure what the point of this thread was. That guys shouldn’t cross boundaries but it’s ok for women to?
It’s not right at all and nobody should cross boundaries.
I think it was inappropriate for that woman to say such suggestive comments to that guy but in person you can read the room. The guy said he was very comfortable even happy to engage in suggestive/flirty conversation with her which would have given her the green light to carry on.
I had a guy doing my annual boiler check last week and I was doing my dishes whilst he was chatting away about his job and the hours and how it was difficult to have a social life and how he was single. I was washing my protein shakers and said oh god my boyfriend always leaves these in the car and they stink, he doesn’t, I leave them in my car, I don’t even have a boyfriend but felt like I needed to drop it in to shut that line of conversation down. It wasn’t a massively inappropriate conversation but why feel the need to bring up your relationship status if you don’t want the person you’re talking to to know you are single and therefore available.
On the flip side as when I had a guy round last year to do work for me who was very handsome I purposely changed into a summer dress that made my boobs look good and when I added his details to my banking app I said yeah it’s fine says it’s a match and he said a flirty comment back to that. I knew that there was an attraction on his part you just know when someone is flirting with you so when I messaged him that evening to say I was happy he was like yes yes glad you’re happy with the work then straight up said you’re stunning and the conversation went from there, couple of weeks later and we were meeting regularly for sex.
Being so attractive Annie, you can get to shag any guy that catches your eye. What brings you to a swingers site?
So only unattractive women should be on here?
What? Talk about twisting words to suit. Stop it.
Its implied and you know it is.
Is that right? Far from it.
Perhaps you could clarify what you mean?
Exactly as I said. I’m surprised others read more into it.
To be fair, I would have read it in a similar way, attractive women don’t need to be on here because they can get any guy, meaning those of us on here can’t? "
If that’s how you see it then fine but it’s not my words, thoughts or views. |
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