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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A simple yet needed question I thought I’d ask…. What is it about a profile that draws ladies & couples in? I realise everyone is wanting different things but at least if theres something there they want then it’s a good starter right? So teach me the ways oh wise one :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A profile should be informative.
Mystery is all very well and goid, but with the sheer number of single men on fab, many women and couples aren't likely to message someone to find out information that others have taken the trounle to display on their profiles.
A goid profile will set out what it's owner is looking for and what they have to offer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's the key, grabbing the attention.. keeping it is a whole other story. You can have the best profile in the world, it doesn't gurantee connections with people.
If you feel your profile reflects who you are then no one can pick that apart. Just be you and do what you wanna do, everyone's a critic regardless  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A profile should be informative.
Mystery is all very well and goid, but with the sheer number of single men on fab, many women and couples aren't likely to message someone to find out information that others have taken the trounle to display on their profiles.
A goid profile will set out what it's owner is looking for and what they have to offer."
My profile is very long, but it's clear about what I'm looking for, particularly when it comes to men but it doesn't seem to get me much interest from those who are for me! A lot will ignore it, others read, yet still choose to ignore it.
Apparently I'm up my own arse based on my profile, but I would rather that then those calling me that be up there!
I'm ( incorrectly) seen as a miserable c*** by a lot on here, whilst I ( correctly) think they're massive c***s for being judgemental.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And there’s the difficult bit.. write too long and people are interested (or is just blokes that do that) or not write enough and come across as lazy…. |
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This is where the old "we all like different things" adage comes into play.
Personally, I'm not even going to look at a profile if I don't feel like I'm going to be attracted to the person that I can see in the profile picture. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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It’s not about attracting everyone, that’s not possible and I think it’s where a lot go wrong. People get bogged down in profile text and pictures that don’t represent the real them, which is daft.
It’s about attracting the people that you want to meet and that will like you, which means making your profile about yourself and being as ‘you’ as it can be.
If people are put off by that, then they’re not your type, if they like it, then there’s a start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally like to see pictures of bum holes but no one ever listens to me.
I wouldn’t call myself miss average either if I wanted to appear awesome to people. But saying that I could call myself MissShitsHerself and I’d still be beating them off with a machete. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
If you use the reply and quote button it makes it easier to see who you're replying to 
The problem is OP you're trying to make sense of how other people think and find a one size fits all approach - when it would be better to apply your own way of seeing things and find people that match that.
There is no magic formula that is guaranteed to appeal to all - so all you can do is be yourself, reflect yourself and allow others to decide for themselves if they like it or not |
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Everyone will have their own opinion on this. For me, it's probably more what turns me off than draws me in.
First off, crude usernames are a no-no, I just won't bother. Then profile photo, if it's a cock or "Facebook Dad" photo then I also won't bother.
General photos - not 1 million cock shots or hurried snaps - I like considered, well presented images that make me want to see me.
Text, no self pitying "guys have it hard on here" or passive aggressive nonsense. A bit about you, without being boastful, what you're looking for and be truthful without being overly earnest or sleazy. That's just me though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tried a few different styles of profile before settling on the one I've got now. I feel like it's got the right amount of information with my personality strewn through it as well. I've had a few compliments on it so it seems to be doing it's job.
But obviously, what works for me might not work for you. I'd say trial and error are your friends. Keep changing it until your find something you're comfortable with and represents you well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you use the reply and quote button it makes it easier to see who you're replying to
The problem is OP you're trying to make sense of how other people think and find a one size fits all approach - when it would be better to apply your own way of seeing things and find people that match that.
There is no magic formula that is guaranteed to appeal to all - so all you can do is be yourself, reflect yourself and allow others to decide for themselves if they like it or not "
That seems to be the feeling of most |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Everyone will have their own opinion on this. For me, it's probably more what turns me off than draws me in.
First off, crude usernames are a no-no, I just won't bother. Then profile photo, if it's a cock or "Facebook Dad" photo then I also won't bother.
General photos - not 1 million cock shots or hurried snaps - I like considered, well presented images that make me want to see me.
Text, no self pitying "guys have it hard on here" or passive aggressive nonsense. A bit about you, without being boastful, what you're looking for and be truthful without being overly earnest or sleazy. That's just me though."
Noted taken |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A handsome face grabs my attention, the jawline can usually give clues as to whether the face is going to be handsome. I pay close attention to jawlines if I can’t see the full face. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A handsome face grabs my attention, the jawline can usually give clues as to whether the face is going to be handsome. I pay close attention to jawlines if I can’t see the full face. "
Covered with a beard |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Attention is overrated, I prefer confusion and mild offence. Then only the truly dedicated will message you"
What’s your best form of confusion? (Digging for tips) haha |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"A simple yet needed question I thought I’d ask…. What is it about a profile that draws ladies & couples in? I realise everyone is wanting different things but at least if theres something there they want then it’s a good starter right? So teach me the ways oh wise one :p"
Lots of dick pics. Including one with the sky remote and one with a lynx can. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The great philosopher Francis Boyle once put it as finding surprising ways for sentences to end. I personally see the Internet as a vast sea of everyone taking everything too seriously |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A simple yet needed question I thought I’d ask…. What is it about a profile that draws ladies & couples in? I realise everyone is wanting different things but at least if theres something there they want then it’s a good starter right? So teach me the ways oh wise one :p
Lots of dick pics. Including one with the sky remote and one with a lynx can. "
Nothing makes a pussy wetter (but also free of perspiration) than a deodorant can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The sydney uni thing on an otherwise decent profile always upsets me. Otherwise it just seems to be a case of right place right time and endless patience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A simple yet needed question I thought I’d ask…. What is it about a profile that draws ladies & couples in? I realise everyone is wanting different things but at least if theres something there they want then it’s a good starter right? So teach me the ways oh wise one :p
I don’t have sky so I’ll have to pop the shop for a lynx can
Lots of dick pics. Including one with the sky remote and one with a lynx can. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A simple yet needed question I thought I’d ask…. What is it about a profile that draws ladies & couples in? I realise everyone is wanting different things but at least if theres something there they want then it’s a good starter right? So teach me the ways oh wise one :p
Lynx? Or sure? I’ll grab 1 of those travel miniature 1s
Lots of dick pics. Including one with the sky remote and one with a lynx can.
Nothing makes a pussy wetter (but also free of perspiration) than a deodorant can"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The sydney uni thing on an otherwise decent profile always upsets me. Otherwise it just seems to be a case of right place right time and endless patience "
So ditch the Sydney thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The sydney uni thing on an otherwise decent profile always upsets me. Otherwise it just seems to be a case of right place right time and endless patience
So ditch the Sydney thing? "
Absolutely yes. (If you want to  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The sydney uni thing on an otherwise decent profile always upsets me. Otherwise it just seems to be a case of right place right time and endless patience
So ditch the Sydney thing? "
She is too polite but ill say it. Yes !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me personally, add a little bit of your humour to the profile, an insight into your personality if you will and some more pictures, artful, less is more sort of thing.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The sydney uni thing on an otherwise decent profile always upsets me. Otherwise it just seems to be a case of right place right time and endless patience
So ditch the Sydney thing? "
There are many re-written Sydney University paragraphs along the lines of `what a load of bollocks' that are very funny. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The sydney uni thing on an otherwise decent profile always upsets me. Otherwise it just seems to be a case of right place right time and endless patience
So ditch the Sydney thing?
She is too polite but ill say it. Yes ! "
On it….. |
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