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Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time. |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time. "
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
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Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you. |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you."
Have no idea |
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you."
This.
Or maybe she feels like you (OP) would try and shag her while she's down. |
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"Every fucking day 
Then I come up with some lame answer and carry on.
Otherwise you might as well give up on it all. "
Like Groundhog Day. But the point of that film was to try again to make it better.   |
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea"
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead? |
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead? "
Is this the same friend as before? The one who you were pestering when she asked for space because her grandparent was dying but you kicked off.
I'll be honest. Your friendship seems to be on your terms and you get uptight when others don't play fiddle in tune. |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead?
Is this the same friend as before? The one who you were pestering when she asked for space because her grandparent was dying but you kicked off.
I'll be honest. Your friendship seems to be on your terms and you get uptight when others don't play fiddle in tune."
Boo different friend |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead? "
Because I’ve been rejected once by her anyway |
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I've found that no matter hoow shit things seem, at least I'm still alive to experience it.
Things go in peaks and troughs and quite often you don't analyse the good times and reflect on when things are going well, but when things turn shit you notice every little thing that is running against you.
Focus on the fact that that bad luck doesn't last forever and try and take pleasure from the little wins.
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
This.
Or maybe she feels like you (OP) would try and shag her while she's down."
Already happened although it wasn’t me who instigated it |
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead?
Is this the same friend as before? The one who you were pestering when she asked for space because her grandparent was dying but you kicked off.
I'll be honest. Your friendship seems to be on your terms and you get uptight when others don't play fiddle in tune.
Boo different friend"
But again, you're pissed off coz they don't wanna do things your way.
Yes, wanting to do something nice for someone is great.
So is understanding people change their minds. You said yourself they've been having a rough time recently.
You've been told before that in many cases going out isn't always wanted when you're feeling down, a lot of people wanna hide under the duvet and keep the world out. What works for you won't work for everyone. Your friend was honest with you and didn't make excuses. They said they didn't wanna go. Would you prefer they lied? |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"I've found that no matter hoow shit things seem, at least I'm still alive to experience it.
Things go in peaks and troughs and quite often you don't analyse the good times and reflect on when things are going well, but when things turn shit you notice every little thing that is running against you.
Focus on the fact that that bad luck doesn't last forever and try and take pleasure from the little wins.
"
Seems like everything is a trough just lately |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead?
Is this the same friend as before? The one who you were pestering when she asked for space because her grandparent was dying but you kicked off.
I'll be honest. Your friendship seems to be on your terms and you get uptight when others don't play fiddle in tune.
Boo different friend
But again, you're pissed off coz they don't wanna do things your way.
Yes, wanting to do something nice for someone is great.
So is understanding people change their minds. You said yourself they've been having a rough time recently.
You've been told before that in many cases going out isn't always wanted when you're feeling down, a lot of people wanna hide under the duvet and keep the world out. What works for you won't work for everyone. Your friend was honest with you and didn't make excuses. They said they didn't wanna go. Would you prefer they lied?"
Not at all |
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"I've found that no matter hoow shit things seem, at least I'm still alive to experience it.
Things go in peaks and troughs and quite often you don't analyse the good times and reflect on when things are going well, but when things turn shit you notice every little thing that is running against you.
Focus on the fact that that bad luck doesn't last forever and try and take pleasure from the little wins.
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Very true.
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"I've found that no matter hoow shit things seem, at least I'm still alive to experience it.
Things go in peaks and troughs and quite often you don't analyse the good times and reflect on when things are going well, but when things turn shit you notice every little thing that is running against you.
Focus on the fact that that bad luck doesn't last forever and try and take pleasure from the little wins.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
This.
Or maybe she feels like you (OP) would try and shag her while she's down.
Already happened although it wasn’t me who instigated it "
Sometimes people do things when they are feeling bad that they wouldn't do normally.
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
This.
Or maybe she feels like you (OP) would try and shag her while she's down.
Already happened although it wasn’t me who instigated it
Sometimes people do things when they are feeling bad that they wouldn't do normally.
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Well I say shagged, it was more like foreplay tbh penetration never occurred |
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"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead?
Because I’ve been rejected once by her anyway "
Ok so not a true/good friend AND having read the other posts more about the shag! Totally agree with the other poster above that said when people are feeling down they can all do things that they regret ... |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"Depends on what.
Trying to change the world? Yeah, but then I remember I might not be able to change the world, but I can change a few peoples experiences of it.
Being on here?
Yeah, and then I worked out I'm only bothering because I've not been bothered to find a more productive way to spend my time.
Nah my mates had a really tough time lately, so I said I’d take her out on Friday to cheer her up, mentioned it las night she seemed keen mentioned it this morn and she said “I don’t wanna go”
So naturally I’m sat thinking, why do I even bother tryna be a good friend?
Maybe she’s feeling down and not a reflection on you.
Have no idea
That doesn't sound like it's about you, and what you offered to do sounds like a great thing to do, but if she's truly down then probably really didnt feel like going out and absolutely nothing to do with you!
Understand it makes you feel bad but it's not about you ... how about offering a movie/takeout/beer evening in kind if thing instead?
Because I’ve been rejected once by her anyway
Ok so not a true/good friend AND having read the other posts more about the shag! Totally agree with the other poster above that said when people are feeling down they can all do things that they regret ... "
all about the shag for me or her |
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I don’t question why I bother but I wonder why they don’t bother. It’s disheartening but I bother because it’s worth it.
Otherwise, I wouldn’t bother at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I bother because that is what I want to do.... if people don’t want to bother then we move on..... there’s lots of men and women in the world believe your soul mate is out there xxxx |
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