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over a year ago
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It's probably obvious but if it hurts you're not doing it right. Not enough lube, wrong angle, toy/cock too big, insufficiently mentally and physically prepared...
In my experience (pegging), I don't like doggy style as that makes the dildo bang up hard against the place where the colon turns. I can take it deepest when riding forwards cowgirl position, where I'm in control of depth of penetration and speed of thrusting.
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It's not always because it's being done wrong. Though there are ways of making it easier.
I don't do anal. It hurts :- sometimes before, sometimes during, sometimes after. Jizz up the bum isn't always a good thing. Forcing your innards and your shit the wrong way isn't a joy either. Shit on the end of a cock or worse your bed sheets doesn't make anyone long for repeat sessions. It also puts a stop to everything as anyone sensible wouldn't go near a cock that's been up someone's arse hole. .....
There's some that can and do. Some that just plain won't and some that have tried and KNOW it doesn't work for them.
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"It's not always because it's being done wrong. Though there are ways of making it easier.
I don't do anal. It hurts :- sometimes before, sometimes during, sometimes after. Jizz up the bum isn't always a good thing. Forcing your innards and your shit the wrong way isn't a joy either. Shit on the end of a cock or worse your bed sheets doesn't make anyone long for repeat sessions. It also puts a stop to everything as anyone sensible wouldn't go near a cock that's been up someone's arse hole. .....
There's some that can and do. Some that just plain won't and some that have tried and KNOW it doesn't work for them.
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"It's not always because it's being done wrong. Though there are ways of making it easier.
I don't do anal. It hurts :- sometimes before, sometimes during, sometimes after. Jizz up the bum isn't always a good thing. Forcing your innards and your shit the wrong way isn't a joy either. Shit on the end of a cock or worse your bed sheets doesn't make anyone long for repeat sessions. It also puts a stop to everything as anyone sensible wouldn't go near a cock that's been up someone's arse hole. .....
There's some that can and do. Some that just plain won't and some that have tried and KNOW it doesn't work for them.
Amen."
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"It's not always because it's being done wrong. Though there are ways of making it easier.
I don't do anal. It hurts :- sometimes before, sometimes during, sometimes after. Jizz up the bum isn't always a good thing. Forcing your innards and your shit the wrong way isn't a joy either. Shit on the end of a cock or worse your bed sheets doesn't make anyone long for repeat sessions. It also puts a stop to everything as anyone sensible wouldn't go near a cock that's been up someone's arse hole. .....
There's some that can and do. Some that just plain won't and some that have tried and KNOW it doesn't work for them.
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I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx |
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"It's not always because it's being done wrong. Though there are ways of making it easier.
I don't do anal. It hurts :- sometimes before, sometimes during, sometimes after. Jizz up the bum isn't always a good thing. Forcing your innards and your shit the wrong way isn't a joy either. Shit on the end of a cock or worse your bed sheets doesn't make anyone long for repeat sessions. It also puts a stop to everything as anyone sensible wouldn't go near a cock that's been up someone's arse hole. .....
There's some that can and do. Some that just plain won't and some that have tried and KNOW it doesn't work for them.
There is no shit if douching takes place beforehand "
Honestly. I was going to put a last sentence saying no prizes for the person that says something along those lines.
So .... no prize for not realising that douching is no guarantee.  |
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"I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx"
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out before sex......
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out full stop.
Plus I won't do something that I have to overcome pain for first.
I wonder if I had a clit up there I'd make more effort. |
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"I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out before sex......
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out full stop.
Plus I won't do something that I have to overcome pain for first.
I wonder if I had a clit up there I'd make more effort. "
You need a prostate Granny  |
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Nobody should do it if they feel compelled or expected, and not if it isn't enjoyable.
If you're able and into it though it's pretty intense. I haven't been pegged a lot and it's certainly not an everyday thing, but I enjoy it as a special occasion thing. |
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"Hi guys anyone else given up on anal sex because of the pain "
Assuming you’re experienced and know what your doing and the pain is a recent development it could be time to seek medical advice.
I’ve read doctors giving advice on anal play mention douching too often can cause issues. Don’t take my word for it though cos I’m not a doctor |
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"I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out before sex......
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out full stop.
Plus I won't do something that I have to overcome pain for first.
I wonder if I had a clit up there I'd make more effort.
You need a prostate Granny "
Guess so .......
Maybe men should just fuck themselves up their own arses |
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"Nobody should do it if they feel compelled or expected, and not if it isn't enjoyable.
If you're able and into it though it's pretty intense. I haven't been pegged a lot and it's certainly not an everyday thing, but I enjoy it as a special occasion thing. "
It's good to hear it's intense for you. I've just gone through the motions ( no pun intended ) and knit a scarf or tap my watch while it's happening. |
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It's not for me - tried it, hated it, won't do it again. And that's fine.
I do wonder though, on the interests lists in people's profiles, when "most* straight men select anal, we're to assume that it's for giving anal, not receiving, even though they're the ones with the prostate up there? Yet when women select anal it's on the assumption that it's to receive, not give. Have I got that right?  |
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"It's not for me - tried it, hated it, won't do it again. And that's fine.
I do wonder though, on the interests lists in people's profiles, when "most* straight men select anal, we're to assume that it's for giving anal, not receiving, even though they're the ones with the prostate up there? Yet when women select anal it's on the assumption that it's to receive, not give. Have I got that right? "
I said that's right but then doubted. After re reading i'm still saying I agree. |
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"I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx"
I have never got as far as the pleasure bit?? |
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If it doesn’t feel good, you absolutely don’t have to do it. That’s for everything. I guess if it hurts, you’re only doing it for your partner’s benefit. I’ll never understand why people would persist in an act that their partner does not enjoy, it smacks of abuse and coercion. |
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Also to be clear, when mentioning doing it right or not, I wasn't suggesting everyone could or should enjoy it. That'd be stupid.
But if you are genuinely into it and there's no medical reason for it to be off-limits, the barriers I think are more psychological than physical. I mean bigger things often come out of there than anything you put in
Like I said, things like the wrong position, angle and somebody else being in control aren't for me. Even with a trusted partner it just feels better when I'm controlling how it's happening. I'm able to relax and open up and enjoy the feeling of being filled and penetrated. A good cleanout beforehand is essential mental prep as the last thing you want on your mind is your partner thinking shit's happening and it's gross. |
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"I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out before sex......
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out full stop.
Plus I won't do something that I have to overcome pain for first.
I wonder if I had a clit up there I'd make more effort. "
Lol maybes ..... but it is always up to the person receiving wether they want it or not and if it’s not for you..... it’s not for you xx |
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"I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out before sex......
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out full stop.
Plus I won't do something that I have to overcome pain for first.
I wonder if I had a clit up there I'd make more effort. "
This |
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"I always think men must have bigger sphincters. Mine's like the end of a balloon ...... "
I thought for years I'd be way too tight to ever consider it. Turned out once I got my headspace right and did some solo practicing then with a partner who took it nice and slow, it was way easier and nicer than I'd imagined possible. Fun discovering my prostate too |
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"I always think men must have bigger sphincters. Mine's like the end of a balloon ......
I thought for years I'd be way too tight to ever consider it. Turned out once I got my headspace right and did some solo practicing then with a partner who took it nice and slow, it was way easier and nicer than I'd imagined possible. Fun discovering my prostate too "
I guess there's no Google Map for that All trial and improvement |
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"It's not for me - tried it, hated it, won't do it again. And that's fine.
I do wonder though, on the interests lists in people's profiles, when "most* straight men select anal, we're to assume that it's for giving anal, not receiving, even though they're the ones with the prostate up there? Yet when women select anal it's on the assumption that it's to receive, not give. Have I got that right? "
Yeah, it should differenciate. If I'm ever asked do I like anal that's my first response; "what, giving or receiving?" |
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Oh dear.. No advice really - i love it, usually spit is enough lube for me.. Ive tried doggy position, standing upand bent over and on my back with legs over his shoulder and reverse cowgirl... Love them all so far and no pain or discomfort
I douche before and ask them to wash after.. . I think everyone who participates in anal play realises its a bodily part with a function that keeps doing its job |
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"I enjoy anal..... but as said it here has to be plenty lube ...... if your concerned about shit etc you can go as far as buying something that give a kind of enema to clean you out just before....
If it is done right the pain lasts maybes 30 seconds is replaces by an amazing pleasurable feeling...... but it’s each to their own..... it works for some and not for others xxxx
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out before sex......
I don't want to be rinsing the contents of my arse out full stop.
Plus I won't do something that I have to overcome pain for first.
I wonder if I had a clit up there I'd make more effort. "
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I was no anal (though choice) until a year and a half ago. When ever I had tried it before it was a stick it up my bum and shove it right up. Honestly thought I had broke my back. I had no idea you had to spend time on the arse and be relaxed. My mindset was I'm not going to enjoy this and there is going to be shit everywhere. Meeting Sam when the subject came up I still had the same mindset but I was more than happy to be proven wrong. Having time spent on my arse rimming and play with seeing which position I felt comfortable in and generally relaxing I found it a weird sensation and mildly uncomfortable but nice at the same time. The more anal play that took place the more comfortable it was. Take away the physical side of things the general relaxing and closed mindset helped me more. I'm now at the stage where it's a major part of our play and don't think we've ever had sex without anal
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This is a question I've been asked quite a few times by men, especially when just chatting on here, and the answer has to be yes I have often had to give up due to pain. But not always.
Ok, this is just my personal experience/take on it (and apologies in advance for another of my infamous 'crap' analogies) but I find anal sex is like getting into a very hot bath.
At first you are "Ooh!" and "Ah!" cos, lets face it, it is always uncomfortable, even painful. Always. And sometimes its too much and you just have to get out the bath. Simply can't stand it (Ok, ok... I know in an actual bath there's a thing called a cold tap! Don't start! LOL) and you simply have to bail out. But most times, as long as you ease gently and very, very slowly into it and give yourself time to acclimatise then it begins to feel much nicer. And if you manage to get past that stage then you know every time you will be rewarded by the promise that it will soon feel absolutely amazing.
Hope that gives a bit of an insight into the question? I have to add you MUST use lube. Absolutely tons of it and then a bit extra for good measure on top. Also there is never any predicting how 'hot' the bath is ever going to be. It must be a mood, mindset, relax thing but I've honestly had times where I've been horny as fuck and completely relaxed and, well, more than 'up for it' yet I've had to bail out and deny my partner at that moment. Other times though, once you reach that 'comfort' point, it just feels so nice. |
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"This is a question I've been asked quite a few times by men, especially when just chatting on here, and the answer has to be yes I have often had to give up due to pain. But not always.
Ok, this is just my personal experience/take on it (and apologies in advance for another of my infamous 'crap' analogies) but I find anal sex is like getting into a very hot bath.
At first you are "Ooh!" and "Ah!" cos, lets face it, it is always uncomfortable, even painful. Always. And sometimes its too much and you just have to get out the bath. Simply can't stand it (Ok, ok... I know in an actual bath there's a thing called a cold tap! Don't start! LOL) and you simply have to bail out. But most times, as long as you ease gently and very, very slowly into it and give yourself time to acclimatise then it begins to feel much nicer. And if you manage to get past that stage then you know every time you will be rewarded by the promise that it will soon feel absolutely amazing.
Hope that gives a bit of an insight into the question? I have to add you MUST use lube. Absolutely tons of it and then a bit extra for good measure on top. Also there is never any predicting how 'hot' the bath is ever going to be. It must be a mood, mindset, relax thing but I've honestly had times where I've been horny as fuck and completely relaxed and, well, more than 'up for it' yet I've had to bail out and deny my partner at that moment. Other times though, once you reach that 'comfort' point, it just feels so nice. "
What a wonderful analogy. Just delightful. |
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I enjoy anal penetration sometimes - though it depends on mood, health issues etc.
There was one guy I tried it with when we had to stop halfway through because he was too thick, and even with a lot of lube, it was just causing me too much pain. |
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It’s not for everyone and I don’t partake until I know them better. I haven’t had anyone near me for over a year so any play in that area will be difficult to start with.
However the first time was amazing and did what I hoped it would do and made me feel as submissive as I wanted to feel during the act.
Not for everyone but occasionally for me  |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
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I've enjoyed recieving anal. Must lube up first though and find the right position thats comfortable for you as the size of the cock can be uncomfortable at first. Would love to meet a female who likes to use her strapon on guys. As yet not found anyone who is willing. |
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I love it and have had some of my most intense orgasms with anal penetration.
It isn't for everyone and needs patience rather than a quick wham bam.
I think initially it hurts a bit but once you get past that , if you can its put delight. |
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I think pain is part of the pleasure that comes with anal. I certainly don't find it comfortable but I love it. Obviously, it shouldn't hurt too much though. Have you tried starting off small and building yourself up? A finger even! And then a small butt plug. And lube is a must. |
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
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I love anal i can cum from a strap on or cock alone, i don't even need my cock playing with and it makes me orgasm massively.
But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt sometimes, like everything you have to take it slowly and communicate, it's not going to work if someone tries to ram it in, or if you don't use enough lube, ease in slowly, and maybe use a slightly smaller toy first to get yourself loosened up.
But guys i'd recommend trying it, after all your g-spot is up there  |
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