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Why don't couples show pics of the guy?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's amazing how many couples' profiles are just heavy with photos of the woman, but in most cases none of the man.
As much as we all like to see the beautiful woman, we also want to see the guy.
Why is this such a thing? Is it a confidence thing? Do guys think they won't appeal, but the woman will and that's enough to get the attention of others? Or is it something else?
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Because, let’s be honest, it’s pussy that everyone is *really* after most (not all, accepted) of the time, and the man in the couple is an inconvenience to be tolerated to get access to the pussy, so might as well just show the goods that people are interested in .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's amazing how many couples' profiles are just heavy with photos of the woman, but in most cases none of the man.
As much as we all like to see the beautiful woman, we also want to see the guy.
Why is this such a thing? Is it a confidence thing? Do guys think they won't appeal, but the woman will and that's enough to get the attention of others? Or is it something else?
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No idea, all I know, is if we are looking for a couple to contact, and there are no pics of the guy, right away my Mrs isn't interested, why would she be?
It is one of the red flags we use for fake profiles. |
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"Because, let’s be honest, it’s pussy that everyone is *really* after most (not all, accepted) of the time, and the man in the couple is an inconvenience to be tolerated to get access to the pussy, so might as well just show the goods that people are interested in ...."
Totally agree with this for couples who are looking for a guy to join them, but many, if not most, couples also state they are looking for other couples. |
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"Because you could have 200 pictures of him a 1 of her.
Guaranteed that 99.9% of messages will be aimed at her without a single mention of him or acknowledgement of the fact they are a couple.
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Also I'm fuck ugly she's far more attractive. |
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"Because, let’s be honest, it’s pussy that everyone is *really* after most (not all, accepted) of the time, and the man in the couple is an inconvenience to be tolerated to get access to the pussy, so might as well just show the goods that people are interested in ...."
I disagree to be fair, not in an unkind way. Maybe what you've said does apply at times, but as a couple we would want both equally and not just be after the woman. And if the woman is straight, then it stands to reason that she'd want to see the guy. |
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We agree with you. It's very frustrating. It's as if they forget that there has to be attraction to the man. We want to find a couple we get on with but it's so hard when seeing the man is important and we just can't. We have done searches and there are many couples we don't contact because of this. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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In reality I think it’s often because the guy either isn’t attractive or they get more attention from just the hotter woman, it also might be because the guy’s pictures get fewer fabs and they take that as a sign that people don’t want to see him.
Sometimes it’s simply because they’re fishing with their best ‘bait’ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We do and always have..some profiles that we have seen are almost like using the lady as fishing bait.."
This. Which would attract the single guys more and less so the couples. |
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"It's amazing how many couples' profiles are just heavy with photos of the woman, but in most cases none of the man.
As much as we all like to see the beautiful woman, we also want to see the guy.
Why is this such a thing? Is it a confidence thing? Do guys think they won't appeal, but the woman will and that's enough to get the attention of others? Or is it something else?
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because they safe it for women that are interested in meeting both parties and then she can just push her man onto unexpected women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really  "
then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit"
Of course they are! It’s their dynamic; Hot wife. He’s still involved, he just doesn’t play |
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit
Of course they are! It’s their dynamic; Hot wife. He’s still involved, he just doesn’t play"
and still most would want to see a pic of the guy?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit"
Everyone is entitled to use this site as they wish
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit
Of course they are! It’s their dynamic; Hot wife. He’s still involved, he just doesn’t play and still most would want to see a pic of the guy?! "
Exactly if we meet as a couple, I can't have a singles account and not one person has ever asked for a picture of him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit
Everyone is entitled to use this site as they wish
Hippy/angel"
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Because, let’s be honest, it’s pussy that everyone is *really* after most (not all, accepted) of the time, and the man in the couple is an inconvenience to be tolerated to get access to the pussy, so might as well just show the goods that people are interested in ....
I disagree to be fair, not in an unkind way. Maybe what you've said does apply at times, but as a couple we would want both equally and not just be after the woman. And if the woman is straight, then it stands to reason that she'd want to see the guy. "
Have to agree with the first paragraph, we never met single guys as a couple but couples they mostly only wanted to meet with her -
Another gratuitous post putting our own experiences forward - how dare we  |
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit
Of course they are! It’s their dynamic; Hot wife. He’s still involved, he just doesn’t play"
I do get it though. If I met couples I’d need to see the man too. If it’s just the woman playing on her own and he’s not there then fair enough but if he is there I’d have to see him. |
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We deem our profile as a shop window for both of us.
I agree, it raises a sigh when there's a heavy imbalance. If we're potentially meeting both, then we want to know what you both look like. Experience so far, has shown that those with no male pics use the woman to attract attention. Occasionally we have had a lovely surprise, and that's just, they didn't think it important to include pics of Mr 
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"We deem our profile as a shop window for both of us.
I agree, it raises a sigh when there's a heavy imbalance. If we're potentially meeting both, then we want to know what you both look like. Experience so far, has shown that those with no male pics use the woman to attract attention. Occasionally we have had a lovely surprise, and that's just, they didn't think it important to include pics of Mr
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We always had equal pics of us both too. |
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Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We're sort of equal in number ish...
He likes pics ....and doesn't mind being in them
I am more cautious with pics of me as I hate them and also work in one of those industries it would be bad to be identified in really...
But as to why others dont? Lord knows |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned."
Not at all, it's an addition to your relationship if anything. If you love and trust each other enough, it's a great thing. It's just sex, you don't get deep with someone. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned."
Personally it’s one of the things I’ve never been able to get my head around either and it would never be for me. I accept different strokes different folks though. |
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If you both play surely you’ll have to reveal what the fella looks like at some point.
With plenty of couples messaging I just ignore the ones who don’t show the male half.
I understand she gets more fabs. Women get more fabs. Doesn’t mean we want to play blind date with your fella though.
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned."
Think maybe you are on the wrong site.
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
Think maybe you are on the wrong site.
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It’s not just couples on the site to be fair. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned."
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned."
Different strokes for different folks.
Some like to see others separately, some like to play together as an enhancement to their relationship.
I think it probably takes a very strong marriage to be able to do it successfully. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
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It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x |
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When Inwas part of a couple on here, I was the only one who actively played. The profile was for my pleasure. There are many other couples with similar dynamics.
But sometimes, women are seen and used as "bait". |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x"
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
Personally it’s one of the things I’ve never been able to get my head around either and it would never be for me. I accept different strokes different folks though. "
It is different for everyone, I never did understand why guys were more interested in getting into my OH pants than their own partner. Kinda always "felt for them", I have no interest in getting in anyone else's pants other than OH's. She not interested in guys .
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. "
could be true though |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. "
Yeah course. I didn’t say that by the way. I thought you meant you’re on the wrong site if you’re not a swinger. Maybe I read it wrong x |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
Think maybe you are on the wrong site.
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Really, explain plz, im genuinly interested why you say that. Happy to be told im not opinionated, always happy for someone to explain their view point. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. "
Extremely rude ..We’ve been together 27 years swinging on and off for 20 and we are doing just fine .. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
Personally it’s one of the things I’ve never been able to get my head around either and it would never be for me. I accept different strokes different folks though.
It is different for everyone, I never did understand why guys were more interested in getting into my OH pants than their own partner. Kinda always "felt for them", I have no interest in getting in anyone else's pants other than OH's. She not interested in guys .
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Not everyone’s into the same thing though. People won’t be into things I’m into I’m sure. I was only agreeing with the fact that I could never do it and I do find it difficult to get my head around it x |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned."
You are aware that this is a swingers site .... yes ? |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. "
I apologise, it was a sweeping statement that, not intended to be rude. Just wanted to understand is all, i realise that the marriage must be so strong to accept it, which is admireable. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. Extremely rude ..We’ve been together 27 years swinging on and off for 20 and we are doing just fine .."
I have apologised and happy to be put straight, its really so admireable. |
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Just so people know, i was on a dogging site but its closing down so moved here, i understand its a swingers site but this is where the sister site sent us !! Apologies. |
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By *tue555Man
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
Personally it’s one of the things I’ve never been able to get my head around either and it would never be for me. I accept different strokes different folks though.
It is different for everyone, I never did understand why guys were more interested in getting into my OH pants than their own partner. Kinda always "felt for them", I have no interest in getting in anyone else's pants other than OH's. She not interested in guys .
Not everyone’s into the same thing though. People won’t be into things I’m into I’m sure. I was only agreeing with the fact that I could never do it and I do find it difficult to get my head around it x"
Not judging been on the swinging scene too long, every situation is different and I respect others choices. Doesn't necessarily mean I understand them, or agree with them, cos I'm not them. We tended to stick with people we know and get on with, why we didn't meet FBs.
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"Because, let’s be honest, it’s pussy that everyone is *really* after most (not all, accepted) of the time, and the man in the couple is an inconvenience to be tolerated to get access to the pussy, so might as well just show the goods that people are interested in ....
I disagree to be fair, not in an unkind way. Maybe what you've said does apply at times, but as a couple we would want both equally and not just be after the woman. And if the woman is straight, then it stands to reason that she'd want to see the guy.
Have to agree with the first paragraph, we never met single guys as a couple but couples they mostly only wanted to meet with her -
Another gratuitous post putting our own experiences forward - how dare we "
Interesting, I can see that straight men in a couple would be interested in the woman. And a bi female would interested in both, but a straight woman would be interested in the guy surely.
Or is it that there is a lot of women interested in the woman to please their guy?
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though.
I apologise, it was a sweeping statement that, not intended to be rude. Just wanted to understand is all, i realise that the marriage must be so strong to accept it, which is admireable."
If I simply pick up off the one point for now; you said you think a marriage must be strong to ‘accept it’.
Swinging as a married couple isn’t about accepting your partner wants to be shagging other people and tolerating it.
Mostly married couples swing to bring something extra to their marriage that they both enjoy.
Threesomes are great fun but impossible without a third person.
There’s so many sexual fantasies couples can explore by involving other people. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
Personally it’s one of the things I’ve never been able to get my head around either and it would never be for me. I accept different strokes different folks though.
It is different for everyone, I never did understand why guys were more interested in getting into my OH pants than their own partner. Kinda always "felt for them", I have no interest in getting in anyone else's pants other than OH's. She not interested in guys .
Not everyone’s into the same thing though. People won’t be into things I’m into I’m sure. I was only agreeing with the fact that I could never do it and I do find it difficult to get my head around it x
Not judging been on the swinging scene too long, every situation is different and I respect others choices. Doesn't necessarily mean I understand them, or agree with them, cos I'm not them. We tended to stick with people we know and get on with, why we didn't meet FBs.
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Oh absolutely. I respect people’s choices. Plenty of like-minded people on here for what most people want. That’s the beauty of fab x |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. Extremely rude ..We’ve been together 27 years swinging on and off for 20 and we are doing just fine .."
I swung with my other half for three years and we had a fabulous time.
The only thing that spoiled it was the amount of bi fems in couples who couldn’t understand that a female swinger could be straight. |
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. Extremely rude ..We’ve been together 27 years swinging on and off for 20 and we are doing just fine ..
I swung with my other half for three years and we had a fabulous time.
The only thing that spoiled it was the amount of bi fems in couples who couldn’t understand that a female swinger could be straight. "
Wow. I wouldn't dare go there or push it if a woman said she was straight. |
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over a year ago
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though. Extremely rude ..We’ve been together 27 years swinging on and off for 20 and we are doing just fine ..
I swung with my other half for three years and we had a fabulous time.
The only thing that spoiled it was the amount of bi fems in couples who couldn’t understand that a female swinger could be straight.
Wow. I wouldn't dare go there or push it if a woman said she was straight. "
It’s cropped up on the forums a few times recently. People think it’s the bi guys who might not respect boundaries. I’ve experienced it loads of times where the ladies have been told no but still make a move anyway. I’m not alone in saying that too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because they attract more attention simples - why do they use sex to sell?
You'll get more interest form a topless bikini bottomed model for your Tessler than a big hairy bloke"
I'd rather the big hairy bloke. The ample Mrs would be an epic bonus |
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Because I am a massive attention seeker and we're currently not meeting. When we plan on doing so we'll put some more of him up.
It's not about my other halfs attractiveness, he's 9 years younger, fitter and far better looking than me. But he doesn't want or need reassurance that he's good looking, I do. |
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It all depends on how we play.
In our case I, (Mr) don't play with others so feel there is no need for folk to see me.
Plus being the best looking guy on earth seems a bit unfair on all of the Shreks if I was to show my handsome good looks |
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There's a bit of an 'elephant in the lounge' here that nobody's yet mentioned when it comes to 80 pictures of the woman on a couple's profile and one of the man...
Some couples profiles do genuinely give me the creeps because it looks like there's potentially a form of coercive control/abuse/manipulation going on. I'm not suggesting that of any couples who are contributing to this thread btw. However, when you see a profile where (for example) there's loads of pictures of a woman with various objects being inserted by their male partner and he's clearly written the profile description, plus he's referring to his partner as 'she' or 'her' rather than 'my partner' - all these things together start to add up to be a red flag for me, and I have seen a fair few couples profiles like this. If that's their genuine kink then good luck to them, but some of these profiles look well dodgy..  |
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"There's a bit of an 'elephant in the lounge' here that nobody's yet mentioned when it comes to 80 pictures of the woman on a couple's profile and one of the man...
Some couples profiles do genuinely give me the creeps because it looks like there's potentially a form of coercive control/abuse/manipulation going on. I'm not suggesting that of any couples who are contributing to this thread btw. However, when you see a profile where (for example) there's loads of pictures of a woman with various objects being inserted by their male partner and he's clearly written the profile description, plus he's referring to his partner as 'she' or 'her' rather than 'my partner' - all these things together start to add up to be a red flag for me, and I have seen a fair few couples profiles like this. If that's their genuine kink then good luck to them, but some of these profiles look well dodgy.. "
Sorry that should have read 'genuine, consensual kink' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though.
I apologise, it was a sweeping statement that, not intended to be rude. Just wanted to understand is all, i realise that the marriage must be so strong to accept it, which is admireable.
If I simply pick up off the one point for now; you said you think a marriage must be strong to ‘accept it’.
Swinging as a married couple isn’t about accepting your partner wants to be shagging other people and tolerating it.
Mostly married couples swing to bring something extra to their marriage that they both enjoy.
Threesomes are great fun but impossible without a third person.
There’s so many sexual fantasies couples can explore by involving other people. "
I understand what u say totally, and as u say its what you both get from it. However its not for all Marriages despite you they can gain by exploring and involving other people. Fair enough though for you and your Hubby. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though.
I apologise, it was a sweeping statement that, not intended to be rude. Just wanted to understand is all, i realise that the marriage must be so strong to accept it, which is admireable.
If I simply pick up off the one point for now; you said you think a marriage must be strong to ‘accept it’.
Swinging as a married couple isn’t about accepting your partner wants to be shagging other people and tolerating it.
Mostly married couples swing to bring something extra to their marriage that they both enjoy.
Threesomes are great fun but impossible without a third person.
There’s so many sexual fantasies couples can explore by involving other people.
I understand what u say totally, and as u say its what you both get from it. However its not for all Marriages despite you they can gain by exploring and involving other people. Fair enough though for you and your Hubby."
Missed the word SAYING out before 'they can gain'. |
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over a year ago
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"Dont get me wrong, its very sexy but ive never understood the Married couples on these sites. Surely it means somat wrong with marriage if ur looking for others for sex ? I understand couples not married, but just wonder about married ones. Im seperated now and waiting on the decree nisi, because we didnt want sex with each other but others. How do u stay married ?? odd to me but i guess im old fashioned.
You’re not old fashioned just completely on the wrong site as you don’t understand swinging.
It’s supposed to be a swinging site but to be fair I know loads of people on here and none of them are swingers. Maybe it was once upon a time but it’s not just that now x
Pretty rude to suggest the married couples have something wrong with their marriage though.
I apologise, it was a sweeping statement that, not intended to be rude. Just wanted to understand is all, i realise that the marriage must be so strong to accept it, which is admireable.
If I simply pick up off the one point for now; you said you think a marriage must be strong to ‘accept it’.
Swinging as a married couple isn’t about accepting your partner wants to be shagging other people and tolerating it.
Mostly married couples swing to bring something extra to their marriage that they both enjoy.
Threesomes are great fun but impossible without a third person.
There’s so many sexual fantasies couples can explore by involving other people.
I understand what u say totally, and as u say its what you both get from it. However its not for all Marriages despite you they can gain by exploring and involving other people. Fair enough though for you and your Hubby.
Missed the word SAYING out before 'they can gain'."
Obviously it’s not for every marriage. Not every marriage is stable enough. Not every married couple have fantasies that require other people to be able to fulfill them and actually want to. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Because, let’s be honest, it’s pussy that everyone is *really* after most (not all, accepted) of the time, and the man in the couple is an inconvenience to be tolerated to get access to the pussy, so might as well just show the goods that people are interested in ....
I disagree to be fair, not in an unkind way. Maybe what you've said does apply at times, but as a couple we would want both equally and not just be after the woman. And if the woman is straight, then it stands to reason that she'd want to see the guy.
Have to agree with the first paragraph, we never met single guys as a couple but couples they mostly only wanted to meet with her -
Another gratuitous post putting our own experiences forward - how dare we
Interesting, I can see that straight men in a couple would be interested in the woman. And a bi female would interested in both, but a straight woman would be interested in the guy surely.
Or is it that there is a lot of women interested in the woman to please their guy?
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To start a fire storm the answer to the last question - from our experiences yes! - |
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"It's amazing how many couples' profiles are just heavy with photos of the woman, but in most cases none of the man.
As much as we all like to see the beautiful woman, we also want to see the guy.
Why is this such a thing? Is it a confidence thing? Do guys think they won't appeal, but the woman will and that's enough to get the attention of others? Or is it something else?
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Many reasons...but ultimately it's their profile to run as they see fit.
If I was looking to meet couples I would want to see at least one good photo of the guy, that isn't his cock.
On my couples profile there are photos of both of us but more of me. Hubby prefers to be behind the camera. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Ours has quite a few photo of Mr on although will admit it has got out of kilter in the last few months partly because he tends to be the one behind the camera. Will set about bring back parity shortly. |
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"We only have pictures of me because I'm the only one that plays right now.. simple as that really then you not a couple are you..jeez this site is shit
Everyone is entitled to use this site as they wish
Hippy/angel"
This . Just a bit of harmless fun isn’t it. Surely everyone can set their profile the way that suits them? Freya |
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"It's amazing how many couples' profiles are just heavy with photos of the woman, but in most cases none of the man.
As much as we all like to see the beautiful woman, we also want to see the guy.
Why is this such a thing? Is it a confidence thing? Do guys think they won't appeal, but the woman will and that's enough to get the attention of others? Or is it something else?
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Is it cause he’s round the back holding on to his Mrs coattails ? |
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I don't know why but it's a shame when the male come part of the package. These conversations always bring up a few perfectly understandable reasons. But for us not being able to see the male half is a bit off putting. Our profiles are our sales pitch. You wouldn't be tempted by classified add for a car with 100s of pictures of the top half but non of the lower half. You would either leave it not being sure if it was for you or worse wondering what's wrong with the half you can't see? |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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There’s probably a whole load of different reasons, same as some single profiles just show the same old pictures with no variety, not talking about anyone in general but most guys on here don't have a great portfolio lol and lots of people only have a couple of pics to see so what does it matter if a couple as ten of the female and two of the guy? The sites top heavy with guys anyway who want to meet single females or interested in the female half of the couple only.
In all honesty I’m (AJ) horrific at taking pics I often chop Wills head off or take the pic with a tree growing out of it so he gives me the look of what the heck’s that and deletes them lol, plus given the fact I get horny having cheeky pics taken so thats often what happens, nothing to do with abuse/control etc. as somebody mentioned, just something that makes me aroused, so of course we take pics of me as it leads to hit sex haha, we also don’t meet single females which is Wills choice nothing to do with me before anyone says anything lol and in fairness we do have a good mix of us both in friends, so if we were looking to meet a couple they can see those  by no means are we hiding Mr behind Mrs
If a profiles not for you move on or ask to see more, people’s profiles are generally set to how they like them, simple as that |
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"We deem our profile as a shop window for both of us.
I agree, it raises a sigh when there's a heavy imbalance. If we're potentially meeting both, then we want to know what you both look like. Experience so far, has shown that those with no male pics use the woman to attract attention. Occasionally we have had a lovely surprise, and that's just, they didn't think it important to include pics of Mr
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If we are meeting other couples we all have to have an element of attraction. |
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over a year ago
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It’s because they are single women posing as couples.
I’m sick of it.
Ruining the swinging for us genuine men.
Fucking fakes!
Why can’t women just be honest?
Your single women desperately seeking a man/couple for a quick shag.
Be honest.
Us guys appreciate honesty.
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Because what we are looking for is based less on looks and more on our capability to get the endorphins flowing.
If someone doesn’t want to meet because they don’t find us physically attractive, then they are not for us anyway. |
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"It's amazing how many couples' profiles are just heavy with photos of the woman, but in most cases none of the man.
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I suspect it’s got a lot to do with the guy don’t look as good as your guy in pics |
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Everybody is different and profiles should be tailored accordingly. If you’re a couple looking for a single, straight guy, there’s very little point having photos of the male. But if you’re looking for fun with another couple where all are involved, you’re going to have considerably less (initial) interested with 100% female photos. Just our opinion
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my tits are way better than his though 