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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.
I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it
It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..
Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.
I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA
#bekind
Cute n Sassy xXx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?"
Yeah absolutely flower..
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
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I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying? "
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
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Positivity is sexy - regardless of a person's appearance.
Sounds like you have the right attitude.
There is a song we rather like, it's called, "No More Fucks To Give". By Thomas Benjamin Wild.
if you can live by this mantra you'll be fine. |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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Amazing! I love this! Beauty is inside aswell as outside.
You could be the most gorgeous woman ever but if you have a horrible attitude or personality then it means nothing.
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"Positivity is sexy - regardless of a person's appearance.
Sounds like you have the right attitude.
There is a song we rather like, it's called, "No More Fucks To Give". By Thomas Benjamin Wild.
if you can live by this mantra you'll be fine."
I love this guy! On his banjo yeah?  xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To many lush comments and stuff to reply to you all but THANK YOU for the welcome backs and positive vibes. Truly is wonderful to read and its awesome to be back here.
I am 33 years young... and i saw a picture of my size 16 self back when i was 18. I WISH i had loved my body back then. I WISH id have forgiven myself and been kinder to myself.. I WISH i could have accepted i wasn't and will never be 'perfect'..
I went on crazy crash diets, would fail and regain AND MORE what id lose.. and it spirals out of control.
I WISH i could have looked in a mirror and just accepted that I AM ENOUGH. I do not need to be anymore,, and i do not need to be any less.
I have worth, i have value.. and guess what ladies and gents. You all do too!
I know perfection doesn't exist and therefore i will not chase it. |
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over a year ago
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I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born. |
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I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born. "
If it's any consolation, you're not alone in this. Pregnancy changes the body so much... my gran hated her pregnant body so much she stopped at 1. Quite something in her day.
OP glad you're able to accept your body.
As you quite rightly say... there's no such thing as a perfect body. Only others perception of what that is.
I hope this positively continues for you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born. "
Oh hun embrace the peace and quiet while you can. hehe
Pregnancy is a bat shit crazy time with hormones all over the flipping place.. just breathe. Your bump is 'perfect' because it is YOURS. Don't compare to anyone else, you are the best at being you and YOU are fucking beautiful and doing the most remarkable thing by growing a human.
Your baby wont care what you look like, and when he or she arrives all little one will desire is love and safety and i am positive you will offer than in bucket loads, x x x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
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How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born. "
I remember this. People used to say I was the biggest pregnant woman they’d ever seen, it was hard.
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?"
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
Sorry spellchecked "
Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious. |
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"Positivity is sexy - regardless of a person's appearance.
Sounds like you have the right attitude.
There is a song we rather like, it's called, "No More Fucks To Give". By Thomas Benjamin Wild.
if you can live by this mantra you'll be fine.
I love this guy! On his banjo yeah? xx"
That's the chap. Really nice guy & very funny! |
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Well done babe,
We all have something we would love to change about ourselves, I know we have loads but lets just get on with living and trying to accept we are never perfect and if other ppl dont like it then thats their problem.
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
Sorry spellchecked
Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious. "
Wow how rude are you?
To the OP: Keep rocking that stunning body darling! You are gorgeous xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good post OP.
Body acceptance is the best thing you can do for yourself. We all come in different shapes and sizes, no one should ever be made to feel like they aren't good enough. Anyone who takes a pop at this post or at you is a reflection on them not you.
We are all good enough just as we are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
Sorry spellchecked
Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious. "
I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.
It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
Sorry spellchecked
Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.
I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.
It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all."
How has she put the OP down? She has just asked a question.
She isn't being mean.
Interesting how the people slagging Annie off think they are different. |
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
Sorry spellchecked
Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.
Wow how rude are you?
To the OP: Keep rocking that stunning body darling! You are gorgeous xx"
She isn't being rude. She asked a question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.
I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it
It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..
Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.
I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA
#bekind
Cute n Sassy xXx
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What a lovely post, I think you are gorgeous in all ways! Have a wonderful weekend xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
Sorry spellchecked
Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.
I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.
It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all.
How has she put the OP down? She has just asked a question.
She isn't being mean.
Interesting how the people slagging Annie off think they are different. "
It's the intent behind the question which is to put someone down. Why feel the need to pick away at someone's post and its a pattern of behaviour not just this one.
Im not slagging her off, I'm calling her out on her behaviour which seems to be her specialty towards others  |
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!
Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!
So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes
Sorry spellchecked
Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.
I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.
It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all.
How has she put the OP down? She has just asked a question.
She isn't being mean.
Interesting how the people slagging Annie off think they are different.
It's the intent behind the question which is to put someone down. Why feel the need to pick away at someone's post and its a pattern of behaviour not just this one.
Im not slagging her off, I'm calling her out on her behaviour which seems to be her specialty towards others "
She should be called out. I've seen her fat shame in here before so I tend to aviod any thread she's posted on. Fab forums should be a safe place for us all. |
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Such a shame that this thread couldn't start positive. This thread should have remained as someone celebrating their body.
So let's get back to that. OP i commend you.
Keep loving yourself. You photograph really well. |
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Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity. |
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity. "
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity. "
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?"
Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.
Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.
Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.
I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.
The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.
I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters |
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.
Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.
Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.
I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.
The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.
I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"
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"To many lush comments and stuff to reply to you all but THANK YOU for the welcome backs and positive vibes. Truly is wonderful to read and its awesome to be back here.
I am 33 years young... and i saw a picture of my size 16 self back when i was 18. I WISH i had loved my body back then. I WISH id have forgiven myself and been kinder to myself.. I WISH i could have accepted i wasn't and will never be 'perfect'..
I went on crazy crash diets, would fail and regain AND MORE what id lose.. and it spirals out of control.
I WISH i could have looked in a mirror and just accepted that I AM ENOUGH. I do not need to be anymore,, and i do not need to be any less.
I have worth, i have value.. and guess what ladies and gents. You all do too!
I know perfection doesn't exist and therefore i will not chase it. "
Don't think you're the only one OP to look at old photos and wish they could give their head a wobble.
People are allowed to feel pretty, sexy whatever regardless of size. Thanks for this thread it was a good reminder to myself to accept myself |
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.
Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.
Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.
I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.
The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.
I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"
You know what - that last sentence really is all that matters |
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I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters
You know what - that last sentence really is all that matters "
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.
Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.
Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.
I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.
The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.
I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"
You've got this.
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.
Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.
Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.
I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.
The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.
I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"
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I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"
Love this Cute!!
It is a long journey but I absolutely think the best bit is being happy with you now. I have friends who have lost lots of weight and it can take a couple of years or more. Even walking to the garden gate and back is an achievement for some of them. They gradually increased this to walking to the end of the street and more.
Some people took the piss but who cares what they think..! X |
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.
Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.
Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.
I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.
The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.
I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"
That’s why I was asking because my sister deals with severe trauma counselling with victims of sexual assault where they’ve chosen to eat and put on extreme amounts of weight, she had a 19 year old girl go from 8 stone to 22 stone in a year and she didn’t want to lose weight because in her mind she was assuaged when she was thin and didn’t want to be that person. That’s all kinds of levels of barriers and things to get through but eventually she did it.
I’m not arrogant to believe that I could make a difference for you when you’ve had professional nutritionalists and medical help but if you ever wanted normal things that could help with weight loss alongside being a mother and keeping a home and stuff that doesn’t require time consuming food prep I would help if you wanted. |
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"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?
Yeah absolutely flower..
I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?
Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'
but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.
My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.
I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.
Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc
But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?
How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?
If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?
Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.
Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.
Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.
I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.
The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.
I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"
I'm happy that you're in such a good place after not being. |
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity. "
My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness. |
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I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters
Love this Cute!!
It is a long journey but I absolutely think the best bit is being happy with you now. I have friends who have lost lots of weight and it can take a couple of years or more. Even walking to the garden gate and back is an achievement for some of them. They gradually increased this to walking to the end of the street and more.
Some people took the piss but who cares what they think..! X "
Imho
That's the main thing really - health, longevity and being able to go on little walks and stuff. Which you can absolutely build upto with zero dieting. |
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.
My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness. "
Interesting you say that because the condition I have with my memory (highly superior autobiographical memory) is on the spectrum with Aspergers and I always need extra information, always feel like I need to understand motives or what people are thinking or why they do the things they do.
It does hurt when people say I’m a bully. |
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I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters
You know what - that last sentence really is all that matters
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over a year ago
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"So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.
I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it
It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..
Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.
I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA
#bekind
Cute n Sassy xXx
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Congratulations for finding acceptance. I have been much larger and much thinner. The size you are has little to do with inner confidence imo.
It’s a very liberating feeling when you accept yourself warts n all. It doesn’t mean that you stop working on bits you want to change, just don’t beat yourself up as much when you have a bad day. |
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.
My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness. "
Yes I can relate to this with my daughter. Often has no filter, but innocently. |
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.
My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness. "
This is what happens to me a fair bit. I now caveat my questions with being my curiosity and I do try and carefully ask questions and rein it in a bit. But sometimes it's tough - I was told recently that I was doing one thing when I was asking for clarification so I could understand better what the person means. It can be really hurtful.
Anyway, OP. I think it's great that you're not going to hide away; life is short and you can't just spend it locked in an ivory tower of guilt and self loathing. I've recently been trying hundreds of dresses and I've realised a lot of it is in my head and that's tiring. Time to enjoy hot girl summer and stop beating myself up about being me. |
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.
My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness.
This is what happens to me a fair bit. I now caveat my questions with being my curiosity and I do try and carefully ask questions and rein it in a bit. But sometimes it's tough - I was told recently that I was doing one thing when I was asking for clarification so I could understand better what the person means. It can be really hurtful.
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I like to know why and the reasons behind people's behaviour (as Annie mentioned above). And if it's not spelt out or ambiguous I can get trapped in overthinking (stuck between 'just ask them' and 'give them space') and 'creating' reasons.
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"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.
Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.
Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.
My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness.
Interesting you say that because the condition I have with my memory (highly superior autobiographical memory) is on the spectrum with Aspergers and I always need extra information, always feel like I need to understand motives or what people are thinking or why they do the things they do.
It does hurt when people say I’m a bully. "
Sometimes you can say mean things but on this thread you were just asking for information. We learn from finding out information. If we don't ask we can't learn new things. 
I ask questions a lot for clarification but I don't usually bother to frame them in a better way (as Meli mentioned). |
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Body positivity is a big thing and why should people have to hide away because they don’t conform to the “norm” you look great and why shouldn’t you enjoy things , just being in here you will find plenty of men and women who like a curvy woman . I’d love to chat with you but can’t message as just come over your age limit  I’m a young 47 , check my profile and we could chat and I’m not far away |
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"So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.
I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it
It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..
Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.
I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA
#bekind
Cute n Sassy xXx
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Hey , i think what you do and other BBW/SSBBW do is brilliant, be body positive, embrace it , there are plenty who like it , be great to chat to you , come and say hi |
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