FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Human sexuality - a billion wicked thoughts
Human sexuality - a billion wicked thoughts
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
Orpington |
I have started reading this book called "a billion wicked thoughts" and I am so impressed with how detailed it is about the human psyche when it comes to sex and sexuality...and more importantly the differences between the masculine and feminine sexuality. A man/male (regardless if he is straight, gay or bisexual) requires only one cue (signal) to get aroused (coming from the desired sex or gender), and in most cases it is a visual (external) cue. Comparative to women/females where they require 6 cues (internal and external) to get aroused (again, regardless if they are attracted to male or female or both). This also shows the differences in sexualising men and women by our society ...because YES, both men and women can be sexualised by the opposite sex (just in different ways), and the male vs female gaze becomes more apparent. For example the male gaze is very much apparent in most medias nowadays (such as movies, games, photography drawings, paintings), where as the female gaze is rarely seen in those mediums ... but one that it is always found in is books (specifically romance/erotic novels - because the female gaze is not just external and it is much easier to internalise with a character if it is described rather than shown). It's important to understand that those men in those novels are still sexualized, because they are described in a specific way to cater to the sexual desires of the reader (which is mostly female).
Another aspect of the book talks about the male stereotypes of those romance novels such as: Vampire/Werewolf,
Pirate/Barbarian (and more recently Viking)
Billionaire/Business owner(and with this stereotype it's always presented as having some form of wicked characteristics). Now these types are associated with "evil/bad" things (most of the time) but they are also presented with some redeeming qualities within the novel, and by the end of the story they are completely changed and turn into the perfect loving partner (with the power of love shown by the heroine - or whatever other bullshit  - "365 days" anyone? ANYONE?).
Now the book itself is not an educational book by any means, and it's not even written by a psychologist, but by two people with a background in neuroscience and who have both worked for Google (where they have collected a lot of data based on people's searches when it comes to pornography, sex or eroticism- because we all know that's all what we use the internet for ). Anyways the book itself amazed me so far and I just wanted to present my take on it (and maybe even reccomend it to other people). Sorry for the long thread, but let me know your thoughts...if you want  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
I have started reading this book called "a billion wicked thoughts" and I am so impressed with how detailed it is about the human psyche when it comes to sex and sexuality...and more importantly the differences between the masculine and feminine sexuality. A man/male (regardless if he is straight, gay or bisexual) requires only one cue (signal) to get aroused (coming from the desired sex or gender), and in most cases it is a visual (external) cue. Comparative to women/females where they require 6 cues (internal and external) to get aroused (again, regardless if they are attracted to male or female or both). This also shows the differences in sexualising men and women by our society ...because YES, both men and women can be sexualised by the opposite sex (just in different ways), and the male vs female gaze becomes more apparent. For example the male gaze is very much apparent in most medias nowadays (such as movies, games, photography drawings, paintings), where as the female gaze is rarely seen in those mediums ... but one that it is always found in is books (specifically romance/erotic novels - because the female gaze is not just external and it is much easier to internalise with a character if it is described rather than shown). It's important to understand that those men in those novels are still sexualized, because they are described in a specific way to cater to the sexual desires of the reader (which is mostly female).
Another aspect of the book talks about the male stereotypes of those romance novels such as: Vampire/Werewolf,
Pirate/Barbarian (and more recently Viking)
Billionaire/Business owner(and with this stereotype it's always presented as having some form of wicked characteristics). Now these types are associated with "evil/bad" things (most of the time) but they are also presented with some redeeming qualities within the novel, and by the end of the story they are completely changed and turn into the perfect loving partner (with the power of love shown by the heroine - or whatever other bullshit - "365 days" anyone? ANYONE?).
Now the book itself is not an educational book by any means, and it's not even written by a psychologist, but by two people with a background in neuroscience and who have both worked for Google (where they have collected a lot of data based on people's searches when it comes to pornography, sex or eroticism- because we all know that's all what we use the internet for ). Anyways the book itself amazed me so far and I just wanted to present my take on it (and maybe even reccomend it to other people). Sorry for the long thread, but let me know your thoughts...if you want "
Very interesting!
I do read on some occasions ‘romance’ books and find the rich man storyline is very popular. A man wanting control in every aspect of life but then seems to have a more vulnerable side due to some sort of trauma. Feels like the vulnerability factor is thrown in to sort of ‘excuse’ the controlling behaviour or make it seem appealing. It’s also wrote in a way that it does come across appealing in some ways, again confusing! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I have started reading this book called "a billion wicked thoughts" and I am so impressed with how detailed it is about the human psyche when it comes to sex and sexuality...and more importantly the differences between the masculine and feminine sexuality. A man/male (regardless if he is straight, gay or bisexual) requires only one cue (signal) to get aroused (coming from the desired sex or gender), and in most cases it is a visual (external) cue. Comparative to women/females where they require 6 cues (internal and external) to get aroused (again, regardless if they are attracted to male or female or both). This also shows the differences in sexualising men and women by our society ...because YES, both men and women can be sexualised by the opposite sex (just in different ways), and the male vs female gaze becomes more apparent. For example the male gaze is very much apparent in most medias nowadays (such as movies, games, photography drawings, paintings), where as the female gaze is rarely seen in those mediums ... but one that it is always found in is books (specifically romance/erotic novels - because the female gaze is not just external and it is much easier to internalise with a character if it is described rather than shown). It's important to understand that those men in those novels are still sexualized, because they are described in a specific way to cater to the sexual desires of the reader (which is mostly female).
Another aspect of the book talks about the male stereotypes of those romance novels such as: Vampire/Werewolf,
Pirate/Barbarian (and more recently Viking)
Billionaire/Business owner(and with this stereotype it's always presented as having some form of wicked characteristics). Now these types are associated with "evil/bad" things (most of the time) but they are also presented with some redeeming qualities within the novel, and by the end of the story they are completely changed and turn into the perfect loving partner (with the power of love shown by the heroine - or whatever other bullshit - "365 days" anyone? ANYONE?).
Now the book itself is not an educational book by any means, and it's not even written by a psychologist, but by two people with a background in neuroscience and who have both worked for Google (where they have collected a lot of data based on people's searches when it comes to pornography, sex or eroticism- because we all know that's all what we use the internet for ). Anyways the book itself amazed me so far and I just wanted to present my take on it (and maybe even reccomend it to other people). Sorry for the long thread, but let me know your thoughts...if you want "
Condense this into..
Most men already know this... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Have to admit I found 50 Shades unutterably boring because of that.
Rich troubled disturbed man is such a stupid trope. If the man's in control of his business he shouldn't be led by his cock and miserable ego. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
