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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I doubt you'll find anyone who actually prefers sex with a condom over bareback, but the reality is that the swinging lifestyle increases the risk of picking up a STD and so many of us take the responsible approach to protect ourselves and others.
But then you're only 22 and are of an age where you feel you are completely invincible. We've all been there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong"
I don’t want to state the obvious… but it’s not just about your comfort, there are other issues at play no matter how ‘strong your pull out’  |
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In an ideal world bareback of course. But with anyone I'd meet on fab which the chance of an STI, unwanted pregnancies etc etc condom all the way. If they are tight you may want to look into different sizes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Due to Covid I've opted for the xxxxxl size that you can fit your whole body in. Totally safe, lots of room to manoeuvre and if the meet is going a bit shit you only have to endure it for 5 minutes before you pass out due to lack of oxygen. |
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong"
Believe me av seen men 9” pmus and pretty girthy wear them!! So size isn’t an excuse am afraid  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always ask my partners before hand a multitude of questions.. if I think theu're lying I won't indulge
What question??"
"Can I shag you without a johnny?"  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I would think that’s most people’s preference in an ideal world. "
I agree with this to be honest, if there were no need for them I doubt anyone would say "I really enjoy the condom feeling we should always use one!" because it just feels better without.
That said! Doesn't matter how good it feels, they are needed for good reasons and that always tops a good feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong"
You do realise that semen can leak out during sex.... |
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"I always ask my partners before hand a multitude of questions.. if I think theu're lying I won't indulge"
That's all well and good, and she maybe telling the truth best to her knowledge. Even with regular testing there are still risks that things go undetected as they haven't had the disease long enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that"
UTIs?! That would be the least of your problems! All the best… I don’t know what else to say!  |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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"I always ask my partners before hand a multitude of questions.. if I think theu're lying I won't indulge
Erm… and that’s the test? Sounds fool proof  "
Good thing that nobody ever lies... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always ask my partners before hand a multitude of questions.. if I think theu're lying I won't indulge
What question??
"Can I shag you without a johnny?" "
haha!! Made me chuckle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bareback, as we all know, is far superior ... the sex is so much better. Of this there is no doubt.
But swinging and fucking strangers off t’internet? Gloved up for me, every time! |
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong
What's a "pull out"?"
Pulling out before one cums I imagine. Totally safe. No risk at all there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong
What's a "pull out"?"
Withdrawal method
As he’s about to shoot his muck, pull out and give the carpet a soaking |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Bareback, as we all know, is far superior ... the sex is so much better. Of this there is no doubt.
But swinging and fucking strangers off t’internet? Gloved up for me, every time!"
What Willy said..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong
What's a "pull out"?
Pulling out before one cums I imagine. Totally safe. No risk at all there "
Indeed. No man has ever dribbled some spodge before reaching the grand finale, so he's entirely fine in that regard. |
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I was faithful for 11 years.
My ex swore blind he didn't cheat, will still maintain it to this day, yet somehow I managed to get chlamydia.
People lie to those they supposedly love so they'll sure as shit lie to someone they'll probably never see again
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong
What's a "pull out"?
Pulling out before one cums I imagine. Totally safe. No risk at all there "
Definitely no babies in 9 months then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Come on, give the guy a break. He asks questions
‘A/s/l?’
‘Do you mind if I wipe my knob on the curtains (non beef variety) afterwards?’
‘Do you know the way to San Jose?’
‘Is your foof crawling with crabs?’
He’s a good guy  |
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"My preference is bareback.. there is nothing else like it. Condoms feel too tight and weird. "
Oh dear - 
Never mind being 22 - You might not make it to 32 with that train of thought - unless you're committing yourself sexually to one person of course - but then I doubt you are or why be here.
Why risk your health & that of anyone else you want to meet?
Honestly it's really not worth it - a little bit of discomfort now may save you a life of it later
Keep safe young man
L x
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that
You can’t catch a UTI
I think there’s some confusion between UTIs and STIs perhaps! "
Definitely a risk of UTI's - more for women - with increased sexual activity although are not transmitted by sexual activity. |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that
You can’t catch a UTI
I think there’s some confusion between UTIs and STIs perhaps!
Definitely a risk of UTI's - more for women - with increased sexual activity although are not transmitted by sexual activity. "
To add to that, UTIs can occur after unprotected anal sex. It's the bacteria in the arse that can cause it you see |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Safety first however upon becoming regular with STI test negative then the rubber can collect dust 
And no chance of unwanted children due to disconnection many years ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that"
. I really worry about sex education in schools these days… and even more glad I don’t have a daughter.
HSV
Genital warts
Chlamydia
Gonorrhoea
Trichomoniasis
HPV
HIV
Syphillis
Hepatitis
Lice
Scabies
To name a few….
You think a few questions could give you the answer to someone carrying those? Especially when early on a lot or those don’t show symptoms and not all are curable. UTIs are not something you catch. You catch STIs
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that
You can’t catch a UTI
I think there’s some confusion between UTIs and STIs perhaps!
Definitely a risk of UTI's - more for women - with increased sexual activity although are not transmitted by sexual activity.
To add to that, UTIs can occur after unprotected anal sex. It's the bacteria in the arse that can cause it you see"
They can occur but they can’t be ‘caught’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that
You can’t catch a UTI
I think there’s some confusion between UTIs and STIs perhaps! "
This actually concerns me about the standard of sex education in our schools |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that
You can’t catch a UTI
I think there’s some confusion between UTIs and STIs perhaps!
This actually concerns me about the standard of sex education in our schools"
The standard of education overall has dropped massively in recent years, not just sex ed. I don't want to get all political but they've really ballsed it up by allowing ideologists to run education from Government. |
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"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong"
wow did they not do sex education at school with you.. its not about if you can pull out. If you wear one regularly it will feel more normal. Often suggested is to find one that fits well and self pleasure.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Condoms are a bit rubbish really if you are just considering the pleasure aspect of things. Although as a treat whilst in a relationship we would use them to have some 'clean' sex. Always a novelty with no mess left behind, although it leaves me a little bereft as I like messy. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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No bareback for me not even with a regular friend that is trusted. That regular friend may also have a trusted friend - and so it goes on.
Take full responsibility for your own sexual health, you can’t trust other people with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was faithful for 11 years.
My ex swore blind he didn't cheat, will still maintain it to this day, yet somehow I managed to get chlamydia.
People lie to those they supposedly love so they'll sure as shit lie to someone they'll probably never see again
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Same happened to me. My ex husband swore blind he was faithful and I only found out I had chlamydia when I was in process of being diagnosed with endometriosis. It can take up to three months for some STIs to show up on a test so it’s best to be safe. |
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"No bareback for me not even with a regular friend that is trusted. That regular friend may also have a trusted friend - and so it goes on.
Take full responsibility for your own sexual health, you can’t trust other people with it. "
Exactly this. I’m afraid I wouldn’t trust anyone that much, no matter how regular and close we were. |
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"I was faithful for 11 years.
My ex swore blind he didn't cheat, will still maintain it to this day, yet somehow I managed to get chlamydia.
People lie to those they supposedly love so they'll sure as shit lie to someone they'll probably never see again
Same happened to me. My ex husband swore blind he was faithful and I only found out I had chlamydia when I was in process of being diagnosed with endometriosis. It can take up to three months for some STIs to show up on a test so it’s best to be safe. "
And Chlamydia is very often symptomless but doing unseen damage, so no amount of questioning from the OP would uncover such things
No glove, no love. |
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"And you OP are the reason why my son’s have to endure regular sex-ed chats with me!!! And I go in to a lot of detail.
I think you need to grow up & stop taking women at face value.
J - you don’t even get the little kiss because I think you’re daft "
My son had only one from me then promptly announced he was asexual! |
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Sti's
Unwanted pregnancy and having to have terminations (and the trauma that can go with such experiences)
Women having to take all the responsibility for birth control
Birth control sometimes messing with women's mood and causing other health problems
Female swinging partners, it's ok though he prefers the feeling without and his pullout is strong.
Ever heard of 'pre ejaculate'? You can be slowly releasing clear ejaculate during intercourse without realising it which can contain sperm in some circumstances.
Also try Trojans. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My preference is bareback.. there is nothing else like it. Condoms feel too tight and weird. "
Of course feeling wise bareback is the best x feels natural x but still need to be safe x luckily prep helps ha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that
. I really worry about sex education in schools these days… and even more glad I don’t have a daughter.
HSV
Genital warts
Chlamydia
Gonorrhoea
Trichomoniasis
HPV
HIV
Syphillis
Hepatitis
Lice
Scabies
To name a few….
You think a few questions could give you the answer to someone carrying those? Especially when early on a lot or those don’t show symptoms and not all are curable. UTIs are not something you catch. You catch STIs
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Maybe the OP was ill and missed his schools Sex Education Lessons?
KJ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only asked a preference and here I am getting dragged lol."
Bareback vs safer sex is a very divisive topic on here OP. Search for previous bareback threads on forum and you will understand. Some even use it as a filter and block people over the topic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These threads are usually a great way of finding out those who will readily glove up and those who will try and persuade a meet to go bare.
You thought you were struggling on here before OP, you've probably managed to get yourself on a few block lists now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely suit up I can never understand ppl that make out like it's the end of the world if they are asked to use a condom as the is a lot more to the act than the feel of a naked willy |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"If she'll shag you without a johnny, she'll shag anyone.
So stick a condom on it and don't risk dickrot."
He could be the one spreading dickrot diseases around.
Women have to catch it from someone. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"No bareback for me not even with a regular friend that is trusted. That regular friend may also have a trusted friend - and so it goes on.
Take full responsibility for your own sexual health, you can’t trust other people with it.
Exactly this. I’m afraid I wouldn’t trust anyone that much, no matter how regular and close we were. "
Same here Nora |
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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago
stourbridge |
"This new Noel Edmonds quiz show is a bit shit"
I've seen that game what happens is you fuck the box then open it to find out what STI you have got or if you have got the box pregnant. |
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By *edheadjMan
over a year ago
High Wycombe |
"I've tried multiple brands and they just don't feel comfortable, anyways I prefer sex with no condom, my pull out is strong
What's a "pull out"?"
Isn't it those posters you used to get in the middle of magazines back in the day?
Finding a proper sized condom is key. There's a great site called TheFit, that has over 60 different sizes. You enter your measurements (truthfully!) and they'll match you too the correct size. Game changer |
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"I doubt you'll find anyone who actually prefers sex with a condom over bareback, but the reality is that the swinging lifestyle increases the risk of picking up a STD and so many of us take the responsible approach to protect ourselves and others.
But then you're only 22 and are of an age where you feel you are completely invincible. We've all been there."
I do honestly prefer sex with a guy using a condom, so you've found one |
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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago
stourbridge |
"Maybe try a different brand and size that fits properly? "
His cock is so fat I think he should use a binbag, either that or he could paint one on and hope his partner doesn't notice. |
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"Last time they had sex, anything weird, UTIs stuff like that"
And this is why some women think us men are wierd OP………..
UTIs have very little to do with STDs or STIs…….
Plz plz plz don’t think they do lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As stated earlier, condoms do take away some of the sensation for everyone. But then again I've heard gonorrhea does the same.. if your just meeting people for nsa, then really should wear one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Condoms for randoms, no condoms for trusted friends
Do you really trust someone that much though? What about the trusted friends of their trusted friends and so on and so on……. ?"
Very good question. Surely it’s even more risky when one is attached and may still be having sex at home to then have unprotected sex with “trusted friends”. |
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"Condoms for randoms, no condoms for trusted friends
Do you really trust someone that much though? What about the trusted friends of their trusted friends and so on and so on……. ?
Very good question. Surely it’s even more risky when one is attached and may still be having sex at home to then have unprotected sex with “trusted friends”. "
I take my health, and the health of my friends seriously, and becoming 'trusted' isn't an overnight thing |
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"Condoms for randoms, no condoms for trusted friends
Do you really trust someone that much though? What about the trusted friends of their trusted friends and so on and so on……. ?
Very good question. Surely it’s even more risky when one is attached and may still be having sex at home to then have unprotected sex with “trusted friends”.
I take my health, and the health of my friends seriously, and becoming 'trusted' isn't an overnight thing "
I was wondering the relevance of that comment in reply to mine but then clicked it was in obviously aimed at you! x |
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"Condoms for randoms, no condoms for trusted friends
Do you really trust someone that much though? What about the trusted friends of their trusted friends and so on and so on……. ?
Very good question. Surely it’s even more risky when one is attached and may still be having sex at home to then have unprotected sex with “trusted friends”.
I take my health, and the health of my friends seriously, and becoming 'trusted' isn't an overnight thing
I was wondering the relevance of that comment in reply to mine but then clicked it was in obviously aimed at you! x "
It's all good Nora 
Well, apart from me, obviously  x |
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I think everybody's preference is bareback. I doubt anybody would say a condom enhances the experience, although it makes no difference to some.
However, I reckon quite a lot of people also have a preference for staying healthy and not pregnant, and those things top the bareback preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Condoms for randoms, no condoms for trusted friends
Do you really trust someone that much though? What about the trusted friends of their trusted friends and so on and so on……. ?
Very good question. Surely it’s even more risky when one is attached and may still be having sex at home to then have unprotected sex with “trusted friends”.
I take my health, and the health of my friends seriously, and becoming 'trusted' isn't an overnight thing "
That’s all well and good, I just wonder how does one know what the other “trusted friend” is doing when they’re not around.
It can’t be 100% foolproof. |
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"Condoms for randoms, no condoms for trusted friends
Do you really trust someone that much though? What about the trusted friends of their trusted friends and so on and so on……. ?
Very good question. Surely it’s even more risky when one is attached and may still be having sex at home to then have unprotected sex with “trusted friends”.
I take my health, and the health of my friends seriously, and becoming 'trusted' isn't an overnight thing
That’s all well and good, I just wonder how does one know what the other “trusted friend” is doing when they’re not around.
It can’t be 100% foolproof. "
Hence the use of the term 'trusted' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If she'll shag you without a johnny, she'll shag anyone.
So stick a condom on it and don't risk dickrot.
He could be the one spreading dickrot diseases around.
Women have to catch it from someone. "
Wouldn't surprise me in the slightest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Condoms for randoms, no condoms for trusted friends
Do you really trust someone that much though? What about the trusted friends of their trusted friends and so on and so on……. ?
Very good question. Surely it’s even more risky when one is attached and may still be having sex at home to then have unprotected sex with “trusted friends”.
I take my health, and the health of my friends seriously, and becoming 'trusted' isn't an overnight thing
That’s all well and good, I just wonder how does one know what the other “trusted friend” is doing when they’re not around.
It can’t be 100% foolproof.
Hence the use of the term 'trusted' "
This isn’t a dig at you, I’ve seen people say similar before, and as you said it here I replied.
There’s always going to be a risk whether it be trusted friend or not, trust goes so far.
Of course you choose the element of risk you want to take that’s everyone’s right regardless. |
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"My preference is bareback.. there is nothing else like it. Condoms feel too tight and weird. "
That's always preferable - BUT - safe sex to safeguard my health always unless in a committed relationship. |
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