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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
If you’re struggling or having a hard time, remember that you’re not on your own, there are people on here who know what you’re going through and are willing to give you time and support.
Reach out, don’t suffer in silence, talk to your GP, call your local crisis centre or one of the many free support services.
It was a few years ago that I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression, I realised that I was at crisis point and felt completely alien to myself, cut off from others, hopeless and out of control of even the small things in my life.
Not every day is easy, I have good days and bad but I’ve learnt how to manage it and life is much better.
No matter how bad you feel or how low you are, there are ways forwards.
With all of the uncertainty at the moment it feels as though we’re dancing on shifting sands and mental health is essential.
Let’s look out for each other |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Great Post op.
I'm currently of work due to my depression.
Reading the forums often makes me smile
Positivity from posters helps me get through the day x
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I’m sorry to read that.
This place can be a respite and release.
Do you have the support that you need? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Great post OP, it's so important that we all keep talking about it.
I have my good days and bad ones but there is always hope if you ask for help. If you get through the darkest days, you are already stronger than you think you are.
Hope everyone is doing okay  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Great post OP, it's so important that we all keep talking about it.
I have my good days and bad ones but there is always hope if you ask for help. If you get through the darkest days, you are already stronger than you think you are.
Hope everyone is doing okay "
Well said.
On the hardest days, I just break things down into baby steps and celebrate the small victories. I find that it helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great post OP, it's so important that we all keep talking about it.
I have my good days and bad ones but there is always hope if you ask for help. If you get through the darkest days, you are already stronger than you think you are.
Hope everyone is doing okay
Well said.
On the hardest days, I just break things down into baby steps and celebrate the small victories. I find that it helps"
I do this too. Acceptance helps a lot for me, instead of fighting the bad days I just accept them and allow myself to be what I need to for a little bit. It will always be a part of me but once you recognise the triggers, it's easily managed.
And well done for talking about it, hope your okay. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Great Post op.
I'm currently of work due to my depression.
Reading the forums often makes me smile
Positivity from posters helps me get through the day x
I’m sorry to read that.
This place can be a respite and release.
Do you have the support that you need? "
Yes thank you.
Im on anti depressants and just being off work is helping. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Great post OP, it's so important that we all keep talking about it.
I have my good days and bad ones but there is always hope if you ask for help. If you get through the darkest days, you are already stronger than you think you are.
Hope everyone is doing okay
Well said.
On the hardest days, I just break things down into baby steps and celebrate the small victories. I find that it helps
I do this too. Acceptance helps a lot for me, instead of fighting the bad days I just accept them and allow myself to be what I need to for a little bit. It will always be a part of me but once you recognise the triggers, it's easily managed.
And well done for talking about it, hope your okay."
That’s very true as well. An awful lot of the time it’s pressure that we put on ourselves to be a certain way is half of the fight. Feeling how you feel and dropping expectations can be hugely helpful.
I’m doing okay, I hope that you are as well? |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Great Post op.
I'm currently of work due to my depression.
Reading the forums often makes me smile
Positivity from posters helps me get through the day x
I’m sorry to read that.
This place can be a respite and release.
Do you have the support that you need?
Yes thank you.
Im on anti depressants and just being off work is helping. "
That’s good.
It’s much the same as I just posted; taking the pressure off can be incredibly helpful.
I hope that it’s an upward curve from here |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I openly tell people I have support from my local mental health team. We all will at sometime in life suffer with a period of poor mental health. "
That’s very true.
De stigmatising it and talking openly about it is helpful for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great post OP, it's so important that we all keep talking about it.
I have my good days and bad ones but there is always hope if you ask for help. If you get through the darkest days, you are already stronger than you think you are.
Hope everyone is doing okay
Well said.
On the hardest days, I just break things down into baby steps and celebrate the small victories. I find that it helps
I do this too. Acceptance helps a lot for me, instead of fighting the bad days I just accept them and allow myself to be what I need to for a little bit. It will always be a part of me but once you recognise the triggers, it's easily managed.
And well done for talking about it, hope your okay.
That’s very true as well. An awful lot of the time it’s pressure that we put on ourselves to be a certain way is half of the fight. Feeling how you feel and dropping expectations can be hugely helpful.
I’m doing okay, I hope that you are as well? "
Very true, we all have our struggles, it's just finding the best way to deal with them for us. Glad to hear it, yeah I'm fine thank you. |
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Anyone who's struggling - if you haven't, list your coping mechanisms. What helps you feel good, what helps you climb out of a hole, how do you tackle your issues?
Having go to lists will help you cope better. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Anyone who's struggling - if you haven't, list your coping mechanisms. What helps you feel good, what helps you climb out of a hole, how do you tackle your issues?
Having go to lists will help you cope better."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Suffered in the past, still do now and then.
My son does too. He's just had a baby and isn't coping. I got a message last night from his mum about it. I've blown a new job out today to go visit later. Stuff the mileage and time to get there. Family first.
I'd like to do an online course about it, but no idea which one to do. Have to be free, but I want to help. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Suffered in the past, still do now and then.
My son does too. He's just had a baby and isn't coping. I got a message last night from his mum about it. I've blown a new job out today to go visit later. Stuff the mileage and time to get there. Family first.
I'd like to do an online course about it, but no idea which one to do. Have to be free, but I want to help. "
Support your son and help where you can, just be careful with yourself and your situation as well. If you speak to your job about having a family emergency, hopefully they will understand.
I hope that you can give your son the help that he needs.
If you search for online courses and the specifics of what you want to learn, then that’s a good starting point |
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"I’m starting to feel like I’ve got past the worst. But dealing with my youngest son at the moment is causing my stress level to rise. X  "
Angie, we’re having issues with my eldest. Probably on a totally different scale to yours but it’s really upsetting me. Blood pressure is up & have that horrible knot at the top of my stomach.
J x |
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"I’m starting to feel like I’ve got past the worst. But dealing with my youngest son at the moment is causing my stress level to rise. X
Angie, we’re having issues with my eldest. Probably on a totally different scale to yours but it’s really upsetting me. Blood pressure is up & have that horrible knot at the top of my stomach.
J x"
I have experience parenting a child with mental health issues so feel free to reach out to me in pms. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I’m starting to feel like I’ve got past the worst. But dealing with my youngest son at the moment is causing my stress level to rise. X "
I’m sorry to read that. It’s great that you’re feeling past the worst, try to hold onto that feeling and what got you there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m starting to feel like I’ve got past the worst. But dealing with my youngest son at the moment is causing my stress level to rise. X
Angie, we’re having issues with my eldest. Probably on a totally different scale to yours but it’s really upsetting me. Blood pressure is up & have that horrible knot at the top of my stomach.
J x"
It’s never easy, trying to reach a compromise but I’m the one who’s ultimately got to sort it out. Big hugs, and don’t forget to take some time for yourself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d also recommend finding a good private counsellor because I’m still waiting on a referral from 2019! I’ve been having counselling privately since February. Best thing I ever did. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I’d also recommend finding a good private counsellor because I’m still waiting on a referral from 2019! I’ve been having counselling privately since February. Best thing I ever did. "
I’m glad that it’s working for you.
CBT’s can be great but they don’t work for everyone, it’s a case of finding the right fit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Curious about whether those who are struggling know about the benefit of taking probiotics?
Interesting, what are the benefits in relevance to mental health? "
There are huge benefits. Research has shown that an unhealthy gut can directly affect your mental health.
Although it’s only one aspect, a healthy diet and helping your gut to be healthy and happy can have a very positive impact on your brain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I class myself as a MH survivor...suffered with depression but got help from a Military Charity...never in myself. Gave me the tools needed.
Been depression free for 4 years now. Talking, fitness and looking after myself worked for me.
Running Brighton Marathon for MIND in Sept...
In your darkest days keep smiling...
My Black Dog now walks behind me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Great post my man
Having known hospitalisation following a panic attact, born of bottling up a number of stresses, worries and troubles, I can first hand say how NOT talking to someone can have disaterous consequences. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I class myself as a MH survivor...suffered with depression but got help from a Military Charity...never in myself. Gave me the tools needed.
Been depression free for 4 years now. Talking, fitness and looking after myself worked for me.
Running Brighton Marathon for MIND in Sept...
In your darkest days keep smiling...
My Black Dog now walks behind me "
Congratulations and good luck for September! |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Great post, it's nice to know there are people out there who care, I think we all struggle from time to time.
Take care all"
There are. Lots of people on the forums understand the topic and have experiences |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Great post my man
Having known hospitalisation following a panic attact, born of bottling up a number of stresses, worries and troubles, I can first hand say how NOT talking to someone can have disaterous consequences."
It can. Talking doesn’t always work for everyone but it’s definitely the best route for the vast majority |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Curious about whether those who are struggling know about the benefit of taking probiotics?
Interesting, what are the benefits in relevance to mental health?
There are huge benefits. Research has shown that an unhealthy gut can directly affect your mental health.
Although it’s only one aspect, a healthy diet and helping your gut to be healthy and happy can have a very positive impact on your brain. "
This is interesting. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Curious about whether those who are struggling know about the benefit of taking probiotics?
Interesting, what are the benefits in relevance to mental health?
There are huge benefits. Research has shown that an unhealthy gut can directly affect your mental health.
Although it’s only one aspect, a healthy diet and helping your gut to be healthy and happy can have a very positive impact on your brain.
This is interesting. "
I think so too.
I made huge positive changes in my life when I took more active control of my physical health and diet. I’d made the connection between exercise and mood but not diet |
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"If you’re struggling or having a hard time, remember that you’re not on your own, there are people on here who know what you’re going through and are willing to give you time and support.
Reach out, don’t suffer in silence, talk to your GP, call your local crisis centre or one of the many free support services.
It was a few years ago that I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression, I realised that I was at crisis point and felt completely alien to myself, cut off from others, hopeless and out of control of even the small things in my life.
Not every day is easy, I have good days and bad but I’ve learnt how to manage it and life is much better.
No matter how bad you feel or how low you are, there are ways forwards.
With all of the uncertainty at the moment it feels as though we’re dancing on shifting sands and mental health is essential.
Let’s look out for each other"
So nice to see people being supportive to those in the community who are open about mental health issues and not just shouting at them to get help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Curious about whether those who are struggling know about the benefit of taking probiotics?
Interesting, what are the benefits in relevance to mental health?
There are huge benefits. Research has shown that an unhealthy gut can directly affect your mental health.
Although it’s only one aspect, a healthy diet and helping your gut to be healthy and happy can have a very positive impact on your brain.
This is interesting.
I think so too.
I made huge positive changes in my life when I took more active control of my physical health and diet. I’d made the connection between exercise and mood but not diet"
How soon did you see an improvement? Days... weeks...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’d also recommend finding a good private counsellor because I’m still waiting on a referral from 2019! I’ve been having counselling privately since February. Best thing I ever did. "
+1
I did so a few years back and it was a massive help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious about whether those who are struggling know about the benefit of taking probiotics?
Interesting, what are the benefits in relevance to mental health?
There are huge benefits. Research has shown that an unhealthy gut can directly affect your mental health.
Although it’s only one aspect, a healthy diet and helping your gut to be healthy and happy can have a very positive impact on your brain.
This is interesting.
I think so too.
I made huge positive changes in my life when I took more active control of my physical health and diet. I’d made the connection between exercise and mood but not diet
How soon did you see an improvement? Days... weeks...? "
Apologies, this sounds really grumpy but I don't mean it that way.  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Curious about whether those who are struggling know about the benefit of taking probiotics?
Interesting, what are the benefits in relevance to mental health?
There are huge benefits. Research has shown that an unhealthy gut can directly affect your mental health.
Although it’s only one aspect, a healthy diet and helping your gut to be healthy and happy can have a very positive impact on your brain.
This is interesting.
I think so too.
I made huge positive changes in my life when I took more active control of my physical health and diet. I’d made the connection between exercise and mood but not diet
How soon did you see an improvement? Days... weeks...? "
Definitely weeks, possibly a couple of months.
It was a long process, like waking from a deep sleep.
It was me getting out of an abusive marriage, so there were a lot of factors involved and a lot of personal realisations. Feeling healthier was a part of that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you google gut health related to mental health, you’ll get loads of info.
Don’t be tempted with those rubbish yakults though.
You need a LOT of bacteria, I take a capsule that contains 50 billion bacteria per day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Curious about whether those who are struggling know about the benefit of taking probiotics?
Interesting, what are the benefits in relevance to mental health?
There are huge benefits. Research has shown that an unhealthy gut can directly affect your mental health.
Although it’s only one aspect, a healthy diet and helping your gut to be healthy and happy can have a very positive impact on your brain.
This is interesting.
I think so too.
I made huge positive changes in my life when I took more active control of my physical health and diet. I’d made the connection between exercise and mood but not diet
How soon did you see an improvement? Days... weeks...?
Definitely weeks, possibly a couple of months.
It was a long process, like waking from a deep sleep.
It was me getting out of an abusive marriage, so there were a lot of factors involved and a lot of personal realisations. Feeling healthier was a part of that"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you google gut health related to mental health, you’ll get loads of info.
Don’t be tempted with those rubbish yakults though.
You need a LOT of bacteria, I take a capsule that contains 50 billion bacteria per day. "
The thought makes me hurl. Reminds me of mouldy milk.  
I'll look it up thank you.  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If you google gut health related to mental health, you’ll get loads of info.
Don’t be tempted with those rubbish yakults though.
You need a LOT of bacteria, I take a capsule that contains 50 billion bacteria per day. "
Thanks for this, really interesting stuff!
See folks; pooping helps!  |
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"I class myself as a MH survivor...suffered with depression but got help from a Military Charity...never in myself. Gave me the tools needed.
Been depression free for 4 years now. Talking, fitness and looking after myself worked for me.
Running Brighton Marathon for MIND in Sept...
In your darkest days keep smiling...
My Black Dog now walks behind me "
That's terrific news. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Been able to exercise and see people again has made a huge difference.
There better not be another lockdown in the winter."
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. If there is, how can you mitigate those effects?
This is how I’ve been thinking recently |
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I have struggled with my mental health for years. I have very serious issues, including complex ptsd, ocd, psychosis and disassociation.
Tried everything, but nothing helps. No professional support available for free or low cost in my area, and I am on disability so can't afford to pay to see anyone.
At the moment, I am relying very heavily on family members to support me because that's all I have. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have struggled with my mental health for years. I have very serious issues, including complex ptsd, ocd, psychosis and disassociation.
Tried everything, but nothing helps. No professional support available for free or low cost in my area, and I am on disability so can't afford to pay to see anyone.
At the moment, I am relying very heavily on family members to support me because that's all I have. "
I’m sorry to hear that. Is there no NHS support with your diagnosis? |
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"I have struggled with my mental health for years. I have very serious issues, including complex ptsd, ocd, psychosis and disassociation.
Tried everything, but nothing helps. No professional support available for free or low cost in my area, and I am on disability so can't afford to pay to see anyone.
At the moment, I am relying very heavily on family members to support me because that's all I have.
I’m sorry to hear that. Is there no NHS support with your diagnosis? "
No, nothing. They won't even let me see a psychiatrist once in a while, which is absolutely disgusting IMO. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have struggled with my mental health for years. I have very serious issues, including complex ptsd, ocd, psychosis and disassociation.
Tried everything, but nothing helps. No professional support available for free or low cost in my area, and I am on disability so can't afford to pay to see anyone.
At the moment, I am relying very heavily on family members to support me because that's all I have.
I’m sorry to hear that. Is there no NHS support with your diagnosis?
No, nothing. They won't even let me see a psychiatrist once in a while, which is absolutely disgusting IMO."
It absolutely is, especially with your diagnosis. I know that many areas have limited services and waiting times can be long but that’s ridiculous |
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"If you google gut health related to mental health, you’ll get loads of info.
Don’t be tempted with those rubbish yakults though.
You need a LOT of bacteria, I take a capsule that contains 50 billion bacteria per day.
The thought makes me hurl. Reminds me of mouldy milk.
I'll look it up thank you. "
You’re welcome, hope it helps |
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"I have struggled with my mental health for years. I have very serious issues, including complex ptsd, ocd, psychosis and disassociation.
Tried everything, but nothing helps. No professional support available for free or low cost in my area, and I am on disability so can't afford to pay to see anyone.
At the moment, I am relying very heavily on family members to support me because that's all I have.
I’m sorry to hear that. Is there no NHS support with your diagnosis?
No, nothing. They won't even let me see a psychiatrist once in a while, which is absolutely disgusting IMO.
It absolutely is, especially with your diagnosis. I know that many areas have limited services and waiting times can be long but that’s ridiculous"
I know. I seriously think of just giving up completely because there seems to be no way out. Recently my psychotic episodes have been bad again and I am just very emotionally drained from having to deal with it all the time. I want it to end. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have struggled with my mental health for years. I have very serious issues, including complex ptsd, ocd, psychosis and disassociation.
Tried everything, but nothing helps. No professional support available for free or low cost in my area, and I am on disability so can't afford to pay to see anyone.
At the moment, I am relying very heavily on family members to support me because that's all I have.
I’m sorry to hear that. Is there no NHS support with your diagnosis?
No, nothing. They won't even let me see a psychiatrist once in a while, which is absolutely disgusting IMO.
It absolutely is, especially with your diagnosis. I know that many areas have limited services and waiting times can be long but that’s ridiculous
I know. I seriously think of just giving up completely because there seems to be no way out. Recently my psychotic episodes have been bad again and I am just very emotionally drained from having to deal with it all the time. I want it to end. "
That’s horrible and I absolutely understand you feeling that way.
I don’t know what to recommend in your situation or how to offer support. I don’t want to offer vague platitudes as that can be more harmful than ignorance.
As random as it may seem. Have you tried contacting private services to see if they can take you on under referral?
Have you contacted your MP to ask for support or help in bringing your situation to light? |
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"I have struggled with my mental health for years. I have very serious issues, including complex ptsd, ocd, psychosis and disassociation.
Tried everything, but nothing helps. No professional support available for free or low cost in my area, and I am on disability so can't afford to pay to see anyone.
At the moment, I am relying very heavily on family members to support me because that's all I have.
I’m sorry to hear that. Is there no NHS support with your diagnosis?
No, nothing. They won't even let me see a psychiatrist once in a while, which is absolutely disgusting IMO.
It absolutely is, especially with your diagnosis. I know that many areas have limited services and waiting times can be long but that’s ridiculous
I know. I seriously think of just giving up completely because there seems to be no way out. Recently my psychotic episodes have been bad again and I am just very emotionally drained from having to deal with it all the time. I want it to end. "
I’m so sorry this is happening . I really hope you get the help and support you need. |
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