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Do friend requests with no message always annoy you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

We like clubs - sometimes things start from a flirty look right? … could a friend request like that ever be just like a flirt? … like look at ussss we’ll even show you our more racy pics as a way of starting a possible chat

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just sent you one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I usually add people as a friend so they can see my photos instead of sending it in a message I prefer it that way

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By *oxyvixen99Woman over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I just leave them sitting

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By *andycandy88Woman over a year ago

Northolt

Hi OP

friend requests do annoy me alot and its gets a person blocked for sending me one xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I usually add people as a friend so they can see my photos instead of sending it in a message I prefer it that way"

Do you message them first or just send a request?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

Nah. I just wait till they go offline. Accept it. Look at their pics and unfriend them before they come back online.

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

I don’t look at friends requests unless I’m expecting one so no it doesn’t annoy me .

I just leave them there

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

I get a lot of men sending friend requests.

Can’t imagine how bad it is for you!!!

On a seperate note, sent you a friends request

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We use it as yet another filter of who to avoid all contact with.

It's clear on our profile,if they chose to ignore it,we will certainly ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn’t annoy me I just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just sent you one

Yeh … but you openly admit that you’re a weirdo soooooo

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I usually add people as a friend so they can see my photos instead of sending it in a message I prefer it that way"

With no initial contact or wink even? x

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

Nah. I just wait till they go offline. Accept it. Look at their pics and unfriend them before they come back online.

That's the way to do it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just a way to get into your private albums, that's how I see it anyway. Unless you've got something going with someone, I don't see why you would have them as a friend on here.

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By *irty desireWoman over a year ago

newcatle

Ignore and let them just sit there! Screams pic collector too me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just sent you one

Yeh … but you openly admit that you’re a weirdo soooooo

"
normal weirdo

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By *randmrsrusCouple over a year ago

legbourne

Random friends requests really irritate me. It is mostly single men that send them without ever having spoken. Why? To get access to pics they otherwise wouldn't see to have a quick perve at and probably never even message afterwards. Our friends pics are for exactly that...friends... who we know and have some sort of relationship with. Winks kinda have the same effect on us too....just a lazy way of trying to contact someone. Rant over. Have a great day in the sun everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get a few to be honest. Normally from people who just want me to fab their pics and have no interest in ever talking.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I usually reply with a sarcastic response saying why would I accept a random request with someone who can't be arsed to chat. Then I block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never look at my friends request list. I only add people i may meet or have met.

Then il send the request. If they have already requested me then it’s instantly accepted. If not then they can accept

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

I just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

Nah. I just wait till they go offline. Accept it. Look at their pics and unfriend them before they come back online.

I’ve done that a little after seeing another suggest it

But I’ve also wondered … if there’s actual face pics in there … is it a way of saying hello rather than rude xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t look at friends requests unless I’m expecting one so no it doesn’t annoy me .

I just leave them there

That’s the thing - someone I was chatting to said I’ll send you a request now … when I looked there was loads in there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t even look at them or in less I am expecting one ie we meet and talked about it or talked about it in a message two seconds and I look and count 110 lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I get a lot of men sending friend requests.

Can’t imagine how bad it is for you!!!

On a seperate note, sent you a friends request

They’re hoping to see your sausage most likely

I know … tempted to do the midnight peep

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By *ancer36Woman over a year ago

Stirling

Don’t look at them X

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve never accepted a friend request without chatting at least a bit.

I’ve got face pics on there, I don’t want randomers knowing what I look like unless I actively agree with them seeing me

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By *SCouple81Couple over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

We are just simply ignoring them. Don't mind winks as they could be a good start

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’m always suspicious of them for some reason.

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

As I have said before if they have no photos will instantly delete. If they don't will wait until they are off line accept friends request look at their friends gallery, fab a few then unfriend.

So be warned.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

I'm highly unlikely to add anyone who I've not spoken to if they randomly send a friend request, I may have a look at a wink however as I understand that it's not always easy to think of what to say in a first message.

Friend requests when I dont know you get one of three things.....

Deleted.

A sneaky look when they're not online and then deleted.

They sit there doing nothing and I might one day message if they are what I'm possibly looking for.

A message with a face pic is the way to go every time for me and the face pic is important to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We use it as yet another filter of who to avoid all contact with.

It's clear on our profile,if they chose to ignore it,we will certainly ignore them"

I understand that way totally … it’s stated clearly on your profile as your preference. It’s not written on ours though - yet - I’m still wondering if it’s just a different approach x

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By *r-OreoMan over a year ago

telford

Yes I just delete them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only from guys...

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It always annoys me, yes.

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By *ojobinksMan over a year ago

swindon

I have no friends in here yet lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As much as I like to send friond requeste

Lots peopleo find it Anoying

Face to face meeting at the better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Currently sending everyone on this thread a friend request. I'll let you know my findings...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

Not annoying, I just delete them

Just proves they haven't read my short profile. No effort, no gain

Missy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They Don't annoy me, I just ignore them.

I don't reject because if I just leave them unaccepted they can't send another.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes, it takes 2 mins to send a message and if I wanted everyone to see my friends pics, I'd put them public.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

Nah. I just wait till they go offline. Accept it. Look at their pics and unfriend them before they come back online.

I’ve done that a little after seeing another suggest it

But I’ve also wondered … if there’s actual face pics in there … is it a way of saying hello rather than rude xx"

If the world was a lovely place that was a paradise of mutual respect and loveliness then yes tapping a button to say “be my friend” would be a great way of saying hello.

However the world is a dark place full of twisted shadow demons, stalkers, and unhinged fairies, it is not a bright airy forest but a malevolent wood, with strange noises emanating from just beyond your peripheral vision which is why we can’t have nice things

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By *inkyJamesMan over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

That is a hard question

you want people to know you're interested I'm seeing what pictures they're hiding in their friends only but you do not want to feel that you're being a Time waster sending a message perhaps I all comes down to just thoroughly reading the profile and trying to get a feeling for us appropriate those particular folks

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

They don’t annoy me but I do bulk delete them without looking through so it’s pointless sending me one. I do think it’s rude to do it though, especially when stated on a profile.

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By *ornyhappyCouple over a year ago

perth

As it says on our profile, our friends list is for people who we have met/know in person. If we get a friend request then it just shows that they didn't bother to read our profile, or they don't respect what it says.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's just a way to get into your private albums, that's how I see it anyway. Unless you've got something going with someone, I don't see why you would have them as a friend on here."

Would you only friend someone you’ve met already? … I’d thought it was more a stepping stone to that bit - there’s not full on face pics in ours just hints of … but more than I’d be willing to post publicly x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve had quite a few off women without a message. I’ll accept, if I like what I see I’ll leave them as friends lol but I probably get 10 a day off blokes haha you do realise you’ve just opened yourself up to a whole bunch of friend requests now though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's just a way to get into your private albums, that's how I see it anyway. Unless you've got something going with someone, I don't see why you would have them as a friend on here.

Thats what I use my hotlist for and just choose who I sent face pics to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ignore and let them just sit there! Screams pic collector too me! "

Most likely yes - but if they’ve got full on face pics then maybe they’re willing to share and it is just a different approach ? xx

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

"I get a lot of men sending friend requests.

Can’t imagine how bad it is for you!!!

On a seperate note, sent you a friends request

They’re hoping to see your sausage most likely

I know … tempted to do the midnight peep

Nothing in there I’m hiding or secret. Put them there out of respect cause women get enough pics sent to them haha

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By *leanor1717Woman over a year ago

Gillingham

Friend requests don't annoy me at all. I don't check them anyway, tho I might see if a guy has sent a friend request so that I can see his friends-only pics. I can always unfriend afterwards. Never understood why others find it annoying

but each to their own x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It never occurs to me look at them, so no, they don't annoy me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Random friends requests really irritate me. It is mostly single men that send them without ever having spoken. Why? To get access to pics they otherwise wouldn't see to have a quick perve at and probably never even message afterwards. Our friends pics are for exactly that...friends... who we know and have some sort of relationship with. Winks kinda have the same effect on us too....just a lazy way of trying to contact someone. Rant over. Have a great day in the sun everyone.

That’s what I’ve usually thought … a friend request from a random pops in and I’ve looked at it and thought - whyyyyy though does that ever get you anywhere? … but then this morning I did wonder if it’s just a different approach x

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

"As I have said before if they have no photos will instantly delete. If they don't will wait until they are off line accept friends request look at their friends gallery, fab a few then unfriend.

So be warned."

Haha might actually finally get a few fabs!!! Tempted lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I get a few to be honest. Normally from people who just want me to fab their pics and have no interest in ever talking. "

Fabbed private pics surely don’t give them as much of a buzz as public ones though? x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Never look at them tbh x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No we love them because it shows us that they havnt read our profile so no further action is needed on our part which makes our fab adventure easier!!!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request"

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Doesnt annoy me in the least they just sit there unanswered no skin off my nose

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I usually reply with a sarcastic response saying why would I accept a random request with someone who can't be arsed to chat. Then I block.

I have replied to some (if I’ve liked the look of them lol) and said thanks for the request but aren’t we supposed to say hi first

… some have took the huff I reckon but one or two have ended up with more chatter and I’ve thought maybe it’s just their approach x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They used to. On previous profiles we put explicit pics on public and face photos in friends and we would get random anonymous requests.

So I put the face pics hidden and we had no friend only photos any mysteriously the requests vanished.

My feelings on fab friends has changed. If I find a good connection that would lead to a meet or real friendship I give them our phone numbers and chat away on whatsapp

I don't need to see gynaecological photos to know if we will be a good match

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Friend requests without prior conversation will be deleted. If I wanted those pics available to everyone then I would make them public.

They don't annoy me, I feel its poor etiquette.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I never look at my friends request list. I only add people i may meet or have met.

Then il send the request. If they have already requested me then it’s instantly accepted. If not then they can accept

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x"

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked. "

I want to add to wank bank

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t even look at them or in less I am expecting one ie we meet and talked about it or talked about it in a message two seconds and I look and count 110 lol "

Blimey! 110 requests

- yeh it’s just the out of the blue ones that puzzle me xx

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked.

I want to add to wank bank

See..... the bate faced cheek (or just bare cheek in your case) sometimes works.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

I don't block i just leave it there unanswered so they can't send another one. I never accept unsolicited friend request so they are a waste of everybodys time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just ignore them

Some are ok though right? - the ones you’re expecting? x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked.

I want to add to wank bank

See..... the bate faced cheek (or just bare cheek in your case) sometimes works."

Did you expect anything else from me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

It's not a blanket answer for me, as newer users may be a bit clueless, for example.

I sometimes send a wink, without accepting, so that the balls in their court, to try to spring some words together. If the profile is a definite no, they get blocked.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked.

I want to add to wank bank

See..... the bate faced cheek (or just bare cheek in your case) sometimes works.

Did you expect anything else from me

Random porn?

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By *2pblokeMan over a year ago

Penrith, Cumbria

accept, let them have a look'n'perve then bye bye if no message

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked.

I want to add to wank bank

See..... the bate faced cheek (or just bare cheek in your case) sometimes works.

Did you expect anything else from me

Random porn?

Oh Ffs

. OK you win that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve never accepted a friend request without chatting at least a bit.

I’ve got face pics on there, I don’t want randomers knowing what I look like unless I actively agree with them seeing me"

We don’t have full on face pics on ours - just hints of - side of face or a little fuzzed out or something … just more than the public ones .. and - erm - the extra rude pics

lol.

But I do explain to anyone who asks to swap that I only send face pics through message just to be fair on them x … the non random request people I mean

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked.

I want to add to wank bank

See..... the bate faced cheek (or just bare cheek in your case) sometimes works.

Did you expect anything else from me

Random porn?

Oh Ffs

. OK you win that one

I always win

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We are just simply ignoring them. Don't mind winks as they could be a good start

That on our profile though … that I don’t always look at winks - there’s just too many

(… I’m really not being conceited it’s just true xx)

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

It clearly states on my profile that my friends list is exclusively made up from people that I have actually met.

If they can’t be bothered to read it, but I like the look of their profile and they either also winked or messaged me, then I patiently explain.

I never delete friends requests because then they can send again.

I rarely block people because I like using notes in case I bump into them at a club etc.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman over a year ago

Cambs

It doesn't annoy me but they just get deleted if I haven't spoken to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m always suspicious of them for some reason. "

Me too usually … the out of the blue ones … but then I just had that thought of is it just a different approach xx

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By *ojobinksMan over a year ago

swindon

I always give people the benefit of the doubt, maybe they just want to find some friends to chat too, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s seedy, I will talk to anyone it breaks the day up whilst working

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As I have said before if they have no photos will instantly delete. If they don't will wait until they are off line accept friends request look at their friends gallery, fab a few then unfriend.

So be warned."

If there’s no pics in theirs then yes it’d be an instant delete - that’s just cheeky

“Fab a few then unfriend” … so they know you’ve been … haha love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As I have said before if they have no photos will instantly delete. If they don't will wait until they are off line accept friends request look at their friends gallery, fab a few then unfriend.

So be warned.

I've done that

If there’s no pics in theirs then yes it’d be an instant delete - that’s just cheeky

“Fab a few then unfriend” … so they know you’ve been … haha love it

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

Don't annoy me in the least as I just ignore them x

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

No, they don’t annoy me but I don’t accept them either.

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By *tew008Man over a year ago

edinburgh

"As I have said before if they have no photos will instantly delete. If they don't will wait until they are off line accept friends request look at their friends gallery, fab a few then unfriend.

So be warned.

If there’s no pics in theirs then yes it’d be an instant delete - that’s just cheeky

“Fab a few then unfriend” … so they know you’ve been … haha love it

What I would do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only accept friend requests after we've exchanged a few messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to ignore unless I have chatted, meeting or met already

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have only ever agreed to sending/receiving FR through some proper 'get to know you', have had the odd sneaky request from males ignoring the looking for section, but hey that's flattering in itself ...but still ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would it annoy we all need friends I happily accept both of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm highly unlikely to add anyone who I've not spoken to if they randomly send a friend request, I may have a look at a wink however as I understand that it's not always easy to think of what to say in a first message.

Friend requests when I dont know you get one of three things.....

Deleted.

A sneaky look when they're not online and then deleted.

They sit there doing nothing and I might one day message if they are what I'm possibly looking for.

A message with a face pic is the way to go every time for me and the face pic is important to me."

“I may have a look at a wink however as I understand that it's not always easy to think of what to say in a first message” - good thought - I did also wonder if it could be a bolder version of a wink if they have face pics included x

The three things you do seem to be what most do too xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Currently sending everyone on this thread a friend request. I'll let you know my findings...

… you’ll get lots of blocks - don’t do itttt

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They Don't annoy me, I just ignore them.

I don't reject because if I just leave them unaccepted they can't send another. "

Ah. Good thought xx

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

We're not annoyed by things we can easily ignore if we're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

Nah. I just wait till they go offline. Accept it. Look at their pics and unfriend them before they come back online.

I’ve done that a little after seeing another suggest it

But I’ve also wondered … if there’s actual face pics in there … is it a way of saying hello rather than rude xx

If the world was a lovely place that was a paradise of mutual respect and loveliness then yes tapping a button to say “be my friend” would be a great way of saying hello.

beautifully written - but yes I get you. I had wondered if it were just like a “would you like to be friends” kinda thing … possibly / most likely I’m just being too naive

“Unhinged fairies”

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

That is a hard question

I don’t think you’d be thought of as a time waster if you message … if you’ve read their profile and your message might be welcome xx

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By *rivateparts!Man over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Fucking hell, yes they do annoy me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't trust them! I know they just want to rub their bean over my thighs pics and then go back to EastEnders until they urge comes back again!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve had quite a few off women without a message. I’ll accept, if I like what I see I’ll leave them as friends lol but I probably get 10 a day off blokes haha you do realise you’ve just opened yourself up to a whole bunch of friend requests now though

There’s been a couple of them when I looked just now

… some I suspect just for the fun of it as a tease response to the thread xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They used to. On previous profiles we put explicit pics on public and face photos in friends and we would get random anonymous requests.

So I put the face pics hidden and we had no friend only photos any mysteriously the requests vanished.

My feelings on fab friends has changed. If I find a good connection that would lead to a meet or real friendship I give them our phone numbers and chat away on whatsapp

I don't need to see gynaecological photos to know if we will be a good match "

“ … and we had no friend only photos and mysteriously the requests vanished “

~ that’s a good way to out people who were just doing it to see the extra pics and didn’t in fact want to be friends x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just ignore them I’m only friends with people I’ve met or I’m going to

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Friend requests without prior conversation will be deleted. If I wanted those pics available to everyone then I would make them public.

They don't annoy me, I feel its poor etiquette.

NBVN x "

You’re very likely right about it being poor etiquette - I had wondered if it were possibly just a different approach (like maybe from someone fairly new - as someone else has responded on here) … but yeh you’re most likely right xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd far rather have a wink as a flirt than a friend request

That’s what I was wondering about … is a friend request just a more bold wink x

I don't see it like that..... more as a "I want to add to my wank bank but can't be arsed to talk to you".

I'd rather they just asked. "

(I’m laughing because I’ve seen what grumpy nugget replied already)

… you’d rather they asked first - that’s fair x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always. There was maybe one instance when it didn't but it was kind of expected anyway.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple over a year ago

Newcastle

We don't accept unless it is someone I have been chatting to. Mostly I go in now and again and bulk delete.

We never send them without first asking and that is after we have been speaking for a while usually.

I much prefer a wink or a message to get our attention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's not a blanket answer for me, as newer users may be a bit clueless, for example.

I sometimes send a wink, without accepting, so that the balls in their court, to try to spring some words together. If the profile is a definite no, they get blocked. "

I did wonder about newer users x

Sending them a wink as a prompt is a good idea if you like the look of them - and hopefully yes it gives them the prod to message you xx

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By *horehouseprincessWoman over a year ago

small town near Munich

I wouldnt say they annoy me but getting them from people I never spoke to is a bit weird

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It clearly states on my profile that my friends list is exclusively made up from people that I have actually met.

If they can’t be bothered to read it, but I like the look of their profile and they either also winked or messaged me, then I patiently explain.

I never delete friends requests because then they can send again.

I rarely block people because I like using notes in case I bump into them at a club etc."

“I rarely block people because I like using notes in case I bump into them at a club etc” … that’s a good idea

- I once said hi to a lady in a club who I thought was very pretty - we chatted a little and she was really lovely - but then she said I’d blocked her

When I cottoned on to who it was I felt wrong for blocking her because she was nothing like I’d thought her profile came across as … hope that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I always give people the benefit of the doubt, maybe they just want to find some friends to chat too, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s seedy, I will talk to anyone it breaks the day up whilst working "

That was what I was I was thinking a bit … should I give them the benefit of the doubt and is it just their approach

… reading the replies so far though I’m thinking my naivety is showing

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By *issAphroditeWoman over a year ago

Norwich

I think it's rude and usually a red flag for picture collectors. In case, it's also indicative of them not reading my profile as I clearly state not to send friend requests if we haven't spoken.

Winks are for lazy flirts, expression of interest, not friend requests.

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

They don't annoy me, but I do see it as a lazy way of trying to see friends only pictures. I just ignore them...I used to delete, but then people constantly sent new requests, so I just leave them sat there so they can't send again.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I still get loads and I don’t have friend pics

I ignore them though. I only tend to add people I’ve met or speak to a lot.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive very few people on my friends list. I know who my friends are i dont need a list to tell me and if we have met we know what each other look like so no need to see their friends only pictures

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I will come back to this … really really got to do some work now though as I’ve done literally nothing since I posted the question lol

Thankyou for the replies so far … I’m really touched

… especially as this is only my second forum thread

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple over a year ago

Darlington

Depends on how often they do it. Had the same "couple" do it like clockwork every month or so. One public pic of a woman's face and a veri from 2013. Accepted it just once to see who they where and in their private pics it was just full of a little 70 plus year old guy missing half his teeth wearing lingerie.

I've never been curious since. Its block or ignore all the way now lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't trust them! I know they just want to rub their bean over my thighs pics and then go back to EastEnders until they urge comes back again!"

… you know there’s still likely bean rubbing over your profile pic anyway right?

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

No. Just wait till they’re offline then look at their profile then block & delete

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just ignore them I’m only friends with people I’ve met or I’m going to

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I wouldnt say they annoy me but getting them from people I never spoke to is a bit weird "

Isn’t it?!

… I mostly think cheeky sod and ignore it but then I had that thought of is it just a different approach x

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No annoy me, but if someone I'm chatting to sends one without asking first I ignore it till they ask, hate presumptions

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it's rude and usually a red flag for picture collectors. In case, it's also indicative of them not reading my profile as I clearly state not to send friend requests if we haven't spoken.

Winks are for lazy flirts, expression of interest, not friend requests."

After all the replies today I’m thinking it is definitely a red flag - and not a different approach as I’d wondered about

I don’t have it stated on or profile atm … not that I think it’d necessarily stop someone anyway x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funnily enough just got this right this second

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Extremely rude and I always block people who send a friend request without chatting first

It’s like expecting to see someone’s cock/vagina without even have spoken to them in a bar!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. Just wait till they’re offline then look at their profile then block & delete "

I’ve done this too

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"I wouldnt say they annoy me but getting them from people I never spoke to is a bit weird

Isn’t it?!

… I mostly think cheeky sod and ignore it but then I had that thought of is it just a different approach x"

I think cheeky sod as well

It must work at some point or other I’m sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I still get loads and I don’t have friend pics

I ignore them though. I only tend to add people I’ve met or speak to a lot. "

Ooo that could test the theory of theArrows ^

… those that contact you even though you don’t have any pics up might reeeally want to be friends then ?

lol … probably not

… and after today I’m less inclined to think it’s even a tiny possibility

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

"I still get loads and I don’t have friend pics

I ignore them though. I only tend to add people I’ve met or speak to a lot.

Ooo that could test the theory of theArrows ^

… those that contact you even though you don’t have any pics up might reeeally want to be friends then ?

lol … probably not

… and after today I’m less inclined to think it’s even a tiny possibility

xx"

Have you accepted my request? Been offline all day

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends on how often they do it. Had the same "couple" do it like clockwork every month or so. One public pic of a woman's face and a veri from 2013. Accepted it just once to see who they where and in their private pics it was just full of a little 70 plus year old guy missing half his teeth wearing lingerie.

I've never been curious since. Its block or ignore all the way now lol"

I’ve had a couple of repeat requests too but lots on here have said leave them on and don’t delete them then they can’t re-send - I think that’s a good idea

Ooop - could have been worse I guess

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I just ignore them

Some are ok though right? - the ones you’re expecting? x"

Ohh yes some are a lovely surprise

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I rarely get them so it doesn’t annoy me. The few I do get I either ignore or try to start up a conversation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Funnily enough just got this right this second

I see you’re only 6 weeks on … so it’ll likely happen a lot more to you - I hope this thread gives you tips to ignore them and not delete as they’ll only do it again xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is unusual to receive a friend request without having exchanged any messages I guess.

Though I have stated on my profile that I accept most requests for perving & those that want to be perved back at. (My friends only photos also have more face pictures.)

I usually would leave it up to the other party that I'm communicating with to send the request after chatting for a bit. On my old profile this was couples mostly.

But from me, in general, most requests accepted.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Lol often messages them and ask how they know us ....

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Random friend requests don't annoy me, I generally just ignore them.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple over a year ago

Darlington

"Extremely rude and I always block people who send a friend request without chatting first

It’s like expecting to see someone’s cock/vagina without even have spoken to them in a bar!"

Well I'll.show you mine first if it helps speed things along. We have get last orders in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Funnily enough just got this right this second

I see you’re only 6 weeks on … so it’ll likely happen a lot more to you - I hope this thread gives you tips to ignore them and not delete as they’ll only do it again xx"

Yeah we have been thanks

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By *tue555Man over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

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By *tue555Man over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

My viewpoint is if your not worried about pic collectors or anyone viewing your more racy pics and wanking over them why hide them in friends only.

By definition friends only are for established friends else why have it. If you get a random friend request then they are not exactly friends

A lot of people on this site use friends requests as a badge of honour or popularity the more friends more popular they are?

. We never blocked but we only added friendsf we had actually met. Kept our friends list hidden.

The fact it said on the very top of the profile for those who have difficulty in reading or reading just a few words. No winks send message or no unsolicited friend requests and just ignored them and deleted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, I would rather a wink or message first as I just think it is a lazy way of just wanting to perv.

We won't accept any until we have exchanged face pictures, got to know one another and will most likely meet.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really, wait until they're offline and have perv then delete usually, has resulted in a meet before though.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

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By *lueEyesEnigmaMan over a year ago

Dublin

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x"

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for."

My hotlist is for entirely different reasons

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By *orneytwoCouple over a year ago

Not far from lichfield

For us it's a single man.that cannot put a message together just looking to see more photos.its really sad

But that is what Fab

Has become.Full of people sending shit thinking. People getting lots of great sex will think there message will work and meet them.

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Only ever had one, didn't accept it anyway

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By *asycouple1971Couple over a year ago

midlands

Depends how Im feeling on the day either leave them hanging or block them, very rarely accept them.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I just had one and I accepted it. I did message them first.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

I just leave them there, as they can't send another one till you delete the first one.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive actually got two friends requests sitting there and i have a blank profile. Makes you wonder what goes through some peoples minds

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By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"I just leave them there, as they can't send another one till you delete the first one."

Didn't know that until someone mentioned it a few weeks back! Brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just leave them sitting"

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By *oeBiggs321Man over a year ago

Reading

I just leave them at least try to say hello before adding me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It is unusual to receive a friend request without having exchanged any messages I guess.

Though I have stated on my profile that I accept most requests for perving & those that want to be perved back at. (My friends only photos also have more face pictures.)

I usually would leave it up to the other party that I'm communicating with to send the request after chatting for a bit. On my old profile this was couples mostly.

But from me, in general, most requests accepted.

If you’re happy to receive all requests, and you have face pics public … why have any friends only ones? xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, I would rather a wink or message first as I just think it is a lazy way of just wanting to perv.

We won't accept any until we have exchanged face pictures, got to know one another and will most likely meet.

Her x"

I’m more likely to do it the other way around … friends pics then face pics - like it’s a stepping stone to see more … before all

Maybe it’d be better if it were called something else rather than “friends” pics ? xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for.

My hotlist is for entirely different reasons

What do you use your hotlist for? xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"… do you think this is always a bad thing?

Lots of profiles say if they get a request without so much as a wink or message they block

I wouldn’t send one myself and I usually think cheeky sod and ignore them

but I’m wondering …

… so is it just a different approach maybe?

I don’t mind. Friend requests are always welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just had one and I accepted it. I did message them first. "

That’s how it should be done though right? … or the more polite way anyway - I was more thinking of unsolicited ones

I hope your one is a good one. Fingers crossed for you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ive actually got two friends requests sitting there and i have a blank profile. Makes you wonder what goes through some peoples minds"

… that’s funny … they just randomly send to anyone and everyone then hoping they’ll slip through

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just leave them at least try to say hello before adding me "

So for you it’s definitely not a possible hello in itself?

On a side note I hope your dog is ok xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks to all who replied today - I really appreciate it xx

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for.

My hotlist is for entirely different reasons

What do you use your hotlist for? xx"

My hotlist is my done list

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for.

My hotlist is for entirely different reasons

What do you use your hotlist for? xx

My hotlist is my done list

Ahaaaa excellent … love it

… do you put notes on their profiles? x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for.

My hotlist is for entirely different reasons

What do you use your hotlist for? xx

My hotlist is my done list

Mine was that too, before I left

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't trust them! I know they just want to rub their bean over my thighs pics and then go back to EastEnders until they urge comes back again!

… you know there’s still likely bean rubbing over your profile pic anyway right? "

I didn't even know what my profile pic was, had to check

Now, no more bean rubbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't trust them! I know they just want to rub their bean over my thighs pics and then go back to EastEnders until they urge comes back again!

… you know there’s still likely bean rubbing over your profile pic anyway right?

I didn't even know what my profile pic was, had to check

Now, no more bean rubbing

Nooooo … put it back … think of the beans

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for.

My hotlist is for entirely different reasons

What do you use your hotlist for? xx

My hotlist is my done list

Ahaaaa excellent … love it

… do you put notes on their profiles? x"

Absolutely x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only get them from men anywaus

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By *he RingmasterMan over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

All friends were strangers once.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never look at them unless I've been chatted to someone and we say about adding each other x

Agreed and only if we are sending the odd message, if not that's what the hotlist is for.

My hotlist is for entirely different reasons

What do you use your hotlist for? xx

My hotlist is my done list

Ahaaaa excellent … love it

… do you put notes on their profiles? x

Absolutely x"

Need to upgrade to hotlist then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do send a random friend request but only local peoples. I would chat with someone remote before asking a “friendship “…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did a status about this about half an hour ago, random friend request annoy the hell out of me lol

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

I don’t send friends requests full stop.

In the back of my mind I’d be thinking “she’s only accepting cause she feels like she has to”. So instead, if I’m getting along with someone, they can add me. Simple

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