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over a year ago
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site. "
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I'm only on Facebook dating, because they kept telling me I should join, and all I really do is press X most of the time and the occasional like on the obvious fakes; to see what crap they come out with.
If I'm going to actually date someone he's going to have to be pretty special, and have low standards.
I'm a dick on here and there. |
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I am the same person
But know a lot do hence why I prefer fab
On date sites guys tell you all the right things that you want to hear like love dove stuff just to get your knickers off then boom once the deed done they off end up felling used as a sex toy
at least with fab it cuts though all the bs got my knickers off do the deed out the door at least I don’t fell used and both new what it was instead off lead me down the garden path
That’s not to say you can’t find more on fab but at least it cuts though the bs off what people are truely after
Ie a bit off fun and a bang at me
Or a relationship or fb or fwb or just friends to go shopping with and drinks on ever now and then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am the same person
But know a lot do hence why I prefer fab
On date sites guys tell you all the right things that you want to hear like love dove stuff just to get your knickers off then boom once the deed done they off end up felling used as a sex toy
at least with fab it cuts though all the bs got my knickers off do the deed out the door at least I don’t fell used and both new what it was instead off lead me down the garden path
That’s not to say you can’t find more on fab but at least it cuts though the bs off what people are truely after
Ie a bit off fun and a bang at me
Or a relationship or fb or fwb or just friends to go shopping with and drinks on ever now and then "
This is why I personally feel its best to cut to the chase
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?"
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I hope I'm me, no matter which site I'm on. As Evie said though, I'm looking for different things on different sites, but that's my expectation of how interactions will work rather than my personality changing.
I wouldn't expect dick pics and immediate sex talk on a dating site any more than I'd expect to be waiting in line at a coffee shop and have the guy in front whip his knob out and ask me if I fancied a suck.
Different behaviour is appropriate in different situations. What doesn't change is how I communicate my expectations and my reaction when someone crosses the line of acceptable behaviour in a given environment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am the same person
But know a lot do hence why I prefer fab
On date sites guys tell you all the right things that you want to hear like love dove stuff just to get your knickers off then boom once the deed done they off end up felling used as a sex toy
at least with fab it cuts though all the bs got my knickers off do the deed out the door at least I don’t fell used and both new what it was instead off lead me down the garden path
That’s not to say you can’t find more on fab but at least it cuts though the bs off what people are truely after
Ie a bit off fun and a bang at me
Or a relationship or fb or fwb or just friends to go shopping with and drinks on ever now and then
This is why I personally feel its best to cut to the chase
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Best way to be at least then both parties know exactly what it is and what’s on offer as long as people are upfront |
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over a year ago
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean? "
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all "
If they bring up sex right away it says to me that's all they want. I can get that on here. |
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over a year ago
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"I hope I'm me, no matter which site I'm on. As Evie said though, I'm looking for different things on different sites, but that's my expectation of how interactions will work rather than my personality changing.
I wouldn't expect dick pics and immediate sex talk on a dating site any more than I'd expect to be waiting in line at a coffee shop and have the guy in front whip his knob out and ask me if I fancied a suck.
Different behaviour is appropriate in different situations. What doesn't change is how I communicate my expectations and my reaction when someone crosses the line of acceptable behaviour in a given environment."
Let's say you get chatting to a person on said dating site, do you mention how your also on fab or do you keep that under wraps ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
If they bring up sex right away it says to me that's all they want. I can get that on here. "
Iv not really ever been after just sex when iv messaged anyone on a dating site but I do make it know iv an incredibly high sex drive and a fairly exceptional cock  |
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I am not on any dating other than here. I am on three major fetish sites. It’s not that I act differently but the conversation or communication are totally different. I would say here it’s very very very conservative and vanilla if you get my drift  the outrageous convo on here is prob talking about rimming lol |
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"I am not on any dating other than here. I am on three major fetish sites. It’s not that I act differently but the conversation or communication are totally different. I would say here it’s very very very conservative and vanilla if you get my drift the outrageous convo on here is prob talking about rimming lol"
So in not so many words fabs a bit shit lol ? |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all "
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon 
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being. |
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over a year ago
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being."
And how's that working out for you ? |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ? "
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol"
That’s a bit nasty no need for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is, people in a dating site are probably looking for something different, so they may have different expectations. I am the same person, but I will use a dating site differently to on here.
I also think that dating sites are les pressure because people get to know you, rather than your tits and arse. |
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"The thing is, people in a dating site are probably looking for something different, so they may have different expectations. I am the same person, but I will use a dating site differently to on here.
I also think that dating sites are les pressure because people get to know you, rather than your tits and arse. "
What happens when they find what they want onside dating site, do they leave fab never to be here again? Or do they wait 6 months into dating the drop the bomb shell that they are in fact a swinger?
Not think that that slightly misleading ? |
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"I hope I'm me, no matter which site I'm on. As Evie said though, I'm looking for different things on different sites, but that's my expectation of how interactions will work rather than my personality changing.
I wouldn't expect dick pics and immediate sex talk on a dating site any more than I'd expect to be waiting in line at a coffee shop and have the guy in front whip his knob out and ask me if I fancied a suck.
Different behaviour is appropriate in different situations. What doesn't change is how I communicate my expectations and my reaction when someone crosses the line of acceptable behaviour in a given environment.
Let's say you get chatting to a person on said dating site, do you mention how your also on fab or do you keep that under wraps ?"
I'm not on dating sites at the moment because I'm not currently looking for a relationship. If I was, I'd probably mothball my profile on here rather than run the two simultaneously.
Should the situation occur where I wanted to run a dating profile as well as my fab profile I'd guess I would be open that I was on multiple sites but I wouldn't list them in either place.
I've used multiple hook-up sites in the past though, say one for kink, one vanilla. I've been very open that I'm on multiple sites and which I log into on a given day would depend on my mood. I was very clear that I don't go on the vanilla site looking for kink.
The fact that a certain behaviour is acceptable to me in one place doesn't mean it'll be acceptable to me in every place. |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol"
Because god forbid a woman take ownership of her own pleasure.
Judgy much? |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol
That’s a bit nasty no need for that "
We have different sense of humour.. |
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over a year ago
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol
Because god forbid a woman take ownership of her own pleasure.
Judgy much?"
Totally agree with your last bit
So what if she's holding a sex toy
98% of the blokes on fab have a picture of the holding there cock  |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol
That’s a bit nasty no need for that
We have different sense of humour.. "
Really don’t think that’s funny and I normally stay away from any kind off drama but sorry I can’t sit back and watch a woman be treated like that
No wonder you don’t get any messages |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol"
Ooohhhh bitch |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ? "
Perfectly fine thank you. I know my worth and will settle for nothing less. |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Perfectly fine thank you. I know my worth and will settle for nothing less. "
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"How many act like a different person on dating sites compared to on here ?
Asking for a friend "
nope, not me act the same here or there as I do in real life,
Like it or hate it, not point pretending. |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site. "
Same... but I don't like people talking about sex at me on here either. |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
Same... but I don't like people talking about sex at me on here either. "
At all? |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
Same... but I don't like people talking about sex at me on here either.
At all?"
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I wouldn't say I act differently as a person, but I have different expectations.
When I am looking on here, it's for sexual fun with no strings attached. I care about whether I find the guy physically attractive, whether our sexual interests roughly match up, whether there is basic chemistry there, whether we share the same views on safe sex. I don't care about getting to know these men on a deeper level because I want to fuck them, not marry them.
I'm not currently on any dating sites, but when I was, it for for the purpose of finding a long term partner. So I want to know about them - their childhood, their dating history, do they like dogs, are they religious, do they have kids or want them. At some point, sexual likes and expectations would come up, but I wouldn't expect it to be early on chatting. I would be looking to actually get to know someone over a period of time, rather than just leap into bed with them. |
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
Same... but I don't like people talking about sex at me on here either.
At all?
Nope. "
You don't like talking about sex at all? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"The thing is, people in a dating site are probably looking for something different, so they may have different expectations. I am the same person, but I will use a dating site differently to on here.
I also think that dating sites are les pressure because people get to know you, rather than your tits and arse.
What happens when they find what they want onside dating site, do they leave fab never to be here again? Or do they wait 6 months into dating the drop the bomb shell that they are in fact a swinger?
Not think that that slightly misleading ?"
If I wanted a monogamous relationship I wouldn't be on here.
If I wanted someone to swing with I would mention it right away. |
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over a year ago
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"I do. On a dating site I hate it when people start talking about sex too soon. Then they drop in that they've seen me on here and I say I'm looking for different things on each site.
This talking about sex too early crack, isthat really necessary?
How do you mean?
At what point do you feel it acceptable to start properly discussing each others sexual wants needs and desires ?
On the honey moon? Then discover they ain't that compatible after all
Let's say somewhere between the first date and the honeymoon
When I'm on dating sites I want to know the want to get to know all of me, not just the sexual me.
If someone starts being overly sexual from the beginning or just a few messages in its clear they're just looking fof sex.
Of course bring sexually compatible is important but first and foremost, in a relationship I want to be secure in thd knowledge that they are interested in thd many non sexual elements of my being.
And how's that working out for you ?
Look at her first picture sais it all… sex toy glued to her hand lol
Because god forbid a woman take ownership of her own pleasure.
Judgy much?
Totally agree with your last bit
So what if she's holding a sex toy
98% of the blokes on fab have a picture of the holding there cock "
Or a pint, or dating sites. Does that mean they are all d*unkards? |
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