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I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that OP. Just remember when people behave like that it's a reflection of them not you. I know its easier said than done but try not to let other's actions dictate your mood. Lucky you found out now rather than it going further.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Was it constant back and forth messaging? If it was, maybe she got a bit overwhelmed with it but didn’t know how to say it without looking like a plonker.
Or maybe she wasn’t entirely truthful about her circumstances?
Try not to dwell on it, though I know easier said than done.
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Sending a big hug Sausage. It's never nice, especially when things seem to have been going well and suddenly that's it.
You're awesome and that's all you need to remember |
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"I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. "
Mate, her loss, better to know now she’s not interested than later.
Repeat after me, I am a lovely man, and know my own worth! |
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"I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. "
Don't let that make you feel shitty, it's nothing you did. Some people are just twats lol |
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Instead of being honest and showing integrity she took the easy way out.. It's awful I know and it's probably happened at one time or another to so many of us here.
Pick yourself up, straighten those shoulders and forget about it. She's shown her true colours and it's her loss  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All of the above!!!
I've had this since ever dude. Well, not Aspergers but in such situations I always thought it was me. I'm not good enough, funny enough, exciting enough etc. Dunno if it's similar to what you are feeling?
Learn your worth mate, thats the best thing to do. By proxy these situations will become way more easier.
And if it helps to view it as a metaphor, think of writing your name in glue on a piece of paper then go nuts with the glitter. When you tip the excess off you get your name all sparkly!!
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By *jl1972Man
over a year ago
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That's always a risk on any online site, if someone changes their mind it's just too easy to block and forget the other person.
The good thing to come out of it when it happens is you've avoided someone who isn't worth knowing anyway if that's how they treat people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of the above!!!
I've had this since ever dude. Well, not Aspergers but in such situations I always thought it was me. I'm not good enough, funny enough, exciting enough etc. Dunno if it's similar to what you are feeling?
Learn your worth mate, thats the best thing to do. By proxy these situations will become way more easier.
And if it helps to view it as a metaphor, think of writing your name in glue on a piece of paper then go nuts with the glitter. When you tip the excess off you get your name all sparkly!!
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I love the metaphor in this, I am going to use this myself... thanks  
Sausage... when you hurt, you hurt but only you can say enough already and move on. I find a couple of days and I bounce back from whatever knocks me. Give yourself time my lovely.
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"Instead of being honest and showing integrity she took the easy way out.. It's awful I know and it's probably happened at one time or another to so many of us here.
Pick yourself up, straighten those shoulders and forget about it. She's shown her true colours and it's her loss xx"
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. "
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
Really sorry to hear that mate.
As I have been told on several occasions, there is always someone out there for everyone.
Don't take it to heart, put your big boy pants on and think yourself as having a lucky escape. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
What happened to “Lexi your vetting all the women I talk to?” 
On a serious note please don’t take her too personally. As others have said she may have just changed her mind. At the end of the day it’s completely her loss.
I know you better than ANYONE! You are the kindest, sweetest, loving, protective man I know.
You intentions are only ever good (unless someone upsets me  ) and generally see the good in people.
You are an amazing friend and father.
You should be 100% proud of who you are.
I love you while heartedly and will ALWAYS be there.
Now unhide your profile and get back out there being the best sausage EVER! xxxx |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"What happened to “Lexi your vetting all the women I talk to?”
On a serious note please don’t take her too personally. As others have said she may have just changed her mind. At the end of the day it’s completely her loss.
I know you better than ANYONE! You are the kindest, sweetest, loving, protective man I know.
You intentions are only ever good (unless someone upsets me ) and generally see the good in people.
You are an amazing friend and father.
You should be 100% proud of who you are.
I love you while heartedly and will ALWAYS be there.
Now unhide your profile and get back out there being the best sausage EVER! xxxx"
This a million times over xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. "
Oi! Inbox me, you silly sausage! Talk to me! You don't get down about 'nuttin, i tells ya!!
Speak to you in a few, hopefully? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What happened to “Lexi your vetting all the women I talk to?”
On a serious note please don’t take her too personally. As others have said she may have just changed her mind. At the end of the day it’s completely her loss.
I know you better than ANYONE! You are the kindest, sweetest, loving, protective man I know.
You intentions are only ever good (unless someone upsets me ) and generally see the good in people.
You are an amazing friend and father.
You should be 100% proud of who you are.
I love you while heartedly and will ALWAYS be there.
Now unhide your profile and get back out there being the best sausage EVER! xxxx
This a million times over xxx"
Does this mean I get my trophy back now that you have hidden your profile mate?? 
Seriously though mate this has happened to me loads of times of late, and to be honest, it does hurt big time. But then as someone on here said to me ages ago 're-bait the line and cast out again..'
OH and one day me and thee need to have a good old natter face to face.. you are a decent guy fella get back here ASAP!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Get that profile back on show...you messaged me the other day when I was feeling shitty and I so appreciated it and you...a big man hug for you and dont let one person get you down xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. "
What do you mean it's getting worse?
It's normal for anyone to feel crap if someone blocks them after they've been chatting.
There could be other things going on with her. It's not her loss but it's not yours either. You're just not compatible. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When things like this happen we automatically think it's something negative about ourselves.
It could have been so many reasons why and it could be absolutely nothing to do with you.
Chin up sausage x |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I've come to the conclusion that most people who match with me on Facebook Dating only want my phone number to sell on to call centres.
I've seen more fake accounts on there in a week than I have on here in 9 years.
Don't give her another thought.
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I just want to send a massive thank you to everyone thats taken the time to read this, and the ones that have replied and/or private messaged me. Part of me wants this thread deleted, I do regret posting it, I don’t want to be showing people my weakness, but then on the other hand, it shows just how good this community can really be.
I’ll be back to myself, it was just a combination of a number of factors that snowballed and this was the final straw.
Anyone watch the football? COME ON ENGLAND!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want to send a massive thank you to everyone thats taken the time to read this, and the ones that have replied and/or private messaged me. Part of me wants this thread deleted, I do regret posting it, I don’t want to be showing people my weakness, but then on the other hand, it shows just how good this community can really be.
I’ll be back to myself, it was just a combination of a number of factors that snowballed and this was the final straw.
Anyone watch the football? COME ON ENGLAND!!!"
It happens loads mate. Ive been there myself. It's absolutely gut renching when it does, but not long away from now you'll have forgotten about the whole experience and you'll be back to normal in no time. |
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"I just want to send a massive thank you to everyone thats taken the time to read this, and the ones that have replied and/or private messaged me. Part of me wants this thread deleted, I do regret posting it, I don’t want to be showing people my weakness, but then on the other hand, it shows just how good this community can really be.
I’ll be back to myself, it was just a combination of a number of factors that snowballed and this was the final straw.
Anyone watch the football? COME ON ENGLAND!!!"
You shouldn't regret posting it.
It doesn't show your weakness, it shows your humanity.
As for her, that was a shitty way out, but don't morn it. Be happy you got out when you did as you obviously weren't right together.
Hope you are feeling yourself again soon.
Enjoy the footy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It might not be your Asperger's. She might be one of those people who just can't say she's changed her mind. "
This! I have asperger's too and it's very tempting to attribute negative reactions from other people to me being all spectrummy. It's probably nothing nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It might not be your Asperger's. She might be one of those people who just can't say she's changed her mind.
This! I have asperger's too and it's very tempting to attribute negative reactions from other people to me being all spectrummy. It's probably nothing nothing to do with you and everything to do with her."
I was just about to reply with very similar.
Its so hard though as when we open up it makes us vaunable.
Chin up OP and chalk it up as a good chat that didn't end up going anywhere. |
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Firstly don't regret posting this! You needed support and help and did the right thing by reaching out and people have reminded you how awesome you are. She is not worth your time if she is such a coward she can't even say she changed her mind. Carry on being awesome xx |
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"Firstly don't regret posting this! You needed support and help and did the right thing by reaching out and people have reminded you how awesome you are. She is not worth your time if she is such a coward she can't even say she changed her mind. Carry on being awesome xx"
Wish I was awesome. All an act haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. "
Story of my life. Make. Plans and they either have an excuse or dont show. Makes you feel like shit. But don't give up buddy, someone out there wont be as shitty as the rest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Firstly don't regret posting this! You needed support and help and did the right thing by reaching out and people have reminded you how awesome you are. She is not worth your time if she is such a coward she can't even say she changed her mind. Carry on being awesome xx
Wish I was awesome. All an act haha"
Hold your head up and don't waste a second on them. It's not worth your time or attention |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Firstly don't regret posting this! You needed support and help and did the right thing by reaching out and people have reminded you how awesome you are. She is not worth your time if she is such a coward she can't even say she changed her mind. Carry on being awesome xx
Wish I was awesome. All an act haha"
You know fine well you are xx |
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"I’m open about the fact I have aspergers, but it’s getting worse.
I’ve just been blocked by someone who I’d been talking to all last night on Facebook dating. I did tell her about my condition and how it affects me in social situations. She asked questions and seemed to show an understanding.
So we swapped numbers (her idea) and the conversation continued in WhatsApp. Wake today to see myself blocked and unmatched. The last thing she said to me was “ I’m just having a drink with my neighbours so don’t want to be too rude by texting the entire time but I’ll be back xx”
Sorry for the moan, as the title suggests, feeling really shitty right now. "
This isn’t you bro. It’s online dating in general. I’ve had girls sets up dates me with and woke up to find it blocked.
Could be anything. A more exciting match, cold feet, anything
Just keep on trucking. It’s a numbers game out there so don’t get bogged down on a single match |
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Consider her an early dodged bullet, if someone has it in there general makeup to do that to someone then fortunately it happened early enough before you became to emotionally invested. Also its her loss and hopefully she will she how it feels when it inevitably happens to her. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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Sorry you're feeling this way Op. It was a pretty crappy attitude on the part of the other person. If the roles were reversed i'm sure she wouldn't appreciate it either.
I don't think you'd want to assicuatr yourself with someone with that attitude anyway.
Chin up and carry on. Look to your friends for support. I'm sure they're on the case already |
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Haven’t felt this much love since Lexi was surrounded by about 8 wanking zombies and I brought her over some water to rehydrate 
Thank you everyone. You’ll never know the difference you’ve all made. You reply have. I owe each and every one of you a drink…….but expect not one to ask cause I’m skint!!!! |
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"Haven’t felt this much love since Lexi was surrounded by about 8 wanking zombies and I brought her over some water to rehydrate
Thank you everyone. You’ll never know the difference you’ve all made. You reply have. I owe each and every one of you a drink…….but expect not one to ask cause I’m skint!!!!"
Loooool aww bless you  I don't think you owe anyone anything for lending a helping hand of support to you glad to see the responses helped uplift you xx |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"Haven’t felt this much love since Lexi was surrounded by about 8 wanking zombies and I brought her over some water to rehydrate
Thank you everyone. You’ll never know the difference you’ve all made. You reply have. I owe each and every one of you a drink…….but expect not one to ask cause I’m skint!!!!"
Wanking zombies I remember that story  |
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Unfortunately happens OP sorry bud. And it’s not down to illnesses. It could be anything the way you spell, the way your sense of humour is, skin colour.
It’s not great it has happened to me many times on here. But I found a way to pick myself up from the hurt and carry on.
You will be fine in time OP. don’t worry |
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Chin up bud, just think of it as their loss and not yours as you seem like a good bloke to me.
There's plenty here that appreciate you I'm sure so don't give up hope of finding someone that likes you for who you're. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
"Haven’t felt this much love since Lexi was surrounded by about 8 wanking zombies and I brought her over some water to rehydrate
Thank you everyone. You’ll never know the difference you’ve all made. You reply have. I owe each and every one of you a drink…….but expect not one to ask cause I’m skint!!!!"
Wowzers!!!! You must feel extra special!! |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Haven’t felt this much love since Lexi was surrounded by about 8 wanking zombies and I brought her over some water to rehydrate
Thank you everyone. You’ll never know the difference you’ve all made. You reply have. I owe each and every one of you a drink…….but expect not one to ask cause I’m skint!!!!
Wanking zombies I remember that story "
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"Haven’t felt this much love since Lexi was surrounded by about 8 wanking zombies and I brought her over some water to rehydrate
Thank you everyone. You’ll never know the difference you’ve all made. You reply have. I owe each and every one of you a drink…….but expect not one to ask cause I’m skint!!!!"
Wanking zombies. She loves that! .
Only just seen this sausage. Hugs and hearts my love. x |
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