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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
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Are you able to pick up on hints?
Do you give hints?
Are they small and subtle, or do you need them to be one step away from stating the obvious to be able to.
I'm perceptive enough to notice the presence of potential hints, however I'm terrible at interpretation of them a lot of the time.
I'm not a fan of them, I'd much rather just be told without any detective work. |
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Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious
In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic  xx |
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Some hints I can easily pick up on, if someone stops contacting me I'm quick to pick up on the fact that they no longer want to be my friend for instance. However the more subtle type big hints are lost on me, I need clarity. |
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Fuck knows 
On here people flirt and say shit they don't mean so I tend to take no notice of it when it's aimed in my direction, yet when I see others flirting I automatically think they mean it so I stay away, not wanting to get involved in anything which may create drama, tension, competition or bad feeling. |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
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"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious
In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx"
I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.
As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing. |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Some hints I can easily pick up on, if someone stops contacting me I'm quick to pick up on the fact that they no longer want to be my friend for instance. However the more subtle type big hints are lost on me, I need clarity."
Thing is though, people go quiet or are busy, or just forget to reply. That doesn't make it a hint they don't want to speak - here and none fab. Which is why I dislike hints for stuff like that. Mistakes can be made and connections lost due to poor communication. |
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"Some hints I can easily pick up on, if someone stops contacting me I'm quick to pick up on the fact that they no longer want to be my friend for instance. However the more subtle type big hints are lost on me, I need clarity.
Thing is though, people go quiet or are busy, or just forget to reply. That doesn't make it a hint they don't want to speak - here and none fab. Which is why I dislike hints for stuff like that. Mistakes can be made and connections lost due to poor communication. "
Oh this is real life. On fab I understand that a break in communication isn't necessarily a bad thing. In outside life if a friend stops communicating or starts to make excuses not to meet I take the hint and leave them alone after checking they're ok a couple of times.
I read something once
"If you feel you're avoided by someone, never bother them again" it stuck with me |
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"Are you able to pick up on hints?
Do you give hints?
Are they small and subtle, or do you need them to be one step away from stating the obvious to be able to.
I'm perceptive enough to notice the presence of potential hints, however I'm terrible at interpretation of them a lot of the time.
I'm not a fan of them, I'd much rather just be told without any detective work. "
With you all the way there |
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"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious
In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx
I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.
As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing. "
Yeah it can be very confusing, I would like to think I can be careful at showing a person I'm being nice but not flirting.xx |
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"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious
In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx
I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.
As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing. "
I had that with a girl once. We were friends and I liked her but only in a friendly way. She went through some crap and I helped her out - being nice - which she took as I was interested in more than just friends.
On Fab or offline I can possibly pick up on hints but then misinterpret them which is more to do with my perception (if someone 'banters' back with me and I'm attracted to them I'll see it as flirting).
Whichever way if I make or don't make a move then just tell me straight whether its's wanted or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Crap at it when they're aimed at me. For some reason it's always more obvious when I can see someone else not getting the hint. That makes me worry that I'm equally oblivious 
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"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious
In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx
I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.
As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing.
I had that with a girl once. We were friends and I liked her but only in a friendly way. She went through some crap and I helped her out - being nice - which she took as I was interested in more than just friends.
On Fab or offline I can possibly pick up on hints but then misinterpret them which is more to do with my perception (if someone 'banters' back with me and I'm attracted to them I'll see it as flirting).
Whichever way if I make or don't make a move then just tell me straight whether its's wanted or not."
Oh dear hope she was OK in the end when she found out you was just being nice.
I agree it's best to tell a person what's wanted and what is isn't. That way everyone knows where they stand xx |
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I’m generally pretty good at picking up hints and interpreting people’s body language and non-verbal communication. However, that ability seems to completely disappear if I go on a vanilla date with someone, which is when I’d most like it to be on form!
Luckily for me, women tend to be more direct in clubs and on meets. |
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"I'm terrible at picking up hints. Subtlety is completely lost on me.
Yeah, just be blatant, I'll take it from there."
Same here, if I've got beef with anyone, I'll tell it how it is, and I would expect the same off anyone else, no good beating round the bushes   |
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