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A compliment.
When I was younger of someone complimented me I'd deflect it....turn it into a joke or similar.
Now a day's I take them on the manner they are given.
Can you take a compliment?
Have you always being comfortable in doing so?
I think I used to feel embarrassed by compliments, now I embrace them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I say "thank you". I might not always agree with them or believe they mean it, but I try to be gracious nonetheless. I used to deflect because it made me uncomfortable too, OP. I once heard somebody say that not accepting a compliment was a personal rejection of the giver. It made me think a bit. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
It depends who is doing the complimenting. I've never been good at taking them, but honestly until fab it wasn't really an issue very often, and if I got a compliment I'd be embarrassed but at least I believed it was genuine.
These days I take everything with a bucket of salt and while compliments still make me blush it does take a lot to make me believe them. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Sometimes. It depends on who it is from, how I'm feeling at the time. There are certain ones that I'm always going to readily accept, others I'm polite and say thank you because I know they are well intended, regardless of how they land with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle. My best mate told me off once after her ladyship had complimented me saying she liked the way I smelt with a new aftershave she bought me. I thought this was nonsense, what she liked was the smell of the product which had become a bit of a joke between us "mmm that product you're wearing smells nice".
He told me that it was rude to deflect a compliment and sounded ungrateful so I try to be different now.
Mr |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
A compliment is just acknowledging that we appreciate something about someone/thing else.
Most of the time we don’t like compliments because we know where all our skeletons are buried and so we can feel that they are not genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not great at it. But I think it really does depend who it’s from. If it’s from a close mate who will tell me when I look shit as well then I can take the compliments.
Or there is someone in my life who keeps telling me I look exhausted but still beautiful and that actually means a lot
But I find it difficult from others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, it can lift your day.
(But it can also make you feel a bit smug, and then you think “but did they really mean it, or are they being sarcastic…”) 
It depends on the giver as to how you respond. |
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I feel very uncomfortable with most compliments. I like things to be objective and verifiable. That's rarely the case with a compliment.
If somebody gives me their opinion that I'm good at something or something they think is positive about me, I feel like accepting the compliment means I agree with them, and usually I don't. Luke |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope... On here I just assume they want to get laid... In person I just deflect... And assume they probably want to get laid... I find compliments quite empty... Insults I can take like a fucking champ tho! |
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I accept them with grace and a smile...especially random ones from strangers, they can be so uplifting. Occasionally I'll make a joke of it, usually if it's from a close friend, and generally to stop them following up with a wisecrack...I have some twisted friends, but I know compliments from them are genuine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends who it’s from. On here from a random, I take it with a juggernaut of salt.
If it’s from someone who knows me, I’ll accept it and say thank you.
If it’s someone close to me, I’ll really appreciate it. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
It general (real life) I just say thanks and move the conversation on.
On here I rarely think a compliment is genuine but I’m not going to question it, so I just say thanks and move the conversation along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I'm terrible at receiving compliments. I try to just say thank you and leave it at that, but I find myself arguing about how they must be mistaken, deluded, or just mad. |
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"Not really no. I’ve never been great at it. I saw that thread done for you yesterday. If that had have been mean I would have died! I’d have logged off and not come back for days lol. X"
Aww the thread
It was totally unexpected and really appreciated
I has a bit of a crappy moment yesterday and the thread stopped and made me smile x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I can, but I never believe them. I gave up fighting people a very long time ago as it does you no favours and people can easily think you're just looking for attention. |
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If it’s about my work or a new haircut then yes. Anything body related I just don’t understand.
I happily compliment others loads though - a poor woman in town must have thought I was nuts on Tuesday when I almost jumped in front of her, told her she look fab & wanted to know where her dress was from.
J x |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
I can take a compliment 
A colleague at work complimented me a few weeks ago and I was like "I know right!" She laughed and said that she wished she could be more like me and accept compliments confidently.
People keep complimenting my hair atm, which has simply gone very (home dyed) wrong but apparently looks good. That's harder to take a compliment on. |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
No no no, call me every name under the sun and I’ll just bat it off. Tell me something nice or pass comment on something I’ve done I’ll do a “homer sinking into the bushes”  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like backhanded compliments best. They make me laugh.
Last compliment I had, I was bouncing enthusiastically on a cock and he said I'm sexy. Men talk shit when they're about to/ have just cum. |
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It depends for me.
If someone is paying a compliment that plays into my perceptions of my strengths then I will take it (You're dead funny! Yes I am, thanks for noticing).
If it's something I don't perceive as a strength then I will immediately decide the person paying the compliment is full of shit and start getting sarcastic (You're gorgeous! Sure, why should I believe the evidence of my own eyes, every mirror and every photograph when I could listen to a horny bloke's sycophancy?).
I am excellent at paying compliments though, and like to do so frequently. |
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"A compliment.
When I was younger of someone complimented me I'd deflect it....turn it into a joke or similar.
Now a day's I take them on the manner they are given.
Can you take a compliment?
Have you always being comfortable in doing so?
I think I used to feel embarrassed by compliments, now I embrace them "
Nope. I change the subject or just smile of its in person. Still can’t take compliments lol |
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I love compliments, they are always flattering in my eyes  I just don't like men complimenting my lips as its obvious what's on their mind before we even get to have a conversation first.
Unless they say I have kissable lips then I accept those
Otherwise just brush the lips compliments off with a thanks yeah so anyway looool xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope... On here I just assume they want to get laid... In person I just deflect... And assume they probably want to get laid... I find compliments quite empty... Insults I can take like a fucking champ tho! "
Well I guess you are right… they can only lie |
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I've learnt to always say "thank you for the compliment" now doesn't necessarily mean I believe what they say but to put other people's positivity down with negativity is just going to make everyone feel abit shit! |
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By *accaMan
over a year ago
leicester |
No idea why but I just find them hard to take, even when I know there very sincere. I really don't know what say when complimented in any situation, I always feel I try and deflect then and afterwards have a word with myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sad to say that I’m notoriously bad at accepting and believing compliments , I always think it’s just some kind of ploy to get in my knickers.
I wish I knew why I find it so hard to just accept them for the nice thing they are ?   |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
No. I absolutely can’t.
I try to just accept any with grace but they make me uncomfortable.
I feel that any I get come with the expectation of reciprocity, that they’re giving me one to receive one in return or with a cost involved. Mainly because that’s how it’s often been in the past |
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