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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Am I a time waster? Chatting with someone who wants to meet and yes she is local(30miles) but for me to arrange a meet i have so much to organise...son..work..
So I've kinda ignored her messages...because she might think im a time waster....actually fuck this thread im gonna tell her now why I go slow in organising a meet ...x |
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No. We have to arrange our swinging life around work and family. Sometimes we have to plan ahead.
The amount of people who go radio silent when you explain this never cease's to amaze me.
Just how it is on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I'm still waiting for you to arrive! 70 hours and still waiting. You had better be worth it. Oh I've eaten all the cake now. "
Im walking so might take awhile lol |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Keeping the thread more serious than actually intended.
Making time for meets is never as easy for some as it may be for others. For some it may be a case of a total schedule nightmare and we should all accept that.
If I'm interested in somebody I am interested in them as a person also, so I'm happy to wait as long as it takes to be honest.
Time wasters to me are more constant arrange and then cancel, or just being stood up. As I don't see getting to know somebody I like as a waste of time, even if at the end nothing happened.
I like to think I'd be treated with the same respect. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Keeping the thread more serious than actually intended.
Making time for meets is never as easy for some as it may be for others. For some it may be a case of a total schedule nightmare and we should all accept that.
If I'm interested in somebody I am interested in them as a person also, so I'm happy to wait as long as it takes to be honest.
Time wasters to me are more constant arrange and then cancel, or just being stood up. As I don't see getting to know somebody I like as a waste of time, even if at the end nothing happened.
I like to think I'd be treated with the same respect. "
This ^^^ I have to arrange things around work and kids so sometimes it can take a while for me to actually say yes I'm free such and such a date, if the person is interested they'll understand.
Timewasting for me is arranging plans and then cancelling repeatedly with no explanation (admittedly I've had to in the past but always explain) or just being vague about actually wanting to etc x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only ever give one chance.
Even if she's smokin hot never go back and do not get angry.
Yes things happen in life but you need to protect yourself from the Muppets.
Move on |
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To talk about arranging a possible mwet and then ignoring messages, I think is bad form.
If someone did that to me I probably wouldn't have my heart in it after that.
We all have lives, commitments so I wouldn't understand why that resulted in being ignored |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Only ever give one chance.
Even if she's smokin hot never go back and do not get angry.
Yes things happen in life but you need to protect yourself from the Muppets.
Move on "
I’d love to know who or what hurt you.
I think you need a hug |
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"Am I a time waster? Chatting with someone who wants to meet and yes she is local(30miles) but for me to arrange a meet i have so much to organise...son..work..
So I've kinda ignored her messages...because she might think im a time waster....actually fuck this thread im gonna tell her now why I go slow in organising a meet ...x"
Get out….!!! Wasting my time fucktard  |
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If you're genuinely interested in potentially meeting, it's not wasting another's time to chat. If you have months to wait before meeting, you could explain that up front - otherwise few want pressure to meet quickly. Most of us have other things that are higher priority, so there will be a delay.
Part of getting to find matching others is going to include expectations, including availability etc. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
The simple answer is to be honest.
One persons time waster (a massively over used term by the way) is another’s cautious or busy individual. One persons ignorant bitch is another’s prudent person.
Don’t be so afraid of labels that others are so quick to hand out.
Just be careful and honest with those you’re chatting to, respect them and yourself and you won’t go far wrong.
If you’re struggling for time; say, if you’re nervous; express it and if you need to slow down; tell them.
We’re all people, have demands and needs away from here. If they can’t respect that, then they weren’t worth meeting in the first place.
Just as a side note, the longest that I’ve ever chatted to someone before meeting was 11 months before we found time, it happens, there’s no time frame other than what you both want |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only ever give one chance.
Even if she's smokin hot never go back and do not get angry.
Yes things happen in life but you need to protect yourself from the Muppets.
Move on "
I like your style... One and done.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The simple answer is to be honest.
One persons time waster (a massively over used term by the way) is another’s cautious or busy individual. One persons ignorant bitch is another’s prudent person.
Don’t be so afraid of labels that others are so quick to hand out.
Just be careful and honest with those you’re chatting to, respect them and yourself and you won’t go far wrong.
If you’re struggling for time; say, if you’re nervous; express it and if you need to slow down; tell them.
We’re all people, have demands and needs away from here. If they can’t respect that, then they weren’t worth meeting in the first place.
Just as a side note, the longest that I’ve ever chatted to someone before meeting was 11 months before we found time, it happens, there’s no time frame other than what you both want"
I do hope there's more like you out there  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"The simple answer is to be honest.
One persons time waster (a massively over used term by the way) is another’s cautious or busy individual. One persons ignorant bitch is another’s prudent person.
Don’t be so afraid of labels that others are so quick to hand out.
Just be careful and honest with those you’re chatting to, respect them and yourself and you won’t go far wrong.
If you’re struggling for time; say, if you’re nervous; express it and if you need to slow down; tell them.
We’re all people, have demands and needs away from here. If they can’t respect that, then they weren’t worth meeting in the first place.
Just as a side note, the longest that I’ve ever chatted to someone before meeting was 11 months before we found time, it happens, there’s no time frame other than what you both want
I do hope there's more like you out there "
I sincerely hope not, for everyone’s sake!  |
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"I would much prefer someone replied to my message and explained it all, than ignore me.
I'd personally lose interest and stop engaging if someone just went quiet. "
I'm sorry, maybe ma carrier pigeon got distracted   |
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"Am I a time waster? Chatting with someone who wants to meet and yes she is local(30miles) but for me to arrange a meet i have so much to organise...son..work..
So I've kinda ignored her messages...because she might think im a time waster....actually fuck this thread im gonna tell her now why I go slow in organising a meet ...x"
Why not be honest and plan a meet for the weeks ahead?. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!"
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it "
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x |
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x"
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you? "
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been working 4x nights a week Friday to Monday since December so even making time to see my friends for socialising is hard. Tuesday to Thursday evenings are my only evenings with my daughter as she’s either with her dad or my mum for me to work and then she’s in school in the day. I wouldn’t use one of my evenings with my daughter to meet some random guy from here so I don’t even know how I’d fit someone in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been working 4x nights a week Friday to Monday since December so even making time to see my friends for socialising is hard. Tuesday to Thursday evenings are my only evenings with my daughter as she’s either with her dad or my mum for me to work and then she’s in school in the day. I wouldn’t use one of my evenings with my daughter to meet some random guy from here so I don’t even know how I’d fit someone in. "
I’m in the same boat. Especially working in care, my job is demanding enough. My only time I have off I’d much rather relax with my kids then meet a stranger. |
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"I’ve been working 4x nights a week Friday to Monday since December so even making time to see my friends for socialising is hard. Tuesday to Thursday evenings are my only evenings with my daughter as she’s either with her dad or my mum for me to work and then she’s in school in the day. I wouldn’t use one of my evenings with my daughter to meet some random guy from here so I don’t even know how I’d fit someone in. "
They get a bad press but it sounds like you need a 1 minute man
Real life definitely gets in the way of fab life. A lot of people seem to like to meet when their kids are at school but unfortunately that's exactly when I'm at work so no can do there either.
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x"
Soz like but am howling!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!! "
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x |
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!!
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x"
Ohh take a few minutes and shake it off..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!!
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x
Ohh take a few minutes and shake it off.. "
Wanna meet up? ....oh better now lol x |
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!!
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x
Ohh take a few minutes and shake it off..
Wanna meet up? ....oh better now lol x"
Sure 5 years , 6 weeks and 24 mins time good for you?x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!!
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x
Ohh take a few minutes and shake it off..
Wanna meet up? ....oh better now lol x
Sure 5 years , 6 weeks and 24 mins time good for you?x"
Perfect....weatherspoons at 7pm ok? |
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!!
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x
Ohh take a few minutes and shake it off..
Wanna meet up? ....oh better now lol x
Sure 5 years , 6 weeks and 24 mins time good for you?x
Perfect....weatherspoons at 7pm ok? "
Ahh man 7pm no good for me!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!!
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x
Ohh take a few minutes and shake it off..
Wanna meet up? ....oh better now lol x
Sure 5 years , 6 weeks and 24 mins time good for you?x
Perfect....weatherspoons at 7pm ok?
Ahh man 7pm no good for me!!"
Oh well...guess I'll have to block you now lol |
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"Lol...so I explained and got blocked!!!!!!
Think you got what was coming to ya fella!
You nevery had time to respond but you had time to start a thread on it
I think your right lol oh well I will put more effort into the others x
Maybe you were too slow to put your side of things across. By that point she may have got pissed off with you?
I did try and explain about my life and the difficulties in arranging something.....its ok im sure she'll get over me in time x
Soz like but am howling!!!
Im glad my pain and heartbreak is of amusement for you ......lol x
Ohh take a few minutes and shake it off..
Wanna meet up? ....oh better now lol x
Sure 5 years , 6 weeks and 24 mins time good for you?x
Perfect....weatherspoons at 7pm ok?
Ahh man 7pm no good for me!!
Oh well...guess I'll have to block you now lol"
Dare!! |
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