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By *ackt815 OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Can someone explain to me why some couples say they don't want bi guys? Like do they think your going to spontaneously fuck their husband or something? I'm not having a go at people who say this I just want to understand their reasoning |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Can someone explain to me why some couples say they don't want bi guys? Like do they think your going to spontaneously fuck their husband or something? I'm not having a go at people who say this I just want to understand their reasoning "
That might be part of the concern, yes.
Homophobia; the worry that a gay man will treat you the same way that you treat a woman |
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It's for a range of reasons and, for some, may include some homophobia. Preferences are that, so it's better to put your energy towards finding people who are open to bi and curious guys, rather than understanding others. Continue to feel confident that being honest is preferable.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some couples don't want to meet bi guys, whereas some will ONLY meet bi guys.
Stop worrying about those whose criteria you don't meet and focus on those you do |
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We've met bi men, mostly we don't realise until we accidentally find their "other" profile. Years ago on another site one guy made Mr N wonder a bit but apart from that they've all been respectful of boundaries.
Bi women *in our experience* are a whole other story |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Most Guys are horn dogs and dont know limits, the male half mybe uncomfortable with that. Also i know sexual health is a reason seeing posts on here.  "
Both are stereotypes and are generally not true but that’s the problem with stigmas. |
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"Can someone explain to me why some couples say they don't want bi guys? Like do they think your going to spontaneously fuck their husband or something? I'm not having a go at people who say this I just want to understand their reasoning "
Because they don't want to |
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"Just so yous know I'm not angry or anything it's just something I've saw and didn't understand "
Its ok to be curious jack, best bet I'd to ask them but reassure them of course it's their choice you would just like a better understanding  hope you get that understanding in the end xx |
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By *ackt815 OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"But also get no straight guys. At my age my backs starting to curve do have trouble standing up straight "
That's a bit different though because they might be looking for bi fun, it's not like a bi guy couldn't just do the same as someone straight |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"Can someone explain to me why some couples say they don't want bi guys? Like do they think your going to spontaneously fuck their husband or something? I'm not having a go at people who say this I just want to understand their reasoning
That might be part of the concern, yes.
Homophobia; the worry that a gay man will treat you the same way that you treat a woman"
*Applauds*
While also sucking air through her teeth.
Oof. Never thought of explaining it that way. |
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Oh...this is getting asked again is it 
No one acctually needs to justify this but I'll do it...again.
Firstly, I'm 100% straight. Its ny wife that's the bi one. Yes, actual.bi and not curious. She has no interest in seeing 2 guys doing anything together (not that it would happen with me anyway).
Secondly, no amount of "I'll play straight" arguments hold water.
We've been swinging for over 20 years and know well enough to say many people make a lot of claims that dont hold true on the night. Many guys push their luck.
Now I'm not insinuating that all bi guys are going to try it on. That's not a reality of the situation as most are respectable guys. But it just takes one in the heat of the moment and I'm the one who has to deal a huge boundary of mine being crossed.
So why even put ourselves in the position? Theres plenty of people on fab to meet who are willing to meet bi guys. Just respect the fact some of us wont and we can all get on with our days. It isnt personal, it isnt any sort of homophobia or persecution. It's simply a case of bi guys falling into a category we have no interest in. We want what we want and I'm afraid bi guys are not it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bi women *in our experience* are a whole other story"
I’ve been wondering about this. I’ve not been to a club yet (keen to try) but I’ve heard stories of women touching women without consent, but it’s seen as “more acceptable” because hey, it’s just a bit of fun and not “as serious “ (because there’s no penis involved I guess). No idea if this is true but  |
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By *ackt815 OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
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Bi women *in our experience* are a whole other story
I’ve been wondering about this. I’ve not been to a club yet (keen to try) but I’ve heard stories of women touching women without consent, but it’s seen as “more acceptable” because hey, it’s just a bit of fun and not “as serious “ (because there’s no penis involved I guess). No idea if this is true but "
I think women in general get away with things like that a lot more the amount of times me and my friends have been touched up in clubs is stupid and it's saw as harmless but if it was the other way around its sexual harassment |
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Bi women *in our experience* are a whole other story
I’ve been wondering about this. I’ve not been to a club yet (keen to try) but I’ve heard stories of women touching women without consent, but it’s seen as “more acceptable” because hey, it’s just a bit of fun and not “as serious “ (because there’s no penis involved I guess). No idea if this is true but "
Cant speak for all clubs but the one we have visited where very strict about no touching without consent regardless of gender.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s up to the couple if they want to meet bi guys or not but I do get a little inside Chuckle at the text
Ie 80% off this site is bi guys even if they profile says straight
One look at a tv/ts inbox is all that’s needed lol |
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By *ackt815 OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
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Bi women *in our experience* are a whole other story
I’ve been wondering about this. I’ve not been to a club yet (keen to try) but I’ve heard stories of women touching women without consent, but it’s seen as “more acceptable” because hey, it’s just a bit of fun and not “as serious “ (because there’s no penis involved I guess). No idea if this is true but
Cant speak for all clubs but the one we have visited where very strict about no touching without consent regardless of gender.
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I meant like dance clubs |
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By *ackt815 OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"It’s up to the couple if they want to meet bi guys or not but I do get a little inside Chuckle at the text
Ie 80% off this site is bi guys even if they profile says straight
One look at a tv/ts inbox is all that’s needed lol "
That's true, I'm not hugely into guys but I love tv/ts still not got with one though |
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By *aro7Man
over a year ago
wickford |
I’ve recently decided I’m curious, never had an experience as it happens,,,,,,I feel I’m primarily straight I’m not gonna jump on a fella, I’m not interested in meeting a fella on his own or kissing a fella, but I might be partial to some cock interaction in a couple or party situation, so how do you clarify that? I’ve found a couple of times I’ve be knocked Back because of this, how do people see this? Many thanks |
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By *ackt815 OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I’ve recently decided I’m curious, never had an experience as it happens,,,,,,I feel I’m primarily straight I’m not gonna jump on a fella, I’m not interested in meeting a fella on his own or kissing a fella, but I might be partial to some cock interaction in a couple or party situation, so how do you clarify that? I’ve found a couple of times I’ve be knocked Back because of this, how do people see this? Many thanks "
Yeah I know what you mean I've been in the same sort of situation I think the best way is to be upfront at the start about what you like and don't like |
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By *aro7Man
over a year ago
wickford |
"I’ve recently decided I’m curious, never had an experience as it happens,,,,,,I feel I’m primarily straight I’m not gonna jump on a fella, I’m not interested in meeting a fella on his own or kissing a fella, but I might be partial to some cock interaction in a couple or party situation, so how do you clarify that? I’ve found a couple of times I’ve be knocked Back because of this, how do people see this? Many thanks
Yeah I know what you mean I've been in the same sort of situation I think the best way is to be upfront at the start about what you like and don't like "
Yeah I think that goes without saying,,,,,,,  |
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"Some of the comments on here say far more about those that wrote the comment, than those the OP was asking about.
Really makes you think."
As a 79% Exhibitionist, what do you do the other 21% of the time?  |
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Bi women *in our experience* are a whole other story
I’ve been wondering about this. I’ve not been to a club yet (keen to try) but I’ve heard stories of women touching women without consent, but it’s seen as “more acceptable” because hey, it’s just a bit of fun and not “as serious “ (because there’s no penis involved I guess). No idea if this is true but "
We don't go to clubs but we won't meet couples where the woman is bisexual any more due to a few unpleasant experiences. |
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"Some of the comments on here say far more about those that wrote the comment, than those the OP was asking about.
Really makes you think."
Which ones? I don’t see any. And the sweetcorn comment was obviously a joke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bi women *in our experience* are a whole other story
I’ve been wondering about this. I’ve not been to a club yet (keen to try) but I’ve heard stories of women touching women without consent, but it’s seen as “more acceptable” because hey, it’s just a bit of fun and not “as serious “ (because there’s no penis involved I guess). No idea if this is true but
We don't go to clubs but we won't meet couples where the woman is bisexual any more due to a few unpleasant experiences."
Yes I've heard some strange things. Worrying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bi guys seem to always get the end of the sticks... from people who say they don’t even exist and are just closeted gays or lesbians, to ones who think they are promiscuous ...  we stand with you  |
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