I've been having a very illuminating conversation with a very dear friend of mine today (now passed out and sleeping off bottle two...)
She is very attractive and wherever we go she is pursued by men in a sexual manner in spite of the fact that she has no interest in sex outside of a committed relationship. When the two of us are together men seem to assume that I (the plumper, less pretty one) am the one who is looking for a relationship and she is the one who would be likely to drag them off to her lair and shag them all over! 
The irony of this considering the site we are on has possibly hit you 
She has been telling me that this has been the case since she was about 13, feeling very much like a child and suddenly starting to get attention from boys, teachers, strangers in the street, people she worked with (Saturday job) and even her friends fathers (one of whom tried to shove his tongue down her throat when she was 16). 
Me, I was a late bloomer. The boobs arrived early, but I had milk bottle bottom glasses, braces and acne - a bullies delight but not a sex object. 
Boys didn't start to notice me till I was around 17 (braces gone, acne clearing up and contacts) which was around the time I started to notice them. My later childhood was therefore not tainted by unwanted sexual behaviour from others.
How early did you start to get attention and was it too early?
I'm not asking about your early behaviour, but about attentions paid towards you. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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All girls school, church and never allowed out. 32B by the time I was 10. Advances probably from about 15 from an older friend of a friend but served in pubs from the age of 14 as I looked older (they can try and lock you up but where there is a will there is a way). Not quite pure and chaste but definitely virginal until I was 17. |
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I was in all-girl schools until I was 18, and was a swot.
However, I did lust after a boy when I was around 13 while I was at a sports event, in the guise of an "official photographer" for my class.
I still have a couple of sneaky pics of this boy in my possession somewhere. 
At 17, at a school dance with boys from a neighbouring school, I did get invites to dance with one of the boys, and thought I might have been in luck.
It turned out to be nothing. Being told off by his school master for ringing him in the evening saw to that.
Oh happy days! |
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"Come on OP, I have met you in person, and believe you are being a tad too harsh about yourself.
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Yes I am pretty, I have great curves. But this friend is tall and blonde and leggy and stunning and so many men see her and it takes a while before they even register that I'm there too...
Which is fine, I get through life by being nice and apparently quiet and librarian like. Unless you're a real friend then you know the real me |
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"I was far too shy and never had the balls to pursue anything that's probably why I'm trying to make up for what I missed out on now "
You're in the right place then |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Come on OP, I have met you in person, and believe you are being a tad too harsh about yourself.
Yes I am pretty, I have great curves. But this friend is tall and blonde and leggy and stunning and so many men see her and it takes a while before they even register that I'm there too...
Which is fine, I get through life by being nice and apparently quiet and librarian like. Unless you're a real friend then you know the real me "
Surely everyone has a library fantasy waiting to be taken down from that top shelf? |
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"I was far too shy and never had the balls to pursue anything that's probably why I'm trying to make up for what I missed out on now "
But she has never wanted the attention - not even now!
But as a child she was confused by this shift in behaviour and simply wanted everyone (friend's dads included) to carry on behaving as they did before she had a growth spurt.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's usually younger for women
For her it was 13 and yet for me nothing really till I was 17..."
I was flirty at a young age maybe you was not. I was a bit of a wild one.  |
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"I was far too shy and never had the balls to pursue anything that's probably why I'm trying to make up for what I missed out on now
But she has never wanted the attention - not even now!
But as a child she was confused by this shift in behaviour and simply wanted everyone (friend's dads included) to carry on behaving as they did before she had a growth spurt. "
think most women enjoy the attention though ? |
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I remember growing up a lot at 15 and suddenly got quite a bit of attention not only from girls my own age but I also from ladies in their 30's +! Hmm fond memories  |
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"I was far too shy and never had the balls to pursue anything that's probably why I'm trying to make up for what I missed out on now
But she has never wanted the attention - not even now!
But as a child she was confused by this shift in behaviour and simply wanted everyone (friend's dads included) to carry on behaving as they did before she had a growth spurt. think most women enjoy the attention though ?"
She hates it - she asked me today why men can't simply be friends with her!  |
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"I was far too shy and never had the balls to pursue anything that's probably why I'm trying to make up for what I missed out on now
But she has never wanted the attention - not even now!
But as a child she was confused by this shift in behaviour and simply wanted everyone (friend's dads included) to carry on behaving as they did before she had a growth spurt. think most women enjoy the attention though ?
She hates it - she asked me today why men can't simply be friends with her! "
And it's one thing for a grown woman to contend with but she was 13 and still wanting to be a child and not understanding why men would brush past her so closely and watch her when she was playing with friends in summer and wearing shorts... |
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I was pursued by girls at 12. Like I was 12! I still wanted to be a boy doing things what boys do like football and meeting mates! Not getting into relationships. So I was pretty shit at noticing signals. And then I got into a long term relationship at 15 and nothing ever happened during then or after. Mostly depends on your character really to whether people become more drawn to yourselves I reckon.. |
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I got attention as soon as my boobs started to grow. It was mostly from men, adults that is, and it was much too early. I hated it. I still don't like having too much attention focused on me. I'm actually quite shy and it embarrassed me.
It's possible my excess weight is in part due to wanting less attention, and I have some sort of deep rooted subconscious need to keep the fat to protect myself. It would explain why I always sabotage my own weight loss efforts. |
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when i was about 13 i was very pretty then and big for my age so men thought i was older. i was quite shy and used to get embarased and get the giggles.
its nice to be liked, but the attention i got could make me feel uncomfortable.
also my sister was much older than me and i felt like my parents were treating me as if i was much older than i was. |
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"when i was about 13 i was very pretty then and big for my age so men thought i was older. i was quite shy and used to get embarased and get the giggles.
its nice to be liked, but the attention i got could make me feel uncomfortable.
also my sister was much older than me and i felt like my parents were treating me as if i was much older than i was."
I'm the youngest in my family so I was treated as not really grown up even when I had my own place! So it would make sense that that added to my staying quite young and innocent for a long time  |
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My parents were very strict, and did not like any public display of affection of any sort.
I remember telling my mum about wearing very tight trousers to go to a party while I was at school, and was told off for being inappropriate and "loose"!
She will have a fit if she knows what I get up to in my spare time for certain! 
Good job she lives in different continents to me!  |
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I have had attention as long as I can remember back so I guess it would be mid teens. Its never a been a problem for me as I will happily speak my mind if I need to. I will say one thing though and that is I would rather have a little extra unwanted attention than none at all. |
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"I started to get attention when i reached 15....never did anything about it til i was 18 though  "
Did that early attention make you feel confused? Creeped out? Uncomfortable? Or excited? Exhilarated? Did it arrive at the same time as you were noticing people too? |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I started to get attention when i reached 15....never did anything about it til i was 18 though
Did that early attention make you feel confused? Creeped out? Uncomfortable? Or excited? Exhilarated? Did it arrive at the same time as you were noticing people too?"
I was a bit uncomfortable with it tbh ....and no i wasnt at all arsed, i did think "why?" as i was a tom boy...but had huge boobs compared to my peers, so thought that was it....i wasnt at all fussed with guys until i hit last part of 17th year....didnt take me long to catch up tbh......actually i was embarrassed with attention i got.... |
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