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How do I find people?
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"Constantly trying to start off a conversation with someone and always get aired, what can I do to make myself look more attractive to people? What do I need that I’m lacking? Any help would be greatly appreciated people x" Maybe take time to read profiles and concentrate on messaging people that you fit what they are looking for, it won't guarantee anything but it could make it more likely that you will receive a reply | |||
"Constantly trying to start off a conversation with someone and always get aired, what can I do to make myself look more attractive to people? What do I need that I’m lacking? Any help would be greatly appreciated people x" What sort of message do you send people to make initial contact? A lot of guys fall down there. Can you give us an example of one of yours? | |||
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"Constantly trying to start off a conversation with someone and always get aired, what can I do to make myself look more attractive to people? What do I need that I’m lacking? Any help would be greatly appreciated people x" Take Your coat off. | |||
"Constantly trying to start off a conversation with someone and always get aired, what can I do to make myself look more attractive to people? What do I need that I’m lacking? Any help would be greatly appreciated people x Maybe take time to read profiles and concentrate on messaging people that you fit what they are looking for, it won't guarantee anything but it could make it more likely that you will receive a reply" I get what you are saying but this method doesnt really make a difference. I myself have matched perfect with what someone wanted s send a nice message and just got ignored. Whats the point in someone saying what you want and when you meet that criteria you get deleted? Rather pointless in my book. | |||
"Constantly trying to start off a conversation with someone and always get aired, what can I do to make myself look more attractive to people? What do I need that I’m lacking? Any help would be greatly appreciated people x Maybe take time to read profiles and concentrate on messaging people that you fit what they are looking for, it won't guarantee anything but it could make it more likely that you will receive a reply I get what you are saying but this method doesnt really make a difference. I myself have matched perfect with what someone wanted s send a nice message and just got ignored. Whats the point in someone saying what you want and when you meet that criteria you get deleted? Rather pointless in my book. " But doing it other ways, like just saying "Hi" and expecting a reply, also generally don't work. The ratio of men to women here is such that most messages are going to go unanswered regardless 9f what's in them. That's just life on Fab. Crap messages from men swamp women's inboxes so the decent ones are hard to spot. The question is do you want a 99.99% chance of having your message deleted or a 97% chance. Personally, I'd take the latter and manage my expectations. The above poster's suggestion is a better way of getting a reply. You're never going to push your chances to 50:50, but you can improve on sending exactly the same message to loads of people, which is almost always going to fail. | |||
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"Constantly trying to start off a conversation with someone and always get aired, what can I do to make myself look more attractive to people? What do I need that I’m lacking? Any help would be greatly appreciated people x Maybe take time to read profiles and concentrate on messaging people that you fit what they are looking for, it won't guarantee anything but it could make it more likely that you will receive a reply" agreed. Nothing more aggravating than a message that proves someone hasn't read a profile. They can't see beyond photos sometimes. | |||
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"Constantly trying to start off a conversation with someone and always get aired, what can I do to make myself look more attractive to people? What do I need that I’m lacking? Any help would be greatly appreciated people x" Hello OP Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. Don't get into arguements over it; the world has changed and how people meet today is different to how it was 10 years ago, let alone 30 or 40. There is nothing you can do about your age, so don't fret. You shouldn't look on it as a negative, because for some potential meets your age is a selling point. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. Messaging like that doesn't work on Fab like it does with instant messaging services. Can you imagine writing Hi, waiting three days and then getting a msg back saying hi, to which you reply how are you and have to wait another three or four days for a reply? If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly you have had eight months to fill out your profile, but it still doesn't leap out of the screen at prospective meets. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make. We are a couple that do meet guys of your age, and one look at your profile would put us off from looking any further. Nobody knows you as well as you know you, and if you have nothing to say about yourself it could be interpreted as there is nothing worth saying about you. That's probably not true, but would you start a conversation in person with someone if you thought you would only get single word answers because they have nothing to say? Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. Smiling face pics are invaluable. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice. However your profile is not everything. Getting involved with the forums and the chatroom are both great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. When it's safe to do so... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? Some will give you a chance, some won't, but we wish you luck | |||
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"Try and make each message personal to the person you're messaging. It proves you have read their profile and that you dont copy and paste the same message to everyone. Also just remember to ratio of men to women on this site. "I agree with this alot of guys copy and paste no thought at all and shows they haven't read a profile | |||
 I just need to figure out what I can write about myself on my profile to make it look better ?? need to take some time infront of the computer and type something up!! I really appreciate you guys. Thank you a lot!! X | |||
