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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Argh still wanking!! Can’t seem to get any action. Not the kind i’m looking for anyway i.e a woman not a bloke. I’ve sent hundreds of messages and not even got so much as a bite. I haven’t just stuck to one approach either ive tried being nice and chatty, short and direct, nebby, brash, clean, filthy, being a gent, being cheeky etc etc and just nobody is interested. I always read the profile before messaging and find something relevant to talk about and Ive sent pictures, got verified even become a site supporter to show i’m serious I’m always respectful when turned down but i’m close to giving up. I have too many identifiable tattoos to have public photos on my profile and i know that will hinder me.
I have lots of fantasies that I wish to play out and plenty of kinks but unfortunately can’t find people willing to join in. I’ve thought about going to a sex party and whilst i know i would have a really good time I feel pretty damn nervous about the prospect of going to one by myself. I certainly have no-one in my life with whom i would be comfortable enough to even bring up the subject with and I have no friends on here. Consequently I have no idea how to get involved with the sex community, if you will.
So yeah, any tips for a newbie? How does a guy get laid around here? |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
ypur profile sucks big time, i wouldnt reply to you , im not interested in getting to know you , fuck you then be on my way , u might as well put any hole a goal , and lafies i yreat you like a piece of meat pffft  |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"You come across like your just looking for a hole to use rather than to actually meet a person, could have something to do with it? "
Agree with this! And there’s so many picture less profiles that it’s easier to bypass messages from them non picture ones because there’s nothing to intrigue you into wanting to check what is said because most of the time it just says “hi. How’s u babe” least interesting opening line ever. |
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"I'm not sure the phrase "someone to use while i'm feeling horny" is really selling yourself
Try adding some better pics and a profile pic for a start"
definitely will put most people off reading that |
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Your profile is very off putting. I can’t imagine any woman on here wanting to feel like a piece of meat. I think you need a total rewrite and a change in attitude towards the site. Sorry, but you asked! |
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"I’ve sent hundreds of messages and not even got so much as a bite. I haven’t just stuck to one approach either ive tried being nice and chatty, short and direct, nebby, brash, clean, filthy, being a gent, being cheeky etc etc and just nobody is interested. "
Did you try each of those approaches with everyone you contacted? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you everyone for your replies ive removed the text from my profile for now whilst I re-write.
I get what you are saying about how it comes across but to be honest its had dozens and dozens of rewrites. I get that it comes across a bit shitty but i was trying to be honest and direct because i can’t lie, I AM looking for a strictly sexual thing, non exclusive hookups with total strangers and do some wild things so I dont want to lie and pretend we’re going to be more than that just to be a lying dick head later. Guess im struggling to convey the words in a good way on my profile.
Funnily enough though, barely any women even look at my profile to see what ive wrote, so whilst I take the comments on board and have removed, its not that that actually putting people off (cause no-one looks). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand that women aren’t exactly going to be lining up but i’m sure there’s women out there who get thrills from being used.
I’m after a niche kind of woman though, i get that. |
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"Thank you everyone for your replies ive removed the text from my profile for now whilst I re-write.
I get what you are saying about how it comes across but to be honest its had dozens and dozens of rewrites. I get that it comes across a bit shitty but i was trying to be honest and direct because i can’t lie, I AM looking for a strictly sexual thing, non exclusive hookups with total strangers and do some wild things so I dont want to lie and pretend we’re going to be more than that just to be a lying dick head later. Guess im struggling to convey the words in a good way on my profile.
Funnily enough though, barely any women even look at my profile to see what ive wrote, so whilst I take the comments on board and have removed, its not that that actually putting people off (cause no-one looks). "
maybe put a photo of your profile, instead of the avatar |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand that women aren’t exactly going to be lining up but i’m sure there’s women out there who get thrills from being used.
I’m after a niche kind of woman though, i get that. "
Keep it in. If that what you're looking for be honest.
FB, NSA mean the same kind of thing but in a nicer way than saying you'll fuck a wet hole.
The type of people who just want a fuck usually won't be the types who use the forum. Why chat on a forum when you could be fucking right.
Doesn't mean either type is wrong just different. |
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"Funnily enough though, barely any women even look at my profile to see what ive wrote, so whilst I take the comments on board and have removed, its not that that actually putting people off (cause no-one looks). "
A lot of people have their profiles set to not show up if they've looked at your profile so you wouldn't know anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Argh still wanking!! Can’t seem to get any action. Not the kind i’m looking for anyway i.e a woman not a bloke. I’ve sent hundreds of messages and not even got so much as a bite. I haven’t just stuck to one approach either ive tried being nice and chatty, short and direct, nebby, brash, clean, filthy, being a gent, being cheeky etc etc and just nobody is interested. I always read the profile before messaging and find something relevant to talk about and Ive sent pictures, got verified even become a site supporter to show i’m serious I’m always respectful when turned down but i’m close to giving up. I have too many identifiable tattoos to have public photos on my profile and i know that will hinder me.
I have lots of fantasies that I wish to play out and plenty of kinks but unfortunately can’t find people willing to join in. I’ve thought about going to a sex party and whilst i know i would have a really good time I feel pretty damn nervous about the prospect of going to one by myself. I certainly have no-one in my life with whom i would be comfortable enough to even bring up the subject with and I have no friends on here. Consequently I have no idea how to get involved with the sex community, if you will.
So yeah, any tips for a newbie? How does a guy get laid around here? "
Try tinder
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not any holes a goal actually, i’m after a rather particular sexual personality type and kink"
If that's the case, perhaps you should try a fetish site rather than a swinging site? Also, there's no reason why you can't have some good photos, I see no tattoos on your chest, but even if there were, women do like clothed pics. There are lots of ways you could take photos to look more appealing. If you're into a particular kink, maybe describe it as a kink so you can de-personalise it from the actual women you're hoping to meet. All women appreciate (and should expect!) respect, even those who enjoy feeling used, which is just a sort of role play after all. |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Thank you everyone for your replies ive removed the text from my profile for now whilst I re-write.
I get what you are saying about how it comes across but to be honest its had dozens and dozens of rewrites. I get that it comes across a bit shitty but i was trying to be honest and direct because i can’t lie, I AM looking for a strictly sexual thing, non exclusive hookups with total strangers and do some wild things so I dont want to lie and pretend we’re going to be more than that just to be a lying dick head later. Guess im struggling to convey the words in a good way on my profile.
Funnily enough though, barely any women even look at my profile to see what ive wrote, so whilst I take the comments on board and have removed, its not that that actually putting people off (cause no-one looks). "
I don't think anyone would suggest that you lie on your profile about just looking for sex, but have you considered that while most women on here aren't looking for a relationship, they don't want to be made to feel like an unpaid hooker either.
Revise your expectations.. it sounds as if you're all take & no give!! Women also like nsa sex but that doesn't have to mean a completely clinical emotionless experience. If you have a kink or fetish to live out, you need to be honest about that too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you everyone for your replies ive removed the text from my profile for now whilst I re-write.
I get what you are saying about how it comes across but to be honest its had dozens and dozens of rewrites. I get that it comes across a bit shitty but i was trying to be honest and direct because i can’t lie, I AM looking for a strictly sexual thing, non exclusive hookups with total strangers and do some wild things so I dont want to lie and pretend we’re going to be more than that just to be a lying dick head later. Guess im struggling to convey the words in a good way on my profile.
Funnily enough though, barely any women even look at my profile to see what ive wrote, so whilst I take the comments on board and have removed, its not that that actually putting people off (cause no-one looks).
I don't think anyone would suggest that you lie on your profile about just looking for sex, but have you considered that while most women on here aren't looking for a relationship, they don't want to be made to feel like an unpaid hooker either.
Revise your expectations.. it sounds as if you're all take & no give!! Women also like nsa sex but that doesn't have to mean a completely clinical emotionless experience. If you have a kink or fetish to live out, you need to be honest about that too. "
I see what you mean about the unpaid hooker bit thats not my intention and i definitely give, but I do be clear about my fetish though and total stranger is a large aspect of it, its seems to be how im portraying that that is the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand that women aren’t exactly going to be lining up but i’m sure there’s women out there who get thrills from being used.
I’m after a niche kind of woman though, i get that. "
I’m robbing that quote mate my bio needs serious spicing up !
“ get thrills from being used “ subtle!
In fairness lots of men on here have put up similar kind of threads but your right it’s hard to get noticed !
But I don’t think the majority of women are been intentionally rude not reading your comment they just get 50 a day ! So I’m told
But yeah the black avatar definitely isn’t helping you ! Stick a picture up
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not any holes a goal actually, i’m after a rather particular sexual personality type and kink
If that's the case, perhaps you should try a fetish site rather than a swinging site? Also, there's no reason why you can't have some good photos, I see no tattoos on your chest, but even if there were, women do like clothed pics. There are lots of ways you could take photos to look more appealing. If you're into a particular kink, maybe describe it as a kink so you can de-personalise it from the actual women you're hoping to meet. All women appreciate (and should expect!) respect, even those who enjoy feeling used, which is just a sort of role play after all."
It didnt occur to me that there would be sites dedicated to certain kinks. Like I say i’m new but im curious and want to explore and i just dont know how to go about it. You’re probably right about the photo but i just really worry about being seen by someone i know or a colleague or something and a bit skitsy about putting photos up
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not any holes a goal actually, i’m after a rather particular sexual personality type and kink
If that's the case, perhaps you should try a fetish site rather than a swinging site? Also, there's no reason why you can't have some good photos, I see no tattoos on your chest, but even if there were, women do like clothed pics. There are lots of ways you could take photos to look more appealing. If you're into a particular kink, maybe describe it as a kink so you can de-personalise it from the actual women you're hoping to meet. All women appreciate (and should expect!) respect, even those who enjoy feeling used, which is just a sort of role play after all.
It didnt occur to me that there would be sites dedicated to certain kinks. Like I say i’m new but im curious and want to explore and i just dont know how to go about it. You’re probably right about the photo but i just really worry about being seen by someone i know or a colleague or something and a bit skitsy about putting photos up
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You don’t have to show your face anything is better then that black avatar |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I understand that women aren’t exactly going to be lining up but i’m sure there’s women out there who get thrills from being used.
I’m after a niche kind of woman though, i get that.
I’m robbing that quote mate my bio needs serious spicing up !
“ get thrills from being used “ subtle!
In fairness lots of men on here have put up similar kind of threads but your right it’s hard to get noticed !
But I don’t think the majority of women are been intentionally rude not reading your comment they just get 50 a day ! So I’m told
But yeah the black avatar definitely isn’t helping you ! Stick a picture up
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Cheers mate! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil. "
Crazy 1700 ? I just looked At your pics that number seems low to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil. "
I can totally see why you have that many messages, from what I see you fit the niche I’m looking for.
The fact that you have 1700 unread messages also says alot about my lack of success. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil. "
I wrote something similar on an online dating app and got loads of messages...made me think twice about dating anyone  |
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Ok joey
have a profile you know with words and maybe not have the only public pic be of you blowing your load on your chest
Just ideas
Also this is not a brothel its a swingers site sex is not promised |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil.
Crazy 1700 ? I just looked At your pics that number seems low to be honest "
 you look like you’d be handsome. Do you have any pictures of your arse hole? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok joey
have a profile you know with words and maybe not have the only public pic be of you blowing your load on your chest
Just ideas
Also this is not a brothel its a swingers site sex is not promised "
To be fair, i didnt realise that pic was public whoops |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil.
I can totally see why you have that many messages, from what I see you fit the niche I’m looking for.
The fact that you have 1700 unread messages also says alot about my lack of success."
Tell ye one thing you can’t knock your eagerness your straight to the point ! Think it’s hilarious!
Any txts yet since you started this thread ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil.
I can totally see why you have that many messages, from what I see you fit the niche I’m looking for.
The fact that you have 1700 unread messages also says alot about my lack of success.
Tell ye one thing you can’t knock your eagerness your straight to the point ! Think it’s hilarious!
Any txts yet since you started this thread ? "
Ha no of course not. Being straight to the point kinda has to come with the fetish. If i get to know people they’re no longer strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil.
Crazy 1700 ? I just looked At your pics that number seems low to be honest
you look like you’d be handsome. Do you have any pictures of your arse hole?"
you definitely took me up wrong !
I’ll send you pics anyway just in case your serious ! Never know on here !
I’m kidding |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil.
Crazy 1700 ? I just looked At your pics that number seems low to be honest
you look like you’d be handsome. Do you have any pictures of your arse hole?you definitely took me up wrong !
I’ll send you pics anyway just in case your serious ! Never know on here !
I’m kidding "
I like pictures of bum holes, ask anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You come across as a bit desperate which is not attractive.
Honestly though, be yourself on your profile. Then people who are not into what you're looking for can avoid you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil.
Crazy 1700 ? I just looked At your pics that number seems low to be honest
you look like you’d be handsome. Do you have any pictures of your arse hole?you definitely took me up wrong !
I’ll send you pics anyway just in case your serious ! Never know on here !
I’m kidding
I like pictures of bum holes, ask anyone. "
It’s not a great first impression! Straight off the bat rocking bum hole pics !
Where not even two sentences in right guwan then you asked |
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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil. "
Or just donate their willy skin? They may feel it a worthy cause. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile text is bizarre yet somehow have 1,700 odd messages in my inbox. Guess a lot of people want to shuffle off the mortal coil.
Crazy 1700 ? I just looked At your pics that number seems low to be honest
you look like you’d be handsome. Do you have any pictures of your arse hole?you definitely took me up wrong !
I’ll send you pics anyway just in case your serious ! Never know on here !
I’m kidding
I like pictures of bum holes, ask anyone.
It’s not a great first impression! Straight off the bat rocking bum hole pics !
Where not even two sentences in right guwan then you asked "
Still waiting... or a face pic would be good |
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Total stranger will put a lot of people off purely for safety issues and rightly so.
I know it's a shit thing to hear if you know you're groovy and all that jazz, but not everyone is on here without bad intentions. |
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