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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?
Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?
If you do - how did that work out for you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible. "
Sometimes the place for toxicity is only behind seven mountains and rivers. in a dragon cave. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Damn right I do, thankfully I don't have any at the moment but when I did they were close. "
What did you get out of it emotionally if I may ask? Wasn't it exhausting to pretend? |
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"Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible.
Sometimes the place for toxicity is only behind seven mountains and rivers. in a dragon cave. "
I think it's more that I can't cope with it. I second guess enough at the best of times. No point with someone who hasn't got my interests at heart. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Damn right I do, thankfully I don't have any at the moment but when I did they were close.
What did you get out of it emotionally if I may ask? Wasn't it exhausting to pretend? "
I was saving myself from getting beaten, keeping friendly with his friends stopped the beatings.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible.
Sometimes the place for toxicity is only behind seven mountains and rivers. in a dragon cave.
I think it's more that I can't cope with it. I second guess enough at the best of times. No point with someone who hasn't got my interests at heart. "
Oh I get it. Its good to be protective of your heart. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Damn right I do, thankfully I don't have any at the moment but when I did they were close.
What did you get out of it emotionally if I may ask? Wasn't it exhausting to pretend?
I was saving myself from getting beaten, keeping friendly with his friends stopped the beatings.
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Oh dear. It takes a toll.  x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Works for me... an "enemy" at work got caught in a whirwind of love and appreciation... worked more to my advantage... folk like me...loathe her..."
Things have a way of settling themselves sometimes.. I'm waiting for that day! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Enemies/toxic people/the ones that drag you down/leach off you ... they get cut out of my life and I move on.
Friends are cherished and looked after.
Quacksplat - you have lots of friends, even if you aren’t aware of them.
Mr HH |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Enemies/toxic people/the ones that drag you down/leach off you ... they get cut out of my life and I move on.
Friends are cherished and looked after.
Quacksplat - you have lots of friends, even if you aren’t aware of them.
Mr HH"
Clean cut seems to save lots of mess often. |
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I wouldn't say I've ever had any enemies as such, as that would mean that I gave two hoots about them or their behaviour - but there are certain people who I don't trust who I prefer to keep an eye on, just because I know how vengeful and deceitful they have been in the past. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldn't say I've ever had any enemies as such, as that would mean that I gave two hoots about them or their behaviour - but there are certain people who I don't trust who I prefer to keep an eye on, just because I know how vengeful and deceitful they have been in the past. "
That sounds like a good tactic. If you know nothing stops them from being nasty, good to watch them carefully and what they are up to. |
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Mostly I forget their existence. I've got better things to invest my emotions in. Does mean that occasionally I find someone that seems to have a dislike of me, and I cannot even recall what it might be about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Mostly I forget their existence. I've got better things to invest my emotions in. Does mean that occasionally I find someone that seems to have a dislike of me, and I cannot even recall what it might be about."
It made me chuckle a little. Imagining the confusion. Who are you again?!  |
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"Mostly I forget their existence. I've got better things to invest my emotions in. Does mean that occasionally I find someone that seems to have a dislike of me, and I cannot even recall what it might be about.
It made me chuckle a little. Imagining the confusion. Who are you again?! "
That together with the fact that I have a slight degree of face/name blindness. I'm sure there must be some technical term for it, but very often I see a face and know that I ought to know who they are, but the name just will not come. Embarrassing when it's someone you've known for 25 years... |
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I dont think of it as having friends/enemies..... personally i go with treat as you hope to be treated as a general rule.... i trust all a little, i trust some a lot, and trust a few not a jot..... even if you have done me wrong, im not one for being abusive, etc just no point, i tend to remove myself from the equation.... i can honestly say i have never sent anyone an abusive msg on here (i know, from many lady friends from clubs) not everyone can say that....
If you wrong me once, i will forgive but not forget, if you do it twice, then i will adjust my behaviour accordingly as by a third, you are actively choosing to bring it on yourself... and by being petulant/angry/abusive you are effectively sending the message they are relevant..... if they are detrimental to you, “aint nobody got no time for that” haha :p |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Kind of with work, because you can’t always easily get rid of your enemies so you have keep them in a safe place where they can’t attack you until you can properly dispose them. Personally never, if someone crosses me I’d either forgive or just cut them off |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My gran always used to say “if he sounds like a cunt , he probably is a cunt “ my gran lived until 104 on that , then again she knew a lot of cunts "
I love your gran  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd want to be around my friends, and my enemies as far as possible, (or maybe enemies close enough to throw a banana peel under them) "
You wouldn't!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Enemies generally hand you the scissors to cut them off.
Keeping them close is negative and work that isn't necessary. I don't have the time or the capacity for enemies. I'd rather use good energy on people that are worth it. |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go as far as calling them enemies, but in a business context it helps to keep the competition/devious/manipulative ones close so you can manage them better.
In my personal life I've no need to keep anyone close who I don't like. |
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I owe this thread an apology. I misunderstood it, probably because I've had a drink..
As many have pointed out, having enemies is not a great use of time or energy but if you do, know if they mean you harm and if so, then keep them close. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I owe this thread an apology. I misunderstood it, probably because I've had a drink..
As many have pointed out, having enemies is not a great use of time or energy but if you do, know if they mean you harm and if so, then keep them close."
I did wonder what was that about ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lifes too short for hate enemies and all that negativity.
Far easier to walk your own path and leave others to do the same...."
What if they follow you? |
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I prefer to concentrate all my energy on my real life friends, they are far more important.
Whilst Fab is a virtual platform..... yes, I do have friends here too. Enemies .... no! That’s such an emotive word, it portrays weapons. There are certainly a few here I don’t much care for, mainly due to their actions across the forums and their duplicitous, devious and deceitful manner whilst portraying a whiter than white persona  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My gran always used to say “if he sounds like a cunt , he probably is a cunt “ my gran lived until 104 on that , then again she knew a lot of cunts
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I'm still laughing at this. Thanks for the comment bump |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hope I don’t have any enemies masquerading as friends!!
For me, once I decided animosity has won that’s it. You don’t get any more of my energy. "
I don't think I could do that. I'm not good at pretending, mostly black and white in my feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I hope I don’t have any enemies masquerading as friends!!
For me, once I decided animosity has won that’s it. You don’t get any more of my energy.
I don't think I could do that. I'm not good at pretending, mostly black and white in my feelings. "
I meant more like keeping someone at the distance where you can work out what they're up to again. 
And since I say how I feel usually I would probably struggle, even at a distance. Eh. But thanks for helping me figure this out collectively thread contributors.  |
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"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?
Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?
If you do - how did that work out for you?
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No. The people I have in my life make it better. Why you would want to spend any time on someone who has a negative impact on your life. People who do most likely thrive on drama. Concentrate on the good people in your life and you'll be a lot happier
R |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?
Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?
If you do - how did that work out for you?
No. The people I have in my life make it better. Why you would want to spend any time on someone who has a negative impact on your life. People who do most likely thrive on drama. Concentrate on the good people in your life and you'll be a lot happier
R"
It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough. |
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"I hope I don’t have any enemies masquerading as friends!!
For me, once I decided animosity has won that’s it. You don’t get any more of my energy.
I don't think I could do that. I'm not good at pretending, mostly black and white in my feelings.
I meant more like keeping someone at the distance where you can work out what they're up to again.
And since I say how I feel usually I would probably struggle, even at a distance. Eh. But thanks for helping me figure this out collectively thread contributors. "
I’m afraid I lack the capacity to care what they’re up to once I hit that point. I don’t involve myself and if a situation arises that we’re thrown together then I extract myself. It’s the only way I know to keep my cool and remain the maturer person. |
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"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?
Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?
If you do - how did that work out for you?
No. The people I have in my life make it better. Why you would want to spend any time on someone who has a negative impact on your life. People who do most likely thrive on drama. Concentrate on the good people in your life and you'll be a lot happier
R
It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough. "
Well I'll repeat myself.. thrive on drama. One thing worse than dealing with your own is being involved in someone else's
R |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?
Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?
If you do - how did that work out for you?
No. The people I have in my life make it better. Why you would want to spend any time on someone who has a negative impact on your life. People who do most likely thrive on drama. Concentrate on the good people in your life and you'll be a lot happier
R
It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough. "
Sometimes you have to keep enemies close to protect yourself and others. I understand that. |
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"I owe this thread an apology. I misunderstood it, probably because I've had a drink..
As many have pointed out, having enemies is not a great use of time or energy but if you do, know if they mean you harm and if so, then keep them close.
I did wonder what was that about !"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I cannot give enemies the energy to keep them close. I put distance between me and people who want to do me harm. Knowing they are enemies is enough for me.
I understand why some people keep enemies close. But to me it's the equivalent of playing with fire. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let's face it none of us truely have enemies, real life isn't marvel, we just don't like certain people.
I can be respectful if I have no choice to be in their company but otherwise steer clear. Life's too short for toxicity  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?
Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?
If you do - how did that work out for you?
No. The people I have in my life make it better. Why you would want to spend any time on someone who has a negative impact on your life. People who do most likely thrive on drama. Concentrate on the good people in your life and you'll be a lot happier
R
It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough.
Sometimes you have to keep enemies close to protect yourself and others. I understand that. "
That's partly the case and the dilemma. Thank you |
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