Thoughts on cheating? What I like about this site it's not cheating if your partner knows.
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When a man cheats he's a filthy nasty pig who only thinks with his cock and is hurting his poor innocent partner.
When a woman cheats she's an amazing strong woman in charge of her sexuality and her partner is a useless dick who won't give her the sex she craves. |
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"When my daughter plays banker she tries to slip me extra money when I pass go!"
the trick is to have the money from a second board stashed....you can never loose
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"When a man cheats he's a filthy nasty pig who only thinks with his cock and is hurting his poor innocent partner.
When a woman cheats she's an amazing strong woman in charge of her sexuality and her partner is a useless dick who won't give her the sex she craves. "
This. Obviously lol |
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"Male and female cheaters should get a grip and look at why you partner your cheating on isn’t have sex with you!  "
We sometimes think is an intelligence problem.
Some people think cheating and swinging are the same thing.
They are not remotely similar |
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"When a man cheats he's a filthy nasty pig who only thinks with his cock and is hurting his poor innocent partner.
When a woman cheats she's an amazing strong woman in charge of her sexuality and her partner is a useless dick who won't give her the sex she craves. "
Anyone who cheats on anyone, regardless of their gender, runs the risk of causing serious long term psychological harm to that person. It can and does takes years to recover from the trauma cheating brings. Some people never recover. They lose the ability to trust or to love again. It destroys families. It is never OK. |
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Agree!!
"Male and female cheaters should get a grip and look at why you partner your cheating on isn’t have sex with you!
We sometimes think is an intelligence problem.
Some people think cheating and swinging are the same thing.
They are not remotely similar "
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I'm not in a relationship- so what other people do isn't my problem.
I'd rather not be the person someone cheats with though.
I'm just so grateful it's not my drama  |
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I try not to judge, but I don't usually meet cheaters as it's not an attractive quality in a person.
I have an agreement with my husband that I can be on here. What I do and with who is completely up to me and none of his business, but I wouldn't be on here if I he didn't agree to let me join up. Xx |
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Exactly, my ex cheated on me, probably on here,im guessing she said she was single, kicked her out, its others that get hurt. Swinger doesn't mean cheater |
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"When a man cheats he's a filthy nasty pig who only thinks with his cock and is hurting his poor innocent partner.
When a woman cheats she's an amazing strong woman in charge of her sexuality and her partner is a useless dick who won't give her the sex she craves.
Anyone who cheats on anyone, regardless of their gender, runs the risk of causing serious long term psychological harm to that person. It can and does takes years to recover from the trauma cheating brings. Some people never recover. They lose the ability to trust or to love again. It destroys families. It is never OK. "
Exactly x |
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"When a man cheats he's a filthy nasty pig who only thinks with his cock and is hurting his poor innocent partner.
When a woman cheats she's an amazing strong woman in charge of her sexuality and her partner is a useless dick who won't give her the sex she craves.
Anyone who cheats on anyone, regardless of their gender, runs the risk of causing serious long term psychological harm to that person. It can and does takes years to recover from the trauma cheating brings. Some people never recover. They lose the ability to trust or to love again. It destroys families. It is never OK. "
Exactly this. |
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"When my daughter plays banker she tries to slip me extra money when I pass go! the trick is to have the money from a second board stashed....you can never loose "
CHEAT!!!  |
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We have an open relationship, meet independently and discuss any meets with each other (so not cheating our end).
We wont meet people who we know are actually cheating though. We don't think it's very nice and we don't want dragging into other peoples relationship drama.
We are very open, honest and would both stop this tomorrow if one of us wanted to put an end to it. Ergo, if you'll lie to your spouse and treat them so badly, why would we want to go anywhere near someone like that? You can make all the excuses and reasons you want about it but you're the one
cheating, not us.
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"Male and female cheaters should get a grip and look at why you partner your cheating on isn’t have sex with you! "
Maybe there partner feels that every 9 weeks is adequate amount of sex and also going through the hormone change.
Maybe their partner never instigates sex first on top of that and always feels like they are forcing their partner to do it which they find doing uncomfortable.
But as sex is only a part of a relationship yet the other side of the relationship is absolutely fine. |
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"Male and female cheaters should get a grip and look at why you partner your cheating on isn’t have sex with you!
Maybe there partner feels that every 9 weeks is adequate amount of sex and also going through the hormone change.
Maybe their partner never instigates sex first on top of that and always feels like they are forcing their partner to do it which they find doing uncomfortable.
But as sex is only a part of a relationship yet the other side of the relationship is absolutely fine."
Theres no excuse to cheat on a partner ever! |
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"Male and female cheaters should get a grip and look at why you partner your cheating on isn’t have sex with you!
Maybe there partner feels that every 9 weeks is adequate amount of sex and also going through the hormone change.
Maybe their partner never instigates sex first on top of that and always feels like they are forcing their partner to do it which they find doing uncomfortable.
But as sex is only a part of a relationship yet the other side of the relationship is absolutely fine."
Does your partner know you are on here?
If the answers no, you're a cheat and no amount of "but this is my situation at home' changes what you are doing.
Ita a betrayal of trust. |
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over a year ago
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I am not judging anybody for what they are doing, it is not my business and you never quite know the circumstances anyway.
But... to me cheating does not start the moment you involve genitals but it starts the moment you have having conversations/ texts/ calls with somebody that you are keeping from your partner. |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on. "
This 100% ^^^
And sometimes the people in the relationship do not have a clear understanding either, which makes it even more complex. |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on. "
Most sensible comment on here  |
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I think it's an incredably selfish and self absorbed thing to do and shows a real lack of character and inability to communicate like a functioning adult. It takes nothing to have an open and honest conversation with a person (especially if you claim to love them) and try to work through your problems and find a solution together(or choosing not to and to seperate instead).... No one deserves to be disrespected in such a devastating way |
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"I think it's an incredably selfish and self absorbed thing to do and shows a real lack of character and inability to communicate like a functioning adult. It takes nothing to have an open and honest conversation with a person (especially if you claim to love them) and try to work through your problems and find a solution together(or choosing not to and to seperate instead).... No one deserves to be disrespected in such a devastating way "
Yes, because life is always like a Disney film, and that easy.
You just tell them what the problem is and hug it out
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on. "
I'm no spring chicken either but as an open marriage couple of 25 years we know for a fact the second we start lying to each other about what we do or hiding meets, its game over.
We both where cheated on before we met each other by people we where engaged to. Glad we where as it led us to each other but having been on the receiving end of it, we know how we feel about it. |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on.
Most sensible comment on here "
Well that's a first  |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on.
I'm no spring chicken either but as an open marriage couple of 25 years we know for a fact the second we start lying to each other about what we do or hiding meets, its game over.
We both where cheated on before we met each other by people we where engaged to. Glad we where as it led us to each other but having been on the receiving end of it, we know how we feel about it."
That's great |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on. "
Your comments are always thoughtful.
Its very interesting the difference in most of the posts on this thread and the thread on the same subject yesterday. |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on.
Most sensible comment on here
Well that's a first "
 . I’ve got a long wait until someone says that to me I reckon! |
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"I think it's an incredably selfish and self absorbed thing to do and shows a real lack of character and inability to communicate like a functioning adult. It takes nothing to have an open and honest conversation with a person (especially if you claim to love them) and try to work through your problems and find a solution together(or choosing not to and to seperate instead).... No one deserves to be disrespected in such a devastating way
Yes, because life is always like a Disney film, and that easy.
You just tell them what the problem is and hug it out
good times "
No life's increadably complicated... Most things worth having are, but if you can't say to your partner I'm not happy can we discuss and look at how we can work on things? why are you together, if you don't trust them enough to be able to start a difficult conversation in order to keep your relationship on track then your relationship is dead in the water already.... Want to fuck the guy or woman who you met last week and your not gonna be happy untill you do then you need to be in an open relationship or single you don't go behind a person's back and treat them like a stupid, unimportant part of your life that's easy to ignore... |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on.
Your comments are always thoughtful.
Its very interesting the difference in most of the posts on this thread and the thread on the same subject yesterday."
Yes it is. That's the nature of fab and the wider world I'm afraid |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on.
Most sensible comment on here
Well that's a first
. I’ve got a long wait until someone says that to me I reckon! "
Most sensible comment on here...after mine natch.
There ya go |
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"I think it's an incredably selfish and self absorbed thing to do and shows a real lack of character and inability to communicate like a functioning adult. It takes nothing to have an open and honest conversation with a person (especially if you claim to love them) and try to work through your problems and find a solution together(or choosing not to and to seperate instead).... No one deserves to be disrespected in such a devastating way
Yes, because life is always like a Disney film, and that easy.
You just tell them what the problem is and hug it out
good times
No life's increadably complicated... Most things worth having are, but if you can't say to your partner I'm not happy can we discuss and look at how we can work on things? why are you together, if you don't trust them enough to be able to start a difficult conversation in order to keep your relationship on track then your relationship is dead in the water already.... Want to fuck the guy or woman who you met last week and your not gonna be happy untill you do then you need to be in an open relationship or single you don't go behind a person's back and treat them like a stupid, unimportant part of your life that's easy to ignore... "
While you say agree its complicated you then offer simplistic outcomes. Have a look at yesterdays thread and read the posts there. |
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on.
Most sensible comment on here
Well that's a first
. I’ve got a long wait until someone says that to me I reckon!
Most sensible comment on here...after mine natch.
There ya go "
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"I'm old I've seen all sorts of people in all sorts of relationships. If I've learned one thing it's that until you've been inside a relationship you have no idea what goes on.
Your comments are always thoughtful.
Its very interesting the difference in most of the posts on this thread and the thread on the same subject yesterday."
Yep |
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"I think it's an incredably selfish and self absorbed thing to do and shows a real lack of character and inability to communicate like a functioning adult. It takes nothing to have an open and honest conversation with a person (especially if you claim to love them) and try to work through your problems and find a solution together(or choosing not to and to seperate instead).... No one deserves to be disrespected in such a devastating way
Yes, because life is always like a Disney film, and that easy.
You just tell them what the problem is and hug it out
good times "
Isn't it like that for everybody then? Damn. There was me thinking everytime I tried to talk stuff through and she says I don't want to talk about it,... I missed the episode on everything's glitter and music and all you have to do is leave your financial security, relationship, kids and friends to make everything all better. |
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"I think it's an incredably selfish and self absorbed thing to do and shows a real lack of character and inability to communicate like a functioning adult. It takes nothing to have an open and honest conversation with a person (especially if you claim to love them) and try to work through your problems and find a solution together(or choosing not to and to seperate instead).... No one deserves to be disrespected in such a devastating way
Yes, because life is always like a Disney film, and that easy.
You just tell them what the problem is and hug it out
good times
No life's increadably complicated... Most things worth having are, but if you can't say to your partner I'm not happy can we discuss and look at how we can work on things? why are you together, if you don't trust them enough to be able to start a difficult conversation in order to keep your relationship on track then your relationship is dead in the water already.... Want to fuck the guy or woman who you met last week and your not gonna be happy untill you do then you need to be in an open relationship or single you don't go behind a person's back and treat them like a stupid, unimportant part of your life that's easy to ignore...
While you say agree its complicated you then offer simplistic outcomes. Have a look at yesterdays thread and read the posts there. "
Maybe that's because in my experience complicated situations become much simpler with open and honest communication... Even if its uncomfortable at at the time... I call it radical honesty, say what you want, speak your truth people will deal with it or not, it's really not as complicated as people make it with all there half truths, subterfuge, and blatant lies.... That's what causes the vast majority of complications |
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I do not meet people who are attached as I do not want to be involved in any drama, imagined or otherwise. But having worked with more couples and individuals than I can remember in a previous career, I dare say there are reasons why relationships go pear shaped.
it is not always somebody's fault. Communication is not always easy but a skill that for many needs to be learnt and continuously improved.
I did not see last night's threads on this but I do not understand why people need to make it their business to judge other people who in the former people's eyes cheat.
Live and let live. |
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"Thoughts on cheating? What I like about this site it's not cheating if your partner knows.
I was previously in a cuckold role and loved it. I remained faithful because that was more exciting for me "
The thing I am most concerned about other people cheating in a relationship is that it doesn't involve me, I've no intention of having a angry wife/partner take out her frustrations about her husband/partner on me because she blames me not him 
Having a woman blame you for breaking up a fwb "open" relationship is bad enough let alone a marriage |
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"I think it's an incredably selfish and self absorbed thing to do and shows a real lack of character and inability to communicate like a functioning adult. It takes nothing to have an open and honest conversation with a person (especially if you claim to love them) and try to work through your problems and find a solution together(or choosing not to and to seperate instead).... No one deserves to be disrespected in such a devastating way
Yes, because life is always like a Disney film, and that easy.
You just tell them what the problem is and hug it out
good times
No life's increadably complicated... Most things worth having are, but if you can't say to your partner I'm not happy can we discuss and look at how we can work on things? why are you together, if you don't trust them enough to be able to start a difficult conversation in order to keep your relationship on track then your relationship is dead in the water already.... Want to fuck the guy or woman who you met last week and your not gonna be happy untill you do then you need to be in an open relationship or single you don't go behind a person's back and treat them like a stupid, unimportant part of your life that's easy to ignore...
While you say agree its complicated you then offer simplistic outcomes. Have a look at yesterdays thread and read the posts there.
Maybe that's because in my experience complicated situations become much simpler with open and honest communication... Even if its uncomfortable at at the time... I call it radical honesty, say what you want, speak your truth people will deal with it or not, it's really not as complicated as people make it with all there half truths, subterfuge, and blatant lies.... That's what causes the vast majority of complications "
For radical honesty to be effective in a relationship everyone in that relationship needs to be radically honest. That is far more difficult than it sounds, even basic honesty can be hard to achieve. |
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"Male and female cheaters should get a grip and look at why you partner your cheating on isn’t have sex with you!
Maybe there partner feels that every 9 weeks is adequate amount of sex and also going through the hormone change.
Maybe their partner never instigates sex first on top of that and always feels like they are forcing their partner to do it which they find doing uncomfortable.
But as sex is only a part of a relationship yet the other side of the relationship is absolutely fine."
Fine ! How can it be ? |
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I was previously in a cuckold role and loved it. I remained faithful because that was more exciting for me "
As far as cheating goes I still haven’t got over Marradonnas hand of god |
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"Thoughts on cheating? What I like about this site it's not cheating if your partner knows.
I was previously in a cuckold role and loved it. I remained faithful because that was more exciting for me
As far as cheating goes I still haven’t got over Marradonnas hand of god "
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The big issue that I have with cheating is that when children are involved, it can cause severe long term damage to people who are innocent.
I get that it's not black and white. But speaking as a child who witnessed a horrific breakup due to cheating, and still carry the psychological scars...
What fucking right did my parents have to put me through that just because they were selfish human beings who didn't stop to consider the consequences of their actions? |
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I personally think like everything there are two sides to a story/argument. I think cheating long term with the same person is worse than a one off as it generally means whoever you are cheating with you are heavily involved with and probably even start to love more than just for sexual desire. The risks and the thrill of it probably keep people doing it, a bit like the risks and the thrill from being caught out on here, it’s all fantasy land. Each to their own so they say, even if my hubby let me go my own way with a blokey I’d probably think hmmmm... why is he letting me ... he’s obvs got a bird on the side ... so you can’t win hahah x |
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