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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped? "
Gambling is and addiction and the addict, once he/she has recognised that they have a problem can seek help through a range of sources including GP. The initial issue is that that need to recognise and admit that they have a problem.
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped? Gambling is and addiction and the addict, once he/she has recognised that they have a problem can seek help through a range of sources including GP. The initial issue is that that need to recognise and admit that they have a problem. "
Cheers that avenue has been tried... but thanks for the response. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped? Gambling is and addiction and the addict, once he/she has recognised that they have a problem can seek help through a range of sources including GP. The initial issue is that that need to recognise and admit that they have a problem.
Cheers that avenue has been tried... but thanks for the response."
Diamond, I just noticed there is a program on TV tonight at 9pm withy Russell Brand on how he recovered... might be of interest? |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped? Gambling is and addiction and the addict, once he/she has recognised that they have a problem can seek help through a range of sources including GP. The initial issue is that that need to recognise and admit that they have a problem.
Cheers that avenue has been tried... but thanks for the response.Diamond, I just noticed there is a program on TV tonight at 9pm withy Russell Brand on how he recovered... might be of interest? "
I'll have a gander this evening.. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped? "
This is a very close to my heart subject... I tried everything Im vain with my brother. He lost everything and eventually took his own life. My heart goes out to you xx |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped?
This is a very close to my heart subject... I tried everything Im vain with my brother. He lost everything and eventually took his own life. My heart goes out to you xx"
That must have been so awful for you - and as you said you tried everything... it just shows that unless the addict is ready and able to take on that responsibility there is nothing but nothing anybody can do. My heart goes out to you and Diamond. xx |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped?
This is a very close to my heart subject... I tried everything Im vain with my brother. He lost everything and eventually took his own life. My heart goes out to you xxThat must have been so awful for you - and as you said you tried everything... it just shows that unless the addict is ready and able to take on that responsibility there is nothing but nothing anybody can do. My heart goes out to you and Diamond. xx"
Thanks xxx |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped?
This is a very close to my heart subject... I tried everything Im vain with my brother. He lost everything and eventually took his own life. My heart goes out to you xx"
Sorry to hear that hun.. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped?
This is a very close to my heart subject... I tried everything Im vain with my brother. He lost everything and eventually took his own life. My heart goes out to you xxThat must have been so awful for you - and as you said you tried everything... it just shows that unless the addict is ready and able to take on that responsibility there is nothing but nothing anybody can do. My heart goes out to you and Diamond. xx"
Exactly ... in a way its an illness. Thankuou  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone had any experiences with a close family member that was a gamblier.. What did you do to assist them.. Or is it a case that they can't be helped?
This is a very close to my heart subject... I tried everything Im vain with my brother. He lost everything and eventually took his own life. My heart goes out to you xx
Sorry to hear that hun.. xx"
Thanks sweetie... Just be there and be strong xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My real dad was. He gambled away our home , and lost the pub we lived in. as far as i know he still is, but I have no contact with him.
It can be stopped to an extent, but just like any addiction you can always fall. of the wagon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, this family member might be concerned about her being on here, but wouldnt want it airing at a G.A meeting,i would guess.
Err they know I am on here so go and smoke that in your pipe.."
Yes maybe, but if they where concerned n aired it in G.A meeting? or have they asked you to air in here. smoking is a terrible habit ,nonj smoker here,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, this family member might be concerned about her being on here, but wouldnt want it airing at a G.A meeting,i would guess.
Err they know I am on here so go and smoke that in your pipe.."
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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And I have asked many a question of advise on here, to do with my family, as I didn't know the first place to start! Just because this is a swingers site, it does not mean that other people do not have the knowledge to pass on to other members!
Do you think that the forums are only meant to be sex related? If you do, then you really need a reality check.... |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yep, this family member might be concerned about her being on here, but wouldnt want it airing at a G.A meeting,i would guess.
Err they know I am on here so go and smoke that in your pipe..Yes maybe, but if they where concerned n aired it in G.A meeting? or have they asked you to air in here. smoking is a terrible habit ,nonj smoker here, "
You know I was asking for advice... no names are being mentioned and if you don't like whalt is being written in a public forum.. then don't reply.. simples. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Yep, this family member might be concerned about her being on here, but wouldnt want it airing at a G.A meeting,i would guess.
Err they know I am on here so go and smoke that in your pipe..Yes maybe, but if they where concerned n aired it in G.A meeting? or have they asked you to air in here. smoking is a terrible habit ,nonj smoker here,
You know I was asking for advice... no names are being mentioned and if you don't like whalt is being written in a public forum.. then don't reply.. simples."
I think we all thought you were asking for advice. Nothing wrong with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, this family member might be concerned about her being on here, but wouldnt want it airing at a G.A meeting,i would guess.
Err they know I am on here so go and smoke that in your pipe..Yes maybe, but if they where concerned n aired it in G.A meeting? or have they asked you to air in here. smoking is a terrible habit ,nonj smoker here,
You know I was asking for advice... no names are being mentioned and if you don't like whalt is being written in a public forum.. then don't reply.. simples."
Granted,now thats the kop0 line not to reply.It seems for something as serious as n addiction eg gambling in this case for another party seems uneccesary, as common sense says Doctor or G.A place your relative needs. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Granted,now thats the kop0 line not to reply.It seems for something as serious as n addiction eg gambling in this case for another party seems uneccesary, as common sense says Doctor or G.A place your relative needs."
Sorry, but you really have no insight as to what the original question was, and to come back with the GP/GA pathetic!
Once you are over 18, the GP will not give any information to a family member, whether it be on Gambling, mental health or any other matter!
I asked for advise previously relating to another matter, that could have left someone losing their home and what steps could 'I' take to try and prevent it, or if the worst happened what the next steps would be, believe me there are alot of people on here with a wealth of knowledge, that helped to point me in the right direction!
So as Diamonds question really was, what is the best way to try and help this person, not an invite for you to try and ridicule! |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Diamond, I was thinking there are addiction therapies available privately in the Midlands. Might be worth googling? xx"
Certain person goes to one but is cancelling more frequent.. I guess its a bit of tough love that is in order.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Granted,now thats the kop0 line not to reply.It seems for something as serious as n addiction eg gambling in this case for another party seems uneccesary, as common sense says Doctor or G.A place your relative needs.
Sorry, but you really have no insight as to what the original question was, and to come back with the GP/GA pathetic!
Once you are over 18, the GP will not give any information to a family member, whether it be on Gambling, mental health or any other matter!
I asked for advise previously relating to another matter, that could have left someone losing their home and what steps could 'I' take to try and prevent it, or if the worst happened what the next steps would be, believe me there are alot of people on here with a wealth of knowledge, that helped to point me in the right direction!
So as Diamonds question really was, what is the best way to try and help this person, not an invite for you to try and ridicule!"
Simple, they need to help them self eg visting their Doctor or another organisation, all you can do is advise if they not ready then its not gonna happen!!! |
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"Granted,now thats the kop0 line not to reply.It seems for something as serious as n addiction eg gambling in this case for another party seems uneccesary, as common sense says Doctor or G.A place your relative needs.
Sorry, but you really have no insight as to what the original question was, and to come back with the GP/GA pathetic!
Once you are over 18, the GP will not give any information to a family member, whether it be on Gambling, mental health or any other matter!
I asked for advise previously relating to another matter, that could have left someone losing their home and what steps could 'I' take to try and prevent it, or if the worst happened what the next steps would be, believe me there are alot of people on here with a wealth of knowledge, that helped to point me in the right direction!
So as Diamonds question really was, what is the best way to try and help this person, not an invite for you to try and ridicule!"
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Granted,now thats the kop0 line not to reply.It seems for something as serious as n addiction eg gambling in this case for another party seems uneccesary, as common sense says Doctor or G.A place your relative needs.
Sorry, but you really have no insight as to what the original question was, and to come back with the GP/GA pathetic!
Once you are over 18, the GP will not give any information to a family member, whether it be on Gambling, mental health or any other matter!
I asked for advise previously relating to another matter, that could have left someone losing their home and what steps could 'I' take to try and prevent it, or if the worst happened what the next steps would be, believe me there are alot of people on here with a wealth of knowledge, that helped to point me in the right direction!
So as Diamonds question really was, what is the best way to try and help this person, not an invite for you to try and ridicule!Simple, they need to help them self eg visting their Doctor or another organisation, all you can do is advise if they not ready then its not gonna happen!!!"
Cheers for such an insightful answer... I know that refering to a GP is not the right answer but thank you for you response.... |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Simple, they need to help them self eg visting their Doctor or another organisation, all you can do is advise if they not ready then its not gonna happen!!!"
In fairness I think if it were that simple they would have done this already? I hear what you are saying though that the addict needs to take responsibility. I believe Diamond was asking for advice how to "get" somebody to recognise that in the first place.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Granted,now thats the kop0 line not to reply.It seems for something as serious as n addiction eg gambling in this case for another party seems uneccesary, as common sense says Doctor or G.A place your relative needs.
Sorry, but you really have no insight as to what the original question was, and to come back with the GP/GA pathetic!
Once you are over 18, the GP will not give any information to a family member, whether it be on Gambling, mental health or any other matter!
I asked for advise previously relating to another matter, that could have left someone losing their home and what steps could 'I' take to try and prevent it, or if the worst happened what the next steps would be, believe me there are alot of people on here with a wealth of knowledge, that helped to point me in the right direction!
So as Diamonds question really was, what is the best way to try and help this person, not an invite for you to try and ridicule!Simple, they need to help them self eg visting their Doctor or another organisation, all you can do is advise if they not ready then its not gonna happen!!!"
You've really lost the point here! The question was, does anyone have experience, and sometimes, people are not in the best place to help themselves, so the next step is what can a concerned family member try and do! or is that too difficult to understand???? |
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"Granted,now thats the kop0 line not to reply.It seems for something as serious as n addiction eg gambling in this case for another party seems uneccesary, as common sense says Doctor or G.A place your relative needs.
Sorry, but you really have no insight as to what the original question was, and to come back with the GP/GA pathetic!
Once you are over 18, the GP will not give any information to a family member, whether it be on Gambling, mental health or any other matter!
I asked for advise previously relating to another matter, that could have left someone losing their home and what steps could 'I' take to try and prevent it, or if the worst happened what the next steps would be, believe me there are alot of people on here with a wealth of knowledge, that helped to point me in the right direction!
So as Diamonds question really was, what is the best way to try and help this person, not an invite for you to try and ridicule!Simple, they need to help them self eg visting their Doctor or another organisation, all you can do is advise if they not ready then its not gonna happen!!!
You've really lost the point here! The question was, does anyone have experience, and sometimes, people are not in the best place to help themselves, so the next step is what can a concerned family member try and do! or is that too difficult to understand????"
I do understand and personally a swingers site is not my portal for sorting a close family member out,but hey ho. |
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Most addictions are very corrosive and in alot of cases end up ruining lives. In most cases until the addict admits to having a problem all that family and friends can do is stand by and help pick up the pieces. Hope everything works out diamondxxx |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I do understand and personally a swingers site is not my portal for sorting a close family member out,but hey ho."
I can, to an extent understand what you are saying... the concept of the site versus the very serious question of addiction affecting a person and probably their entire family.
Having said that, I feel taking advantage of the vast array of experience and skills that are naturally within a community (any community including a swing site) it is one area where one could safely ask that question in anonymity. Would you agree with that? |
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"I do understand and personally a swingers site is not my portal for sorting a close family member out,but hey ho. I can, to an extent understand what you are saying... the concept of the site versus the very serious question of addiction affecting a person and probably their entire family.
Having said that, I feel taking advantage of the vast array of experience and skills that are naturally within a community (any community including a swing site) it is one area where one could safely ask that question in anonymity. Would you agree with that?"
Fair comment. |
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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago
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All addictions are born out of depression. Addictions give the person a whole spectrum of emotions without having to relate to people. The ecstasy of winning , the sadness of losing all provide the fuel to continue wagering with scant regard of the true cost to the individual or those around them.
All you can do is be honest with this person about their problem and signpost them to places where they can get help. Good luck . Remember anyone who has your love and support is a very fortunate person.x |
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"I do understand and personally a swingers site is not my portal for sorting a close family member out,but hey ho. I can, to an extent understand what you are saying... the concept of the site versus the very serious question of addiction affecting a person and probably their entire family.
Having said that, I feel taking advantage of the vast array of experience and skills that are naturally within a community (any community including a swing site) it is one area where one could safely ask that question in anonymity. Would you agree with that?"
In contrast with this, then, some people should also be permitted to voice their own thoughts on the matter without being eaten alive. Oh the joy of living in a country with some freedom of speech and the right to voice opinions.....sure, not every answer helps but let's just permit people to say whatever is on their minds without it causing the sort of avalanche of diatribe we've had in response to some of the messages thus far. That's me barred from the forums then...  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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In contrast with this, then, some people should also be permitted to voice their own thoughts on the matter without being eaten alive. Oh the joy of living in a country with some freedom of speech and the right to voice opinions.....sure, not every answer helps but let's just permit people to say whatever is on their minds without it causing the sort of avalanche of diatribe we've had in response to some of the messages thus far. That's me barred from the forums then... "
I think you made a very good point there. I also think, as may have been the case here, that some of the messages did not come across in the way they had been intended - sometimes they sound much harsher than intended. That is the trouble with written communication, where you dont have body language, pitch, intonation, facial expressions etc to modify the tone. |
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In contrast with this, then, some people should also be permitted to voice their own thoughts on the matter without being eaten alive. Oh the joy of living in a country with some freedom of speech and the right to voice opinions.....sure, not every answer helps but let's just permit people to say whatever is on their minds without it causing the sort of avalanche of diatribe we've had in response to some of the messages thus far. That's me barred from the forums then... I think you made a very good point there. I also think, as may have been the case here, that some of the messages did not come across in the way they had been intended - sometimes they sound much harsher than intended. That is the trouble with written communication, where you dont have body language, pitch, intonation, facial expressions etc to modify the tone. "
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