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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well OP just going off first impressions before clicking on your profile you username and 'location' give me nothing but negative vibes. Paired with no profile pic.. In all honesty in a busy inbox I'd probably delete before reading.
Try setting a profile pic and maybe try to sound a bit more.. approachable? |
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"Well OP just going off first impressions before clicking on your profile you username and 'location' give me nothing but negative vibes. Paired with no profile pic.. In all honesty in a busy inbox I'd probably delete before reading.
Try setting a profile pic and maybe try to sound a bit more.. approachable? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well OP just going off first impressions before clicking on your profile you username and 'location' give me nothing but negative vibes. Paired with no profile pic.. In all honesty in a busy inbox I'd probably delete before reading.
Try setting a profile pic and maybe try to sound a bit more.. approachable?
Would you delete my messages? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off"
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also could be off putting that you say you want to do anything with someone’s husband/boyfriend even if it makes you uncomfortable and ask them to stop. Sounds a bit dodgy.
As a side note, I like your tatts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely send message.
If they block me, that's their choice..and one less mither..
If I block.. thats my choice too.
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back "
I don’t have stereotypical traits. I’m fat, old, and bald.
I’m a genuinely nice guy, lots of respect. And I believe I show my personality in here.
Keep the negativity out, be yourself, and get your name noticed. |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back "
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I don’t have stereotypical traits. I’m fat, old, and bald.
I’m a genuinely nice guy, lots of respect. And I believe I show my personality in here.
Keep the negativity out, be yourself, and get your name noticed. "
Appreciate the reply pal but I be myself and show my personality on here but I get nowhere...I've sort of give up trying, I'm just here for you never know and to have a good perv on the profiles of some stunners on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh "
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right? |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh "
Hi thanks for your feedback and love your pics!!
Just to be clear I didn't say I was one of not so many men on here that was genuine.
I literally think the main thing that stops me getting a meet/connection is my height...unfortunately there is nothing i can do about that haha |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right?"
Or be honest. I’m a total catfish. Just a bunch of squirrels in a long coat |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right?
Or be honest. I’m a total catfish. Just a bunch of squirrels in a long coat "
We're ALL catfish though, we never show our shitty pics and morning breath |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right?
Or be honest. I’m a total catfish. Just a bunch of squirrels in a long coat "
I don't mind catfish if they look like yourself |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right?
Or be honest. I’m a total catfish. Just a bunch of squirrels in a long coat "
I love squirrels! |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right?
Or be honest. I’m a total catfish. Just a bunch of squirrels in a long coat
I don't mind catfish if they look like yourself "
This catfishing is going better than I planned |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right?
Or be honest. I’m a total catfish. Just a bunch of squirrels in a long coat
I love squirrels!"
Everyone loves squirrels they’re adorable! |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
I think if you give someone the opportunity to be anonymous and say what they like online without any checks then most of them will say they're genuine decent etc, which to me makes no sense - say something unique or interesting, right?
Or be honest. I’m a total catfish. Just a bunch of squirrels in a long coat
I don't mind catfish if they look like yourself
This catfishing is going better than I planned "
Yes you're squirreling through well |
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"I understand guys thank you for telling me I fucked up and their is no point in me trying to get meets or anything like that happy fabing guys and gals"
If people are kicking off because you aren't interested then the problem is them, not yourself. Some just can't handle rejection and because they aren't actually standing in front of you they don't care what they say. Wouldn't happen in person often at all as they would just retreat with their tale between their legs |
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"I understand guys thank you for telling me I fucked up and their is no point in me trying to get meets or anything like that happy fabing guys and gals"
I don't think anyone has said that.
Most (that have replied and not gone off topic) have just said, it's pretty usual to get ignored, and it is.
Others have said having no photo on your profile and some of the wording would put them off. That is just their opinion and reasoning as to why they might not reply. It's easily fixable if you want to, but it's totally up to you what you do with your profile.
So don't take it to heart. Fab can be slow and it can be hard work, but Leo at it and keep improving your prickle and your messages and you will eventually get meets.
Good luck with it. |
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"Well OP just going off first impressions before clicking on your profile you username and 'location' give me nothing but negative vibes. Paired with no profile pic.. In all honesty in a busy inbox I'd probably delete before reading.
Try setting a profile pic and maybe try to sound a bit more.. approachable? "
Your profile is no different hidden |
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over a year ago
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off"
Its up to reciepient wether they choose to reciprocate or not
No hard feelings
Apart from in my pants lol |
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off
Try being a guy on here that doesn't Have the stereotypical traits..being a genuine nice guy with a great personality only helps if someone actually chats/messages you back
I would argue that thinking you’re one of the only genuine nice guys IS a bit of a stereotypical trait tbh
Hi thanks for your feedback and love your pics!!
Just to be clear I didn't say I was one of not so many men on here that was genuine.
I literally think the main thing that stops me getting a meet/connection is my height...unfortunately there is nothing i can do about that haha"
Your height?!?!? What’s your height got to do with anything?
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"Ever find when you message someone they don’t reply but read your message, but when you do the same thing people kick off"
I'm confused OP. Are you complaining that people don't reply to you, or that people kick off when YOU don't reply? |
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"Both... and I’m not complaining, (if I could delete this thread I would)"
I don't know to say,OP.
Other than no reply = not interested. You know that, there have been plenty of threads by men about the same issue.
As for people who complain that you don't reply? Ignore, delete, block.
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Well as it’s us that you’re complaining about op, I’ll explain. I (The Boy) looked at your message, normally I put them back to ‘unread’ so I can show Kitty. In the 18 mins it took for me to look and then show kitty to be able to reply you’d already blocked us! |
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Can you answer me this question then, I understand them not being interested, but why then view my account 5 plus times or wink me.
Why can’t they be the ones to block and leave.
Not trying to sound rude but |
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"Can you answer me this question then, I understand them not being interested, but why then view my account 5 plus times or wink me.
Why can’t they be the ones to block and leave.
Not trying to sound rude but "
Must be only couples or females as you havw single guys blocked |
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"Both... and I’m not complaining, (if I could delete this thread I would)"
 it had disappeared for a week and you replied on it, so giving it some life again. To be honest you come across as quite fake I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re just a man being a troll. |
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Actually it’s not you guys that I’m “complaining” about it’s actually a number of different people, and honestly I’m just taking everyone’s advice.......
Plus when I’ve been on read for 24 hours then what am I supposed to think, “oh they are definitely interested in meeting me or talking to me” no wrong.
And anyway nine times out of ten there is a reason why I end up blocking, and that’s because of the amount of bullshit I deal with with other couples accounts single female accounts. |
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"Can you answer me this question then, I understand them not being interested, but why then view my account 5 plus times or wink me.
Why can’t they be the ones to block and leave.
Not trying to sound rude but "
I'm assuming this response is for me? (If you copy & reply, we'll know who you're responding to)
You can't second guess who looks at your profile or winks you. Certainly if, as KittyandtheBoy explained above - there are 2 people on a profile.
You certainly can't assume they'll block or leave (not an option I mentioned, but an option all the same) if you don't interest them.
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As I said on a previous thread to someone, I thought I would get a Notification to say someone had replied or something, if I knew I had to click on it I would of replied sooner
Sorry I don’t know how to use fab |
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"As I said on a previous thread to someone, I thought I would get a Notification to say someone had replied or something, if I knew I had to click on it I would of replied sooner
Sorry I don’t know how to use fab "
I’ll take back my previous comment as I’ve just checked your green arrow (it shows how many threads you’ve commented on) and you’re not a regular forum poster. I’ll also take back the man thing as well
It’s a tough place at times this site so you have to take the good and bad unfortunately.
I like your new username as well.
Good luck and I hope the future experiences are better than the previous ones you’ve had. |
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"Well as it’s us that you’re complaining about op, I’ll explain. I (The Boy) looked at your message, normally I put them back to ‘unread’ so I can show Kitty. In the 18 mins it took for me to look and then show kitty to be able to reply you’d already blocked us! "
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It clearly says on my profile I’m straight, yet 99.9% of my messages are from men asking
Me to engage in sexual activity with them.
So they just get deleted, some of them even cry about it.
Not my circus, not
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Okay if yall already Buckle up this is going to be a long one
As you can see I don’t normally write on the forums, but last week and probably the week before I have done now I’m not venting I’m not complaining I’m just stating my thoughts and feelings I’ve had about my experience on this website I am 27 years old I have been single for over four years at the moment I’m not looking for a relationship I’m not looking to spend The rest of my days with someone I’m happy being single.
It might not seem like it from one my username to my profile three my previous threads, but what I can tell you is that my experience on fab before lockdown even was a twinkle in peoples eyes was average now at the time before lockdown and I was on fab I was getting “help” from a guy now me and this guy no longer talk because he did something that made me very uncomfortable. Now emphasis on the guy I asked for his “help” with meeting different people. At the time I was willing to meet couples and women. Now when he was messaging different people I didn’t know who was going to turn up now this isn’t the bit where things went down hill.
The bit where things go down hill he was talking to a couples account when they asked to meet on the same day (both of them) then when I started to get excited that’s when the woman half of the relationship decided that she could not meet because she had to look after her child now I wouldn’t have an issue with that had a child not being over the age of 16. She couldn’t meet but her boyfriend apparently could when he came over I just gave him a hand job that it and questioned him about his girlfriend he told me that his girlfriend had to wait for her child.
That’s how I knew that information now that’s one incident that happened before lockdown was a twinkle in peoples eye
The second incident was kind of the same but without the kid excuse.
Now after lockdown happened or should I say during lockdown I had 20+ messages from different people asking to meet, when I said no or I can’t I’ve got either one abuse two told to fuck off or three it doesn’t matter. Now onto the juicy bit The one time I was willing to meet someone who I already met before decided to be a twat and here’s what I mean. We met once before lockdown happened and then the second time we were meant to meet he decided to stand me up and what I mean by that is he asked me to wear sexy clothes which I did and meet him at the train station when I got to the train station I messaged him and asked where are you are you here apparently he says he was there but I never saw him but he saw me and he kept on telling me to do stuff in public When I refused to do it he said he won’t meet me unless I do I verify this guy on fab that’s why now I have a new account I’ll be honest with everyone I’ve been on fab before i’m not a Newbie I know the ropes but when you’ve been mugged off so many times by different people you then feel a sense of shame The reason why my name is what it was before it’s because that’s how I feel like everyone views me on this site
I’m sorry for thinking that way but honestly it’s fucking true it fucking is sorry for swearing I’m just going to leave this here if anyone wants to read it feel free to have a good day bye |
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Okay if yall already Buckle up this is going to be a long one
As you can see I don’t normally write on the forums, but last week and probably the week before I have done now I’m not venting I’m not complaining I’m just stating my thoughts and feelings I’ve had about my experience on this website I am 27 years old I have been single for over four years at the moment I’m not looking for a relationship I’m not looking to spend The rest of my days with someone I’m happy being single.
It might not seem like it from one my username to my profile three my previous threads, but what I can tell you is that my experience on fab before lockdown even was a twinkle in peoples eyes was average now at the time before lockdown and I was on fab I was getting “help” from a guy now me and this guy no longer talk because he did something that made me very uncomfortable. Now emphasis on the guy I asked for his “help” with meeting different people. At the time I was willing to meet couples and women. Now when he was messaging different people I didn’t know who was going to turn up now this isn’t the bit where things went down hill.
The bit where things go down hill he was talking to a couples account when they asked to meet on the same day (both of them) then when I started to get excited that’s when the woman half of the relationship decided that she could not meet because she had to look after her child now I wouldn’t have an issue with that had a child not being over the age of 16. She couldn’t meet but her boyfriend apparently could when he came over I just gave him a hand job that it and questioned him about his girlfriend he told me that his girlfriend had to wait for her child.
That’s how I knew that information now that’s one incident that happened before lockdown was a twinkle in peoples eye
The second incident was kind of the same but without the kid excuse.
Now after lockdown happened or should I say during lockdown I had 20+ messages from different people asking to meet, when I said no or I can’t I’ve got either one abuse two told to fuck off or three it doesn’t matter. Now onto the juicy bit The one time I was willing to meet someone who I already met before decided to be a twat and here’s what I mean. We met once before lockdown happened and then the second time we were meant to meet he decided to stand me up and what I mean by that is he asked me to wear sexy clothes which I did and meet him at the train station when I got to the train station I messaged him and asked where are you are you here apparently he says he was there but I never saw him but he saw me and he kept on telling me to do stuff in public When I refused to do it he said he won’t meet me unless I do I verify this guy on fab that’s why now I have a new account I’ll be honest with everyone I’ve been on fab before i’m not a Newbie I know the ropes but when you’ve been mugged off so many times by different people you then feel a sense of shame The reason why my name is what it was before it’s because that’s how I feel like everyone views me on this site
I’m sorry for thinking that way but honestly it’s fucking true it fucking is sorry for swearing I’m just going to leave this here if anyone wants to read it feel free to have a good day bye"
Never be sorry as that’s terrible, the way you were used. I have done a massive 180 about you from my initial comment, so I hope writing it all down has given you some relief from the negative experiences you’ve been through.
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"Both... and I’m not complaining, (if I could delete this thread I would)
I don't know to say,OP.
Other than no reply = not interested. You know that, there have been plenty of threads by men about the same issue.
As for people who complain that you don't reply? Ignore, delete, block.
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Replying does necessarily mean you're interested either though, I'm just adding that because I sometimes reply anyway if the message is a nice one |
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