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So my female friend TRIED to organise a gangbang
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
So my female friend put up a status to organise a gangbang today. She wanted to do it by herself and declined any sort of help help me..
She told me "oreo I got 7 guys confirmed for tonight" I said suree..
She was like oreo I know at least 4 will turn up...
So I messaged her a few hours ago She said only 2 out of the So called 7 turned up...
My question is, what's going through the mind of some guys (and girls too) that you'll agree and to show up and even swear on your dead nans grave and still not show...
When i first joined fabs I was 18 and just moved from africa, I thought the whole concept of a man letting another man fuck his wife was "never ever possible" so i ghosted on the first 2 or 3 meets I got invited to... .
But other than that why do people ghost without letting the other person know what's going on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that meet was a success.
We tried to organise one a few years ago, invited 12 guys and none turned up.
I wouldn't go through that hassle again, we would play at a club and experience it there.
Better luck next time for your friend too.
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would tell you why he ghosted me today.... but I can’t as he’s a Class A prick and hasn’t replied to my message.
He will be in contact again though, they always are. Il ask him then before I block him.
I think people ghost for multiple reasons... fantasy, actually attached, all tall and no action, they are a asshole, something genuine come up, assholes again, scared. |
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"I think that meet was a success.
We tried to organise one a few years ago, invited 12 guys and none turned up.
I wouldn't go through that hassle again, we would play at a club and experience it there.
Better luck next time for your friend too.
NBVN x "
I would have been there  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think that meet was a success.
We tried to organise one a few years ago, invited 12 guys and none turned up.
I wouldn't go through that hassle again, we would play at a club and experience it there.
Better luck next time for your friend too.
NBVN x
I would have been there xx"
There's always a next time sexy man
NBVN x |
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"I think that meet was a success.
We tried to organise one a few years ago, invited 12 guys and none turned up.
I wouldn't go through that hassle again, we would play at a club and experience it there.
Better luck next time for your friend too.
NBVN x
I would have been there xx
There's always a next time sexy man
NBVN x "
I really hope so, we have vino to look forward to with another lovely lady first though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months  "
Oh no!!  oh I'm sorry you've had to go through that... I don't understand how people can do that to someone. |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Whatever you are orgy, invite at least twice as many single guys, as you want to turn up... You might get a quarter, come, if you're lucky  "
Yea I get that.
Me and my other friend organised a party in Manchester 2 weeks ago.. we had 10 couples Confirmed only 6 turned up
Out of which 2 couples came, walked in and then made an excuse to dip hahah
My was frustrated..I felt sorry for her coz she had invested 2 weeks into messaging to get that |
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months "
So I’m guessing you got stung with the hotel room costs too - I’d be furious!
I’m really sorry you had to deal with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think that meet was a success.
We tried to organise one a few years ago, invited 12 guys and none turned up.
I wouldn't go through that hassle again, we would play at a club and experience it there.
Better luck next time for your friend too.
NBVN x
I would have been there xx
There's always a next time sexy man
NBVN x
I really hope so, we have vino to look forward to with another lovely lady first though x"
Yes! We need to plan that
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months "
What an arsehole.
Just remember the problem was with them not you. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months
Oh no!! oh I'm sorry you've had to go through that... I don't understand how people can do that to someone. "
I don’t actually get it either... even if Iv cancelled I have always done it before I know that person would of left.
He will be in contact soon enough, he always is and then il ask him why... let’s be honest though, it will some lame ass excuse. |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
The first gangbang I went to, was 4 years ago.. she invited 6 guys.. a drop dead gorgeous petite scouse girl..
I was the only one who turned up...
Since then i always make sure I turn up to gangbangs coz most of the guys always flake haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months
So I’m guessing you got stung with the hotel room costs too - I’d be furious!
I’m really sorry you had to deal with this. "
Thanks. X
Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel. It was only arranged two days ago though
I was fuming x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months
What an arsehole.
Just remember the problem was with them not you. X"
Thanks hun. I totally agree. He’s just not a decent man x |
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"I think that meet was a success.
We tried to organise one a few years ago, invited 12 guys and none turned up.
I wouldn't go through that hassle again, we would play at a club and experience it there.
Better luck next time for your friend too.
NBVN x
I would have been there xx
There's always a next time sexy man
NBVN x
I really hope so, we have vino to look forward to with another lovely lady first though x
Yes! We need to plan that
NBVN x "
Yes we definitely do  x |
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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago
Hyde |
This ghosting thing is huge ... I've had some cracking experiences!!
1- This guy and I chatted a while, he never seemed to put effort into making a date to meet so I didn't either he went cold. Recently talked again. We agreed a social I told him to choose a location and time and he never did!
2- This guys arranged to meet me and my friend (unbeknownst to him AND us) at the same time on the same day at separate locations. Me and my friend talked and found out. I called him out. He told me he was making a call back plan as ppl ghost. He seemed genuine. So I met him... we had a little handy pandy... just a few bases not full sex. Agreed to meet a few days later. Let's face it he was guaranteed sex... he ghosted. I mean maybe he didn't fancy me but well- his duck was hard enough lol
Anyways... idk... ghosting is bs and it's RIFE |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"I've had 2 verified women message me that they want to meet this week. 2 ghosts "
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I've had 4 message since Saturday, couples included and 3 just ghosted..
I'm still trying to meet 1 but she replies in 2 to 5 working days and thats a put off for me |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"This ghosting thing is huge ... I've had some cracking experiences!!
1- This guy and I chatted a while, he never seemed to put effort into making a date to meet so I didn't either he went cold. Recently talked again. We agreed a social I told him to choose a location and time and he never did!
2- This guys arranged to meet me and my friend (unbeknownst to him AND us) at the same time on the same day at separate locations. Me and my friend talked and found out. I called him out. He told me he was making a call back plan as ppl ghost. He seemed genuine. So I met him... we had a little handy pandy... just a few bases not full sex. Agreed to meet a few days later. Let's face it he was guaranteed sex... he ghosted. I mean maybe he didn't fancy me but well- his duck was hard enough lol
Anyways... idk... ghosting is bs and it's RIFE"
I've had the whole social thing and they lady said we'd meet again, I was tempted to ghost but something in me just told me to stick around.. I stuck around and we had sex the 2nd time around.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?"
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him. |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him. "
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him |
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By *luttTV/TS
over a year ago
Duns |
"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him. "
People are weird! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him "
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
People are weird! "
I agree.  |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. "
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If i had a gf and was cheating on fabs (which I don't btw  and she rang me while I was on the way to a meet, I'd cancel on the lady but I'll tell the lady that I had family matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. .
If i had a gf and was cheating on fabs (which I don't btw and she rang me while I was on the way to a meet, I'd cancel on the lady but I'll tell the lady that I had family matters "
Yeh, he didn’t even message me to let me know he wasn’t coming and he still hasn’t opened my messages. Coward.
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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago
Hyde |
"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. .
If i had a gf and was cheating on fabs (which I don't btw and she rang me while I was on the way to a meet, I'd cancel on the lady but I'll tell the lady that I had family matters
Yeh, he didn’t even message me to let me know he wasn’t coming and he still hasn’t opened my messages. Coward.
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Wow.... what a waste of energy |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. .
If i had a gf and was cheating on fabs (which I don't btw and she rang me while I was on the way to a meet, I'd cancel on the lady but I'll tell the lady that I had family matters
Yeh, he didn’t even message me to let me know he wasn’t coming and he still hasn’t opened my messages. Coward.
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A male friend of mine had similar thint done to him by a couple we've met before..He went to the hotel in Manchester all the way from Cornwall and the couple didn't reply or anything.
They blocked him then put on their status update "looking for hot guys" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a gangbang and all 8 men turned up. It was organised by a friend of mine and the men were all people he knew well."
I think that's the key point, taking time to organise things properly rather than just randoms wanking in their pants on fab. I never understood when people out statuses up saying party at ours or gang bang tonight, who's free, because who would want to go to a party that anyone was invited to. Pulse - yes, penis - yes, get in my vagina and bumhole! |
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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago
Market Harborough/ Kettering |
I used to attend a regular Monday afternoon gang bang and they would regularly have between 8 and 10 say that they would be coming but it was always only 4 or 5 who turned up. This couple were very experienced so they sort of accepted this as normal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months "
That would of pissed me right off, to of had me waiting in a hotel room rather than tell me before I got out me front door |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site seems to be more filled up more with chancers and dreamers all the time.
I dont know what the solution is to rectifying it but it does seem to be getting worse. "
It’s really simple. Make them pay.
£20/month fee, minimum 6 month subscription.
Cancers won’t waste the money.
Legitimate swingers will consider it money well spent.
They’d need to sort this site out though - it’s like something from the 80’s  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lady organises a gang gang and people drop out. What the hell. I’d love to go to a gangbang. Just for the experience and that I’ve actually been to one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site seems to be more filled up more with chancers and dreamers all the time.
I dont know what the solution is to rectifying it but it does seem to be getting worse.
It’s really simple. Make them pay.
£20/month fee, minimum 6 month subscription.
Cancers won’t waste the money.
Legitimate swingers will consider it money well spent.
They’d need to sort this site out though - it’s like something from the 80’s "
Please don't bang this drum. In case someone's listening and, well..listens!
..and don't underestimate how far chancers are prepared to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site seems to be more filled up more with chancers and dreamers all the time.
I dont know what the solution is to rectifying it but it does seem to be getting worse.
It’s really simple. Make them pay.
£20/month fee, minimum 6 month subscription.
Cancers won’t waste the money.
Legitimate swingers will consider it money well spent.
They’d need to sort this site out though - it’s like something from the 80’s
Please don't bang this drum. In case someone's listening and, well..listens!
..and don't underestimate how far chancers are prepared to go."
Bang bang bang. Get it done ! |
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By *yron69Man
over a year ago
Fareham |
I’ve organised two gangbangs with two hot ladies and guys will get as far as saying their outside then not appear. Their loss .
But they are typical of people who book something they don’t want and deprive more serious applicants of an opportunity.
But they go to great lengths and often get through my timewaster radar. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
The no show rate for fab is much higher than another swinging website with the initials SH...
The lady that organises the Coventry social runs a guest list on both sites and the other site seems to have more reliable members (no pub intended) ...
I cant remember if you have to pay more for the other site ...but interesting to understand why .. ? |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
"This site seems to be more filled up more with chancers and dreamers all the time.
I dont know what the solution is to rectifying it but it does seem to be getting worse.
It’s really simple. Make them pay.
£20/month fee, minimum 6 month subscription.
Cancers won’t waste the money.
Legitimate swingers will consider it money well spent.
They’d need to sort this site out though - it’s like something from the 80’s "
Well I couldn’t justify spending that much money. That doesn’t mean I am not legitimate.
All that doing that would achieve is ensuring that it was the richer timewasters on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site seems to be more filled up more with chancers and dreamers all the time.
I dont know what the solution is to rectifying it but it does seem to be getting worse.
It’s really simple. Make them pay.
£20/month fee, minimum 6 month subscription.
Cancers won’t waste the money.
Legitimate swingers will consider it money well spent.
They’d need to sort this site out though - it’s like something from the 80’s
Please don't bang this drum. In case someone's listening and, well..listens!
..and don't underestimate how far chancers are prepared to go.
Bang bang bang. Get it done ! "
It won't work...I know, cause I've been on subscription swing sites, before i found Fab..it has its 'inconveniences' irritations, but that's ever and always gonna be the case.
The spirit of Fab should be defeated and trash canned because it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. .
If i had a gf and was cheating on fabs (which I don't btw and she rang me while I was on the way to a meet, I'd cancel on the lady but I'll tell the lady that I had family matters
Yeh, he didn’t even message me to let me know he wasn’t coming and he still hasn’t opened my messages. Coward.
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Surely you've blocked him now? |
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"I've had 2 verified women message me that they want to meet this week. 2 ghosts "
That happens all the time to me. The last three that said that, haven’t been back on Fab since sending me the message. Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months "
Sorry about that. It happens, does to me and I've learnt not to get angry, just start again.
Stay safe x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months "
what kind of nutter doesn't turn up to a hotel meet with you!!!!!!!  |
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There are lots of flakey people in this world. It's not just men and it's not just to do with sex. A lot of people just think that when they make an arrangement with somebody else, showing up is just optional. We've had it with club meets, trips to shows, Zoom calls and all sorts.
We take our commitments seriously. If we say we'll be somewhere, we'll damn we'll be there, and keep in contact so whoever we're meeting know if we're on time or having issues. We think that should be the norm. Sadly many people don't agree. |
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The whole idea of the verification system is to indicate who is genuine and those who are just starting on their swinger journey. So I don’t believe that making people pay for the site will make it any better either. Just those who can afford to pay a monthly subscription will and still ghost or let others down on meets.
If I was arranging a gangbang I would do it in a club as it’s safer and if only 2 out of 12 invitees turn up, then just look around the club for more volunteers.
There’s no simple answers I have been let down and ghosted but as I attend clubs for my first initial meet I still have a good time |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months
So I’m guessing you got stung with the hotel room costs too - I’d be furious!
I’m really sorry you had to deal with this.
Thanks. X
Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel. It was only arranged two days ago though
I was fuming x"
I wonder why he decided not to turn up within 2 days? Glad you got the cash though and hope he will be blocked from now on.
I dunno why people just mess others about, it's not nice and they'd proper kick off if you did the same I bet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most guys love the idea of a gang bang. But the actual nitty-gritty is a very different proposition.
We met single guys in person at various times and they all were super friendly and approachable. They were all in for a threesome. Until the actual threesome part was about to start. One guy even made it to the hotel but work called and he had to "go in early, you understand right?"
The idea of having to perform in front of other men is off putting. Group sex can be messy. Lots of body fluids splashing around. Lots of other guys touching you. It can freak guys out.
The idea of being involved in a gang bang might give a fantasist a good week of wank material. They get the ego boost of being wanted too. And they don't have to deal with the actual having to perform part
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"Most guys love the idea of a gang bang. But the actual nitty-gritty is a very different proposition.
We met single guys in person at various times and they all were super friendly and approachable. They were all in for a threesome. Until the actual threesome part was about to start. One guy even made it to the hotel but work called and he had to "go in early, you understand right?"
The idea of having to perform in front of other men is off putting. Group sex can be messy. Lots of body fluids splashing around. Lots of other guys touching you. It can freak guys out.
The idea of being involved in a gang bang might give a fantasist a good week of wank material. They get the ego boost of being wanted too. And they don't have to deal with the actual having to perform part
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100% agree with this.
People commit to meets when they're horny, it makes them feel good for a few days. Then the horn wears off and they have second thoughts. |
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"Most guys love the idea of a gang bang. But the actual nitty-gritty is a very different proposition.
We met single guys in person at various times and they all were super friendly and approachable. They were all in for a threesome. Until the actual threesome part was about to start. One guy even made it to the hotel but work called and he had to "go in early, you understand right?"
The idea of having to perform in front of other men is off putting. Group sex can be messy. Lots of body fluids splashing around. Lots of other guys touching you. It can freak guys out.
The idea of being involved in a gang bang might give a fantasist a good week of wank material. They get the ego boost of being wanted too. And they don't have to deal with the actual having to perform part
100% agree with this.
People commit to meets when they're horny, it makes them feel good for a few days. Then the horn wears off and they have second thoughts. "
Yes two good points being made here. There’s fantasy and reality I have only one group session I’ve been involved with, but you could tell those who were truly enjoying it, to those who clearly finding some of the play ...a bit too much |
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"I would tell you why he ghosted me today.... but I can’t as he’s a Class A prick and hasn’t replied to my message.
He will be in contact again though, they always are. Il ask him then before I block him.
I think people ghost for multiple reasons... fantasy, actually attached, all tall and no action, they are a asshole, something genuine come up, assholes again, scared. "
From seeing your profile pic he must be a loser to not show up, I agree many have no intention to meet, it's just a online fantasy, a quick wank before bedtime and their ovaltine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would tell you why he ghosted me today.... but I can’t as he’s a Class A prick and hasn’t replied to my message.
He will be in contact again though, they always are. Il ask him then before I block him.
I think people ghost for multiple reasons... fantasy, actually attached, all tall and no action, they are a asshole, something genuine come up, assholes again, scared. "
I believe this is what they call all mouth and no Privado, as you said you’ve chatted for 6 months Prior and the excitement for the met then boom no show, complete bellend if you ask me! |
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"In all my years on Fab I had never been ghosted until recently. Its not nice but you live and learn x"
We had some bad ghosting experiences and it was a big reason why we left 2 years ago. (Male and female)
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"Most guys love the idea of a gang bang. But the actual nitty-gritty is a very different proposition.
We met single guys in person at various times and they all were super friendly and approachable. They were all in for a threesome. Until the actual threesome part was about to start. One guy even made it to the hotel but work called and he had to "go in early, you understand right?"
The idea of having to perform in front of other men is off putting. Group sex can be messy. Lots of body fluids splashing around. Lots of other guys touching you. It can freak guys out.
The idea of being involved in a gang bang might give a fantasist a good week of wank material. They get the ego boost of being wanted too. And they don't have to deal with the actual having to perform part
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Yes that's spot on, it's only a fantasy for many, they watch the porn, have a wank, get horny, message a gangbang organiser, realise they will have to perform, and other guys will see their willy, or even be in close proximity, and then just go radio silent. |
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I once got invited to a 8 man gangbang with a hot wife and husband
I was the only one that turned up
Guys, I know we don’t want to admit it, but we ruin Fabs.
100s of blank profiles sending out “hey how’s u” and cock pics
100s of just plainly fake profiles. Either pretending to be couples or just fake pics.
100s of married men pretending they’re not
And 100s of all mouth no action time wasters. Keyboard wankers |
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months
So I’m guessing you got stung with the hotel room costs too - I’d be furious!
I’m really sorry you had to deal with this.
Thanks. X
Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel. It was only arranged two days ago though
I was fuming x
I wonder why he decided not to turn up within 2 days? Glad you got the cash though and hope he will be blocked from now on.
I dunno why people just mess others about, it's not nice and they'd proper kick off if you did the same I bet x"
I honestly don’t know. He had physically seen me before as we had a coffee together ages ago and he constantly looks at my fab profile every time it’s open.
People can be odd |
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"I would tell you why he ghosted me today.... but I can’t as he’s a Class A prick and hasn’t replied to my message.
He will be in contact again though, they always are. Il ask him then before I block him.
I think people ghost for multiple reasons... fantasy, actually attached, all tall and no action, they are a asshole, something genuine come up, assholes again, scared.
From seeing your profile pic he must be a loser to not show up, I agree many have no intention to meet, it's just a online fantasy, a quick wank before bedtime and their ovaltine."
He has actually met a few people from here though so it must of just been me |
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"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. .
If i had a gf and was cheating on fabs (which I don't btw and she rang me while I was on the way to a meet, I'd cancel on the lady but I'll tell the lady that I had family matters
Yeh, he didn’t even message me to let me know he wasn’t coming and he still hasn’t opened my messages. Coward.
Surely you've blocked him now?"
He’s now blocked via what’s app. I haven’t blocked him via fab... he can see what he’s missing out on. |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
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"I once got invited to a 8 man gangbang with a hot wife and husband
I was the only one that turned up
Guys, I know we don’t want to admit it, but we ruin Fabs.
100s of blank profiles sending out “hey how’s u” and cock pics
100s of just plainly fake profiles. Either pretending to be couples or just fake pics.
100s of married men pretending they’re not
And 100s of all mouth no action time wasters. Keyboard wankers"
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I've been ghosted more since I joined here than I have the entire rest of my life. That's meeting one guy or one couple, heaven help me if I tried to get multiple guys to turn up at the same time!
I've never had someone ghost after a social - that tends to be the cut-off point for the time wasters. If they bother turning up when there's no hope of getting laid then they do tend to follow through with all subsequent meets.
I now just assume I'm going to be ghosted on every social and plan to meet somewhere I'm happy to be on my own, that way it's a lovely surprise if someone actually turns up.
As others have said, if I was looking to arrange a group I would probably do it in a club. |
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"Lucky he sent me the money for the hotel.
Before or after?
Before.
Iv already met him for a coffee last year and we have real life mutual friends in common so I knew him.
Does he have wife and kids? Maybe his wife called him
He has a son. No wife. He could have a new gf I suppose. .
If i had a gf and was cheating on fabs (which I don't btw and she rang me while I was on the way to a meet, I'd cancel on the lady but I'll tell the lady that I had family matters
Yeh, he didn’t even message me to let me know he wasn’t coming and he still hasn’t opened my messages. Coward.
Surely you've blocked him now?
He’s now blocked via what’s app. I haven’t blocked him via fab... he can see what he’s missing out on. "
Going by your profile pic, he is definitely missing out  |
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"Well I was meant to meet someone today in a hotel room and they didn’t show up.
Only been chatting for over 6 months "
That is annoying. I only consider meets after ,long term chatting, and I've never had a no show. Mind you, finding someone who will chat for any length of time is challenging enough..
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been ghosted more since I joined here than I have the entire rest of my life. That's meeting one guy or one couple, heaven help me if I tried to get multiple guys to turn up at the same time!
I've never had someone ghost after a social - that tends to be the cut-off point for the time wasters. If they bother turning up when there's no hope of getting laid then they do tend to follow through with all subsequent meets.
I now just assume I'm going to be ghosted on every social and plan to meet somewhere I'm happy to be on my own, that way it's a lovely surprise if someone actually turns up.
As others have said, if I was looking to arrange a group I would probably do it in a club."
Good trick |
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I love to chat and meet new people ,all the info is there in my profile so if l get a nice message its nice to chat for a while then agree to meet at a later date.Thing l find is nearly all just stop replying for no reason ( or neglect to tell me the reason) ,but still look at my profile.
I dont get many meets yet l never let anyone down .lm happy to have a social meet and if fun ensues then great. Just dont get the ghosting thing ,people that do should just grow up. |
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I've been ghosted twice in the past few weeks. The first one completely disappeared, the second one still has his tagline as "no timewasters". It's ridiculous. I don't get it at all. How brave do you really have to be to just tell someone you have changed your mind? |
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I think people dilute responsibility down, so that each potential member of a group has a proportion of the personal responsibility of an individual imposed on them. The person doing it accepts an equal minority level of accountability to the others, which is obviously a blame shifting trick.
If they only ever didn't fully intend on attending, just pretending that they did, they feel they have done nothing wrong and misled nobody.
There are some who will say almost anything to potentially get what they may want. It's an abuse of trust and power. They don't respect the people that they may cause hurt or bother to and are quite spineless.
It's why I meet people in advance, to form my own decisions about them. |
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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
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"I've been ghosted twice in the past few weeks. The first one completely disappeared, the second one still has his tagline as "no timewasters". It's ridiculous. I don't get it at all. How brave do you really have to be to just tell someone you have changed your mind? "
Ditto, twice in a week. I resent the time wasted that I could have used to plan something different. |
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Everyone leads busy lives nowadays ,so planning stuff takes effort, its so easy to agree on here to continue chatting and plan a meet, even easier to just stop whenever you feel like it ,so disrespectful. Giving each other respect is important ,even if it is a polite 'sorry not interested now' or similar , like the op said how difficult is it ? |
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Never participated in one, but I've arranged 2 smallish ones for Lady friends. I must have been very lucky as both went off without a hitch. Only one no show out of the two parties! (much to the disappointment of the reserves lol)
I think it helped that I met all the guys personally before and took a deposit for the Hotel Room from each.
All of the guys followed the pre arranged rules to the letter and the ladies got to live out some fantasies in a safe environment. It wasn't difficult, I just took time and planning. I think it helps if the one organising isn't playing....... Thinking with the right head, and not getting excited or distracted. |
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We’ve never actually been ghosted as such, but we have been fed excuses before. Thankfully, in time for us to change our plans..
Having organised an MMMMF before for Becky and numerous parties at a swing club, it’s always easier with friends rather than unknowns. The drop out rate for the parties was quite considerable. |
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"I've been ghosted twice in the past few weeks. The first one completely disappeared, the second one still has his tagline as "no timewasters". It's ridiculous. I don't get it at all. How brave do you really have to be to just tell someone you have changed your mind? "
100% this. Or just that something has come up. It takes less than a minute to send a text. |
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Been ghosted twice over the weekend, both agreeing that a social meet would be a good idea…. Then silence… even if I turned everything off in the house, silence I know people change their minds, but just say, not all of us become abusive and childish.
On the gangbangs though, not my thing so I would never agree, but after being on this site for long enough, I have read plenty of times that only one or two (if any) actually turn up. |
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By *r-Oreo OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been ghosted twice in the past few weeks. The first one completely disappeared, the second one still has his tagline as "no timewasters". It's ridiculous. I don't get it at all. How brave do you really have to be to just tell someone you have changed your mind?
100% this. Or just that something has come up. It takes less than a minute to send a text. "
I agree |
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"I've been ghosted twice in the past few weeks. The first one completely disappeared, the second one still has his tagline as "no timewasters". It's ridiculous. I don't get it at all. How brave do you really have to be to just tell someone you have changed your mind?
100% this. Or just that something has come up. It takes less than a minute to send a text. "
Only genuine people have the manners to do this though  |
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I think it's shocking that people do this, how hard is it just to send a message to say you won't be able to make it.
You don't have to go into any detail....
It's common decency ffs |
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It’s the online world attitude I am afraid!
- don’t owe you anything
- don’t be so entitled
- I have choices and options, you have none
- can’t be bothered messaging you back
Hopefully some people are decent and make an effort… |
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Not genuinely single and guilt ridden. Also, I think a lot of folk get really carried away with the fantasy of a certain situation and then the reality is overwhelming whether that's down to performance anxiety or mental health issues. People aren't machines. I've been ghosted a few times, often by people who I've built a friendship with. I think sometimes people just feel intimidated, freak out and bail or ghost. |
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I can't understand why you wouldn't turn up or at least let the organiser know so rude.
I've been to a couple of gangbangs over the years and they are such great fun.
No shows are really missing out |
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"It’s not just guys either. I think some couples are either fake or downright ignorant. "
Yes that is true, in the past has happened to me, one example I was contacted by a couple, can you come to ours Wednesday afternoon, a small group of guys to bang the wife, come the day before and ignores messages, if it's off just say so, no one likes being messed about. |
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To be fair, I don't think this is an issue just within the world of FAB and gangbangs.
I work in sales in IT, and we regularly create online events, webinars, live demos etc. and invite partners, customers to attend.
The last one, with a sign-up of 20 people, had 3 attendees. This is online, so they don't even have to move from their PC where ever it may be!
(When we were doing physical events, the ratios were similar) |
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