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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?"
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it. |
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it."
I hear you. I think the current climate has been big on encouraging plus-size women, hence there's such a pride. I kind of just have the 'live-let live' approach to it, as long as people know that you're not everybody's cup of tea and wholeheartedly at least accept yourself, as it doesn't make much sense to be proud if you yourself see it as a con rather than pro. |
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"haha the women are piling in on their thread the men are keeping their gobs shut mostly on this one very wise!!!"
It just shows how each respective gender has been conditioned to behave a certain way. A lot of women feel entitled due to many the men who will pander for some pussy, you see. Don't worry, fellas – this is a safe space 
It would be nice to hear out each opposite's perspectives and maybe learn something moving forward. |
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it."
So women can’t be big AND beautiful? |
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"haha the women are piling in on their thread the men are keeping their gobs shut mostly on this one very wise!!!
It just shows how each respective gender has been conditioned to behave a certain way. A lot of women feel entitled due to many the men who will pander for some pussy, you see. Don't worry, fellas – this is a safe space
It would be nice to hear out each opposite's perspectives and maybe learn something moving forward. "
yeah Im still keeping my gob shut haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This seems like a dangerous thread to get involved in... my only bad experience would be exchanging messages for a while then face pics and then suddenly being blocked out the blue. Surely if you don’t find someone facially attractive just say? |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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This applies to both threads bu too lazy to post to both - non gender specific
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Irony!!!!!
People moan constantly about lies and BS.
Irony
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By (user no longer on site)
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fuck it I will be brave and base on my previous account on here
women that message you first and say have you got a face pic without sending one of their own first its like a sense of entitlement
women that message you first then talk in short one line sentences rather than have a conversation why the hell did you message me then??
those chancers that keep putting on their status shit like who wants to treat me to a new site supporter pass knowing full well some stupid simp will pay up
those that beg for fabs or say things like I only speak to those that have fabbed my pics
those that criticise men for displaying loads of cock pics then have a gallery full of 150 tit or cleavage photos
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it.
So women can’t be big AND beautiful? "
Clearly not, we must all be disgusting.
Just like all gym fit guys must have the most handsomest of faces  |
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it.
So women can’t be big AND beautiful?
Clearly not, we must all be disgusting.
Just like all gym fit guys must have the most handsomest of faces "
Oh apparently us women are entitled too, due to the fact there’s men who pander to pussy. |
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it.
So women can’t be big AND beautiful?
Clearly not, we must all be disgusting.
Just like all gym fit guys must have the most handsomest of faces
Oh apparently us women are entitled too, due to the fact there’s men who pander to pussy. "
Yes and there are no entitled men on here that send messages asking for a blow and go.
I mean, that never happens right? |
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it.
So women can’t be big AND beautiful?
Clearly not, we must all be disgusting.
Just like all gym fit guys must have the most handsomest of faces
Oh apparently us women are entitled too, due to the fact there’s men who pander to pussy. "
Pander to the pussy .. ... I like the sound of that  |
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My inner psychology nerd is loving this! 
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The fact they are unobtainable 
You not had much luck so far? What has your experience been like, fella?"
very quiet,havnt had any interaction from the females,im mainly joining in with forums,most people seem decent though |
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me! "
have you seen how the women have responded to the first real piece of feedback on here? thats why! |
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me!
have you seen how the women have responded to the first real piece of feedback on here? thats why! "
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Wow the difference in the two threads!  . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread  |
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me!
have you seen how the women have responded to the first real piece of feedback on here? thats why! "
It wasn’t feedback - it was insulting women who are big.
The other thread doesn’t comment on looks or appearance, body type. |
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me! "
I couldn’t articulate any better than you in your post. You’ve answered your own question within it. The reaction from women. It’s volatile at best and venomous and vitriolic at worst. Men often think what we’ve said isn’t all that bad but it’s hell hath no fury verbal vengeance in return from a woman.
Young men don’t know any better but older ones have wisdom on their side. |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread "
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation. |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation. "
Oh I know exactly why they won’t. Shame though really. |
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me! "
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Loving your thoughts on this thread |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation. "
Yes....I agree. |
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"haha the women are piling in on their thread the men are keeping their gobs shut mostly on this one very wise!!!
It just shows how each respective gender has been conditioned to behave a certain way. A lot of women feel entitled due to many the men who will pander for some pussy, you see. Don't worry, fellas – this is a safe space
It would be nice to hear out each opposite's perspectives and maybe learn something moving forward.
yeah Im still keeping my gob shut haha "
Unusual for you |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation.
Yes....I agree."
Oh I agree too. Shame that’s all |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation.
Yes....I agree.
Oh I agree too. Shame that’s all "
It isn’t worth the trouble. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread "
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out. |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation.
Yes....I agree.
Oh I agree too. Shame that’s all
It isn’t worth the trouble."
Yeah I get that to be fair |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out. "
Yes. Similar to what the other man just said. I totally get you |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out. "
I think this is precisely the case for most of us. It just isn’t worth the trouble it can invite. |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation.
Yes....I agree.
Oh I agree too. Shame that’s all "
fuck it ill say it nobody is ever gonna shag me on here anyway haha
Ladies your talking out of your arses!!!  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out.
Yes. Similar to what the other man just said. I totally get you "
I think that is a huge difference, and I guess a can of worms is about to be opened... SOME Women seem to be much more fierce and far more confrontational on here, at times almost like they are looking for a fight or argument. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just a difference. |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out.
Yes. Similar to what the other man just said. I totally get you
I think that is a huge difference, and I guess a can of worms is about to be opened... SOME Women seem to be much more fierce and far more confrontational on here, at times almost like they are looking for a fight or argument. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just a difference. "
Oh I agree. Waiting to pounce. I’ve always said I should have been a bloke. I don’t even understand women . Men are so much easier to understand! |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out.
Yes. Similar to what the other man just said. I totally get you
I think that is a huge difference, and I guess a can of worms is about to be opened... SOME Women seem to be much more fierce and far more confrontational on here, at times almost like they are looking for a fight or argument. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just a difference.
Oh I agree. Waiting to pounce. I’ve always said I should have been a bloke. I don’t even understand women . Men are so much easier to understand! "
You're not wrong there Nora |
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This can of worms is slowly opening... Everyone is entitled to an opinion that opinion just gets less valid if you insult or attack someone else for an array of things (looks/ sexually preferences etc).
To me fab seems like a relatively friendly place but like with all things their are good / bad and for as many nice / polite people they’ll be just as many who are rude / cant takes rejection the right way.
You just get a sense that some guys get frustrated with the lack of response/ always being perceived to be the ones putting the effort in/ messaging first  |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
Forum suicide, first some of the women (not all} would shred you, then the white knights would charge in and mop you up...
Just an observation. "
Indeed. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out.
Yes. Similar to what the other man just said. I totally get you
I think that is a huge difference, and I guess a can of worms is about to be opened... SOME Women seem to be much more fierce and far more confrontational on here, at times almost like they are looking for a fight or argument. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just a difference.
Oh I agree. Waiting to pounce. I’ve always said I should have been a bloke. I don’t even understand women . Men are so much easier to understand!
You're not wrong there Nora "
I’m never wrong grumps |
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out.
Yes. Similar to what the other man just said. I totally get you
I think that is a huge difference, and I guess a can of worms is about to be opened... SOME Women seem to be much more fierce and far more confrontational on here, at times almost like they are looking for a fight or argument. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just a difference.
Oh I agree. Waiting to pounce. I’ve always said I should have been a bloke. I don’t even understand women . Men are so much easier to understand!
You're not wrong there Nora
I’m never wrong grumps "
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it.
So women can’t be big AND beautiful? "
But not at the cost of insulting the normal or skinny ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow the difference in the two threads! . To be honest I’d have more respect for the men who challenged what some of the women are saying if they didn’t agree and actually posted what they actually thought too on this thread
To be fair, for me, it is less about just sitting back and not challenging. And more about it being just not worth the effort that particular can of worms opens. As somebody that has no problem challenging something I don't agree with (or supporting what I do agree with) and not dropping it, I just don't have the energy as I know exactly how such a "discussion" would play out.
Yes. Similar to what the other man just said. I totally get you
I think that is a huge difference, and I guess a can of worms is about to be opened... SOME Women seem to be much more fierce and far more confrontational on here, at times almost like they are looking for a fight or argument. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just a difference.
Oh I agree. Waiting to pounce. I’ve always said I should have been a bloke. I don’t even understand women . Men are so much easier to understand! "
Good term for it Nora, waiting to pounce and it’s done in the name of ‘fairness’ and some sort of twisted wisdom that is correct because it comes from them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That a large number of them are likely to be unaware that they are even on here."
very true “the so called couples” it’s the fella using there partners photos for bait |
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It's mainly a numbers game... because of the high number of men the ladies can afford to be hyper choosy.... For the guys we have to offer exceptional attractions for them to indulge us with their attention.... and if they get bored .. there's another fifty or so more blokes to choose from  |
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"It's mainly a numbers game... because of the high number of men the ladies can afford to be hyper choosy.... For the guys we have to offer exceptional attractions for them to indulge us with their attention.... and if they get bored .. there's another fifty or so more blokes to choose from "
And yet there are still a lot of complaints as to the quality of what’s on offer. |
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me!
have you seen how the women have responded to the first real piece of feedback on here? thats why!
If I wanted your opinion I'd have given you it "
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me! "
Largely because assigning behavoir traits to a given sex is mostly fine if that sex is male but unacceptable to many if the sex in question is female.
So where there are genuine issues like patriarchy it becomes reasonable to place blame on a man simply because he is a man. Expressions like mansplaining are socially acceptable - no one seems bothered that it implies a person's behavoir is predicated by their biological sex.
This is the reason I won't answer this thread. Any issues I may or may not have had on fab are issues with a person not with all women. The idea that there are behavoirs that are somehow common to all women is frankly bollocks.
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Nothing at all..
Impressed by most comments and threads I’ve read so far and growing to like this community
Impressed to see open minded conversations that have real value
If that’s ok? |
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By *EAT..85Woman
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"Nothing at all..
Impressed by most comments and threads I’ve read so far and growing to like this community
Impressed to see open minded conversations that have real value
If that’s ok?"
Booooo! No! Throw yourself under the bus so that the women of Fab can be scathing of you and treat you like a pariah! |
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"Nothing at all..
Impressed by most comments and threads I’ve read so far and growing to like this community
Impressed to see open minded conversations that have real value
If that’s ok?
Booooo! No! Throw yourself under the bus so that the women of Fab can be scathing of you and treat you like a pariah! "
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"It's mainly a numbers game... because of the high number of men the ladies can afford to be hyper choosy.... For the guys we have to offer exceptional attractions for them to indulge us with their attention.... and if they get bored .. there's another fifty or so more blokes to choose from
And yet there are still a lot of complaints as to the quality of what’s on offer."
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it."
I wouldn't use the BBW label for myself to be honest. But the categories are pre set and there isn't another to describe my body type. |
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"What bothers you most about women on fab?
I’ll get shot down for this, but the BBW tag
Interesting one. What specifically about it?
I’m almost afraid to say! As somebody who likes to be fit and healthy, I just find it weird that some women use the BBW tag as something of a badge of honour. I totally believe in the ‘each to their own’ ethos and there’s a somebody for everybody, but I find the ‘big’ and ‘beautiful’ to be something of an oxymoron - it’s just something I don’t understand why people would be proud of it.
I wouldn't use the BBW label for myself to be honest. But the categories are pre set and there isn't another to describe my body type. "
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"My inner psychology nerd is loving this!
I believe man should feel as comfortable as women do making criticism of the opposite gender, whether its tongue in cheek or not. For whatever reason women (and obviously I count myself!) do seem to take criticism more personal and are possibly offended by mens comments, whereas men seem to generally brush it off? The internal battles with self esteem are probably similar but external reactions seem initially more volatile when women are criticised.
Also why are men so worried about verbalising critique?
Sorry to burst in and waffle like that but it genuinely interests me!
Largely because assigning behavoir traits to a given sex is mostly fine if that sex is male but unacceptable to many if the sex in question is female.
So where there are genuine issues like patriarchy it becomes reasonable to place blame on a man simply because he is a man. Expressions like mansplaining are socially acceptable - no one seems bothered that it implies a person's behavoir is predicated by their biological sex.
This is the reason I won't answer this thread. Any issues I may or may not have had on fab are issues with a person not with all women. The idea that there are behavoirs that are somehow common to all women is frankly bollocks.
Mr"
That is very true. And if we are to ever achieve gender equality we’ll need to adopt a more encompassing definition of sexism ie “a discrimination based on sex” and not like you see far too often: “a discrimination based on sex, especially towards women.”
I don’t deny that it incurs more towards women. Instead I’m saying that as long as such discrimination is accepted towards one sex (any one) we’ll always pit one against the other, we won’t sort out the issue (which is rather prominent on Fab) hence won’t find peace.
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"Well I’m gonna be the idiot... feck it. Every days a school day....up until I read this thread I thought a BBW meant big bouncy woman...Yep I said it"
Big bouncy woman! I love that!
I sometimes use the term BBW just so that the person I'm speaking to has a realistic expectation of my body type. I know that not everyone fancies a fat lass, and I'm not offended by that. |
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