 |
By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Is it ever OK to have a plan B set up for a meet?
What would your reaction be if you found out that you were someone’s second choice in a situation?
Can you or do you take steps to ensure that you’re not? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Never ok for me OP.
But having a plan B means that in the back of your mind you aren’t fully committed to plan A in the first place"
Not really , if plan A is a flaky girl who has a habit of cancelling at short notice |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Never ok for me OP.
But having a plan B means that in the back of your mind you aren’t fully committed to plan A in the first place
Not really , if plan A is a flaky girl who has a habit of cancelling at short notice "
Then why is that your plan A? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I arranged a social with a woman a couple of years ago. I agreed to travel after work to a place of her choosing so she didn't have to cross the city twice.
She went quiet on the day of the meet but then an hour beforehand messaged to say she'd had another fab meet at lunchtime and was running late as a result so could we reschedule?
I agreed but the next morning she posted 2 new veris. One from her lunch meet and another from a guy who even name dropped the name of the coffee shop we had arranged to meet in.
She tried to convince me to meet again 6 months later but I said no because of her previous Plan B approach. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yes, just in case they let you down, because it happens... ALOT!!"
Crikey, I've never had a plan B, all the ladies that I've arranged to meet generally turn up for the meet, whether it be a social, or a 2 night stay at my gaff   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
No it's not something I would do I think it's not a nice thing to do to anyone have them as your back up plan that's not fair on them.The only exception is if you have been truthful and they know from the start.
I did have it happen on here once when a guy had arranged to meet me but suddenly went quiet so I cancelled that morning I just had a feeling something else was going on .I heard nothing until half an hour before we were due to meet he asked would I still meet I declined and asked did his other meet not work out he admitted he had arranged to meet someone else and no it hadn't worked out. His plan b that day didn't work out either.  He was obviously more than happy to have let me travel to meet him and would probably have been ghosted if plan A had worked out for him. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Never ok for me OP.
But having a plan B means that in the back of your mind you aren’t fully committed to plan A in the first place
Not really , if plan A is a flaky girl who has a habit of cancelling at short notice "
If she’s flakey, why would you risk meeting her? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yes, just in case they let you down, because it happens... ALOT!!
Crikey, I've never had a plan B, all the ladies that I've arranged to meet generally turn up for the meet, whether it be a social, or a 2 night stay at my gaff "
I've only experienced men, maybe that's why? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If I've got two offers for the same night then I've let the second person know I might be free if I get let down. But I don't plan two different people by design xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yes, just in case they let you down, because it happens... ALOT!!
How would you decide who is who and what happens if they both work out?
Do you let them know? "
I wouldn't arrange for the same time, just the same day a few hours apart.
Happened recently, just met B earlier as A cancelled. Neither needed to know. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Never ok for me OP.
But having a plan B means that in the back of your mind you aren’t fully committed to plan A in the first place
Not really , if plan A is a flaky girl who has a habit of cancelling at short notice "
I wouldn't be with a flake. I need reliability in my men. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"The only plan b I have is to ensure there's an easy exit through the toilet windows, just in case  "
Make sure you leave Plan B - She Said on the sound system though
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQjh9H-ymK4 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yes, just in case they let you down, because it happens... ALOT!!
Doesn't that mean that you will be letting someone down also?
Or do you let them know up front that they are Plan B? "
See my reply above. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up"
I have the cinema as a back up plan on a night time and shopping in the day, my spare time is precious and I'm not going to waste it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
and here I was thinking you were talking about plan b the singer
Never really have a plan b my plan b if a meet falls out is insta shag
and never really am a plan b meet ither as all my meets are planed as it takes about a day to get ready bween shaveing and such
Hence why my insta shag stament lot off waist prep time for a meet to fall though
Definitely let feve bang me that I wouldn’t normally meet just for the sake off not waisting prep time and instashag
Standers really do go out the window then |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
We never have a plan B other than if we travel for a meet we make sure there are things for us to see/do if the meet falls through.
We would never line someone else up in case the primary meet fell through, as given what we do its not simply a case of putting my penis in a different vagina. Theres a lot of communication and prepping the scene we do that makes it challenging to swap partners at the drop of a hat. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up
I have the cinema as a back up plan on a night time and shopping in the day, my spare time is precious and I'm not going to waste it"
exactly not sure why people are assuming it means another shag |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up
I have the cinema as a back up plan on a night time and shopping in the day, my spare time is precious and I'm not going to waste itexactly not sure why people are assuming it means another shag"
Maybe because he asked about plan B being set up for a meet |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up
I have the cinema as a back up plan on a night time and shopping in the day, my spare time is precious and I'm not going to waste itexactly not sure why people are assuming it means another shag
Maybe because he asked about plan B being set up for a meet "
yes i just reread the op  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up"
That’s very true.
In the past, any meet that I had I always had a back up plan for something fun to do, just in case they cancelled. I didn’t see that as plan B though, just managing my expectations. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
I've been stood up so many times I would have plan a's, b's & c's 
This is in a last minute city centre coffee scenario though.
I've double booked people by accident before. I was honest with both of them and rescheduled the one I cancelled successfully. I guess it depends how genuinely you come across? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up
I have the cinema as a back up plan on a night time and shopping in the day, my spare time is precious and I'm not going to waste itexactly not sure why people are assuming it means another shag"
That was the manner in which the thread was intended, it was meant to mean another person but a plan B doesn’t have to mean that |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *an4funMan
over a year ago
london |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up
That’s very true.
In the past, any meet that I had I always had a back up plan for something fun to do, just in case they cancelled. I didn’t see that as plan B though, just managing my expectations."
Ever thought about a career in politics?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
If this was dating, for a relationship, then I'd agree with people feeling bad about having a back up. But it's not.
I've got all the time in the world, but not the energy, so if I've made an effort and got ready, I don't want that to be wasted. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My plan B is finding a nice coffee shop or bar where I can enjoy solitude or seeing a landmark in the area. Heh. No plan B as i wouldn't like to be one. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *an4funMan
over a year ago
london |
"If this was dating, for a relationship, then I'd agree with people feeling bad about having a back up. But it's not.
I've got all the time in the world, but not the energy, so if I've made an effort and got ready, I don't want that to be wasted. "
I agree. If the purpose is to have some fun does it matter if it's with person A or person B? Both might be pleasant company.
I've been plan B many times. The only issue I had, sometimes, was not knowing until the last minute. But if I didn't have a plan B in those situations, then I mentally prepared myself for a night in. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I would be devastated to find out I was someone's second choice.
No harm in trying to salvage the day/night if you are let down...but to have a plan in place....no no no. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up
I have the cinema as a back up plan on a night time and shopping in the day, my spare time is precious and I'm not going to waste itexactly not sure why people are assuming it means another shag
That was the manner in which the thread was intended, it was meant to mean another person but a plan B doesn’t have to mean that"
Ahhhh ok
I have a non sexual back up friend who is available as a plan B if he's not doing anything else who will come to the cinema and shopping. Also I don't plan sexual back ups but I do have a local fwb and we often send each other a faf text if a meet is cancelled |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I dont think plan b necessarily means another meet it can be a gurls night out a day shopping anythunf so your time isnt waated if you get stood up but ive never been stood up
That’s very true.
In the past, any meet that I had I always had a back up plan for something fun to do, just in case they cancelled. I didn’t see that as plan B though, just managing my expectations.
Ever thought about a career in politics? "
I’d be useless, I always answer questions! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If I sense him being flaky or not as committed to our time together then yes I do and my spidey sense hasn't failed me yet
I’ll be your plan B  "
I'll be plan c |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I arranged a social with a woman a couple of years ago. I agreed to travel after work to a place of her choosing so she didn't have to cross the city twice.
She went quiet on the day of the meet but then an hour beforehand messaged to say she'd had another fab meet at lunchtime and was running late as a result so could we reschedule?
I agreed but the next morning she posted 2 new veris. One from her lunch meet and another from a guy who even name dropped the name of the coffee shop we had arranged to meet in.
She tried to convince me to meet again 6 months later but I said no because of her previous Plan B approach. "
That's awful!!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"But surely if you're meeting multiple people on here, no one is really plan A? There's always other options. That's what swinging is about no?"
I cant speak for anyone else but I don't plan on meeting multiple people. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"But surely if you're meeting multiple people on here, no one is really plan A? There's always other options. That's what swinging is about no?"
Meeting multiple people is one thing. Treating them as a number rather than a person is something else entirely. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Have never needed a plan B and never will do - by the time I've arranged to meet someone I have every reason to believe they will show up and arranging a last minute replacement "just in case" would never even occur to me, and if it did wouldn't feel right. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
I’m ok with it as long as it’s out in the open. You can usually sense if there’s a plan b situation so why not say.... I’m supposed to be doing something but I’d like to hook up so if it falls through and you’re still free then we can get together.
What I won’t do is pretend it’s anything different and If I get a sense of it without honesty I’m out.
V x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Is it ever OK to have a plan B set up for a meet?
What would your reaction be if you found out that you were someone’s second choice in a situation?
Can you or do you take steps to ensure that you’re not? "
If I got even a hint of that I may be a Plan B I'd kick his arse... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
!