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Could you forgive
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nope, I would always be guarded around them after it happened.
I respect everyone until they give me a reason not to, but don't trust anyone until they have earned it.
I appreciate that probably sounds harsh, but its the only way I feel comfortable  |
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Potentially, yes. We're all human. We allake mistakes. I try to be very forgiving because goodness knows I have needed a lot if forgiving in my time.
A lot of it depends on the approach of the person who has done wrong. There are things they could do to make it worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I could only forgive my partner as we have so much history, but it would cause so much damage and take time to rebuild. I'd struggle to forgive anyone else depending on how bad it was and my automatic response is no, not a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forgive them for your own well being but don't let them back in. I'm not saying this is the case but for some people it's a game to knock you down. Whatever the reason, anyone who makes you feel worthless isn't worth your time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not! I’m a confident person and for someone to ‘ break’ it would definitely be a no no for me.
How about you op?
I'm torn at the minute...."
It’s ok to forgive but in reality if that person breaks your trust and makes you feel insecure/ sad about things, then it’s a difficult one to forgive as sometimes the trust has gone. But we don’t know the circumstances around it but hope you find your answer x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forgive them for your own well being but don't let them back in. I'm not saying this is the case but for some people it's a game to knock you down. Whatever the reason, anyone who makes you feel worthless isn't worth your time "
Absolutely this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I don't think I could. I would want to because if you have a place in my heart, that's never going to change. I'd just change what side of my heart you live in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really depends on what it was and their reasons for doing it. Was it intentional or not? Etc. So many factors but I think that I would always be wary of them in the future |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I work on the premise never confide in someone who happily tells you the secrets of others.
Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild. "
If they talk about others you know that they will talk about you too. |
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"I work on the premise never confide in someone who happily tells you the secrets of others.
Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild. "
Yep. If they're sharing gossip with you they will be gossiping about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone if they broke your confidence? "
I think it depends on what was said, who it was said to, are they remorseful and what was their motive for betraying your trust?
You obviously value this person or you wouldn't have confided in them initially, did you really misjudge that badly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on what the actual subject was.
I also don’t agree with the it’s fair game to tell the husband/wife everything. If I speak about something to a friend then I don’t expect them to go home and tell their partner or husband. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been going through this since March.
I can forgive but never forget. It's not worth the energy. It's better to put that energy in build something new.
You can never go back to what you had.
It's gone. My love is unconditional, my presence is not.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it would depend on if they had intentionally gone out of there way to break your confidance or if it happend inadvertently and they absolutely had no intention of doing so... If it was the latter I would base my decision to try to forgive and forget on there reaction... Do they seem genuinely upset they have knocked my confidence... Are they taking steps to try help me build it back up? |
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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
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On Fab, I'm ok with giving a second chance, but never a third.
In relationships, I'm far too trusting and optimistic, often believing that previous bad form was a "one off". You'd think I'd know better by my age, wouldn't you?  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Someone if they broke your confidence? "
I think it's based on how badly if trust was involved and this trust was abused badly when we look in life some things are less than the unthinkable all surrounding confidence and their actions. What is forgivable their is always a line. |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
It would depend on the nature of my relationship with this person and on the severity of the transgression.
But generally speaking? Yes, I could forgive them. We're all human, and we call all make mistakes, or bad decisions.
That's not to say I could ever fully trust them again, or that our relationship would continue as it had previously, if at all, however.
Forgiveness doesn't have to go hand in hand with taking someone back, or giving them another chance, is what I'm saying. |
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