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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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Interesting. I guess actions during the apologies matter.
If I fuck up royally, and just say sorry then that's worthless.
If we sit down, have a frank discussion about something that one of us has slipped up on and apologies and more discussion then yeah, I think that action speaks loudly.
I hear what you're saying, OP, and some things cannot be apologised for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes they do. While words can be extremely powerful, they are also empty if never backed up.
Sorry means nothing if the same behaviour / actions continue to be repeated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really speak louder than words??
What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.
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Actions do speak louder than words yea |
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I don't know what prompted the thread, but I watch what people do far more than I listen to what they say.
It's easy to do something dim and apologise for it - we all do mad stuff sometimes, but if you apologise and continue doing it anyway the words clearly meant nothing.
I hope you're ok, whatever is going on  |
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"Really speak louder than words??
What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.
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I think what you said is an example of actions speaking louder than words. Somebody can say sorry but their actions will show you they haven't taken it to heart. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you've fucked up and are sorry, what else CAN you say? "
Depends if you value someone enough to say sorry. Some people stab you in the back without a prior thought for the impact it can have. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Really speak louder than words??
What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.
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That is not wrong at all, but much more to it. The two enhance each other.
Think of the "I love you" situation. Somebody never says it to their partner, they just assume their partner knows because of their actions. When saying it just once would change the whole situation.
Then on the flip side of that, as you say, just saying "I love you" but never showing it makes the words hollow and nothing but a front. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really speak louder than words??
What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.
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Yes, for me actions do speak louder than words.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think they go together. If someone fucks up then it's important they own that and apologise, but the sincerity of that apology will only be proven by subsequent actions. |
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I never accept a sorry as its a get out of jail free card for so many people, tell me "I fucked up because I wanted to do something else and I should of told you that" and you will have earned my respect, I also don't like make up actions as people use them to gloss over the mistake and then go and do it in secret anyway, after all it's only a shitty thing to do after you are found out... |
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"I never accept a sorry as its a get out of jail free card for so many people, tell me "I fucked up because I wanted to do something else and I should of told you that" and you will have earned my respect, I also don't like make up actions as people use them to gloss over the mistake and then go and do it in secret anyway, after all it's only a shitty thing to do after you are found out..."
Yes . This  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you've fucked up and are sorry, what else CAN you say?
Depends if you value someone enough to say sorry. Some people stab you in the back without a prior thought for the impact it can have. "
They do indeed, but a genuine sorry can be a very positive thing to mend a disagreement  |
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"I never accept a sorry as its a get out of jail free card for so many people, tell me "I fucked up because I wanted to do something else and I should of told you that" and you will have earned my respect, I also don't like make up actions as people use them to gloss over the mistake and then go and do it in secret anyway, after all it's only a shitty thing to do after you are found out...
Yes . This "
Yes again to this.
People think that because they have apologised everything is hunky doory.
If you don’t accept their apology then they turn it back on you and act like now they are the injured party.
Just because an apology is given there is no obligation to accept it, especially if it is given to ease their conscience. |
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Depends on the situation, words are important and can mean so much. Simple I love you or a heartfelt are you really ok? Are sometimes really needed.
I don't think one is better than the other. Words and actions in combination are what is essential in my opinion.
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