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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago
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I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.
You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.
I just needed to get it off my chest.
Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.
Im still a shy person underneath it all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.
You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.
I just needed to get it off my chest.
Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.
Im still a shy person underneath it all."
I totally get where you’re coming from, I’m sure you will have friends somewhere for you to open up and you’ll almost feel liberated.
Not an easy thing to admit but looks like you’ve made the first step  |
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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago
Walking down the only road I've ever known! |
"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing? "
All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can
its done me a lot good. |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
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We all have up a and downs, sometimes I feel invisible on here.
It's been very difficult during lockdown and I have felt very alone and sad, I used the forums as a pick me up but got kicked to many times so now trying to build my confidence back up.
Stay strong sweety x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?
All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can
its done me a lot good. "
If it's done you good why are you bothered? You don't have to share anything with anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?
All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can
its done me a lot good. "
So you’re going to be told to ‘man up’ & get on with it. |
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In our culture, men have generally been brought up not to show or share feelings. I was shown a page from a kids book the other day where the male character feels "grown up" for not crying when he's very upset, for hiding it.
In my view that's damaging. But cultural norms do make it hard for many people, men especially, to show and share feelings.
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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago
Walking down the only road I've ever known! |
"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?
All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can
its done me a lot good.
If it's done you good why are you bothered? You don't have to share anything with anyone. "
It hasn't done me any good whatsoever.
I've tried to reverse it through my kids, I tell them I love them everyday and that they can tell me anything.
So far it's working.
So that's a positive for their future. |
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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago
Walking down the only road I've ever known! |
"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?
All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can
its done me a lot good.
So you’re going to be told to ‘man up’ & get on with it. "
Yeah that comment has alot to answer for.
That's not a personal dig at you.
It's what we are expected to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?
All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can
its done me a lot good.
So you’re going to be told to ‘man up’ & get on with it.
Yeah that comment has alot to answer for.
That's not a personal dig at you.
It's what we are expected to do."
It’s not a term I’d ever use myself, although I have it thrown at me in the past. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?
All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can
its done me a lot good.
If it's done you good why are you bothered? You don't have to share anything with anyone.
It hasn't done me any good whatsoever.
I've tried to reverse it through my kids, I tell them I love them everyday and that they can tell me anything.
So far it's working.
So that's a positive for their future."
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"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.
You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.
I just needed to get it off my chest.
Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.
Im still a shy person underneath it all."
If I tell people I’m shy, they piss themselves laughing.
Must be my years of overcompensating for feeling inadequate. |
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For some of us it's part of our personality to be less expressive. It doesn't mean we don't feel things as keenly. It isn't wrong, it's just not fashionable currently to be the still waters. It must be easier in some ways to be an open book but people close to you know how you feel. |
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By *andm300Man
over a year ago
guildford |
Check out Check out the book the body holds the score, somatic body work, moving meditations, emotional release workshops, bio energitics (shaking), Osho techniques, yoga, Tibetan Buddhism And if you really game find a therapist that works with psychedelics.
As a very sensitive man who learnt to suppress feelings and be tough. I work as a plumber and competed as a fighter Muay Thai. So I guess I am a pussy just a hard one lol.
I learnt the hard way how important it is to express you feelings (ending up with cancer 15 years ago). You don’t have to share them with others but it’s important to feel them fully and pay full attention to what’s happening inside your body. This changed my life for the better and helped me learn how to open my heart fully again which transformed my marriage And family relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For some of us it's part of our personality to be less expressive. It doesn't mean we don't feel things as keenly. It isn't wrong, it's just not fashionable currently to be the still waters. It must be easier in some ways to be an open book but people close to you know how you feel. "
I really like this and it's very true! Be yourself PP, I think all I'd add is try not to regret but try not to dwell if you do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For some of us it's part of our personality to be less expressive. It doesn't mean we don't feel things as keenly. It isn't wrong, it's just not fashionable currently to be the still waters. It must be easier in some ways to be an open book but people close to you know how you feel. "
Agree I used to bottle things up but they would always find a way if explosively finding their way out. |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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I think I better express myself through actions, not words. I'm working on the words part though. They're in my head, but saying them out loud can be tough.
Do what works for you and work on what you know isn't working for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I better express myself through actions, not words. I'm working on the words part though. They're in my head, but saying them out loud can be tough.
Do what works for you and work on what you know isn't working for you x "
Behave! You're a poet! |
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Some people have no need to express them, it's definitely the in thing now whereas throughout near history it hasn't been
If it's important to you to let them out then need to find a person friend/family/professional that gives you that safe non judgemental space and listens
Nothing worse than pouring your heart out to someone who doesn't listen or even those that then give you unnecessary advice etc
Just be comfortable with yourself OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people have no need to express them, it's definitely the in thing now whereas throughout near history it hasn't been
If it's important to you to let them out then need to find a person friend/family/professional that gives you that safe non judgemental space and listens
Nothing worse than pouring your heart out to someone who doesn't listen or even those that then give you unnecessary advice etc
Just be comfortable with yourself OP "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.
You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.
I just needed to get it off my chest.
Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.
Im still a shy person underneath it all."
You can always talk to me PP. I think lots are in the same boat. We can all big big brave and bold behind a screen. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.
You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.
I just needed to get it off my chest.
Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.
Im still a shy person underneath it all. You can always talk to me PP. I think lots are in the same boat. We can all big big brave and bold behind a screen. Xx"
Be* |
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