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Every time an angry single man posts the same thread about no one replying to their low effort messages, the threads tend to reliably draw huge amounts of long replies full of intelligent passion.
Is it strange how these threads continue to reliably get lots of attention rather than be generally ignored or is it just amusingly ironic to me? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I often wonder about the point of replying to them, as invariably the OP either doesn't return to them or turns argumentative rather than accepting the advice given - but take the view that even if the OP doesn't pay attention there may be others it helps so from that perspective there's a point to it.
I do think though that perhaps a "sticky" thread that outlines the advice (which is usually much the same whenever one of those threads arises) could be an answer and give people something to point people to. |
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"I often wonder about the point of replying to them, as invariably the OP either doesn't return to them or turns argumentative rather than accepting the advice given - but take the view that even if the OP doesn't pay attention there may be others it helps so from that perspective there's a point to it.
I do think though that perhaps a "sticky" thread that outlines the advice (which is usually much the same whenever one of those threads arises) could be an answer and give people something to point people to."
Yes and also rate my profile. I have seen some really really good advice given to both these questions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think sometimes people feel the need to make others informed as to why certain things happen... People not understanding why something happens can be very frustrating sometimes, regardless of the subject |
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By *AABMan
over a year ago
Not far |
That’s a bit unfair. Mostly these men are not angry but despondent, and to assume that their messages are all low effort is very disingenuous. I also wonder about the person who thinks these men are all so amusing. Instead it’s probably safe to assume that there’s a massive spectrum in the quality of their messages from the FAF to the thoughtful tailored message that’s taken some time to put together. At the end of the day we all know Fab is a numbers game based upon supply and demand. And even Mr. ‘Perfect and right in every conceivable way’ can go for long periods of time where women and couples just will not reply for a multitude of reasons from the ‘can’t be arsed’, through ‘I can do better than him’, to ‘ok but……’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That’s a bit unfair. Mostly these men are not angry but despondent, and to assume that their messages are all low effort is very disingenuous. I also wonder about the person who thinks these men are all so amusing. Instead it’s probably safe to assume that there’s a massive spectrum in the quality of their messages from the FAF to the thoughtful tailored message that’s taken some time to put together. At the end of the day we all know Fab is a numbers game based upon supply and demand. And even Mr. ‘Perfect and right in every conceivable way’ can go for long periods of time where women and couples just will not reply for a multitude of reasons from the ‘can’t be arsed’, through ‘I can do better than him’, to ‘ok but……’ "
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Been on fab a long time and I can categorically say guys get messages from women and in particular couples that are lazy at best, at worst downright deceitful. However I guess the difference is the guys aren’t in the forums all the time whining about it ! |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"That’s a bit unfair. Mostly these men are not angry but despondent, and to assume that their messages are all low effort is very disingenuous. I also wonder about the person who thinks these men are all so amusing. Instead it’s probably safe to assume that there’s a massive spectrum in the quality of their messages from the FAF to the thoughtful tailored message that’s taken some time to put together. At the end of the day we all know Fab is a numbers game based upon supply and demand. And even Mr. ‘Perfect and right in every conceivable way’ can go for long periods of time where women and couples just will not reply for a multitude of reasons from the ‘can’t be arsed’, through ‘I can do better than him’, to ‘ok but……’ "
For some the default response is to tear the OP a new arse hole. Whilst on the the surface their response will seem like it's good advice, and it actually is most of the time, there are passive aggressive undertones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every time an angry single man posts the same thread about no one replying to their low effort messages, the threads tend to reliably draw huge amounts of long replies full of intelligent passion.
Is it strange how these threads continue to reliably get lots of attention rather than be generally ignored or is it just amusingly ironic to me? "
Why do you presume they are low effort messages, how do you know they didn’t send a well thought out message, after reading through the profile and jumping through all the hoops, I think that’s far more likely where the frustration for these men who start these threads lie.
Also why do people constantly reply to any thread on here that’s been done Ad nauseam, girth or length etc etc, everyone knows it’s girth. What does it matter, leave them to vent if it makes them feel better. |
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Would love read some of the messages from people who deem others not worthy.
Maybe show them a way OP and post some great examples of fabulous communications that you have written.. I am sure that everyone will be entertained by your excellence.. |
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"Would love read some of the messages from people who deem others not worthy.
Maybe show them a way OP and post some great examples of fabulous communications that you have written.. I am sure that everyone will be entertained by your excellence.."
Please take a minute to realise I'm NOT complaining about the messages, I'm talking about the responses the threads get, the time invested in them by forumerers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would love read some of the messages from people who deem others not worthy.
Maybe show them a way OP and post some great examples of fabulous communications that you have written.. I am sure that everyone will be entertained by your excellence..
Please take a minute to realise I'm NOT complaining about the messages, I'm talking about the responses the threads get, the time invested in them by forumerers."
It’s probably more the way you spoke about these men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often wonder about the point of replying to them, as invariably the OP either doesn't return to them or turns argumentative rather than accepting the advice given - but take the view that even if the OP doesn't pay attention there may be others it helps so from that perspective there's a point to it.
I do think though that perhaps a "sticky" thread that outlines the advice (which is usually much the same whenever one of those threads arises) could be an answer and give people something to point people to."
Good point |
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"I often wonder about the point of replying to them, as invariably the OP either doesn't return to them or turns argumentative rather than accepting the advice given - but take the view that even if the OP doesn't pay attention there may be others it helps so from that perspective there's a point to it.
I do think though that perhaps a "sticky" thread that outlines the advice (which is usually much the same whenever one of those threads arises) could be an answer and give people something to point people to.
Good point "
It is, and I'd replied to it before realising that it's really not what I'm talking about here. Maybe it should be seen to be Fab's duty to provide tools to improve message quality, and the fighting between members should be aimed elsewhere. Again though, not my intention of this thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often wonder about the point of replying to them, as invariably the OP either doesn't return to them or turns argumentative rather than accepting the advice given - but take the view that even if the OP doesn't pay attention there may be others it helps so from that perspective there's a point to it.
I do think though that perhaps a "sticky" thread that outlines the advice (which is usually much the same whenever one of those threads arises) could be an answer and give people something to point people to.
Good point
It is, and I'd replied to it before realising that it's really not what I'm talking about here. Maybe it should be seen to be Fab's duty to provide tools to improve message quality, and the fighting between members should be aimed elsewhere. Again though, not my intention of this thread."
I totally get what you mean with your original post by the way. But I guess it's in some people's nature to react that way. Maybe.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I often wonder about the point of replying to them, as invariably the OP either doesn't return to them or turns argumentative rather than accepting the advice given - but take the view that even if the OP doesn't pay attention there may be others it helps so from that perspective there's a point to it.
I do think though that perhaps a "sticky" thread that outlines the advice (which is usually much the same whenever one of those threads arises) could be an answer and give people something to point people to."
I think that there are threads like that in the help/advice section. Or they can use the search function to see what others have written.
The fact that there are options out there makes me think that maybe it’s not so much about advice, it’s about the advice being on their thread, which makes it more about attention than advice. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Every time an angry single man posts the same thread about no one replying to their low effort messages, the threads tend to reliably draw huge amounts of long replies full of intelligent passion.
Is it strange how these threads continue to reliably get lots of attention rather than be generally ignored or is it just amusingly ironic to me? "
Do you mean the perception of irony, in that the forum responders are seemingly putting more effort into their responses and collectively more emotional effort into solving the posters issue than they have?
There is that possibility, which is why after years of trying to help guys and having it all ignored, I’ve stopped and simply think that they can work it out themselves.
There are enough historical resources out there and enough ways to find the information |
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"Every time an angry single man posts the same thread about no one replying to their low effort messages, the threads tend to reliably draw huge amounts of long replies full of intelligent passion.
Is it strange how these threads continue to reliably get lots of attention rather than be generally ignored or is it just amusingly ironic to me?
Do you mean the perception of irony, in that the forum responders are seemingly putting more effort into their responses and collectively more emotional effort into solving the posters issue than they have?
There is that possibility, which is why after years of trying to help guys and having it all ignored, I’ve stopped and simply think that they can work it out themselves.
There are enough historical resources out there and enough ways to find the information "
Well it's reasonable to presume that IF you're not putting any effort into your messages, then you'll also put no effort into looking to existing resources. These things only help if they're pushed to them by the site.
Yes, that's what I mean by the irony. But not in a negative way. It's pointless, in the same way that I think if I flash my lights at enough bad drivers, it'll solve everyone's bad driving. It's human nature to vent the frustration, even if you know it'll have no chance of a meaningful improvement in any broader sense. |
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