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So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ?    |
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over a year ago
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Just shy of 50 this year, that's how long it took.
Finally have the great job and bought my own gaff. Comfortable at last with the notion of spending the rest of my days as a singleton.
It took many, many years longer than I hoped but hey, better late than never |
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"So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ? "
Leave the ducks to swim in circles. Go your own way, follow your path. Don't let social norms dictate your life.
My ducks are still fucking around and I've learned to love it. |
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Give your self time you’re only young ! Plenty of time we make mistakes we all do ! More more than others I hasten to add !
Be yourself everything will work out in the wash as they say !
Enjoy you’re life ahead !  |
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"So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ? "
I was 32 when my ducks lined up, now they’ve scarpered and I’m back to square one  |
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"There are ducks?! Lol on a serious note my ducks went awol years ago! I've never had my shit together! "
I’ve heard we’re meant to have a little fleet of them all lined up in an orderly fashion 
I don’t have ducks but if I did they run wild and are free spirited |
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Random info - I had my shit together.
Married, two kids, happy life.
Then husband died when I was 30.
I’m far from having any type of shit back together yet, but I’m here, muddling through and trying to make the most of it all.
Enjoy the now 
We’re all just winging it really
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I'm 48 and still don't know what I want to do with my life
This adulting lark? It's all pretend. Nobody, but nobody, knows what they're doing. Not even the fuckwits allegedly in charge - they're just better at faking it than most others  |
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"Random info - I had my shit together.
Married, two kids, happy life.
Then husband died when I was 30.
I’m far from having any type of shit back together yet, but I’m here, muddling through and trying to make the most of it all.
Enjoy the now
We’re all just winging it really
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"Just shy of 50 this year, that's how long it took.
Finally have the great job and bought my own gaff. Comfortable at last with the notion of spending the rest of my days as a singleton.
It took many, many years longer than I hoped but hey, better late than never"
Exactly I feel I should be competing with peers of my own age .
But they didn’t go through the roadblock of cancer and paralysation
(I don’t think that’s the right term but hey )  |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I’m 36 and I’ve never liked being in line, step out of it and you never know what you may achieve or find, there’s always a rogue one in every group, embrace being that one and take your own path!
Worst that can happen is your swept backwards now and then, shake your feathers and keep swimming, we’re all just keeping our head above water after all xx |
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"So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ?
Leave the ducks to swim in circles. Go your own way, follow your path. Don't let social norms dictate your life.
My ducks are still fucking around and I've learned to love it. "
Lucky fucking ducks
Haha thank you |
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over a year ago
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"Ahahahahaaaa!!! Hilarious! Ducks in a row! Pppfftt
No not in a row they should be in a line a row is side by side a line is one in front of the other "
It matters not... I thought mine were sorted in my 20s..I was wrong... Again in my 30s...wrong again... My 40s has been so mad I'm not sure if the ducks I can see are even mine... Tbf, I no longer care and neither should you... Live your life and be happy... There is no script |
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"Give your self time you’re only young ! Plenty of time we make mistakes we all do ! More more than others I hasten to add !
Be yourself everything will work out in the wash as they say !
Enjoy you’re life ahead ! "
Thanks sir
Sounds like you speak wise words of wisdom  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well done "
It may all go to shit again so I'm not feeling too smug just yet. At least I can look back and think "those 2 years were actually not bad". Prior to that life was an agonising slog of depression and anxiety. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"43 this year and my shit is far from together
I blame tinder (joking)
Well I’m sure it will all line up one day "
I doubt it, I'm resigned to the fact this is my life from now on, single and on my own  it is what it is x |
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"So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ?
I was 32 when my ducks lined up, now they’ve scarpered and I’m back to square one "
These bastard ducks need a leash and collar |
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"43 this year and my shit is far from together
I blame tinder (joking)
Well I’m sure it will all line up one day
I doubt it, I'm resigned to the fact this is my life from now on, single and on my own it is what it is x"
Long distance throuple ?
Seriously though, I resigned myself to a situation and then it changed. The only thing you can guarantee is things won't go how you ever think |
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"I’m 36 and I’ve never liked being in line, step out of it and you never know what you may achieve or find, there’s always a rogue one in every group, embrace being that one and take your own path!
Worst that can happen is your swept backwards now and then, shake your feathers and keep swimming, we’re all just keeping our head above water after all xx"
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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
Nearer than you think |
40.
I wouldn't say they  were in a line, but I owned them and took responsibility for them. They're still wayward, but that's cool... at least I'm blaming no one else for their chaos. |
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"Ahahahahaaaa!!! Hilarious! Ducks in a row! Pppfftt
No not in a row they should be in a line a row is side by side a line is one in front of the other
It matters not... I thought mine were sorted in my 20s..I was wrong... Again in my 30s...wrong again... My 40s has been so mad I'm not sure if the ducks I can see are even mine... Tbf, I no longer care and neither should you... Live your life and be happy... There is no script "
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Probably something stupid like 21 - I bought my first house or, rather, got my first mortgage.
I guess at the time I thought things would continue to get better, but while it offered me a safe place away from some previous shit, it also came with a lot of grown up responsibilities that I didn’t really want at 21.
Looking back it was a terribly sensible thing to do, but I didn’t appreciate it at the time. |
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"40.
I wouldn't say they were in a line, but I owned them and took responsibility for them. They're still wayward, but that's cool... at least I'm blaming no one else for their chaos. "
.. Same for me... The 40s feel different.. Not sure if the ducks will ever be in a row but I don't worry about it as much that's for sure |
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"So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ? "
I am 29 and my ducks are far from in a line.
My career is finally beginning so that's good.
But I'm single and back home with my parents
No kids and the body clock is ticking so that ship would have sailed by the time I meet someone and settle down etc.
So naturally I thought fuck it. And came back here to get to know and reconnect with hot people ready to have great sex (once I'm happy that I no longer need to worry about covid). |
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For the things I can control yeah mine have been lined up for a long time.
When it comes to things where other people have been involved then they won't ever line up, other people always tend to throw a random spanner into the works somehow |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Relax OP. My ducks have been in and then out of line for decades. The next step is not minding at all if your ducks are where they're supposed to be. Ease off yourself a bit.
And if you're still feeling motivated, find one or two areas of life where you feel you can put your energy.
For me, once I put my efforts into my personal inner work, everything else fell into place |
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"There are ducks?! Lol on a serious note my ducks went awol years ago! I've never had my shit together! "
^^^^^^^
This... I had my ducks all lined up years ago... Had more sense back then than I do now... Don't know what happened but hey I kinda went backwards |
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I try to never long term plans. Things happen in your life you have absolutely no control over.
I try to learn from experience and not take anything for granted. |
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Some people have there ducks in a line and are happy, some people's ducks have never been tamed and are happy, some people have there ducks in a line and are unhappy, some people's ducks are wild and they're unhappy ... lots of people say they're happy but moan lots and some people moan lots but are actually happy ... some people have there ducks in a row but decide to lob dynamite at them (occasionally for no particular reason) and self-sabotage!
Who knows about fecking ducks? very few people seem to be happy, just find what truly makes you happy and lodge there for a while. Not sure anyone knows anything about life, just participate and enjoy the ride ... noone has the answers but you! |
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"Some people have there ducks in a line and are happy, some people's ducks have never been tamed and are happy, some people have there ducks in a line and are unhappy, some people's ducks are wild and they're unhappy ... lots of people say they're happy but moan lots and some people moan lots but are actually happy ... some people have there ducks in a row but decide to lob dynamite at them (occasionally for no particular reason) and self-sabotage!
Who knows about fecking ducks? very few people seem to be happy, just find what truly makes you happy and lodge there for a while. Not sure anyone knows anything about life, just participate and enjoy the ride ... noone has the answers but you! "
Ffs it's early their* not there!! |
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I have one duck and I'm clinging on to it for dear life
The rest of them are nowhere to be seen.
I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing - I don't think most people do - it's all pretend. |
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"I have one duck and I'm clinging on to it for dear life
The rest of them are nowhere to be seen.
I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing - I don't think most people do - it's all pretend."
I once read that, no one actually knows what they are doing, everyone is just pretending, and I think there’s quite a lot of truth in it. |
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"I have one duck and I'm clinging on to it for dear life
The rest of them are nowhere to be seen.
I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing - I don't think most people do - it's all pretend.
I once read that, no one actually knows what they are doing, everyone is just pretending, and I think there’s quite a lot of truth in it. "
So do I
Some people are better at faking it than others that's all.
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42 here and I have lined the little buggers up a number of times to this point and even had them sort of in line for the past 8 years until somehow the little sods escaped around March last year and I still haven't found all of them yet (I think the dogs may have eaten them to be honest) |
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I prefer to think of myself more as a wrangler of free range ducks!
Just when you think they are lining up, someone or something will change that. You may lose track of another couple whilst pulling that one back, but is there any harm in them doing their own thing? Are they hurting anyone?
Prioritise the duck that needs the most help at that time. Your duck wrangling career will be a long one, you will become a master of your ducks during this time, but being free range, they will always have free will! |
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Do they ever OP? My dad used to tell me not to wish my life away and I think that means live in the moment.
I'm 60 and am not living the life I thought I would but it's not a bad life.
I have all the 'stuff' I need although I would like a little more emotional stability.
Ask me again in 30 years. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I’m 44, just when it starts to seem that my ducks are starting to agree, shit happens.
It’s part of life that we plan, gods laugh and throw our ducks into separate ponds to start again.
Life is chaos, the control that we feel we have is an illusion. I’ve learnt now to let my ducks do what the hell they want and to embrace the situation as best I can |
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"For the things I can control yeah mine have been lined up for a long time.
When it comes to things where other people have been involved then they won't ever line up, other people always tend to throw a random spanner into the works somehow "
In terms of ducks in a line I think you should have used ... people let a fox run wild into your ducks |
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"So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ? "
I definitely can relate to you on this one OP, I myself turn 29 later this year and at times have felt exactly how you do.
Seeing people my age getting married, having kids, buying properties etc. The former two I feel I’m quite a way off from but the latter is something I’m working towards. I say just enjoy the ride, our time will come no doubt
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"Do they ever OP? My dad used to tell me not to wish my life away and I think that means live in the moment.
I'm 60 and am not living the life I thought I would but it's not a bad life.
I have all the 'stuff' I need although I would like a little more emotional stability.
Ask me again in 30 years."
I can guarantee I’m not wishing my life away I’m doing things that I enjoy that others potentially will never get the chance to do and doing things for my happiness and enjoyment |
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"Some people have there ducks in a line and are happy, some people's ducks have never been tamed and are happy, some people have there ducks in a line and are unhappy, some people's ducks are wild and they're unhappy ... lots of people say they're happy but moan lots and some people moan lots but are actually happy ... some people have there ducks in a row but decide to lob dynamite at them (occasionally for no particular reason) and self-sabotage!
Who knows about fecking ducks? very few people seem to be happy, just find what truly makes you happy and lodge there for a while. Not sure anyone knows anything about life, just participate and enjoy the ride ... noone has the answers but you!
I love this answer so much ! "
You're welcome but I'm off to find my (ducks) |
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"Some people have there ducks in a line and are happy, some people's ducks have never been tamed and are happy, some people have there ducks in a line and are unhappy, some people's ducks are wild and they're unhappy ... lots of people say they're happy but moan lots and some people moan lots but are actually happy ... some people have there ducks in a row but decide to lob dynamite at them (occasionally for no particular reason) and self-sabotage!
Who knows about fecking ducks? very few people seem to be happy, just find what truly makes you happy and lodge there for a while. Not sure anyone knows anything about life, just participate and enjoy the ride ... noone has the answers but you!
I love this answer so much !
You're welcome but I'm off to find my (ducks) "
Also apologies, I wrote this at 0500 so their* NOT there!! |
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"Some people have there ducks in a line and are happy, some people's ducks have never been tamed and are happy, some people have there ducks in a line and are unhappy, some people's ducks are wild and they're unhappy ... lots of people say they're happy but moan lots and some people moan lots but are actually happy ... some people have there ducks in a row but decide to lob dynamite at them (occasionally for no particular reason) and self-sabotage!
Who knows about fecking ducks? very few people seem to be happy, just find what truly makes you happy and lodge there for a while. Not sure anyone knows anything about life, just participate and enjoy the ride ... noone has the answers but you!
I love this answer so much !
You're welcome but I'm off to find my (ducks) "
If you need any help ....
If I can walk behind you and look at your sexy legs
I’ll be there  |
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"So I’m coming up to 29 years of age and feel like by this age I should have really got my shit together and ducks lined up in terms of my life ....
I DON’T !
Partly not my fault partly I haven’t a fucking clue what I want ... where I want it and why I should ....
But hey I’m pressure free and lots of potential and possibilities I just need to make some choices
What year did you form an orderly queue with your ducks (life ) ?
Have you ?
Advice for someone who isn’t quite there yet ?
I definitely can relate to you on this one OP, I myself turn 29 later this year and at times have felt exactly how you do.
Seeing people my age getting married, having kids, buying properties etc. The former two I feel I’m quite a way off from but the latter is something I’m working towards. I say just enjoy the ride, our time will come no doubt
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"Some people have there ducks in a line and are happy, some people's ducks have never been tamed and are happy, some people have there ducks in a line and are unhappy, some people's ducks are wild and they're unhappy ... lots of people say they're happy but moan lots and some people moan lots but are actually happy ... some people have there ducks in a row but decide to lob dynamite at them (occasionally for no particular reason) and self-sabotage!
Who knows about fecking ducks? very few people seem to be happy, just find what truly makes you happy and lodge there for a while. Not sure anyone knows anything about life, just participate and enjoy the ride ... noone has the answers but you!
I love this answer so much !
You're welcome but I'm off to find my (ducks)
If you need any help ....
If I can walk behind you and look at your sexy legs
I’ll be there "
Why thank you always glad if a helping hand |
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"Some people have there ducks in a line and are happy, some people's ducks have never been tamed and are happy, some people have there ducks in a line and are unhappy, some people's ducks are wild and they're unhappy ... lots of people say they're happy but moan lots and some people moan lots but are actually happy ... some people have there ducks in a row but decide to lob dynamite at them (occasionally for no particular reason) and self-sabotage!
Who knows about fecking ducks? very few people seem to be happy, just find what truly makes you happy and lodge there for a while. Not sure anyone knows anything about life, just participate and enjoy the ride ... noone has the answers but you!
I love this answer so much !
You're welcome but I'm off to find my (ducks)
If you need any help ....
If I can walk behind you and look at your sexy legs
I’ll be there
Why thank you always glad if a helping hand "
Damn if I ever plan on heading your way I’ll be sure to let you know |
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"Relax OP. My ducks have been in and then out of line for decades. The next step is not minding at all if your ducks are where they're supposed to be. Ease off yourself a bit.
And if you're still feeling motivated, find one or two areas of life where you feel you can put your energy.
For me, once I put my efforts into my personal inner work, everything else fell into place "
I think I’d follow those ducks carefully if they lead back to you |
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"Relax OP. My ducks have been in and then out of line for decades. The next step is not minding at all if your ducks are where they're supposed to be. Ease off yourself a bit.
And if you're still feeling motivated, find one or two areas of life where you feel you can put your energy.
For me, once I put my efforts into my personal inner work, everything else fell into place
I think I’d follow those ducks carefully if they lead back to you "
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"Ducks, ducks? I have no ducks, I have squirrels, who are very much not in a row, they are in a squiggly line, somewhere over there "
Don't fuck with the squirrels, never fuck with the squirrels. This is important (as per Rick & Morty) |
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"Nearly 45... I gave up with the ducks and got cats instead.
I’ve heard herding cats is pretty tough
Near on impossible. Unless you have treats and catnip."
Think you could herd most creatures with some treats to hand |
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