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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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been to two and why not givesyou at the very least agood night out so long as you go prepared to enjoy yourself without too many pre conceived expectations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are they a must, a waste of time, a necessary evil or do you not entertain them?  "
I like social meets first they are a must
Sometimes you can click on here but in person its a different matter all together. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I'm meeting a couple they are an absolute must. "
Ooo I never thought about it being different for singles to couples. What are you looking fro and to avoid with couples? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are they a must, a waste of time, a necessary evil or do you not entertain them?
I like social meets first they are a must
Sometimes you can click on here but in person its a different matter all together."
If we haven't cammed we usually do a social meet as like you say people vary a bit from their profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"been to two and why not givesyou at the very least agood night out so long as you go prepared to enjoy yourself without too many pre conceived expectations "
Well I wasn't thinking social gatherings but we weld go along with not having preconceived ideas going to a social. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Are they a must, a waste of time, a necessary evil or do you not entertain them? "
I would say a necessary evil, but i dont really do them much, my OH deals with a lotta that stuff, and i trust him totally....some people have a kink bout fucking strangers so i would say for them its not needed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've got to meet the woman, have a chat and also gauge the dynamic between the couple. It can be quite intimidating as a single woman with a couple. "
I didn't really think of how intimidating it could be in the wrong circumstances. I guess you get good at judging both caricatures quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are they a must, a waste of time, a necessary evil or do you not entertain them? I would say a necessary evil, but i dont really do them much, my OH deals with a lotta that stuff, and i trust him totally....some people have a kink bout fucking strangers so i would say for them its not needed."
Trust is always important and if you can't trust your partner you are in trouble |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Are they a must, a waste of time, a necessary evil or do you not entertain them? I would say a necessary evil, but i dont really do them much, my OH deals with a lotta that stuff, and i trust him totally....some people have a kink bout fucking strangers so i would say for them its not needed.
Trust is always important and if you can't trust your partner you are in trouble "
I agree, never had cause to...hes always been spot on with his choices  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not always a must as differing locations can make a quick social meet harder to arrange than a play meet but if the opportunity arises then its never a problem
But having said that any meet is always a social meet to start with anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not always a must as differing locations can make a quick social meet harder to arrange than a play meet but if the opportunity arises then its never a problem
But having said that any meet is always a social meet to start with anyway "
We always look at a meet being social with no promises either way though usually we can be persuaded. Distance can be a problem for a social meet but we chat on cam if it looks like we might be travelling 70 miles or more and hope we got it right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind either way. Although saying that i've offered to take people for drinks beforehand thinking they'd be more comfortable with me offering a social but then they've just told me to just go round theirs for a few drinks. *shrugs* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had as many fun 'socials' as i've had meets! Sometimes a coffee and a chat is a great giggle - and if you don't click on a 'play' level - so what!
It's all about the flanter!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had as many fun 'socials' as i've had meets! Sometimes a coffee and a chat is a great giggle - and if you don't click on a 'play' level - so what!
It's all about the flanter!!! "
That's a really good way of looking at it and very level headed. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Are they a must, a waste of time, a necessary evil or do you not entertain them? "
a must for me...unless i am meeting at a club...
basically its getting a better feel for people.... try before you buy so to speak |
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"I've had as many fun 'socials' as i've had meets! Sometimes a coffee and a chat is a great giggle - and if you don't click on a 'play' level - so what!
It's all about the flanter!!! "
Ohhh thats nice....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't mind either way. Although saying that i've offered to take people for drinks beforehand thinking they'd be more comfortable with me offering a social but then they've just told me to just go round theirs for a few drinks. *shrugs*"
I suppose it could be just as much a maybe maybe not for you single guys too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are they a must, a waste of time, a necessary evil or do you not entertain them?
a must for me...unless i am meeting at a club...
basically its getting a better feel for people.... try before you buy so to speak"
How do you look on it if you are say travelling some distance? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It depends on how I feel about the person. Some I'll insist on a social meet first, some I am happy to jump straight into bed with. "
The ones you jump in with I am guessing you are pretty much certain about them before meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oops, thought we were talking about social gatherings, and not "social meet" with a potential newbie playmate!
I usually prefer meeting socially say for a drink or a bite to eat first with a potential newbie.
However I have been known to skip that part of the vetting process and dive right into it.  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"It depends on how I feel about the person. Some I'll insist on a social meet first, some I am happy to jump straight into bed with.
The ones you jump in with I am guessing you are pretty much certain about them before meeting. "
Yep. Sometimes you just know its going to be a good one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oops, thought we were talking about social gatherings, and not "social meet" with a potential newbie playmate!
I usually prefer meeting socially say for a drink or a bite to eat first with a potential newbie.
However I have been known to skip that part of the vetting process and dive right into it. "
I know I should have thought more about the title but replies have made me smile.
We have met and dived in as you put it or more dragged them back to ours when it was obvious all round we wanted it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It depends on how I feel about the person. Some I'll insist on a social meet first, some I am happy to jump straight into bed with.
The ones you jump in with I am guessing you are pretty much certain about them before meeting.
Yep. Sometimes you just know its going to be a good one."
Its a little more difficult when there is more than 2 of you but when you know its going to be fun and it is its fantastic. |
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By *aldybiMan
over a year ago
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"I've had as many fun 'socials' as i've had meets! Sometimes a coffee and a chat is a great giggle - and if you don't click on a 'play' level - so what!
It's all about the flanter!!! "
Flanter... What a smashing word! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Like socials in moderation - it is a nice way of getting people together whom you would otherwise not meet because of distance etc. Not been to too many but enjoyed the ones I went to. |
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