When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
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If we are having sexual inter course I will text her and ask, she will say ‘bare with my phone just pinged!’, I will chuckle, cause it’s me, then I see her face drop when she sees it’s me, she then asks why I’m texting and then I explain that I have unlimited free texts and she nods then texts back. |
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"If we are having sexual inter course I will text her and ask, she will say ‘bare with my phone just pinged!’, I will chuckle, cause it’s me, then I see her face drop when she sees it’s me, she then asks why I’m texting and then I explain that I have unlimited free texts and she nods then texts back. "
You know where I'd shove that phone......  |
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over a year ago
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Sometimes things do just flow with few words but mostly I think communication is vital. Everybody and every body is different sexually so unless you're a mind reader then please speak up! |
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"I'm not backwards at coming forwards.
Different story in my 20s.
Life is too short for mediocre sex.
Praise the good stuff, guide to what works
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It took me years to say what I needed..what turned me on. |
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By *ffit101Man
over a year ago
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"When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
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The older I get the more comfortable I am in saying what I like, letting them know how I like it. But since all the lockdowns I need some resocialising into society  |
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"Tell them…. Move the hand or head….. adjust……
Or tell them to get off and sort myself out "
Like that..if all else fails..sort it out yourself.
And samre way...If for whatever reason I couldn't finish a guy off, I'd have no problem if he wanked for me..over me
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"When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
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It’s harder to say what I like than what I don’t. It’s taken a bit of practice but think I’m getting there
Marley  |
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"When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
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I’m all about the communication, verbal or non verbal.  |
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"No not previously. I'm quite quiet and let things flow. But my cock's reaction is usually a good indicator or what I'm enjoying or not."
I was previously the same as in I just let it flow.
It works better for me now though that I'm not as shy as I was. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Tell them…. Move the hand or head….. adjust……
Or tell them to get off and sort myself out
Like that..if all else fails..sort it out yourself.
And samre way...If for whatever reason I couldn't finish a guy off, I'd have no problem if he wanked for me..over me
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Deffo! I love a facial   |
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"Tell them…. Move the hand or head….. adjust……
Or tell them to get off and sort myself out
Like that..if all else fails..sort it out yourself.
And samre way...If for whatever reason I couldn't finish a guy off, I'd have no problem if he wanked for me..over me
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It’s ooft watching them, watching you as you both finish |
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"Tell them…. Move the hand or head….. adjust……
Or tell them to get off and sort myself out
Like that..if all else fails..sort it out yourself.
And samre way...If for whatever reason I couldn't finish a guy off, I'd have no problem if he wanked for me..over me
It’s ooft watching them, watching you as you both finish "
Oh yes..Iove that too..that's hot! |
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"Tell them…. Move the hand or head….. adjust……
Or tell them to get off and sort myself out
Like that..if all else fails..sort it out yourself.
And samre way...If for whatever reason I couldn't finish a guy off, I'd have no problem if he wanked for me..over me
Deffo! I love a facial "
Made me smile just thinking about it..I could do with a facial |
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"When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
I’m all about the communication, verbal or non verbal. "
Love a man who can communicate...I'll up for guidance |
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"When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
It’s harder to say what I like than what I don’t. It’s taken a bit of practice but think I’m getting there
Marley "
I think the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
As DC said...for me it was easier as I got older |
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"When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
The older I get the more comfortable I am in saying what I like, letting them know how I like it. But since all the lockdowns I need some resocialising into society "
Good luck with the resocialising and enjoy |
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"This is the very reason I'm quite picky with people. I like to chat for a while and make sure we have some kind of connection. When you've got that it makes communication etc much easier "
Connection...communication and good sex...works for me |
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I'm vocal or guide their hand a certain way for example, communication goes a long way.
If they think their giving it to you good but it's actually not working for you, they'll keep doing what their doing as they don't know they are doing wrong and think you like it is how I see it anyway.
Her x |
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"This is the very reason I'm quite picky with people. I like to chat for a while and make sure we have some kind of connection. When you've got that it makes communication etc much easier
Connection...communication and good sex...works for me "
exactly! |
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"I'm vocal or guide their hand a certain way for example, communication goes a long way.
If they think their giving it to you good but it's actually not working for you, they'll keep doing what their doing as they don't know they are doing wrong and think you like it is how I see it anyway.
Her x"
That's a good point..you don't want someone thinking your enjoying something you're not and they do it again and again!
And I would hate it if I did that to someone...me thinking they are loving it. |
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"I'm vocal or guide their hand a certain way for example, communication goes a long way.
If they think their giving it to you good but it's actually not working for you, they'll keep doing what their doing as they don't know they are doing wrong and think you like it is how I see it anyway.
Her x
That's a good point..you don't want someone thinking your enjoying something you're not and they do it again and again!
And I would hate it if I did that to someone...me thinking they are loving it."
Exactly and yeah me neither 
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"We probably wouldn't be having sex if we couldn't communicate openly and if we felt they would take offence from a bit of guidance. We would be asking what they like and we would expect the same."
Communicating what one likes can be a lot of fun I've found. Be it in conversation or in the heat of the moment |
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"I will generally guide.
Though I've found on occasion that when I havnt, I've had happy results from different techniques! But if its really not working I will redirect  "
If it's working I'm happy to go with the flow and learn something new maybe, in the process |
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"This is the very reason I'm quite picky with people. I like to chat for a while and make sure we have some kind of connection. When you've got that it makes communication etc much easier "
I'd agree with this. If it was a quickie one off then I wouldn't be so bothered about it not being as good as it could be.
If it was a whole night or a more than once thing then the communication would build and you'd get to know what the other person did or didn't enjoy. |
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"When you're with a lover especially a new lover and they're not hitting the spot.
Do you communicate with them?
Are you too shy to say what you want? What you need?
Or you don't want to hurt their feelings, so you don't really say anything.
I am quite vocal in saying what turns me on, or when something is really hitting the spot.
I never used to be though!
Thinking about it, on the whole I'm more expressive than most of guys I've been with.
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Lol I am the same.
Harder
Faster
Most used terms.
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I wouldn't do it now though 