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Do you like people?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a people person but honestly very few people annoy me so much I don't want to be around them. If they are I'll ask them to tone down whatever is annoying me, but I'm pretty laid back so unless you're outright rude to me, carry on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not particularly but I’ll talk to anyone, hints of bs and any kinda judgment attitudes then I’m out 
But they're all judgey
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Not all lovely, if they are then leave them to it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m with you 100% I mean for someone who enjoys ‘this’ lifestyle I have a very low tolerance of actual living people.
I have a small group of friends who’s company I enjoy but even with them there’s a limit to my hospitality. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think a single soul on this planet can get on with everyone all the time, we're too different, with differing opinions, morals and behaviour.
I do think it's possible to not get on with people without causing a scene. You just accept as an adult not everyone will be for you don't you?
Much like Lily I'm one of those eternally curious sorts and I do find people fascinating with their unique tales, ways and views. I do need time out if I over people people though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like people,however I am discovering that my tolerance has greatly reduced over the past year, and is now making me question if I like people as much as I thought I did
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
It’s to good to have a mix of people those that you give more and those that you take more. If you are effectively mentoring / supporting all your friends it’s draining and you need to find some that can build you up rather than just drain you. There’s always one or two psychic vampires around , an hour max with them ! It’s not made up they are a very real thing and can literally make you ill if you spend too much time with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have one of those personalities that will talk to the wall and give everyone airtime. It comes in very handy for my job but that being said when you have that outgoing type of personality you have to be super careful because some people will treat you like a fool because you are so outgoing and laid back.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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pretty much no.
i can stand some people for a little bit, but then i get overwhelmed and irritable and have to be on my own.
and that isn't saying everyone is a belter.. Although a lot of people are . its me and my own issues. Px |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not particularly but I’ll talk to anyone, hints of bs and any kinda judgment attitudes then I’m out
But they're all judgey
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We're all judgey, just some people are more vocal about it and they're usually the ones less inclined to question their judgements.
To answer you question, no not really. I can get along with most people but there are very few I like. Mostly (and I include myself in this) people are selfish and inconsiderate even though some (many?) make an effort not to be with those they care about.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
In general, no.
I’m a bit of a contradiction in that I like meeting people and I love getting to know new people but I need my space as well and too much peopling leaves me exhausted.
Being forced into social situations and having nothing meaningful to talk about is my idea of hell, which rules out 99% of social situations for me.
Also I’ve found that the majority of people are ignorant, self centred, hypocritical and inconsistent which I can’t stand.
So I find myself in an awkward position where I want to meet new people but find that I dislike many that I do meet! |
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"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
are people fundamentaly good or bad? |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
Could i book in a 3hour 59 minute meet then please.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Neither of the above... wicked thoughts though, them I'll share
Reply +quote is your friend
Who said I was offering to you  "
I thought your nickname was Bear? Put ya claws away! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Neither of the above... wicked thoughts though, them I'll share
Reply +quote is your friend
Who said I was offering to you
I thought your nickname was Bear? Put ya claws away!
+10 "
Cruel!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That’s me too, I can be the life and soul for a couple of hours and then ‘bam’, that’s me done and I have to leave "
Yep
I just had a social - and that enough of being social for at least 3 days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
People who always want to be around people are clearly a bit needy,so not always a positive thing,but everyone to they own.
I wouldnt even last 2 hrs,I'm a confident man,I can walk in a room full of people who I dont know and start conversations, but also,on the other hand I like alone time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In general, no.
I’m a bit of a contradiction in that I like meeting people and I love getting to know new people but I need my space as well and too much peopling leaves me exhausted.
Being forced into social situations and having nothing meaningful to talk about is my idea of hell, which rules out 99% of social situations for me.
Also I’ve found that the majority of people are ignorant, self centred, hypocritical and inconsistent which I can’t stand.
So I find myself in an awkward position where I want to meet new people but find that I dislike many that I do meet! "
Oh brilliant, couldn't have put it better myself mate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That’s me too, I can be the life and soul for a couple of hours and then ‘bam’, that’s me done and I have to leave
Yep
I just had a social - and that enough of being social for at least 3 days "
Haha! Yep, then it’s back to hermit territory to recover |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
People are pretty over rated
The fact that you're sitting next to me on a plane for a 12 hour flights isn't reason enough for me to engage with you - its just a quirk of fate.
The fact that you live next door to me isn't reason enough for me to have to talk to you. Again its just fate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can tolerate most folk for an hour or two and then I want to be alone.
I’m not the gregarious, outgoing, happy go lucky type. Surprisingly "
Only online then? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
I can relate to this except with my two besties ...we can talk for 24 hours and still have things to discuss.
But I value my "time alone" just as much.
The time I enjoy spending with people depends on those people - how interesting they are and how tolerant and non-judgmental. I cannot spend a lot of time with people of extreme or polarised opinions. |
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I love people watching ..... observation skills can be very useful!
I tend to gravitate towards likeminded people, confident, speak their mind, upfront and honest. I’m not good with inane small talk. If I clash I avoid but I really can’t get along with wooden spooners ..... |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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I worked with people, involved with, entertainment, exhibitions etc etc, nearly 40 years. So have always interact with people and for most part get on.
I will always help people if genuinely need it, but I don't suffer fools lightly.
Hypocrisy and sanctimony my pet hates
Here I come an go, I long term friends here, others I'll be polite to manners cost nothing, unless they are not polite or have manners in return.
I don't need adoration or have the need to be liked or popular, so can take or leave people.
Here I also feel people are draining, but come to chat with old friends maybe try and help sometimes in the forums/chat.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best people to be around are the ones you don't even have to talk to!
Sometimes its nice just to have some company, keeping up conversation for more than a few minutes is definitely exhausting |
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I’m a bit of both. I’m very sociable and love entertaining and going out etc. But when I’ve had enough I’ve had enough I need everyone to fuck off and leave me alone.
I love my own company. I could easily go away for couple weeks on my own. Love being alone. |
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"I am very social and get along with most people, but I don't go into their lives I just skirt around the edges and just have random conversations, I tend to avoid all the Drama Llamas though "
This describes me too. My job relies on my being sociable and building relationships, and I'm very good at that superficial surface stuff.
I can work a room and depending on my mood I can find a room full of strangers very energizing. I do have a lot of silent time alone though, so it does all balance.
Its rarely more than surface. There are very few people I truly care for. |
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"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
For one of us that's true, for the other, not so much! X |
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By *arex2Couple
over a year ago
Bradford |
"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not in awe of folk that want to be around other people all the time. I find new people fascinating until I don't. And social situations tire me out and I need alone time.
It's not that I don't like people but after awhile they can just end up seeming like an amorphous mass where no one is that much different from anyone else.
Being an introvert with a mood disorder can give off the wrong signals and I can come across as a happy-go-lucky extrovert until I've knackered myself out and become the disinterested introvert again. |
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I love people, love being with family having a laugh and we all love to talk -
Trying to get a word in
It’s good for the soul and makes you feel good inside. Doesn’t happen often enough. I think lockdown has made it clearer than ever that being in company is something to cherish.
I do like time for me though, a few hours of socialising and then chill. |
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Unfortunately, I don't enjoy the company of too many people. IMO, people lead to much with their beliefs and since we are in a heavy judgement stage in life with "cancel culture" and all. It's best to stay away from ignorance. |
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I'm definitely a people person.
That doesn't mean that I have unlimited tolerance or like everybody but generally get along with people I meet.
I love having random conversations with strangers.
Nita |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of people all at once makes me want to hide in a cave, but I love very small numbers of my special folk, for a limited amount of time. I get overwhelmed easily, so even Christmas and birthday parties with my loved ones can be difficult to deal with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not particularly but I’ll talk to anyone, hints of bs and any kinda judgment attitudes then I’m out
But they're all judgey
We're all judgey, just some people are more vocal about it and they're usually the ones less inclined to question their judgements.
To answer you question, no not really. I can get along with most people but there are very few I like. Mostly (and I include myself in this) people are selfish and inconsiderate even though some (many?) make an effort not to be with those they care about.
Mr"
Fair point  I try not to judge anyone but it’s not an exact science |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people annoy me. Most I can tolerate though and be polite with. Some I am adore, but even then after a couple of days with them I need some alone time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People I know, I like.
I loathe the general public. People just getting in the way with no regard of who's around them, stuck in their own little world. Respectfully, they can all do one  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
It depends on my mood and how tired I am, but I prefer my grandchildrens' company to their parents'.
I have one sister I spend most time with, and no friends any more.
I'm not that friendly.
If I'm having sex with someone I'll chat away before, then go back to my own bed.
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Yes, I like people a lot. My entire job involves dealing with lots of different people and I really enjoy it. It's one of the things that made vaccine clinics an attractive place to volunteer - lots of people
Mr KC, on the other hand, is with you on the 20min thing. More like 20s actually, he'd quite happily not speak to "people" much at all! |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
I am generally very favourably disposed towards people, and grant them a lot of leeway, principally because my expectations of them, conversationally, is very low, and confined to the exchange of banal pleasantries.
Whenever I meet idiots, assholes, manipulators or users I now find I have little time for them and just get rid of them asap, after having sussed their modus operandi.
In the swinging context, it is important to be tolerant and non-judgmental; we are an esoteric group whose sexial behaviour many people would consider to be immoral, perverse and bizarre.
At a meet it is important to make some 'connection' with the people with whom one is about to become intimate; it has to involve a meeting of minds prior to the exchange of bodily fluids.
For me, it is a journey of exploration and personal growth; if someone tries to stymie this, I will politely move on to a more receptive member!
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouh |
I like people. I get along with most that I meet. But I don’t tend to meet many 
I really hate small talk. I do it all day at work and I just feel like outside of that it’s too much effort to be that insincere.
“Oh what do you do for a living?”
Like I care! I just want to hurry up and get past the awkward crap to find out if we’re like minded and I can ask you things like “would you bang your boss”
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Depends on context.
I was taught at school to "fit in" to the presented context and adapt and tailor my language, elocution, body language and communication to the individual. All the children were in our classes.
I can "Gor, Blimey, Guvnor" with one guest at a party, and "I'm delighted to meet you, how do you do ?" with the next moments later.
I was also taught that one does not talk about one's self. One listens attentively to the other person and drives the conversation in their favour.
As for liking? That's irrelevant in the process.
What I do enjoy is people with strong and confident conviction. People who are passionate about their beliefs and interests. I may not necessarily agree with them internally, but I want to hear them and why they believe in them. Sometimes I find my own beliefs challenged and this is interesting to me.
I find experiencing other echo-chambers outside my own to be educational and liberating. Every day is a school day as they say. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Sometimes I really like people other times not so much.
I do seem to really enjoy the company of people from the lifestyle, more than, people not.
I do really enjoy my own company though, so some time by myself and then some social time seems to work well for a balance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t mind chatting in Person but not on the phone. Few minutes and then I like to hang up and end it.
Chatting can be fun but depends who with. If they have an ego or kick off a debate thinking they know it all then I like to wrap up and go. Banter and laughs are great and I’ll go on for hours. Bs and silly talk and I’m out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in awe of folk that can get along with everyone and genuinely want to be around others all the time.
I find nearly everyone REALLY draining.
I have a 2 - 4 hour limit - then I need to go home "
I think you're amazing for lasting that long
My attention span is bookable in 30 minute slots |
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I love meeting new people though, I'm eternally curious and just want to hear stories about people's lives 
