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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?
Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel that if there’s no passion/spark then the intimacy will be the same and if that’s the case then what’s the point  it started with a kiss  mwah
It all starts with that kiss...."
It soooooo does  |
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"Yes. The sex throughout my marriage was devoid of passion and kissing.
As a very passionate person myself you can imagine how frustrating that became.
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That was exactly the same as mine.
I'm naturally very passionate, and so that is a big part of what I'll be looking for on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has to be kissing x the passion a good kiss builds makes for even better sex. I have been known to actually cum just by kissing if its soooo good x always need passion x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion "
This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical. |
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"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion
This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical."
That's interesting. Would you say you're able to separate sex from emotion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion
This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical.
That's interesting. Would you say you're able to separate sex from emotion? "
Yes (most of the time depending on mood) I can have very good sex without emotion coming into it.
One of the last times was a massage from a man who finished it off with a blowjob and I have absolutely no emotional interest in men but the whole situation was really erotic and a massive turn on. |
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There needs to be some connection otherwise it’s difficult to get or keep going.
I remember once at a club playing with a couple and she just laid there even with her partner encouraging her. I looked at him and said her it’s now worries if she’s not up for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Funnily enough, as I have now surpassed the age mark of 35 I have found the ability to shower and see myself naked, without touching my genitals!
Make of that what you will
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In a one to one situation, can you have sex without any kind of passion.
A friend ended a meet, because the other person wouldn't kiss.
Your thoughts"
There are certain things I can do in a meet that doesn’t require passion but full on sex is not one of them. Passion / mild intimacy is required to do “everything” and most Definitely trust of the other person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?
Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that? "
I have many time sexual sessions with women who didn’t kiss for different reasons. It didn’t mean it wasn’t good, on contrary their fantasy were fulfill everytime.
Assumption are a mediocre attitude too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?
Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that?
I have many time sexual sessions with women who didn’t kiss for different reasons. It didn’t mean it wasn’t good, on contrary their fantasy were fulfill everytime.
Assumption are a mediocre attitude too"
Her fantasy was fulfilled, was yours is the question?
If so more power to you and enjoy, if not why go through with it if both parties aren’t satisfied? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Kissing is not the only ingredient in passionate sex?? And some people are reluctant to kiss because of bacteria or find it disgusting to kiss... phobia etc and still can have some great sex!
Just a point of view |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kissing is not the only ingredient in passionate sex?? And some people are reluctant to kiss because of bacteria or find it disgusting to kiss... phobia etc and still can have some great sex!
Just a point of view "
Thanks for explaining, I was just curious
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posted in these types of thread before. i don’t kiss during sex, because i don’t like it. but these things should be discussed before a meet anyway. don’t take it for granted, something you think is necessary in sex is just not someone’s cup of tea. if you can’t get off without kissing, mention that you’re looking for a meet with kissing. similar with other acts like anal or spanking. one person might not imagine sex without it, but someone else might hate it. always discuss this stuff first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?
Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that?
I have many time sexual sessions with women who didn’t kiss for different reasons. It didn’t mean it wasn’t good, on contrary their fantasy were fulfill everytime.
Assumption are a mediocre attitude too
Her fantasy was fulfilled, was yours is the question?
If so more power to you and enjoy, if not why go through with it if both parties aren’t satisfied?"
I am always yes, kiss is not my focus and tbh I don’t bother myself.
I do it sometime after she blow me and kissing her with my cum inside her mouth make her even wet and hornier |
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Deffo need to kiss! I've been talking to someone for a while now we intend to meet as soon as we allowed! He asked last night if I'm ok to kiss! I wouldn't engage in sex without! Which he is happy about! X |
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"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion
This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical.
That's interesting. Would you say you're able to separate sex from emotion?
Yes (most of the time depending on mood) I can have very good sex without emotion coming into it.
One of the last times was a massage from a man who finished it off with a blowjob and I have absolutely no emotional interest in men but the whole situation was really erotic and a massive turn on."
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I think it depends what you mean by passion? There definitely needs to be something. Can't imagine anything worse or as awkward as attempted sex without mutual drive, lust and desire (even if just in the context of that space and time). I don't think everything has to be Mills and Boon but there needs to be a shared desire, something almost tangible in the air. And that of course very much depends on the dynamic of the people involved. For example some people don't kiss but doesn't mean they don't find fulfilment on the scene. But consequently they need to find people who can also find that fulfilment without kissing.
For us chemistry very is important (oh and we both love kissing btw). But that doesn't always mean you have to date the hell out of people to find it. Sometimes it is something in the air, in that time, that space. We had an random encounter with a couple once in a play room we'd never talked before (suspect English wasn't their 1st language). It just happened then and there. It was hot and the chemistry was just right in that time and space. If we had have talked to them before hand maybe we would have fancied them, maybe we would have disliked each other? If it's there it's there, if it's not it's not. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.
I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.
Others may have other things that would turn them off? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes. The sex throughout my marriage was devoid of passion and kissing.
As a very passionate person myself you can imagine how frustrating that became.
That was exactly the same as mine.
I'm naturally very passionate, and so that is a big part of what I'll be looking for on here. "
I wouldn't have minded so much if there was another aspect of sex, other than blow job, hop on, hop off.
He wouldn't even let me tie him up and put a finger in his bum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.
I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.
Others may have other things that would turn them off?"
I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.
My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha. |
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By *phroditeWoman
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"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.
I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.
Others may have other things that would turn them off?
I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.
My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha."
I am rather impressed!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.
I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.
Others may have other things that would turn them off?
I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.
My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha.
I am rather impressed! "
Thank you _phrodite, I'm ready for my dental qualifications now haha. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.
I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.
Others may have other things that would turn them off?
I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.
My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha.
I am rather impressed!
Thank you _phrodite, I'm ready for my dental qualifications now haha."
Hey, perhaps we should introduce that as a filter ?
Just kidding x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In a one to one situation, can you have sex without any kind of passion.
A friend ended a meet, because the other person wouldn't kiss.
Your thoughts"
I would have ended it too.
Physical attraction, instant attraction, lots of kissing,playing and hot passionate, rampant sex |
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"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.
I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.
Others may have other things that would turn them off?"
I must admit, I wouldn't take things further if they had bad/missing teeth or terrible breath. A nice smile is part of the attraction for me x |
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There’s always a need for passion and especially the look in her eye when you know she wants to and also the look she gives you when she’s enjoying it
If there is no passion you might as well checkout how paint dries |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.
I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.
Others may have other things that would turn them off?
I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.
My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha.
I am rather impressed!
Thank you _phrodite, I'm ready for my dental qualifications now haha.Hey, perhaps we should introduce that as a filter ?
Just kidding x"
Haha,I bet they'd be hell on xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Make me laugh men on here stating kissing and passion is everything when they have a cock pic On their profile and also I bet if a woman send a quick fuck message they would answer no thanks I like candlelit first... |
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"Make me laugh men on here stating kissing and passion is everything when they have a cock pic On their profile and also I bet if a woman send a quick fuck message they would answer no thanks I like candlelit first... "
Just because you've got a cock pic as your profile pic doesn't mean you're not capable of feeling a powerful attraction for someone. Resulting in passion, lust....
And kisses well...they range from the sensual to the deep passionate kind.
Passion and candle light don't necessarily go hand in hand
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