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So it’s come up a few times
Comments in the forums towards me from other friends on here keeping in contact on WhatsApp ....
Then somebody else sees it and goes nuts 
Do you only have the number for one person on fab or a couple of friends numbers ...?
It’s not like I’m shagging every Tom dick and Harry ....
I talk to a few people
I’m a very social person
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"Unfortunately some can’t seem to get their head around that you can chat to others in a friendly way and no more. "
Honestly I can’t understand the double standards ... she was having fun with another guy I was like sweet go for it 
I’m not going to see you anytime soon as the distance separating us is big but I fully support you
I speak to another woman and I’m a basterd 
I think I need to take a trip to the middle of nowhere and turn my phone off and live with some wolves  
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Even if you were shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry...unless you have had a discussion with someone and agreed monogomy then it's your business and your business alone.
Also, putting things like that on the public forums *could* be seen as either lamp post pissing or a blatant attempt at one-upmanship
Just my view on it  |
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"Even if you were shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry...unless you have had a discussion with someone and agreed monogomy then it's your business and your business alone.
Also, putting things like that on the public forums *could* be seen as either lamp post pissing or a blatant attempt at one-upmanship
Just my view on it "
Ok I’m probably just a little fired up with frustration.
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"Sorry I'm struggling to follow here. How do people on the forums know who you're talking to on WhatsApp?
Someone said message me on WhatsApp tell me what’s happened
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I see. Its not right for people to give you grief for talking to other people if you haven't agreed to be exclusive but it's also not great to post about it on the forums. If this person saw that comment on the forums then they're probably going to see this post too so that's not very nice for them.
I'd also have to question why the other woman didn't just message you herself on WhatsApp to ask the question instead of posting publicly about private conversations but maybe that's just me. |
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"Sorry I'm struggling to follow here. How do people on the forums know who you're talking to on WhatsApp?
Someone said message me on WhatsApp tell me what’s happened
I see. Its not right for people to give you grief for talking to other people if you haven't agreed to be exclusive but it's also not great to post about it on the forums. If this person saw that comment on the forums then they're probably going to see this post too so that's not very nice for them.
I'd also have to question why the other woman didn't just message you herself on WhatsApp to ask the question instead of posting publicly about private conversations but maybe that's just me. "
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"Even if you were shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry...unless you have had a discussion with someone and agreed monogomy then it's your business and your business alone.
Also, putting things like that on the public forums *could* be seen as either lamp post pissing or a blatant attempt at one-upmanship
Just my view on it
Ok I’m probably just a little fired up with frustration.
Sorry "
No, I meant putting things like "message me on WhatsApp" on the forums, not your post...if I have someone's number I'd just message them away from here. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
As Lily said; unless you’ve agreed to monogamous, then it’s none of their business.
Ultimately it’s down to bruised egos and the assumption that you were only talking to each other. Where that assumption came from is the root of the issue.
I work on the assumption that anyone I start chatting to is chatting with others. In fact it’s one of my filters that they have to be meeting other people, as that helps to keep the jealous people away from me! Any assumptions of monogamous activity are met with a very clear discussion from me |
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"As Lily said; unless you’ve agreed to monogamous, then it’s none of their business.
Ultimately it’s down to bruised egos and the assumption that you were only talking to each other. Where that assumption came from is the root of the issue.
I work on the assumption that anyone I start chatting to is chatting with others. In fact it’s one of my filters that they have to be meeting other people, as that helps to keep the jealous people away from me! Any assumptions of monogamous activity are met with a very clear discussion from me"
Do you expect them to also tell you who they're meeting? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"As Lily said; unless you’ve agreed to monogamous, then it’s none of their business.
Ultimately it’s down to bruised egos and the assumption that you were only talking to each other. Where that assumption came from is the root of the issue.
I work on the assumption that anyone I start chatting to is chatting with others. In fact it’s one of my filters that they have to be meeting other people, as that helps to keep the jealous people away from me! Any assumptions of monogamous activity are met with a very clear discussion from me
Do you expect them to also tell you who they're meeting?"
Nope. There’s such a thing as discretion.
It’s usually obvious from recent verifications though and during conversation that they are meeting others. |
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"As Lily said; unless you’ve agreed to monogamous, then it’s none of their business.
Ultimately it’s down to bruised egos and the assumption that you were only talking to each other. Where that assumption came from is the root of the issue.
I work on the assumption that anyone I start chatting to is chatting with others. In fact it’s one of my filters that they have to be meeting other people, as that helps to keep the jealous people away from me! Any assumptions of monogamous activity are met with a very clear discussion from me
Do you expect them to also tell you who they're meeting?"
I don’t expect anything ...
We’re all big boys and girls
My interpretation of swinging is socially sexual activities . I’m single so are they free to do as they please as I am I
Who knows anyways |
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If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I talk to quite a lot of people on here and make sure that the people I talk to know that as well, clear and upfront its the best way to be
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I agree.
I’ve found that issues arise when people make assumptions or are given the wrong impression of interactions.
Clarity of intentions and situations helps to prevent any confusion |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I have 3 numbers from forum users. The one I've had sex with couldn't care less what happens between other forum users and myself, and I don't care what happens between him and other forum users.
I wouldn't mind watching him fuck another woman though  |
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"Hmmmm.... I actually started asking people who they know in forums before agreeing to meet, once you’re in the pit it might be hard to climb out "
The drama |
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple! "
To be honest I think more problems are caused when people lead others to believe they're only meeting them when they aren't. If you're open that you're meeting others and people still get possessive then you know you haven't done anything wrong. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple!
To be honest I think more problems are caused when people lead others to believe they're only meeting them when they aren't. If you're open that you're meeting others and people still get possessive then you know you haven't done anything wrong."
I agree. Being honest is the best way. |
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple! "
Excuse me I’m not shagging anybody
I’m chatting to friends but ok |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple!
To be honest I think more problems are caused when people lead others to believe they're only meeting them when they aren't. If you're open that you're meeting others and people still get possessive then you know you haven't done anything wrong."
Bingo! |
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple!
To be honest I think more problems are caused when people lead others to believe they're only meeting them when they aren't. If you're open that you're meeting others and people still get possessive then you know you haven't done anything wrong.
Bingo! "
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple!
To be honest I think more problems are caused when people lead others to believe they're only meeting them when they aren't. If you're open that you're meeting others and people still get possessive then you know you haven't done anything wrong.
Bingo! "
It creates no end of problems! I had this recently .... I wasnt so much bothered about him chatting with others that I kicked off at him at it was the fact he had the same conversation with everyone of us! Come on! At least have respect to treat us as individuals lol I also ended up falling out with a lady I do quite like! |
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple!
Excuse me I’m not shagging anybody
I’m chatting to friends but ok "
You wait till you start shagging it gets worse |
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple!
To be honest I think more problems are caused when people lead others to believe they're only meeting them when they aren't. If you're open that you're meeting others and people still get possessive then you know you haven't done anything wrong.
Bingo!
It creates no end of problems! I had this recently .... I wasnt so much bothered about him chatting with others that I kicked off at him at it was the fact he had the same conversation with everyone of us! Come on! At least have respect to treat us as individuals lol I also ended up falling out with a lady I do quite like! "
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When I was meeting people it was none of their business who I was meeting, all they’d know is I’m not around to chat this weekend.
As for discussing who I’m talking to with others, same applies it’s no ones business but my own. If someone try’s to talk to me about another fab person, what they said to them they’d get a short shift, it’s a private conversation and I’m just not interested and just proves you can’t be discrete. |
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"This is why I am wary of meeting regular forum users these days.
The jealousy and sheer inventiveness of some fantasists has put me off!"
To be honest 99.9% of my meets have been with people who don't use them. |
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"This is why I am wary of meeting regular forum users these days.
The jealousy and sheer inventiveness of some fantasists has put me off!"
. I actually won’t. Socially I will but anything else I won’t. |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose."
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place "
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share" |
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"If you leave your nuts open to be kicked.... they will be!
Don’t advertise you’re shagging/talking/chatting to every Tom,Dick and Harry and you won’t leave yourself open for Criticism or jealousy
Simple!
Excuse me I’m not shagging anybody
I’m chatting to friends but ok
You wait till you start shagging it gets worse "
I’m getting out of here before that happens I think |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share" "
Haha but nobody is sharing me I’m speaking with friends |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share" "
Not necessarily. I’ll share most things. I won’t share a man though. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"This is why I am wary of meeting regular forum users these days.
The jealousy and sheer inventiveness of some fantasists has put me off!"
Huh? People make stuff up? |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share"
Haha but nobody is sharing me I’m speaking with friends "
Best advice them is forget and move on. If they are like that over you talking to someone then you'd best lock up your bunnies if you start snagging them  |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share"
Not necessarily. I’ll share most things. I won’t share a man though. "
How can you not "share" a man or women for that matter on here? |
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over a year ago
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose."
... I totally agree... I'm fed up with that side of things now too and just focusing a couple of people that I totally click with and just want fun without caring about the fab merry-go-round!! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"This is why I am wary of meeting regular forum users these days.
The jealousy and sheer inventiveness of some fantasists has put me off!
Huh? People make stuff up?
Say what!! "
I'm shocked at this news. I may need a lie down. |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share"
Not necessarily. I’ll share most things. I won’t share a man though.
How can you not "share" a man or women for that matter on here? "
Quite easily. I’m not a swinger. Always been upfront about what I want from this site. It works as I’ve always managed to find what I want. |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share"
Not necessarily. I’ll share most things. I won’t share a man though.
How can you not "share" a man or women for that matter on here?
Quite easily. I’m not a swinger. Always been upfront about what I want from this site. It works as I’ve always managed to find what I want. "
Plus people, relationships and priorities change. Surely how people are involved in the lifestyle changes in line with that. One size most definitely does not fit all. |
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over a year ago
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I'm so uncomfortable with this thread and surprised if hasn't been closed down.
Bringing real life, personal issues between members to the forums seems wrong to me.
I think I saw the 'WhatsApp me' comment.
I'm thinking someone is playing games, I'm just not sure which one.
Taking this to an open forum is poor form, in my opinion. |
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over a year ago
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"So it’s come up a few times
Comments in the forums towards me from other friends on here keeping in contact on WhatsApp ....
Then somebody else sees it and goes nuts
Do you only have the number for one person on fab or a couple of friends numbers ...?
It’s not like I’m shagging every Tom dick and Harry ....
I talk to a few people
I’m a very social person
My mind is blown ! "
I think you need to seek out the women that don't behave like bunny boilers, some of us are more normal and don't behave in that way!
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"So it’s come up a few times
Comments in the forums towards me from other friends on here keeping in contact on WhatsApp ....
Then somebody else sees it and goes nuts
Do you only have the number for one person on fab or a couple of friends numbers ...?
It’s not like I’m shagging every Tom dick and Harry ....
I talk to a few people
I’m a very social person
My mind is blown !
I think you need to seek out the women that don't behave like bunny boilers, some of us are more normal and don't behave in that way!
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"I'm so uncomfortable with this thread and surprised if hasn't been closed down.
Bringing real life, personal issues between members to the forums seems wrong to me.
I think I saw the 'WhatsApp me' comment.
I'm thinking someone is playing games, I'm just not sure which one.
Taking this to an open forum is poor form, in my opinion. "
Sorry it’s not to your taste |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share"
Not necessarily. I’ll share most things. I won’t share a man though.
How can you not "share" a man or women for that matter on here?
Quite easily. I’m not a swinger. Always been upfront about what I want from this site. It works as I’ve always managed to find what I want.
Plus people, relationships and priorities change. Surely how people are involved in the lifestyle changes in line with that. One size most definitely does not fit all. "
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"I'm so uncomfortable with this thread and surprised if hasn't been closed down.
Bringing real life, personal issues between members to the forums seems wrong to me.
I think I saw the 'WhatsApp me' comment.
I'm thinking someone is playing games, I'm just not sure which one.
Taking this to an open forum is poor form, in my opinion. "
Actually I’ve just realised I saw it too. This definitely should come down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its a sex site. You can talk and shag who you want as will everyone else. Anyone who gets jelous or funny about that does not understand what NSA means. |
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"I'm so uncomfortable with this thread and surprised if hasn't been closed down.
Bringing real life, personal issues between members to the forums seems wrong to me.
I think I saw the 'WhatsApp me' comment.
I'm thinking someone is playing games, I'm just not sure which one.
Taking this to an open forum is poor form, in my opinion.
Actually I’ve just realised I saw it too. This definitely should come down. "
People referring to the person spoke of as a bunny boiler and more.
I'm surprised, really am.
We know nothing behind the scenes.
But this feels manipulative and seeking triangulation.
Shameful!! |
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"I'm so uncomfortable with this thread and surprised if hasn't been closed down.
Bringing real life, personal issues between members to the forums seems wrong to me.
I think I saw the 'WhatsApp me' comment.
I'm thinking someone is playing games, I'm just not sure which one.
Taking this to an open forum is poor form, in my opinion.
Actually I’ve just realised I saw it too. This definitely should come down.
People referring to the person spoke of as a bunny boiler and more.
I'm surprised, really am.
We know nothing behind the scenes.
But this feels manipulative and seeking triangulation.
Shameful!!"
Sorry |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
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"Even if you were shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry...unless you have had a discussion with someone and agreed monogomy then it's your business and your business alone.
Also, putting things like that on the public forums *could* be seen as either lamp post pissing or a blatant attempt at one-upmanship
Just my view on it "
I think everything can be 'seen as' something, and part of the problem is often that people want or need to see something as something, to attach meaning that isn't necessarily there, when quite often there's nothing more needed than to take it at face value. Some just enjoy the drama and attention. |
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"Even if you were shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry...unless you have had a discussion with someone and agreed monogomy then it's your business and your business alone.
Also, putting things like that on the public forums *could* be seen as either lamp post pissing or a blatant attempt at one-upmanship
Just my view on it
I think everything can be 'seen as' something, and part of the problem is often that people want or need to see something as something, to attach meaning that isn't necessarily there, when quite often there's nothing more needed than to take it at face value. Some just enjoy the drama and attention."
I really hope this isn’t insinuating that I like drama ....
If it is you’re quite wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So it’s come up a few times
Comments in the forums towards me from other friends on here keeping in contact on WhatsApp ....
Then somebody else sees it and goes nuts
Do you only have the number for one person on fab or a couple of friends numbers ...?
It’s not like I’m shagging every Tom dick and Harry ....
I talk to a few people
I’m a very social person
My mind is blown ! "
just seen this ..... best to ignore and block xx |
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"OP on this site you will never be able to do anything right for doing wrong. Jealousy and gossip are rife on here which is totally unnecessary but all human nature I suppose.
You’re a wise lady
Fuckkkkk I think it may be time to leave this place
I take breaks often for my own sanity, sometimes the playground mentality just winds me up. Some people obviously weren't brought up with the motto " it's good to share"
Not necessarily. I’ll share most things. I won’t share a man though.
How can you not "share" a man or women for that matter on here?
Quite easily. I’m not a swinger. Always been upfront about what I want from this site. It works as I’ve always managed to find what I want. "
Same for me, I’m upfront about it too.
I don’t see a problem, we’re all different.
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"So it’s come up a few times
Comments in the forums towards me from other friends on here keeping in contact on WhatsApp ....
Then somebody else sees it and goes nuts
Do you only have the number for one person on fab or a couple of friends numbers ...?
It’s not like I’m shagging every Tom dick and Harry ....
I talk to a few people
I’m a very social person
My mind is blown !
just seen this ..... best to ignore and block xx"
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